{"id":14474,"date":"2018-02-14T12:40:35","date_gmt":"2018-02-14T12:40:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=14474"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:40:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:40:32","slug":"il-tempo-ha-iniziato-il-dolore-onesto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-tempo-ha-iniziato-il-dolore-onesto\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c8 ora di iniziare a essere sinceri sul nostro dolore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Life can be hard sometimes, it can feel as if everything is on top of us, pushing us down, pulling us under. It can feel as if we are completely alone in the world, as if we are the only ones dealing with emotions that make us feel trapped, angry, afraid. It can feel as if we are always watching everyone else get exactly what they want while we sit here wondering, \u201cWhat about me?\u2019<\/p>\n

And all too often we are afraid of these feelings, embarrassed by them. We immediately answer a question about how we are doing with, \u201cFine,\u201d because we don\u2019t want to burden anyone with something so \u2018trivial\u2019.\u00a0 We become so good at nascondendo il nostro dolore<\/a> that we may even begin to believe we are okay.\u00a0 We start to accept that maybe this sinking feeling is just a part of us now, maybe it\u2019s normal to wake up dreading the day and feeling afraid of the dark because there\u2019s nothing to distract us from our spinning thoughts. We make excuses for disappearing when we need to cry and we return with a smile on our face because it\u2019s just easier that way\u2014to pretend we are absolutely fine, when in reality, we are breaking inside.<\/p>\n

But it needn\u2019t be this way. There really is no reason to wear a mask around the people you care about, the people who care about you.<\/p>\n

So I think it\u2019s time we started being honest about our pain. I think it\u2019s time we learned to accept our emotions rather than push them away, rather than be embarrassed by or afraid of them. I think it\u2019s time we started answering, \u201cHow are you?\u201d honestly. I think it\u2019s time we started to talk to each other, to hear the way we feel in the silence, to understand how it makes us feel when we hear it aloud. It\u2019s time we stopped hiding in the bathroom and crying on the floor, time we stopped having a shower simply to drown out our tears. It\u2019s time we faced up to it, moved through it, dealt with it.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time we let the pain in because if we don\u2019t, it will only grow, it will only consume us, bury us, become us.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quindi, la prossima volta che sentite l'oscurit\u00e0 che si fa strada, abbracciatela. La prossima volta che qualcuno vi chiede come state, parlatene. Forse non in modo approfondito, forse non molto, ma cercate di far entrare qualcun altro. Imparate a essere onesti riguardo al dolore, imparare ad accettarlo<\/a>. La prossima volta che vi sentite come se poteste crollare, lasciate che qualcun altro cerchi di tenervi insieme. Lasciate che qualcuno vi tolga le lacrime dal viso e vi tenga fermi. Lasciate che qualcuno vi stringa al petto quando cala la notte e godetevi la sensazione del suo calore contro di voi, lasciate che vi tranquillizzi.<\/p>\n

Ricordate a voi stessi che non siete soli.<\/strong><\/p>\n

La prossima volta che vi scagliate contro la disfatta, ricordate che la rabbia non \u00e8 la risposta, ma lo \u00e8 l'onest\u00e0, lo \u00e8 lasciare entrare l'amore, lo \u00e8 riconoscere il dolore.<\/p>\n

Because asking for help does not mean you aren\u2019t independent or strong or capable. Needing to feel someone\u2019s arms around you does not mean you can\u2019t soothe yourself, it doesn\u2019t mean you need someone else to pick up the pieces.<\/p>\n

It just means that sometimes two heads are better than one; sometimes someone else can tell us the words our broken hearts or tangled minds can\u2019t find right now. It just means someone else\u2019s arms often feel better wrapped around us than our own. It means that we all need a little help sometimes and that\u2019s okay.
\nSweet girl, it means it\u2019s time you were honest about your pain because it\u2019s real and it\u2019s scary and sometimes it can be too much. It means that there\u2019s a world of people out there who love you and want to help you and all you have to do is ask.<\/p>\n

Significa che siete forti, che siete guerrieri, che vi \u00e8 permesso chiedere una mano da stringere.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 a volte, solo a volte, quella mano pu\u00f2 guidarci in superficie.<\/p>\n

A volte essere onesti sul nostro dolore ci permette di respirare.<\/p>\n

by\u00a0Rose Goodman<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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