{"id":144357,"date":"2022-02-11T13:15:00","date_gmt":"2022-02-11T13:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144357"},"modified":"2022-03-02T00:15:08","modified_gmt":"2022-03-02T00:15:08","slug":"se-volessero-lo-farebbero","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/se-volessero-lo-farebbero\/","title":{"rendered":"Se volessero, lo farebbero: Vero o falso?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m sure you stumbled upon TikTok’s latest trend, “Se volessero, lo farebbero<\/a>.” While some women claim that this is the only piece of relationship advice we should all live by, some argue against it, reminding us that things aren’t always that simple.<\/p>\n

So, what’s it gonna be? Is this line true or false? You can never know if you don’t read on!<\/p>\n

Se volessero, lo farebbero: 8 cose da considerare<\/h2>\n

Ecco alcuni aspetti importanti da considerare prima di giungere a una conclusione:<\/p>\n

1. Nessuno \u00e8 cos\u00ec occupato<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Let’s start with the most obvious reason why the “se volessero, lo farebbero<\/a>” line is true: everyone finds time and energy for the people and things that really matter to them.<\/p>\n

Pu\u00f2 sembrare severo, ma in fin dei conti nessuno \u00e8 troppo occupato per chiamarvi, mandarvi un messaggio o stare con voi quando ne avete bisogno. Provate a guardare le cose dal vostro punto di vista: riuscite sempre a incastrare le persone a cui tenete nella vostra agenda.<\/p>\n

If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse!<\/b><\/h4>\n

You can have the busiest day in the world, but you’ll find a way to at least send your loved one a text message or give them a phone call explaining yourself. You won’t ghost them despite being well aware that they need your presence.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you’re too busy or exhausted, you’ll probably bail that man or woman from Tinder whom you’re supposed to go out on a first date with.<\/p>\n

Do you see the difference? You aren’t busy for your family members or best friends, but you’re busy for someone you met on an online dating app.<\/p>\n

And, that’s perfectly reasonable. But, it does bring us to the next conclusion: If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll <\/b>trovare una scusa<\/b><\/a>!<\/b><\/p>\n

2. La vita \u00e8 troppo breve per le scuse<\/h3>\n

Tuttavia, l'ultima cosa che si pensa di fare \u00e8 accettare other people’s excuses<\/a>. And, that’s perfectly fine.<\/p>\n

Dopotutto, la vita \u00e8 troppo breve per stare seduti ad aspettare che qualcuno trovi una scusa valida per non avervi trattato bene o per non avervi trattato male. allontanarsi<\/a>. You’re sick and tired of people telling you how much you mean to them, but never actually showing up when you need them.<\/b><\/p>\n

How many times have you heard your good friend telling you that they wanted to call you, but something didn\u2019t go their way? What about your significant other who claims they love you to the moon and back, but regularly fails to give you the support you expect from them?<\/p>\n

Cosa fare quando ci si imbatte in una situazione del genere? Dovreste credere a queste scuse vuote?<\/p>\n

Well, it all depends on your gut. Do you feel like they’re lying to you? If so, run!<\/p>\n

3. You’re not equally important to everyone<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Here’s a heartbreaking fact: sometimes, you’re not as important to people as you would like to be.<\/b><\/p>\n

Let’s take this for an example. You met a really nice guy or girl and you’re doing your best to build a committed relationship with them. You know they like you, but they’re either clearly not putting enough effort in connecting with you or they’re making <\/b>scuse per evitare di impegnarsi<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

So, you say to yourself: If they wanted to, they would. But, why don’t they WANT a <\/b>relazione seria<\/b> con te?<\/b><\/p>\n

Si cerca di giustificare il loro comportamento e si continua a cercare scuse. Tuttavia, la dura verit\u00e0 \u00e8 piuttosto semplice: al <\/b>fine giornata<\/b>, you’re <\/b>colui che si preoccupa di pi\u00f9<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

And, as brutal as this might sound, it’s something you’ll have to accept. A lot of people won’t give you back the love you deserve. That’s all a part of life, and you just have to deal with it.<\/p>\n

4. La vita a volte si mette in mezzo<\/h3>\n

I hate to break your bubble, but things aren’t always as simple as the TikTok advice “If they wanted to, they would” says. You know why? Well, because la vita \u00e8 piuttosto imprevedibile<\/b>.<\/p>\n

A volte le cose si mettono davvero in mezzo. Quante volte avete pianificato di contattare qualcuno, ma \u00e8 successo un imprevisto?<\/p>\n

Of course, I’m not talking about “a dog ate my homework” kind of thing. I’m talking about real life situations that sound like empty excuses, but are actually true.<\/b><\/p>\n

What if the nice guy you met got hit by a car on the way to your first date? What if someone wasn’t returning your phone calls because they lost a loved one?<\/p>\n

What if your friend or a family member hasn’t been texting you because they’re struggling with depression? What if your crush isn’t reaching out because they lost their phone and can\u2019t get a hold of your number?<\/p>\n

