{"id":148505,"date":"2022-04-04T13:32:04","date_gmt":"2022-04-04T13:32:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=148505"},"modified":"2022-04-04T13:32:04","modified_gmt":"2022-04-04T13:32:04","slug":"gelosia-retroattiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/gelosia-retroattiva\/","title":{"rendered":"Individuare e fermare la gelosia retroattiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all dealt with jealousy in relationships. But you haven\u2019t seen hell if you haven\u2019t experienced retroactive jealousy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Che cos'\u00e8? Come si riconosce? E soprattutto, come si cura?<\/strong><\/p>\n

There\u2019s only one way to get all the answers: by reading on!<\/p>\n

Che cos'\u00e8 la gelosia retroattiva?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

In poche parole, retroactive jealousy is jealousy of your significant other\u2019s romantic history. You obsess over their ex-partners, sexual history, and past romantic relationships and interests.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, c'\u00e8 una differenza tra gelosia retroattiva e disturbo ossessivo compulsivo da gelosia retroattiva.<\/strong> In the first case, you\u2019re just interested in their previous romances.<\/p>\n

Ma se questo si trasforma in un disturbo ossessivo-compulsivo<\/a>, these thoughts turn into compulsions you can\u2019t control.<\/p>\n

Segni di gelosia retroattiva<\/h2>\n

If you experience most or all of these signs, you\u2019re guilty of retroactive jealousy.<\/p>\n

1. Obsessive thoughts about your partner\u2019s previous relationships<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The first sign of retroactive jealousy OCD is connected with intrusive thoughts about your significant other\u2019s past love life. Even though you\u2019re perfectly aware that they\u2019ve had their share of previous relationships before you \u2013 their past starts to influence your mood.<\/p>\n

Of course, there is a difference between retroactive jealousy OCD and just being jealous of your partner\u2019s ex. When you suffer from this obsessive-compulsive disorder, you can\u2019t control your thoughts.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you become obsessed with your partner\u2019s past relationships, and it is the only thing you can think of.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Digging through your partner\u2019s sexual past<\/h3>\n

One would think that these unwanted thoughts are only concerned with your SO\u2019s romantic past, in the way that you experience jealous feelings not just towards the people they were in serious relationships with but including those you know they cared for.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, non \u00e8 questo il caso. In effetti, siete ossessionati anche dal loro passato sessuale. Fate loro domande, pretendendo risposte dettagliate.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Qual \u00e8 il loro numero di corpi? Con quante persone sono andati a letto senza avere una relazione sentimentale?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

You\u2019re snooping through their sexual history and want to know literally everything about their sexual experiences.<\/p>\n

Of course, once you get all the details, your negative thoughts start to bother you even more. But at the same time, it\u2019s like there is a force pushing you to find out more and more. Before you know it, you\u2019re trapped in a vicious cycle without seeing a way out.<\/p>\n

3. Comparing yourself to your partner\u2019s exes<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Consequently, you start to compare yourself to your partner\u2019s exes.<\/p>\n

C'\u00e8 qualcuno che hanno amato pi\u00f9 di quanto amano voi? Sono hanno superato il loro ex<\/a>? Qualcuno del loro passato ha dato loro un piacere sessuale maggiore di quello che voi potreste mai dare?<\/em><\/p>\n

What do your partner\u2019s exes look like? Are they more attractive than you? Are they more interesting? More successful? More educated? Funnier?<\/em><\/p>\n

Were your partner\u2019s past relationships more serious than your current relationship? What can you do to be better than their previous partners?<\/em><\/p>\n

Cosa si pu\u00f2 fare per fargli dimenticare la loro storia romantica?<\/em><\/p>\n

Continuate a riprodurre nella vostra testa diversi film mentali con il vostro partner e il suo ex nei ruoli principali. E continui a paragonarli a voi due come coppia.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. Stalking your significant other\u2019s activities<\/h3>\n

