{"id":147566,"date":"2022-03-17T11:23:47","date_gmt":"2022-03-17T11:23:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=147566"},"modified":"2022-10-23T09:00:56","modified_gmt":"2022-10-23T09:00:56","slug":"segni-che-il-vostro-ex-vi-sta-mettendo-alla-prova","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/segni-che-il-vostro-ex-vi-sta-mettendo-alla-prova\/","title":{"rendered":"15 chiari segni che il tuo ex ti sta mettendo alla prova (e come gestirlo)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Perch\u00e9 il vostro ex \u00e8 ancora nella vostra vita e non ha intenzione di andarsene? Stanno giocando con la vostra mente di proposito, oppure stanno contemplando l'idea di tornare insieme<\/b><\/a> con te?<\/strong><\/p>\n

There is a thin line between these two things. It\u2019s pretty difficult to distinguish between a toxic person who is toying with you and someone trying to decide whether your relationship deserves a retake.<\/p>\n

Allora, qual \u00e8 la differenza? Quali sono i segni che il vostro ex vi sta mettendo alla prova?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, honey, I got you covered. Check out these clues and see for yourself!<\/p>\n

Segni che il vostro ex vi sta mettendo alla prova<\/h2>\n

Il mio ex mi sta mettendo alla prova? Se vi riconoscete in tutti o nella maggior parte di questi modelli di comportamento, \u00e8 sicuramente cos\u00ec!<\/p>\n

1. Cercare di farvi ingelosire<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Uno dei primi segnali che il vostro ex vi sta mettendo alla prova \u00e8 se fa del suo meglio per renderti geloso<\/a>. I know what you must be thinking right now: But they\u2019re happy in a new relationship?<\/em><\/p>\n

Lasciate che vi dica subito una cosa: questa non \u00e8 altro che un'enorme bugia. Trust me, if they\u2019re really in love, they wouldn\u2019t care if you were updated about it or not.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, cosa fa il vostro ex? Mette tutte le sue energie per assicurarsi che voi scopriate la sua presunta felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

If they run into your best friend, they\u2019ll tell them everything about their new romance. They keep on posting new selfies all over their social media platforms, waiting for your reaction.<\/p>\n

Una cosa \u00e8 certa: il tuo ex ti rivuole<\/a>; otherwise, they wouldn\u2019t be doing all of this in the first place. They\u2019re clearly in a rebound relationship since they haven\u2019t gotten over you just yet.<\/p>\n

If you show them jealousy, it will be a sign that you still care. A sign that they\u2019re safe to ditch this new person and make a move on you.<\/p>\n

2. Scavare nel passato<\/h3>\n

Let\u2019s face it \u2013 you two broke up for a reason. Well, if your ex is a mature person, they\u2019ll want to get rid of this emotional baggage before renewing your relationship.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, it seems like they\u2019re digging through the past without an actual purpose or just to break your heart even more. Trust me, one of the common reasons behind this kind of behavior is that they\u2019re setting the record straight before giving your romance a second chance.<\/p>\n

Il tuo ex <\/b>torner\u00e0<\/b><\/a> once they\u2019re sure that you\u2019re both over everything that has happened, and it\u2019s your job to show them that you\u2019re now a changed person.<\/strong><\/p>\n

After all, what\u2019s the point of getting back together if you keep on going back to the hard times you had in the past? Now is the time to show them that you\u2019re perfectly aware of your mistakes and that you don\u2019t plan on repeating them.<\/p>\n

Of course, this kind of behavior can be a sign that your ex is only looking for closure. In that case, they wouldn\u2019t show all the other signs from this list!<\/p>\n

3. Cercare di dormire con voi<\/h3>\n

\"Coppia<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a tough one. You and your ex are on good terms, but lately, they\u2019ve been acting differently. You can see through it, though \u2013 they\u2019re trying to get you into bed.<\/p>\n

