\u2022 Perhaps a mother\u2019s intentions were pure, but she failed to express them the right way, so the child ends up being raised in a toxic environment, which can influence their further growth.<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 We shouldn\u2019t forget that a mother is never just a mother. She has many roles that she either imposed on herself or is expected to perform by others or society.<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 Also, we shouldn\u2019t forget that sometimes even our mothers grow up having a toxic relationship with their parents, which later on shifts to their children. Speaking of a vicious cycle.<\/em><\/p>\n Ma non tutte le speranze sono perse!<\/p>\n Imparando a conoscere meglio il comportamento tossico di un genitore tossico, avete l'opportunit\u00e0 di interrompere questo circolo vizioso e di proteggere voi stessi e i vostri figli attuali o futuri.<\/strong><\/p>\n Below you\u2019ll find the most common 8 signs you were raised by a madre tossica<\/a>I comportamenti di una madre tossica e come questi influenzano la vostra salute mentale.<\/p>\n Se alcuni o tutti i seguenti segnali vi sembrano significativi, \u00e8 probabile che siate stati cresciuti da una madre tossica:<\/p>\n Quando eravate bambini, facevate sempre del vostro meglio per compiacere vostra madre e conquistare il suo amore e il suo affetto. Ma questo accadeva raramente o mai.<\/p>\n Da adulti, sentite ancora il bisogno di dare la priorit\u00e0 agli altri prima che a voi stessi. Definizione dei confini<\/a> \u00e8 davvero impegnativo per voi.<\/strong><\/p>\n Non \u00e8 possibile concentrarsi sulle proprie esigenze<\/a> because you feel responsible for other people\u2019s happiness and well-being (just as you feel\/felt responsible for your mother\u2019s happiness).<\/p>\n Per questo motivo, spesso finite per essere dati per scontati e attirate persone che si nutrono del vostro amore e della vostra empatia, come giocatori, narcisisti e simili.<\/p>\n Di tutti gli 8 segnali che indicano che siete stati cresciuti da una madre tossica, questo \u00e8 uno dei pi\u00f9 dolorosi. Lottate con bassa autostima<\/a> e il costante perfezionismo.<\/p>\n Essere duri con se stessi \u00e8 diventata una routine quotidiana. If your mother ever acknowledged your worth and gave you unconditional love, you\u2019ll feel like you were never deserving of it in the first place.<\/strong><\/p>\n In other words, you feel like you\u2019re not and will never be abbastanza buono<\/a> non importa quanto duramente si cerchi di crescere e di realizzare le cose nella vita.<\/p>\n A causa di ci\u00f2, si potrebbe finire per lavorare troppo e compiacere gli altri<\/a> trascurando il proprio benessere.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll do all that only to prove to yourself and others that you are good enough and worthy of love and attention.<\/strong> Tuttavia, questo gioco di inseguimento del perfezionismo porter\u00e0 solo a ulteriori delusioni.<\/p>\n This one is connected with the previous sign. If you feel like you\u2019re not good enough, you\u2019ll also feel the need to constantly seek approval and validation from others.<\/p>\n Regardless of whether it\u2019s something regarding your job or outfit, your choices (self-esteem and self-worth) will greatly rely on other people\u2019s opinions.<\/strong><\/p>\n If they say that they don\u2019t approve of something, you\u2019ll instantly feel the need to change it and adapt to their preferences. Alla ricerca di una convalida<\/a> diventa presto come respirare.<\/p>\n The more you depend on others, the more you lose yourself. \u201cI don\u2019t know who I am anymore<\/a>\u201d is a sentence you hear yourself saying often.<\/p>\n If you grew up with a controlling parent, chances are you\u2019ll have difficulty making decisions both as a child and as an adult-child. Even the simplest tasks, such as choosing between two T-shirts, will overwhelm you. Why?<\/p>\n Because you\u2019re scared of making a mistake. That is why you often resort to serious sovrappensiero<\/a> prima di prendere una decisione definitiva.<\/strong> However, I\u2019m not talking about a healthy amount of overthinking, but the kind that ruins your salute mentale<\/a> e provoca insonnia.<\/p>\n Pi\u00f9 la decisione da prendere \u00e8 seria, pi\u00f9 ci si sente frustrati.<\/strong> The pressure is high. If your mother never allowed you to make mistakes, you\u2019ll feel enormous pressure to avoid failing at anything, which is connected with making a wrong decision.<\/p>\n Vostra madre vi criticava sempre ogni volta che commettevate un errore o fallivate in qualcosa? Vi faceva sentire incompetenti?<\/em><\/p>\n If yes, then you know why you have difficulty processing failure. Let\u2019s say that you fail an exam or fail to create a project the way your boss expected you to. How would this make you feel?<\/p>\n Lasciate che vi aiuti. If you grew up with a toxic parent, you\u2019d immediately feel like an ultimate failure who is not allowed to make mistakes.<\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ll feel disappointed not only in yourself and your boss or parents but also in the whole world. In such cases, tantrums become inevitable.<\/p>\n You process even the smallest failures for weeks and even months. You have difficulty understanding that you\u2019re allowed to make mistakes, and this doesn\u2019t make you less worthy.<\/p>\n If your mother had manipulative tendencies, chances are you\u2019ll develop problemi di fiducia<\/a> verso gli altri membri della famiglia, i migliori amici, il partner e le altre persone della vostra vita.