{"id":144505,"date":"2022-02-14T22:30:40","date_gmt":"2022-02-14T22:30:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144505"},"modified":"2022-02-25T06:51:34","modified_gmt":"2022-02-25T06:51:34","slug":"cosa-scrivere-al-proprio-ex-dopo-linterruzione-dei-contatti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/cosa-scrivere-al-proprio-ex-dopo-linterruzione-dei-contatti\/","title":{"rendered":"Cosa mandare al tuo ex dopo l'assenza di contatto: 9 consigli professionali"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ah, l'eterna domanda: Cosa scrivere al proprio ex dopo nessun contatto<\/a>? Come far capire loro che ci tenete ancora senza farglielo sapere?<\/p>\n

Or…wait… \u00e8 meglio farglielo sapere?<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s all very confusing, especially when it’s happening to you. I get that. And that’s why I’m here to help you.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve realized that you can’t let your ex go, then we’ll make them yours again! All you need to do is follow the tips below<\/i>.<\/p>\n

I swear it’s not clickbait \u2013 I have so much wisdom to share with you!<\/p>\n

Cosa scrivere al vostro ex dopo l'assenza di contatto<\/h2>\n

If you’ve been wondering what to text your ex after no contact, here are 9 pro tips to help you out:<\/p>\n

1. Tutti amano ridere<\/h3>\n

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What’s better than reminding your <\/i>ex fidanzato<\/i>\/<\/i>ex fidanzata<\/i> di quanto sei divertente?<\/i><\/p>\n

Assicuratevi di salvare i meme migliori, in particolare quelli che hanno a che fare con la vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

Se si vuole <\/b>riconquistarli<\/b><\/a>, it’s always best to strike a chord with a personal joke rather than a random funny <\/b>foto<\/b> che avete trovato su <\/b>social media<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s why I won’t give you any examples. That would be your task. Use that good memory of yours to your advantage!<\/p>\n

Pensate alle volte in cui avete riso fino alle lacrime. Di che cosa si trattava? Collegate in qualche modo il messaggio a quel momento.<\/i><\/p>\n

Having fun with someone brings us closer together because we all want to enjoy life the best we can. Besides, there’s nothing more attractive than someone with a sense of humor.<\/p>\n

Quindi, prima di ogni altra cosa, farli ridere<\/a>. Ricordate loro ancora una volta quanto era bella la vita con voi e quanto pu\u00f2 esserlo ancora.<\/b><\/p>\n

2. Le somiglianze sono fondamentali<\/h3>\n

Who doesn’t adore people with the same interests as us?<\/i><\/p>\n

The conversations can never be too long because we’re both obsessing over the same things with no shame whatsoever.<\/p>\n

If you’re wondering what to text your ex after no contact, this is definitely the way to go. Dovete ricordare loro quanto siete simili. Sicuramente <\/b>fare il vostro <\/b>ex miss<\/b> voi<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Let’s say you both enjoy the same TV shows. Then the first text can be an in-depth analysis of your favorite characters. Or find a meme related to it.<\/p>\n

And… the secret ingredient that I always like to add: ENTHUSIASM.<\/b><\/p>\n

Yes. It’s not enough to just talk about it. You have to genuinely enjoy the conversation because people who get excited over small things are just irresistible (especially when provate ancora dei sentimenti per loro<\/a>).<\/p>\n

3. There’s a question for every answer<\/h3>\n

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I know this one sounds generic and boring, but it doesn’t have to be so.<\/p>\n

Ask your ex about their life. Check in to see what they’ve been doing and how they’ve been. Or wish them a happy birthday if you’re lucky enough with the timing!<\/p>\n

Ma la chiave \u00e8 essere sinceramente curiosi.<\/p>\n

Don’t ask just for the sake of saying something. This can turn into the most interesting conversation ever if you only lead it in the right direction.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ogni volta che rispondono alla vostra domanda, scavate pi\u00f9 a fondo.<\/p>\n

For instance, if they say that they’re stressed because it’s exam period, don’t be like, “Oh, that sucks.”<\/p>\n

Scoprite cosa li rende cos\u00ec stressati. In generale, stanno attraversando un momento difficile? O gli esami sono semplicemente troppo difficili? Come gestiscono lo stress? Potete anche offrire alcuni dei vostri consigli.<\/p>\n

The point here is to show an interest in your ex’s life. If they see how much you care, they will be more drawn to you.<\/b><\/p>\n

But, of course, also make sure that you share your own stories. There’s probably a lot that has happened since the last time you talked.<\/p>\n

