{"id":144935,"date":"2022-02-21T15:26:44","date_gmt":"2022-02-21T15:26:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=144935"},"modified":"2022-03-30T13:40:13","modified_gmt":"2022-03-30T13:40:13","slug":"un-brindisi-a-tutti-i-bambini-coraggiosi-che-hanno-tagliato-i-ponti-con-le-loro-madri-tossiche-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/un-brindisi-a-tutti-i-bambini-coraggiosi-che-hanno-tagliato-i-ponti-con-le-loro-madri-tossiche-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Un brindisi a tutti i bambini coraggiosi che hanno tagliato i ponti con le loro madri tossiche"},"content":{"rendered":"

You should love your parents, no matter what they\u2019re like. Especially your mother! She gave birth to you, and the least you can do is ringraziarla<\/a> per questo!<\/em><\/p>\n

E scommetto che ti ha anche messo un tetto sopra la testa per anni. Avevi cibo in tavola. Cosa potevi chiedere di pi\u00f9?<\/em><\/p>\n

After all, she could have dumped you on someone\u2019s doorstep. But, she didn\u2019t do that, did she?<\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s exactly why you MUST love her, no matter what. More importantly, you MUST respect her.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ti ha portato in grembo per nove mesi e ha sofferto moltissimo per metterti al mondo. Chi siete voi per serbare rancore nei suoi confronti?<\/em><\/p>\n

This is your mother we\u2019re talking about, and she\u2019s always right!<\/em><\/p>\n

How many times have you heard these lines? Of course, they always come from someone who doesn\u2019t understand where you are coming from.<\/p>\n

They always come from people who assume that everyone\u2019s mothers are angels God put on this earth to protect us. People who can\u2019t grasp the idea of a madre tossica<\/a> la cui unica missione in questo mondo \u00e8 quella di rovinarvi la vita.<\/p>\n

Well, sadly, I understand. And that\u2019s exactly why I say that all of this is bullshit.<\/p>\n

Non avete la responsabilit\u00e0 di amare vostra madre se \u00e8 stata la fonte della vostra infelicit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Questa non \u00e8 una donna che ti ha dato il suo amore incondizionato.<\/p>\n

Non una donna che vi ha dato conforto quando ne avevate bisogno e sicuramente non \u00e8 una donna che merita di essere chiamata madre.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because let\u2019s face it, lei era tutt'altro che cos\u00ec.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quante volte ha spezzare il cuore<\/strong> senza aiutarvi a raccogliere i pezzi? Quante volte avete elemosinato briciole della sua attenzione, senza mai ottenerne?<\/p>\n

Quante volte avete chiedere la sua protezione<\/a> ma ha finito per combattere per se stesso?<\/p>\n

Quanti notti insonni passate a piangere<\/strong>Pregare Dio di darvi una madre premurosa? Quante volte avete guardato con invidia le vostre amiche quando hanno ricevuto un semplice bacio o un abbraccio dalle loro mamme?<\/p>\n

Quante volte avete correre tra le sue braccia, ma ha raggiunto un muro insensibile<\/strong>? Quante volte ti sei rimproverato per il modo in cui ti ha trattato?<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s more than you can count. So why do you think you owe this woman anything? Trust me \u2013 you don\u2019t.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She didn\u2019t perform as a mother and, therefore, she dismissed you from any \u201cduties\u201d a thankful child might have.<\/p>\n

L'unica persona a cui devi tutto \u00e8 te stessa, perch\u00e9 hai avuto il coraggio di rompere questo ciclo tossico.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Hai affrontato la tua pi\u00f9 grande paura e hai accettato la dura verit\u00e0: tua madre doesn\u2019t love you<\/a> e non l'ha mai fatto<\/strong>. Anzi, probabilmente \u00e8 incapace di amare.<\/p>\n

But guess what? None of it is your fault. Yes, it took you years to figure that out, but now, you\u2019ve finally gotten to the point where you no longer blame yourself.<\/p>\n

And it gets even better. You don\u2019t even blame her anymore.<\/p>\n

At some level, you\u2019ve even forgiven her for ruining your life. You haven\u2019t forgotten anything, of course, but you\u2019re no longer consumed by anger.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quanto dovete essere forti per raggiungere questo livello di coscienza!<\/p>\n

So, here\u2019s a toast to you. It\u2019s the least you deserve after everything you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s to your bravery.<\/strong> It took you a lot of courage to look that hurt child inside of you directly in the eyes \u2013 a lot of courage to face your traumas and to start fighting them.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s to your strength.<\/strong> Ti \u00e8 servito molto potere per guarire quel bambino interiore.<\/p>\n

Ma immagino che ti sia servito ancora di pi\u00f9 forza per tagliare davvero i ponti con la mamma tossica<\/strong>. Per tagliare i ponti con lei una volta per tutte.<\/p>\n

So che \u00e8 stato quasi impossibile non cadere nelle sue manipolazioni, nei suoi inganni e nelle sue bugie. Scommetto che ha tentato di attirarti di nuovo nella sua rete decine di volte, promettendoti che questa volta sarebbe stato diverso o che non ti avrebbe fatto perdere tempo. che ti illumina a gas<\/a> and telling you that you\u2019re overreacting.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, sei rimasto sulla strada giusta. L'hai davvero cacciata dalla tua vita, dal tuo cuore e dalla tua mente.<\/p>\n

Ma soprattutto, here\u2019s to the person you\u2019ve grown into. Here\u2019s to the fact that you never mirrored her behavior patterns and never became anything like her.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Il tuo hunger for love didn\u2019t turn you into a heartless monster<\/strong>. Your desire for attention didn\u2019t turn you into a narcissistic jerk who\u2019d kill to be under the spotlight.<\/p>\n

Your desperation for comfort didn\u2019t inspire you to become a selfish, apathetic human being. Your craving for understanding didn\u2019t make you indifferent.<\/p>\n

Invece, La vostra madre tossica vi ha ispirato a essere migliori di lei. Vi ha mostrato che tipo di persona non dovete mai diventare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When I come to think about it, that\u2019s pretty much the only thing you should thank her for: for giving you a lesson you\u2019ll never forget.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Indovinate un po', l'hai fatto tu<\/strong>! You\u2019ve got everything you ever wanted in life, and you got it without any help from her.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, you have your inner peace. You\u2019ve healed, and all the emotional baggage she left behind is no longer weighing you down.<\/p>\n

A quanto pare, she was wrong \u2013 you aren\u2019t such a failure, after all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quindi, here\u2019s a toast for YOU!<\/strong> Ve lo meritate.<\/p>\n

E un altro rapido promemoria: you don\u2019t have to love your mother just because she\u2019s your mother. But hey, you MUST always amare se stessi<\/a>!<\/strong><\/p>\n

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You should love your parents, no matter what they\u2019re like. Especially your mother! She gave birth to you, and the least you can do is thank her for it! And I bet she even put a roof over your head for years. You had food on the table. What more could you ask for? After…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":145035,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29624],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-144935","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends-and-family"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29624,"label":"friends&family"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/02\/A-Toast-To-All-The-Brave-Children-Who-Cut-Ties-With-Their-Toxic-Mothers-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29624,"name":"friends&family","slug":"friends-and-family","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29624,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? Following these tips will help you boost your connection with your favorite people.","parent":29620,"count":317,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29624,"category_count":317,"category_description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? Following these tips will help you boost your connection with your favorite people.","cat_name":"friends&family","category_nicename":"friends-and-family","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/144935","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=144935"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/144935\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/145035"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=144935"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=144935"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=144935"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}