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have difficulty opening up to other people because your first thought is that they\u2019ll hurt you one way or another<\/strong>. Your toxic relationship with your mother is a prototype of every other relationship you\u2019ll have with others.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t trust anyone, and you need lots of time and testing of other people\u2019s intentions before you decide to trust them.<\/p>\n If your parent-child relationship wasn\u2019t healthy, you would become a legit candidate for developing an stile evitante-attaccante<\/a> during adulthood. Here\u2019s how la psicologia dello stile evitante-attaccante<\/a> \u00e8 spiegato da Insider:<\/p>\n “When our needs aren’t met consistently by our primary caregivers, we form the belief that they won’t be met by any significant other, [and] that we can’t ever rely on others.”<\/em><\/p>\n If you feel like you can\u2019t rely on your potential partner, you\u2019ll avoid investing in them emotionally to protect yourself. Sometimes, you\u2019ll avoid relationships altogether.<\/p>\n Indisponibilit\u00e0 emotiva<\/a> potrebbe essere un pedaggio e impedirvi di instaurare un rapporto sano e significativo con gli altri.<\/strong> Even if the person is right for you, you\u2019ll still find a way to justify your refusal or inability to commit.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll do all this out of fear that you\u2019ll be hurt like you were hurt by your parent(s).<\/p>\n Have your emotional needs ever been met by your mother? If not, you\u2019ll have a hard time loving yourself and creating relazioni sane<\/a> con altri.<\/p>\n Mancanza di amore per se stessi<\/a> e codipendenza<\/a> (dipendenza emotiva o psicologica da un partner) dominer\u00e0 il vostro essere.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve never experienced a mother\u2019s amore incondizionato<\/a>, you\u2019ll feel undeserving of it. Subconsciously, you\u2019ll think that you\u2019re the one to blame for not being properly taken care of and loved as a child.<\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ll feel the consequences of this in every aspect of your life, from communicating with others to your job performance. Lack of self-love means having low self-confidence and not believing that you can achieve greatness.<\/p>\n Pu\u00f2 anche manifestarsi come ansia sociale, paura dei discorsi in pubblico e paura di essere al centro dell'attenzione in generale.<\/p>\n Now that we\u2019re done with the 8 signs you were raised by a toxic mother, it\u2019s time to check out the behaviors of a toxic mother.<\/p>\n Questo vi aiuter\u00e0 a capire meglio il rapporto genitore-figlio con vostra madre. Soprattutto, vi eviter\u00e0 di commettere gli stessi errori del vostro genitore:<\/p>\n Manipolazione, senso di colpa e gaslighting<\/a> are the most common signs of a toxic parent. A toxic mother will manipulate her child into doing what she wants and not what\u2019s best for her child. She\u2019ll use guilt trips and gaslighting to establish control and create confusion.<\/p>\n Healthy parents give their children space to make mistakes. Toxic parents are highly demanding, and if you don\u2019t meet their expectations, they give you the trattamento silenzioso<\/a> o di ricorrere a mezzi fisici o abuso verbale<\/a>.<\/p>\n All children make mistakes, get their clothes dirty, and are stubborn because they\u2019re children, and this isn\u2019t something mothers should take too seriously.<\/p>\n If a mother can\u2019t help herself but overreact every time a child makes even a minor mistake, this can leave severe consequences on her child.<\/p>\n Toxic mothers don\u2019t acknowledge their children\u2019s accomplishments.<\/p>\n Invece, sfruttano ogni occasione per ricordare ai figli che i loro risultati non sono degni di essere festeggiati.<\/strong><\/p>\n They treat their children this way because they aren\u2019t satisfied with themselves in the first place, so they project it on their children.<\/p>\n Stabilire dei limiti sani \u00e8 impossibile. Se cercate di porre dei limiti, lei li rifiuter\u00e0 immediatamente e li ignorer\u00e0.<\/p>\n Respecting boundaries would interfere with her manipulative and controlling behavior, and that\u2019s why she\u2019s hesitant to implement it.<\/strong><\/p>\n Inoltre, ha difficolt\u00e0 a comprendere la necessit\u00e0 di stabilire dei limiti e il concetto di relazione sana.<\/p>\n Being raised by a toxic mother is often connected with a lack of empathy. This is especially true if we\u2019re talking about abuso narcisistico<\/a> da una madre narcisista o genitori narcisisti<\/a>. Such people don\u2019t understand the consequences of their words and actions.<\/p>\n Even if a child tells them how they feel when they\u2019re treated like that, their parents express zero concern and empathy. Instead, they resort to spostamento della colpa<\/a> e facendo sentire il bambino responsabile di ricevere questo trattamento da loro.<\/p>\n Persone tossiche<\/a>\u2019s main method of manipulation is, without a doubt, controlling behavior. You know you\u2019ve been\/you\u2019re being raised in a toxic family if one or both of your parents exhibited such behavior.<\/p>\n Questo include il controllo del vostro comportamento sui social media, dei vostri hobby, dei vostri desideri, della scelta degli amici per voi e simili.<\/p>\n Because of that, children start suffocating and feeling like they don\u2019t have a choice. As a result, in the future, they become indecisive adults who have difficulty making even the simplest decisions.