I have to admit \u2013 this is a tricky decision. On the one hand, you can see it as a sign your ex misses you and wants to tornare insieme<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Ma allo stesso tempo pu\u00f2 anche essere una trappola. E se avessero intenzione di utilizzando voi<\/b><\/a> e non ti chiamer\u00e0 mai pi\u00f9?<\/strong><\/p>\n

If I were you, I\u2019d see this as one of the signs your ex is testing you. They\u2019re trying to understand if they can have you whenever they feel like it and if you\u2019ll give them everything they\u2019re looking for.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s one thing if you\u2019re only after physical pleasure. But here’s some relationship advice if your final goal is reconciliation: don\u2019t do it, especially if they have a new boyfriend or girlfriend.<\/p>\n

Every relationship expert will tell you pretty much the same thing: make it clear that they can\u2019t only get parts of you. You\u2019re a whole package, and your body doesn\u2019t come without any strings attached.<\/p>\n

4. Non avere contatti<\/h3>\n

The no contact rule \u2013 the universal way to Far sentire la mancanza di un ex<\/a>. Il tuo L'ex finge di averla dimenticata<\/a> e scompare dalla vostra vita solo per darvi la possibilit\u00e0 di sentire la loro assenza.<\/p>\n

They clearly need validation from you. Trust me, they\u2019re sitting at home, patiently waiting for you to make a move and reach out to them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If they follow the no contact rule strictly, they won\u2019t contact you first, even if their life depends on it. On the contrary, they\u2019re waiting to see if you\u2019ll do anything about it.<\/p>\n

This person probably feels like you take them for granted. Maybe you assume that they\u2019ll always be around no matter what happens, and they\u2019re trying to prove you otherwise.<\/p>\n

Vi metterete in contatto con lui? O aspetterete che la regola del divieto di contatto scada? Tutto dipende da voi!<\/p>\n

5. Domande profonde e personali<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Il tuo L'ex ha chiamato e mandato messaggi<\/a> with seemingly weird questions lately. They\u2019re tackling topics they\u2019ve never dealt with before.<\/p>\n

Avete mai pensato che il vostro ex che vi mette alla prova sia in realt\u00e0 un modo per farvi conoscere di nuovo? Questo vale soprattutto se vi siete lasciati da tempo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Vogliono sapere qual \u00e8 la vostra posizione su alcune questioni importanti. Avete cambiato idea su alcune cose che li hanno infastiditi in passato?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s some great news: it\u2019s possible they\u2019ve realized you\u2019re marriage material, so that\u2019s why they\u2019re testing the waters. They provare ancora qualcosa per te<\/a> \u2013 there is no doubt about that.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, vogliono assicurarsi che you\u2019re compatible<\/a> as well. They\u2019re asking you all these domande personali profonde<\/a> per verificare il vostro atteggiamento nei confronti delle cose che contano per loro.<\/p>\n

6. Giochi caldi e freddi<\/h3>\n

So che tutti noi odiamo giochi mentali<\/a> You don\u2019t know where you stand, and you have no idea what might happen tomorrow. Your ex is anything but consistent when it comes to how they treat you.<\/p>\n

One day, they act like they\u2019d die to get back together with you. To be exact, it sometimes seems like nothing has changed, and it\u2019s as if you\u2019re just continuing where you left off.<\/p>\n

Ma c'\u00e8 anche l'altra faccia della medaglia storia calda e fredda<\/a>. Ci sono momenti in cui il vostro ex non si trova da nessuna parte.<\/p>\n

All'improvviso, hanno smettete di rispondere ai vostri messaggi<\/a> and calls, and they don\u2019t ask to meet up. They no longer text you or check in, and even your mutual friends don\u2019t know what\u2019s gotten into them.<\/p>\n

And just when you make peace with the fact that they\u2019re out of the picture for good, they make a great comeback! Before you know it, you\u2019re back to square one, and the cycle begins all over again.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 uno dei segni che il vostro ex vi sta mettendo alla prova? Sicuramente s\u00ec!<\/strong><\/p>\n