Fiducia illimitata contro l'ombra del dubbio<\/h4>\n

Avete due opzioni. Si pu\u00f2 credere a queste scuse e rischiare di fare la figura dei fessi. Oppure, potete accusare l'altra persona di non impegnarsi abbastanza prima di chiedere spiegazioni.<\/b><\/p>\n

What’s it going to be? Well, here’s something that saved my heart from getting broken too many times, and also helped me keep my mental health.<\/p>\n

Date alle persone che vi circondano la presunzione di innocenza. <\/b>Ci\u00f2 significa dare loro la possibilit\u00e0 di spiegarsi.<\/p>\n

However, if they repeat the same mistake and try to justify themselves with the same lousy excuse, they won’t be getting a seconda possibilit\u00e0<\/a>.<\/p>\n

5. Vi toglie la responsabilit\u00e0<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Possibly the best thing about the “Se volessero, lo farebbero<\/a>” concept is the fact that it takes the blame off you. Instead of mettere in discussione la propria autostima<\/a> ogni volta che un potenziale partner doesn’t text you back<\/a>, basta tenere a mente che \u00e8 stata una loro decisione di cui hanno il diritto.<\/p>\n

Invece di permettere che questo rovini il vostro <\/b>autostima<\/b>ricordate che nulla di tutto questo \u00e8 <\/b>la tua colpa<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

They didn’t fantasma, perch\u00e9<\/a> of something you did. They weren’t unfaithful because you weren’t enough<\/a>.<\/p>\n

6. Non \u00e8 un invito a inseguirli di pi\u00f9<\/h3>\n

A relazione sana<\/a> means equal effort. It’s not about one person running for their life while the other one is chasing them all the time.<\/p>\n

Pertanto, se qualcuno non \u00e8 presente per voi, consideratelo un segnale di allarme.<\/p>\n

I don’t care if they’re non rispondere ai vostri messaggi<\/a> and phone calls, ignoring you all over social media, not giving you the amount of time you’re giving them, or ignoring you after y’all slept together<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Il punto fondamentale \u00e8 sempre lo stesso: non si tratta di un invito a inseguirli di pi\u00f9. On the contrary, it’s a sign to back off.<\/b><\/p>\n

As much as this hurts, this person clearly doesn’t want any more contact. <\/b>Or, they’re just giochi<\/a>.<\/p>\n

In ogni caso, l'ultima cosa da fare \u00e8 correre dietro a loro! Hanno chiaramente fatto una scelta, e tutto ci\u00f2 che si pu\u00f2 fare \u00e8 rispettarla e <\/b>lasciarli andare<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

7. Ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 destinato a essere tuo trover\u00e0 un modo per essere tuo.<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

The “If they wanted to, they would” concept doesn’t have to be looked at so pessimistically. Instead of searching for reasons why someone wasn’t there for you or chose not to treat you right, just see it as an act of destiny.<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s actually pretty simple: they weren’t meant to be<\/a>. O, almeno, sono weren\u2019t meant to last<\/a> nella vostra vita.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, chi \u00e8 destinato ad essere tuo<\/a> trover\u00e0 sempre il tempo e l'energia per voi. La vostra anima gemella trover\u00e0 un modo<\/a> al cuore.<\/p>\n

There won’t be any obstacles or red flags. Once you meet them, everything will fall in its place, and you’ll understand why it never worked with anyone else.<\/b><\/p>\n

Quindi, invece di scervellarvi, rilassatevi e lasciate che l'Universo si prenda cura di voi.<\/p>\n

8. Some people don’t know how to “be there”<\/h3>\n

I don’t mean to justify anyone who doesn’t put enough effort into a relationship with you, but here is something you need to hear: a lot of people just don’t have the capacity to love you<\/a> nel modo in cui ci si aspetta che lo facciano.<\/p>\n

Forse hanno un'altra stile di attacco<\/a>, sono emotivamente non disponibile<\/a>o davvero don’t know what they want<\/a>. Forse il ragazzo che vi ha abbandonato voleva davvero restare, ma ha avuto paura quando ha visto che si stava innamorando.<\/p>\n

Maybe your friend wanted to give you their emotional support, but chickened out once they realized they had to be someone’s rock for the first time ever.<\/p>\n

Don’t get me wrong: this doesn’t annul them from responsibility, and you shouldn’t feel guilty for not understanding their reasons!<\/b><\/p>\n

To Wrap Up: Things aren’t always that simple<\/h2>\n

So, is the “If they wanted to, they would” sentence true? \u00c8 il concetto che dovrebbe guidarvi nella vita?<\/b><\/p>\n

If someone doesn’t treat you right, is it because they simply don’t want to put more effort into your relationship? If someone isn’t there for you, is it because they don’t care enough?<\/p>\n

Alla fine della giornata, ricordate che Nella vita nulla \u00e8 bianco o nero<\/b>. Sure, the “if there is a will, there is a way” concept applies in most cases, but sometimes you have to dig deep under the surface to find the real reason and to look at the bigger picture!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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