<\/p>\n Sia i genitori che i figli commettono errori. Tutti li commettiamo. Ma sapete qual \u00e8 la differenza tra genitori sani e genitori tossici?<\/p>\n The main difference is that toxic parents will never feel the need to apologize to their children because they think they\u2019re superior to them.<\/p>\n Non ammetteranno mai i loro errori per paura di perdere autorit\u00e0 agli occhi dei figli.<\/p>\n Losing authority = losing power. The real truth is that children appreciate and respect parents who don\u2019t have a problem admitting when they\u2019re wrong and apologizing for it.<\/p>\n Le madri tossiche tendono a sminuire i figli, a invalidare le loro opinioni, a paragonarli agli altri, a ricattarli, a farli dubitare del loro valore e cos\u00ec via.<\/p>\n Le madri tossiche spesso dicono inconsciamente cose offensive ai loro figli a causa delle loro lotte mentali interne o esterne. Ecco alcuni esempi:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cLook at yourself in the mirror. You\u2019re too small, fat, ugly, too thin.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cI don\u2019t understand why you have to act so weirdly?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n - \u201cWhy do you talk like that\/walk like that?\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cI wish you were different.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cYou have no idea how hard it is to take care of you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n - \u201cWhy do you have to be like that? Why aren\u2019t you like other children?\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cYou\u2019re useless and stupid!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cYou\u2019ll never make it because you\u2019re incompetent.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n - \u201cIf you keep behaving like that, I\u2019ll leave you.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cDo this\/say this one more time, and you\u2019ll never see me again.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cIf you do (this), I\u2019ll buy you (this).\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n - \u201cHow dare you contradict me?\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n \u2022 \u201cI don\u2019t remember giving you permission to speak to me.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n If you\u2019ve carefully read these 8 signs you were raised by a toxic mother, you already know the answer.<\/p>\n Essere cresciuti da una madre tossica ha un impatto sulla salute mentale in vari modi, e tutto ci\u00f2 dipende dalla quantit\u00e0 di tempo trascorsa con lei, dalla gravit\u00e0 della sua tossicit\u00e0 e da altri fattori.<\/p>\n Di solito, i bambini cresciuti da un genitore tossico hanno alte probabilit\u00e0 di soffrire di ansia,<\/a> depressione,<\/a> e PTSD.<\/a> Alcuni trovano conforto anche nell'abuso di alcol e droghe.<\/strong><\/p>\n Essere cresciuti da un genitore tossico pu\u00f2 anche portare ad avere un rapporto tossico con i propri figli.<\/p>\n If the above 8 signs you were raised by a toxic mother resonate with you, I\u2019m truly sorry for what you had to go through or are still going through.<\/p>\n Ricordate che essere cresciuti da un genitore tossico non \u00e8 colpa vostra. You\u2019re not responsible for their behavior, and no matter how hard you try to be \u201cperfect\u201d for them, you\u2019ll never succeed<\/strong>. Perch\u00e9?<\/p>\n Because the problem is not you but them, to be more exact, the problem lies in the battles they\u2019re fighting with themselves, so they end up projecting them on their children.<\/p>\n Proteggersi da un genitore tossico \u00e8 un dovere e lo si pu\u00f2 fare ponendo dei limiti e imparando a separare la propria autostima dalla sua tossicit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Mothers are strong and divine human beings. They carry you for nine months in their bellies without ever complaining. After that, they feed you, cook for you, dress you, and love you unconditionally. 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<\/h2>\n1. Non potete fare a meno di anteporre i bisogni degli altri ai vostri.<\/h3>\n
2. Vi sentite come se non foste e non sarete mai abbastanza bravi.<\/h3>\n
3. Cercate costantemente l'approvazione e la convalida degli altri<\/h3>\n
4. Avete difficolt\u00e0 a prendere decisioni (anche le pi\u00f9 semplici).<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Avete difficolt\u00e0 ad accettare ed elaborare i fallimenti<\/h3>\n
6. Avete gravi problemi di fiducia<\/h3>\n
7. Avete uno stile evitante-attaccante<\/h3>\n
8. Mancanza di amor proprio<\/h3>\n
8 comportamenti pi\u00f9 comuni di una madre tossica<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n\u2022 Manipulation, guilt trip, and gaslighting.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Unrealistic expectations.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Overreacting.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Criticizing your accomplishments.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Inability\/unwillingness to respect boundaries.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Lack of empathy.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Controlling behavior.<\/h3>\n
\u2022 Not feeling the need to apologize or admit her mistakes.<\/h3>\n
Cosa dicono le madri tossiche?<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nL'influenza di una madre tossica sulla vostra salute mentale<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nProteggersi \u00e8 d'obbligo<\/h2>\n