But please be careful, as this might not be the kind of test you\u2019re hoping to get from them. It\u2019s possible that they\u2019re actually just trying to see how far they can go without you walking away for good.<\/p>\n

7. Il test di fedelt\u00e0<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tutti i coach che si occupano di relazioni vi diranno la stessa cosa: se il vostro L'ex vuole tornare insieme<\/a>, they\u2019ll expect you to remain loyal during the breakup. When I mention loyalty, I\u2019m not talking about staying faithful.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course, they\u2019ll be hurt if they find out you had a new relationship in the meantime. However, loyalty is much more important than this.<\/p>\n

Il vostro ex verificher\u00e0 se pu\u00f2 ancora contare su di voi. Avete violato la loro fiducia anche se eravate lontani?<\/p>\n

Avete fatto qualcosa di considerato off-limits, come uscire con un amico comune? Ha parlato male del suo ex e di tutta la sua relazione dopo la rottura?<\/p>\n

They might talk to you about these things directly, or they might ask around. Either way, if you pass the loyalty test, you\u2019ll likely get back together.<\/p>\n

8. Utilizzo di piattaforme di social media<\/h3>\n

Let\u2019s face it: your ex keeps on low-key stalking you. They\u2019re not some kind of a psychopath who follows you around and stares through your windows at night. However, they use modern-day methods to keep track of your activities.<\/p>\n

Yes, that\u2019s right, I\u2019m talking about social media. Non si perdono mai gli aggiornamenti della vostra storia, apprezzano tutti i vostri post e scorrono regolarmente l'elenco dei vostri follower.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Of course, there is also a different group of exes who only lurk in the background. You are still friends on social media, but they pretend like you don\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n

Either type of behavior is a kind of test. First of all, they\u2019re probably waiting for your reaction.<\/p>\n

Sarete i primi a entrare nei loro DM? Risponderete con un like ai loro post e continuerete questo piccolo gioco?<\/p>\n

E naturalmente, pubblicher\u00e0 qualcosa di sospetto? Troveranno segni di una nuova fidanzata o di un nuovo fidanzato?<\/p>\n

9. Dare il potere<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Uno dei segni che il vostro ex vi sta mettendo alla prova \u00e8 legato al fatto che vi d\u00e0 la possibilit\u00e0 di prendere una decisione. Dichiarano chiaramente le loro intenzioni, ma il potere \u00e8 nelle vostre mani.<\/p>\n

They clearly want to see if you\u2019ve grown since your breakup. How do you plan on making this happen?<\/p>\n

Will you even move towards reconciliation? If the answer is yes, how will you resolve your issues? Clearly, you have some; otherwise, you\u2019d still be together.<\/p>\n

Avete intenzione di fare le cose con calma o volete continuare la vostra relazione come se nulla fosse?<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re in charge, so plan every step and think things through before acting on them!<\/p>\n

10. Il test di successo<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s when a relationship ends that you start to see your ex-partner more clearly. Well, that\u2019s exactly what your ex has been doing during this time you two are apart.<\/p>\n

They know that you\u2019ve reached a crossroads: you\u2019ll either break things off forever or turn this into a long-term relationship or even marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Forse quando stavate insieme non vedevano il vostro stato finanziario e la vostra carriera come un problema importante, ma ora vogliono vedere se qualcosa \u00e8 cambiato.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you: this is something women do more than men. But you can\u2019t say: \u201cMy ex-girlfriend is a gold-digger\u201d just because she puts you through a success test.<\/p>\n

Basically, she\u2019s checking whether you\u2019ve moved from a dead spot. Did you find a better job or get a raise? Are you now more motivated to make something out of your life?<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean she\u2019s only interested in your money. She just wants un uomo finanziariamente stabile<\/a> al suo fianco, un uomo con cui progettare il suo futuro.<\/p>\n