So, if you’re not sure what to text your ex after no contact, you could try mentioning your new job and the new friends you’ve made. It should never only be a one-way street.<\/p>\n

I’m always thankful when someone considers me important enough to share random details about their day. Trust me, your ex will, too.<\/i><\/p>\n

4. Tutti vogliamo essere supereroi<\/h3>\n

Asking for help is also brilliant if you’re wondering what to text your ex after no contact.<\/p>\n

Everybody likes being useful, especially if they’re in love with you. So, think about what they’re good at and find the proper time to ask them for a favor.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ad esempio, se il vostro ex \u00e8 molto esperto di tecnologia e voi avete le conoscenze di un novantenne in materia, create un problema da risolvere.<\/p>\n

This will make them very happy, even more so if it’s a man. You will scatenare il suo istinto di eroe<\/a>e far\u00e0 di tutto per farvi sentire felici e protetti.<\/p>\n

Ma lo stesso vale anche per le donne. Tutti noi vogliamo essere presenti per i nostri cari, quindi seguire questo consiglio non \u00e8 mai un modo sbagliato di procedere.<\/p>\n

5. It’s time for new beginnings<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

This one’s more about how NOT to initiate contact with your ex. You don’t want to involve them in your own drama as soon as you reach out.<\/p>\n

Certo, condividere \u00e8 bello e necessario, ma lasciatelo per dopo. All'inizio limitatevi ad argomenti pi\u00f9 leggeri, che vi rendano entrambi felici.<\/i><\/p>\n

More importantly, don’t mention the issues that made you break up. It may be important to address them, but you have plenty of time for that. Let’s riconnettersi con loro<\/a> prima.<\/p>\n

It’s much better to show them what a different person you are after so many <\/b>mesi di assenza di contatti<\/b> di quanto non lo sia parlarne. La comunicazione \u00e8 salutare, ma non significa nulla senza uno sforzo.<\/b><\/p>\n

Show them that you’re ready for new beginnings, both in your personal life and in the life you plan to have with them.<\/p>\n

Quando il vostro ex si accorger\u00e0 della vostra trasformazione, vi garantisco che ti rivogliono indietro<\/a>.<\/p>\n

6. Tutto inizia con l'auto-miglioramento<\/h3>\n

What made you break up? Was it a lack of maturity? Jealousy? Personal issues? Whatever it was, it’s important that you show your ex how much you’ve changed.<\/p>\n

Parola chiave: DIMOSTRARE, non DIRE.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For example, if you were jealous, it’s not enough to say, “I don’t struggle with jealousy anymore. I’m past that.”<\/p>\n

No.<\/p>\n

Dovete dimostrarlo con le vostre AZIONI.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t be in a hurry either. Wait for the right moment.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get mad, if your ex mentions that they were having coffee with a (fe)male friend. Ask them how it was and take the conversation in a whole new direction. Yes, you read that right.<\/p>\n

If your goal is to show that you don’t mind them going out with (fe)male friends, the point is not to focus on it too much. Ask a few questions, and then move on to the next topic.<\/p>\n

HOWEVER, don’t pretend that you’re unbothered when you clearly are.<\/b><\/p>\n

Per questo motivo consiglio di affrontare i propri problemi prima di contattare il proprio ex.<\/p>\n

Only when you TRULY remove the issue that made you break up can you get back together; otherwise, history will only repeat itself, and we wouldn’t want that, would we?<\/i><\/p>\n

7. Lasciare che il passato faccia la sua magia<\/h3>\n

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If you’re stuck wondering, ”What do I text my ex?” try asking yourself these questions:<\/p>\n

Che cosa gli \u00e8 piaciuto di pi\u00f9 di lei? La sua empatia? La sua curiosit\u00e0? Il suo amore per i dibattiti intellettuali?<\/i><\/p>\n

Qualunque cosa sia stata, assicuratevi di essere QUELLA persona. Se apprezzano la vostra intelligenza, perch\u00e9 non contattarli con un pensiero intrigante che suscitare una conversazione interessante<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Or, if they like how affected you get by other people’s troubles, open up to them about a recent tragedy.<\/p>\n

So che ho detto niente drammi, ma non tutto \u00e8 bianco o nero.<\/i><\/p>\n

You know your ex-partner the best. If they’re the type of person who will be interested even if the conversation is a bit sad, then why not do it?<\/p>\n

La chiave \u00e8 dimostrare loro che siete ancora la persona che hanno amato.<\/b><\/p>\n

