Alcuni sono cos\u00ec bravi a recitare e a nascondere il loro vero io che alla fine ti convincono, ti catturano, ti manipolano e ti feriscono.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n It\u2019s always the same story. In the beginning, you feel like you are the luckiest person alive. You think you have it all\u2014a man who loves you more than the world itself and blissful happiness. But after the honeymoon phase is over, you start noticing his caratteristiche narcisistiche<\/a> that annoy you, but usually, you discard them, thinking it\u2019s just a phase\u2014it will be over soon. After all, none of us is perfect.<\/p>\n Unfortunately, that never happens. As you go deeper into the relationship, things only get worse. His manipulations become excessive and you can\u2019t defend yourself anymore. He slowly and carefully manipulates you into doing what he wants, leaving you helpless and completely brainwashed.<\/p>\n You lose your sense of self-worth and after some time, you don\u2019t even recognize the person inside you. He has managed to change you and make you his pure \u201cperfection\u201d\u2014\u00a0<\/strong>a<\/strong> capolavoro.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n Not all narcissists are the same. There are the ones who are transparent and you can read right through them. Those are not even that much of a threat. What you need to worry about are the \u2018happy narcissists\u2019\u2014they are the dangerous ones. There is no chance in hell you\u2019ll read them before getting to know them better because they are fun to be around with, charismatic and full of self-esteem. They are just perfect. But by the time you get to know them better, it\u2019s too late. They have already captured you into their manipulative scheme with no chance of getting out. <\/p>\n The number one person to a narcissist is himself. He doesn\u2019t care about anyone else. The best way to see if you\u2019re dealing with a narcissist is to pay attention to him while you talk to him. He usually talks about himself and his accomplishments all the time, no matter what the subject is. He won\u2019t listen to you carefully. He will listen to you just enough to hear a phrase or a word which he can associate with himself. Then, he will interrupt you and talk about himself a bit more.<\/p>\n Affrontare il problema:<\/strong><\/em> Unfortunately, there is not much you can do. The best solution is to pretend you care about whatever he is saying just like he does to you and let him talk his head off. Just nod a couple of times, act like you\u2019re listening and while you\u2019re at it, forge an escape plan in your head and run without looking back. A narcissist is the last thing you need in your life.<\/p>\n Yes, even narcissists have feelings, but one of them is not compassion toward other human beings. It\u2019s compassion toward themselves. So, when something doesn\u2019t go the way they planned, they get sad and when they are sad, they are furious. If someone took their rage out on you out of the blue and if he has done it a couple of times, he probably suffers from a serious case of narcissism. Also, the most probable thing is that they will hold you responsible for everything bad that has happened to them although you had nothing to do with it\u2014it\u2019s enough that you were there when it happened.<\/p>\n Affrontare il problema:<\/strong><\/em> First of all, don\u2019t let this get to you. Don\u2019t let the accusations mess with your mind. That is exactly what he wants to do to you. Don\u2019t let him convince you of something that never happened. Also, there is no point in arguing with him\u2014he\u2019ll only lure you in deeper than you already are. In these situations, the best thing you can do is to leave which will piss him off, or confront him by threatening to break off the relationship (if you are in one) and really break it off. No one has the right to lash out at you and unless you want to serve as a punching bag for a D-bag, deal with him and just leave.<\/p>\n You have to know that he thinks he\u2019s better than anyone else and to him, rules don\u2019t mean anything. He feels he is too important to follow any rules because nothing can hold him back. No written or unwritten rule can tell him what to do. When something matters to you and you hang on to it, he will probably show you he disrespects it and you by breaking your rule on purpose.<\/p>\n Affrontare il problema:<\/strong><\/em> First of all, no one has the right to disrespect you. If you\u2019re dating someone who thinks and shows you that he is better than you, leave right that second. Don\u2019t think he\u2019ll change because he won\u2019t. He may tell you he\u2019ll change, but only because he knows you\u2019re about to leave because you\u2019ve had enough of his maltreatment. And that is how he\u2019ll guilt you into staying\u2014by giving you false hope when in reality, nothing has changed nor will it.<\/p>\n Indipendentemente dal fatto che si abbia o meno una relazione, si possono notare i segnali che indicano che qualcuno \u00e8 cercando di controllarvi<\/a>. When you\u2019re not in a relationship, those signs are usually very mild, like always meeting under his terms, him showing up late, canceling your meeting last minute and things like that. Mostly, everything that disrespects you and praises him. But when you are in a relationship, controlling can get nasty. He wants to control your personal life and the relationship he has with you. He wants to be present in every aspect of your life. When you have to make a decision, his word is the last one and even if you want to say something, he cuts you off because he thinks that your opinion really doesn\u2019t matter. He can let you speak, but whatever you said will go unnoticed because he has already decided what to do.<\/p>\n Affrontare il problema:<\/strong><\/em> The best way to prove yourself and blow his sorry narcissistic undercover ass is to disobey him. Ignore everything he has said and just do it your way, the way you feel is right. He\u2019ll go insanely crazy, bursting with rage and lashing out at you, but don\u2019t let it bother you. I know this is so much easier said than done. But, if these situations happen more than once, then you should pick up your stuff and leave the manipulative bastard.<\/p>\n He feels that you are his property, that he owns you and can do whatever he wants with you by manipulating you into granting his every wish. That\u2019s why he doesn\u2019t respect any of your boundaries because he thinks they are unimportant, that you are unimportant and you don\u2019t need any boundaries set up in the first place. If he asks you to do something you are not comfortable with, you decline and he doesn\u2019t take no for an answer, then you have a problem. He is making you walk all over your principals just to do something he likes and wants.<\/p>\n Affrontare il problema:<\/strong><\/em> The best thing you can do, and actually the only one, is to stay true to yourself\u2014no matter what. Never betray yourself by doing something you feel is wrong. Never listen to others when your gut and your heart tell you otherwise. Stand up for yourself because no one will respect you if you don\u2019t respect yourself. No one will love you if you don\u2019t love yourself. 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\nSo, to save yourself from the potential emotional catastrophe, read the ways on how to spot a narcissist and deal with him\u2014maybe you\u2019ll avoid his manipulative spells before it\u2019s too late and you are caught in his grip, desperate to get out. Or if you see the characteristic of a narcissist in the man you\u2019re in a relationship with, leave him before it\u2019s too late to leave him\u2014before he brainwashes you into oblivion.<\/p>\n1. Parla sempre di s\u00e9<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n
2. Quando \u00e8 ferito, si infuria<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Infrange le regole<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n
4. Sta cercando di controllarvi<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n
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<\/p>\n5. He doesn\u2019t respect your boundaries<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n