11. Mettere alla prova i propri limiti<\/h3>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

A volte, il vostro ex continua a farvi diverse cose brutte. They know you still love them, and they\u2019re not testing to see if you\u2019ll take them back \u2013 they\u2019re testing your boundaries to see how much you can take.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They\u2019ll be seeing other men and women without even trying to hide it. They\u2019re disrespecting you in different ways and treat you like garbage.<\/p>\n

Ma allo stesso tempo, ti impediscono di andartene ogni volta che cerchi di allontanarti. Si potrebbe pensare che non vogliano avere nulla a che fare con voi, ma restano al vostro fianco nonostante vi facciano passare l'inferno.<\/p>\n

Ad un certo punto, questa persona vorr\u00e0 tornare insieme<\/a> with you \u2013 there is no doubt about that. But until that happens, they want to break you completely.<\/p>\n

Basically, they\u2019re abbassare gli standard<\/a>. Before you know it, you\u2019ll settle for these breadcrumbs they\u2019ve been tossing away at you.<\/p>\n

So, you won\u2019t ask for more in the future. Actually, you\u2019ll be more than happy when they finally decide to put a label on your relationship.<\/p>\n

12. Prendere il controllo<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re dealing with a toxic ex, they\u2019ll use this period of separation to gain even more control over you. You miss them, and they know it.<\/p>\n

Anche se vi rifiutate di ammetterlo, la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che fareste praticamente qualsiasi cosa pur di riaverli indietro<\/a>. S\u00ec, questo include l'accettazione del loro comportamento possessivo.<\/p>\n

This time, they\u2019re not checking your boundaries. Instead, they\u2019re imposing their controlling limits on you.<\/p>\n

Vi vietano letteralmente di uscire con alcuni amici, vi chiedono di cancellare i vostri social media e controllano la vostra vita in altri modi. In un primo momento, potreste vederlo come un segno che ti amano ancora<\/a>. Altrimenti, perch\u00e9 sarebbero cos\u00ec gelosi?<\/p>\n

Beh, lasciate che ve lo dica, this is a major red flag. They\u2019re using your vulnerabilities to take complete charge of your life. And they\u2019re testing you to see how far they can go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Naturalmente, quando voi due tornare insieme<\/a> e ci si rende conto di ci\u00f2 che si \u00e8 sottoscritto, sar\u00e0 troppo tardi per modificare i termini e le condizioni.<\/p>\n

13. Chiedere il vostro aiuto<\/h3>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

One of the signs your ex is testing you is that they\u2019re still asking for your help. Don\u2019t see this as their way of taking advantage of your kindness<\/p>\n

Even though this is possible, it\u2019s more likely that your ex is checking whether they can rely on your not. Obviously, this is only possible if you two stayed on good terms.<\/p>\n

They keep on making excuses to reach out. You\u2019re the only one whose advice they believe in and the only one who can give them a hand when they\u2019re going through a hard time.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There is no doubt about one thing: your ex still holds a great deal of trust in you. But at the same time, they\u2019re wondering if you\u2019re still the same person who is ready to move mountains for their sake.<\/p>\n

Se dimostrate loro di esserlo, questo \u00e8 un biglietto per tornare nella loro vita.<\/p>\n

14. Concentrarsi sulla propria vita sentimentale<\/h3>\n

Is my ex testing me to see if they\u2019re interested in my love life? Definitely yes!<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s clear il tuo ex \u00e8 geloso<\/a>, but at the same time, they\u2019re not really doing anything special to get you back. What\u2019s the deal with that?<\/p>\n

Well, every relationship expert will give you the same answer: they\u2019re literally letting you find someone new.<\/p>\n

Are they doing it because they don\u2019t love you and actually want you to move on? Absolutely not!<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t want to be the one you settle for if there is someone better out there for you. They don\u2019t want to be convenient for you.<\/p>\n