Quindi, accentuate tutti i tratti che li hanno fatti innamorare di voi, mostrando al contempo come i vostri difetti siano un ricordo del passato.<\/b><\/p>\n

Fidatevi di me, questo farli pensare a voi<\/a> sempre.<\/p>\n

8. Indossare il cuore sulla manica<\/h3>\n

Forse <\/i>your ex hasn\u2019t tried to contact you<\/i><\/a>ma perch\u00e9 non fare il primo passo?<\/i><\/p>\n

Honesty is the best policy because life is too short for games. If you want your ex back, that’s exactly what you should say.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, probabilmente vi conoscete fin troppo bene. Perch\u00e9 nascondere ci\u00f2 che si vuole?<\/p>\n

Lasciate che vi illustri alcuni vantaggi di seguire questo consiglio:<\/p>\n

1. Se gli dite che li amate ancora, apparite come una persona sicura di s\u00e9 che lotta per ottenere ci\u00f2 che vuole.<\/b><\/p>\n

Both of you probably find it awkward as hell to initiate conversation after the no contact rule, yet you so bravely went straight to the point. Who wouldn’t want a partner who doesn’t give up on us so easily?<\/p>\n

2. When you’re honest, you encourage honesty in the other person.<\/b><\/p>\n

Il risultato \u00e8 che due partner sono emotivamente vulnerabile<\/a> con l'altro. E cosa vi d\u00e0 la vulnerabilit\u00e0 emotiva?<\/p>\n

COLLEGAMENTO.<\/i><\/p>\n

Quanto pi\u00f9 si \u00e8 onesti, tanto pi\u00f9 profonda \u00e8 la connessione.<\/p>\n

3. Li farete sentire amati.<\/b><\/p>\n

Immaginate che qualcuno torni da voi mesi dopo la rottura. Quanto \u00e8 lusinghiero?<\/p>\n

Show them how unforgettable they are and how you wouldn’t replace them for the world.<\/p>\n

4. Perch\u00e9 no?<\/b><\/p>\n

You only have one life, and it’s best to make it easier for both parties to cut right to the chase.<\/p>\n

That’s what I do. I always remind myself that I’m a mere mortal who won’t roam the earth forever. I know it sounds depressing, but it’s all about perception.<\/p>\n

Death can be inspiring because it can make us do things. Let’s use our time here wisely. Let’s go after the thing we want.<\/b><\/p>\n

P.S. First, make sure to mark step 6 as done. If you haven’t solved the core issues, loving them won’t be enough (sadly).<\/i><\/p>\n

9. Un appuntamento \u00e8 d'obbligo<\/h3>\n

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Now that you’ve told them you miss them, it’s time to take some action. <\/i>Fare il <\/i>prima mossa<\/i><\/a> e chiedere loro di <\/i>incontrarsi<\/i> per il caff\u00e8.<\/i><\/p>\n

Ancora meglio, portateli fuori a mangiare quel dolce che amano tanto o andate in quella pizzeria dove andavate quasi tutti i giorni.<\/p>\n

Pi\u00f9 \u00e8 personale, meglio \u00e8. Ma l'obiettivo principale \u00e8 mostrare loro che volete passare del tempo con loro.<\/b><\/p>\n

Texting is nice, and you CAN connect with someone over a text message, but it doesn’t come close to face-to-face conversation, hearing the sound of their voice, or hugging them.<\/p>\n

Quindi, provate a riallacciare i rapporti con loro nella vita reale. In questo modo sar\u00e0 ancora pi\u00f9 facile riconquistare il loro cuore.<\/p>\n

Se il periodo di assenza di contatti ha reso le cose troppo imbarazzanti per voi, potete procedere in modo pi\u00f9 graduale. Che ne dite di fare una telefonata o almeno di registrare un messaggio vocale?<\/p>\n

Take baby steps if it’s easier for you until you finally muster the courage to <\/i>chiedere loro di uscire<\/i><\/a>.<\/i><\/p>\n

Fidatevi di me, se <\/i>hanno sentito la vostra mancanza durante l'assenza di contatto<\/i><\/a>, rispondono di s\u00ec.<\/i><\/p>\n

Come comportarsi dopo il periodo di divieto di contatto<\/h2>\n

But how do you actually behave when you text your ex in the first place? Here’s how:<\/p>\n

1. Prendetela con calma<\/h3>\n

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You’ve broken up for a reason, and you can’t expect things to go back to how they used to be as soon as you first contact your ex.<\/p>\n

