{"id":14425,"date":"2020-06-13T10:31:18","date_gmt":"2020-06-13T10:31:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=14425"},"modified":"2022-01-17T15:37:16","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T15:37:16","slug":"ha-dato-per-scontato-che-si-preoccupasse-molto-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ha-dato-per-scontato-che-si-preoccupasse-molto-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi hai dato per scontato perch\u00e9 mi sono preoccupata troppo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You thought I would stay forever. Didn\u2019t you? You thought no matter what you did or how poorly you treated me, I would always be there, hanging on, hooked on the idea of love.<\/p>\n<p>A un certo punto ci ho creduto anch'io. Pensavo che non ci fosse nulla che potesse allontanarmi da te. Sono felice di aver dimostrato che ci sbagliavamo entrambi.<\/p>\n<p>Mi sono rimproverato per molto tempo. Pensavo di renderti infelice. Che fossi troppo bisognosa, troppo appiccicosa. Che dovevo cambiare completamente per essere degna di te.<\/p>\n<p>E qualunque cosa facessi, avevi sempre qualche commento sprezzante che ti faceva molto male.<\/p>\n<p>You would come and go as you pleased. After a fight, or for no reason at all, you would disappear. You wouldn\u2019t call, you wouldn\u2019t text, you were nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n<p>My face would be puffy from all the crying and I couldn\u2019t calm my nerves. And as soon as I would make peace that you were not coming back and that that was how we would end, <a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/becca-martin\/2017\/02\/you-cant-just-show-up-back-in-my-life-and-expect-everything-to-be-okay\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">torneresti di nuovo<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103338\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-crying-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste che piange\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-crying-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-crying-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-crying-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-crying-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-crying-1-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Mi scrivevi come se non fosse successo nulla, come se ci fossimo visti il giorno prima e ci fossimo lasciati in ottimi rapporti. Sapevi che ti avrei accolto di nuovo.<\/p>\n<p>Sapevi che ero cos\u00ec disperatamente triste senza di te. Pensavi di avere diritto a un posto nella mia vita, a prescindere da tutto.<\/p>\n<p><strong>E ogni volta che tornavi facevo di tutto per renderti felice. Ho cercato di essere migliore. Di lavorare su di noi. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Per dedicarvi pi\u00f9 tempo e attenzione. E tu facevi il contrario. Pi\u00f9 io stavo bene, pi\u00f9 tu stavi male.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Non hai mai avuto tempo per me. Le belle parole e i complimenti sono diventati ricordi lontani.<\/p>\n<p>Words of kindness would reappear only when you saw that I had reached my limit and that I couldn\u2019t take it anymore.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103339\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/man-comforting-crying-woman.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che consola una donna in lacrime\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/man-comforting-crying-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/man-comforting-crying-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/man-comforting-crying-woman-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/man-comforting-crying-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/man-comforting-crying-woman-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Non hai mai voluto fare nulla o andare da nessuna parte, nemmeno quando era importante per me.<\/p>\n<p>If I had a problem I couldn\u2019t come to you with it. If I had it good you would ignore me completely.<\/p>\n<p>Sembrava quasi che la mia felicit\u00e0 ti desse fastidio. Non c'eri mai per me, qualunque cosa accadesse. Non potevo mai appoggiarmi a te.<\/p>\n<p>D'altra parte, non hai mai avuto problemi con il mio sostegno. Ero sempre l\u00ec per aiutarti, ascoltarti e fare il tifo per te.<\/p>\n<p>I know I pulled you out of a dark place so many times. I wouldn\u2019t let you quit. I always believed in you. But you took it as the most natural thing in the world.<\/p>\n<p>You took all of it for granted. You never felt the urge to give anything back. You didn\u2019t feel like you had to.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103340\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-chair.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste e pensierosa seduta sulla sedia\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-chair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-chair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-chair-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-chair-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-mindful-woman-sitting-on-the-chair-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Prendevi senza nemmeno considerare che ero l\u00ec, che ero degno della tua attenzione. Questo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/non-cercando-forze-damore-gentili-per-dimostrare-il-proprio-valore\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Ero degno dello stesso amore<\/a> e l'affetto che ti stavo dando.<\/p>\n<p>Che avevo bisogno che tu ti prendessi cura di me tanto quanto io mi prendevo cura di te. Non l'hai mai capito.<\/p>\n<p><em>I guess in a way it\u2019s my fault, though now I am at the point where I don\u2019t blame myself for anything. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Ma il mio errore pi\u00f9 grande \u00e8 stato quello di preoccuparmi troppo,<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/nessuno-amera-mai-come\/\"> Ho amato troppo<\/a> e ho dato troppo a qualcuno che non era degno di tutto questo. <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>A qualcuno che pensava che solo perch\u00e9 qualcuno teneva cos\u00ec tanto a loro avesse il diritto di trattarli come spazzatura.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I know that time changes people, I just couldn\u2019t imagine for the life of me that it would change you so negatively.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103341\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/serious-man-posing.jpg\" alt=\"uomo serio in posa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/serious-man-posing.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/serious-man-posing-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/serious-man-posing-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/serious-man-posing-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/serious-man-posing-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You transformed from the perfect boyfriend to a mere shadow of yourself and you became somebody completely different. It\u2019s funny how people you care so much about end up being the ones who hurt you the most.<\/p>\n<p>Credo che il dolore sia maggiore per questo motivo.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Per fortuna, a un certo punto, ho capito che ero sola anche quando ero con te. Che ero triste quando ero con te. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Che non sapevo pi\u00f9 cosa fosse la felicit\u00e0 grazie a te. Che quei giorni felici che abbiamo condiviso facevano parte della storia antica.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I realized that my heart doesn\u2019t have a switch. That I can\u2019t simply turn it on and off as you come and go from my life. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I couldn\u2019t allow it anymore. So I decided that the next time you left there would be no going back.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103342\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-the-room.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta sul pavimento della stanza\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-the-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-the-room-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-the-room-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-the-room-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-floor-in-the-room-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>And I am sticking to it. Now that I look back I can\u2019t believe I allowed myself to go through all of that with you.<\/p>\n<p>Il fatto che ti abbia permesso di trattarmi come se fossi una persona del tutto irrilevante. Ora mi rivuoi indietro. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/non-lasciare-che-la-vita-sia-ascoltata-2\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Ma non c'\u00e8 pi\u00f9 ritorno<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>So che se ti dessi un'altra possibilit\u00e0 la sprecheresti. Lo hai sempre fatto.<\/p>\n<p>People like you don\u2019t change for the better. But people like me, on the other hand, do. They care too much so they hurt too much as well.<\/p>\n<p>Ma guariscono. Traggono insegnamenti dalle esperienze negative e dalle relazioni sbagliate. Diventano pi\u00f9 intelligenti. Diventano pi\u00f9 felici da soli.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-103337\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/You-Took-Me-For-Granted-Because-I-Cared-Too-Much-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Mi hai dato per scontato perch\u00e9 mi sono preoccupata troppo\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/You-Took-Me-For-Granted-Because-I-Cared-Too-Much-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/You-Took-Me-For-Granted-Because-I-Cared-Too-Much-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/You-Took-Me-For-Granted-Because-I-Cared-Too-Much-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/You-Took-Me-For-Granted-Because-I-Cared-Too-Much-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You thought I would stay forever. Didn\u2019t you? You thought no matter what you did or how poorly you treated me, I would always be there, hanging on, hooked on the idea of love. At some point, I believed it myself. I thought that there was nothing that could drive me away from you. I&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":103343,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14425","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/You-Took-Me-For-Granted-Because-I-Cared-Too-Much.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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