They want you to have options and to always choose them, no matter the competition. They want to know that you\u2019d rather be alone than with someone else if you couldn\u2019t have them.<\/p>\n

15. Ricordare i bei tempi andati<\/h3>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Un buon segno del fatto che il vostro ex vi abbia messo alla prova \u00e8 che continuano a ricordare i bei tempi andati<\/strong>. Come reagirete quando vi parler\u00e0 del passato? Cambierete argomento o sorriderete in modo civettuolo?<\/p>\n

Your reaction will tell them everything they need to know. But that\u2019s not all.<\/p>\n

Vogliono vedere come percepite tutto ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 successo tra voi due dal vostro punto di vista. Si rende conto dei suoi errori e farebbe qualcosa di diverso?<\/p>\n

Questa \u00e8 la vostra occasione!<\/p>\n

Come si fa a sapere se il vostro ex sta sondando il terreno?<\/h2>\n

Se il vostro ex vuole rimanere in contatto con la scusa di amici rimanenti<\/b><\/a>, they\u2019re probably testing the waters. This is especially true if they keep on flirting with you and sending you segnali contrastanti<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They\u2019re not asking for a second chance just yet, but they\u2019re definitely trying to see if you\u2019ll give them the green light to keep on trying to get you back.<\/p>\n

Come capire se il vostro ex sta cercando di attirare la vostra attenzione?<\/h2>\n

If your ex is going out of their way to make you jealous, it\u2019s a good sign that they\u2019re actually trying to get your attention.<\/strong> Continuano a sbatterti in faccia la loro nuova relazione solo per ottenere una reazione da parte tua.<\/p>\n

Also, they\u2019re probably reaching out to your friends and family instead of calling you directly. Or they will just give you random chiamate in stato di ebbrezza <\/a> and text messages and pretend like nothing\u2019s happened in the morning.<\/p>\n

Come si fa a sapere se il vostro ex vi rivuole segretamente?<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Se il vostro ex fidanzato o fidanzata vuole tornare insieme<\/b><\/a>, they\u2019ll do everything in their power to stay in your life. They\u2019ll make excuses to see you or, at least, hear from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They\u2019ll keep on reminding you of the good old days, trying to get you back with the help of nostalgia. This person will stalk your social media apps because they want to be up to date on what\u2019s going on in your life.<\/p>\n

And let\u2019s not forget about their jealousy. They can\u2019t handle the idea of you dating someone else because they still think of you as theirs.<\/p>\n

Per concludere:<\/h2>\n

Tutti i segnali che il vostro ex vi sta mettendo alla prova sono proprio qui! Allora, cosa fare?<\/p>\n

Beh, tutto dipende da come volete che finisca. Se avete intenzione di riconquistare la vostra ex, assicuratevi di superare tutti i loro test. Date loro esattamente ci\u00f2 che desiderano e convinceteli che il vostro relazione merita un <\/b>seconda possibilit\u00e0<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

But if you don\u2019t see a future here, don\u2019t waste your precious time and energy on these mind games. What\u2019s the point? Just cut them off and proceed to heal your broken heart.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Why is your ex still in your life with no intention of leaving? Are they playing with your mind on purpose, or are they contemplating the idea of getting back together with you? There is a thin line between these two things. It\u2019s pretty difficult to distinguish between a toxic person who is toying with…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":147591,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29629],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-147566","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-him-back"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29629,"label":"getting him back"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/03\/15-Clear-Signs-Your-Ex-Is-Testing-You-How-To-Handle-It-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29629,"name":"getting him back","slug":"getting-him-back","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29629,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you need to avoid making the most common mistakes. Here's how you'll do it the right way.","parent":29627,"count":51,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29629,"category_count":51,"category_description":"If you want to get your ex-boyfriend back, you need to avoid making the most common mistakes. Here's how you'll do it the right way.","cat_name":"getting him back","category_nicename":"getting-him-back","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/147566","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=147566"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/147566\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/147591"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=147566"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=147566"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=147566"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}