Ricostruire la fiducia<\/b><\/a>soprattutto dopo tanti anni di <\/b>giorni di assenza di contatto<\/b>, \u00e8 <\/b>lavoro duro<\/b> that takes time. You can’t <\/b>guarire <\/b>crepacuore<\/b><\/a> durante la notte.<\/b><\/p>\n

So, don’t text them too much or, if you do, don’t get mad when they don’t text back immediately or even the next day.<\/p>\n

Even if you sent the text last week, that doesn’t mean that all hell broke loose. Just be a bit more patient.<\/p>\n

Forse il vostro ex ha bisogno di un po' di tempo in pi\u00f9 per abituarsi all'idea che siate di nuovo partner, o forse \u00e8 semplicemente fingendo di averti dimenticato<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Think about it this way. You are no longer partners. You don’t owe each other anything. If you decide to start talking again, that’s just giving each other a <\/b>seconda possibilit\u00e0<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

But, it still doesn’t mean that you have to be there for each other as you once were. It’s healthy to fissare i confini<\/a> even in a relationship but even more so when you’re not in one.<\/p>\n

Quindi, cercate di essere pi\u00f9 comprensivi quando il vostro ex vi ignora<\/a>e dare alla vostra relazione passata il tempo necessario per riprendersi, in modo che la vostra nuova relazione possa evolversi.<\/p>\n

2. Don’t play games<\/h3>\n

Questo \u00e8 molto importante. So che pensate che i giochi vi porteranno da qualche parte, ma non fanno altro che scatenare inutili drammi e ritardare l'ottenimento di ci\u00f2 che volete, ovvero una relazione.<\/p>\n

It’s simple. You like someone \u2013 tell them. You have certain boundaries \u2013 let them know.<\/b><\/p>\n

Esprimete i vostri desideri e le vostre esigenze e rispettate ci\u00f2 che il vostro <\/b>l'ex vuole<\/b> e le esigenze.<\/b><\/p>\n

Trust me, honesty makes things much easier. I know you’re tempted to lie because people made you believe that’s the best way to achieve your goal, but it’s immature.<\/p>\n

Il mondo sarebbe un posto migliore se fossimo pi\u00f9 onesti. Iniziate a migliorarlo dicendo qualcosa di sincero a una persona cara in questo momento.<\/p>\n

Go on. I’ll wait.<\/p>\n

3. Ammettere i propri errori<\/h3>\n

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I don’t just mean your past mistakes. If you notice that you made your ex upset in any way, assumersi la responsabilit\u00e0 delle proprie azioni<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Don’t play the victim. Don’t make them believe that they’re bothered for no valid reason.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ogni volta che mi arrabbio o faccio arrabbiare qualcuno, ricordo le parole che ho letto una volta: ”If you hurt someone, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t.”<\/i><\/p>\n

E onestamente, ha cambiato la mia vita in meglio. Di solito siamo troppo egoisti e inclini a stare sulla difensiva.<\/p>\n

While it IS important to stand up for ourselves, it is equally important to admit when we’re wrong.<\/b> So, start practicing that, and you’ll see how much healthier all your relationships will be.<\/p>\n

4. Affrontare direttamente i problemi<\/h3>\n

If there is any kind of problem, don’t ignore it. Don’t suppress negative feelings hoping they will all go away. Newsflash \u2013 THEY WON’T.<\/p>\n

I problemi spariscono solo quando li si affronta.<\/b> I know it’s hard sometimes because they never teach us that being direct is the way to go.<\/p>\n

Cambiare le proprie convinzioni di base \u00e8 estremamente difficile, ma almeno si pu\u00f2 iniziare con la consapevolezza di quanto sia sbagliata la soppressione.<\/p>\n

Once you realize that openness improves your relationships, you’ll do it more and more often.<\/b><\/p>\n

To be honest, it’s enough to do it only once. Even after the very first time, you’ll see that it’s not such a big deal at all.<\/p>\n

Pensieri finali<\/h2>\n

See? I wasn’t tricking you! I am full of helpful advice on what to text your ex after no contact. How wouldn’t I be when I’ve been pining over the same person for years? You could say I’m a relationship coach now.<\/p>\n

Everything I’ve shared with you, I\u2019ve tried myself. It worked for me, and I know it will work for you as well.<\/p>\n

You only need to pay attention to the ‘personal’ aspect of everything that you do. No person is the same, so you use your knowledge to your advantage.<\/b><\/p>\n

Amici lettori, buona fortuna a voi!<\/p>\n

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