Another sign of retroactive jealousy OCD is snooping through your SO\u2019s social media, text messages, phone records, and even stalking them \u2013 as in following them around. Of course, this is not something you willingly do \u2013 your jealous thoughts make you do it.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re basically trying to find some clues about their past romantic life. You want to see if they\u2019re in touch with some of their exes or if you could find any info about them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

L'obiettivo finale \u00e8 scoprire se they\u2019ll get back together with their ex<\/a>.<\/p>\n

La gelosia retroattiva \u00e8 normale?<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

As long as you\u2019re only curious about your partner\u2019s romantic history, you feel like most people; they just refuse to admit it. You get a bad feeling every time someone mentions their name, and sometimes, you even compare yourself to them. This is an issue we all face from time to time.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, if you can\u2019t control these jealous feelings, if you obsess over your partner\u2019s exes, and if their previous relationships become the center of your life, you\u2019re probably suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder and should visit a psychiatrist.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cosa provoca la gelosia retroattiva?<\/h2>\n

Retrospective jealousy doesn\u2019t appear just like that. It\u2019s a serious problem caused by some deeply rooted issues connected to your mental health.<\/p>\n

1. Trauma pregresso<\/h3>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

First of all, you\u2019re definitely dealing with something from your past. To be exact, you haven\u2019t dealt with something from your past \u2013 at least, not in a healthy way.<\/p>\n

Questi sentimenti di gelosia retroattiva potrebbero essere causati da una rottura dolorosa del passato.<\/p>\n

Una delle vostre precedenti relazioni si \u00e8 conclusa con il ritorno del vostro ex al suo ex?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Eravate tradito da qualcuno<\/a> dal tuo passato?<\/strong> This doesn\u2019t have to only be a romantic partner \u2013 it can be a best friend or primary caregiver. The bottom line is that we\u2019re talking about someone who left you when you needed them the most.<\/p>\n

Tutto questo sta riaffiorando in superficie e sta causando problemi nella vostra attuale relazione sentimentale.<\/p>\n

2. Problemi di fiducia<\/h3>\n

Avete problemi a fidarvi delle persone. You\u2019re an overthinker<\/a> che continua a cercare i segni che qualcuno sta cercando di ingannarvi e che qualcosa sta accadendo alle vostre spalle.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9? Dovete trovare la causa primaria del vostro problemi di fiducia profondamente radicati<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Innanzitutto, you have to ask yourself if you have a reason not to trust your partner or if you\u2019re dealing with problemi di fiducia<\/a> in generale.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If your partner has done something to violate your trust, it\u2019s clearly still bothering you, even though you\u2019ve allegedly forgiven them.<\/p>\n

3. Insicurezze personali<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Un'altra causa comune di gelosia retrospettiva \u00e8 nascosta nella le vostre insicurezze<\/a>. You clearly think that you\u2019re not abbastanza buono<\/a>; otherwise, you wouldn\u2019t be comparing yourself to your partner\u2019s exes.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cosa vi impedisce di vedere la propria autostima<\/a>? Does your partner make you feel like you\u2019re non sufficiente<\/a>? Oppure queste insicurezze sono legate a qualcosa o qualcuno al di fuori della vostra relazione?<\/p>\n

Prima di andare avanti, \u00e8 necessario rispondere a queste domande.<\/p>\n

4. Stile di fissaggio<\/h3>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019re familiar with the different stili di attacco<\/a>. Beh, se riuscite a relazionarvi con il stile di attaccamento ansioso<\/a>\u00c8 una delle ragioni della vostra gelosia retroattiva.<\/p>\n

Your relationship and your SO are your only preoccupation. You\u2019re obsessed with them, and your biggest fear is losing them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s more than obvious that you\u2019re emotionally dependent on this person, which is never good. In that case, you\u2019re not only dealing with retroactive jealousy \u2013 your obsessive thoughts refer to your entire relationship.<\/p>\n

5. Mancanza di una comunicazione sana<\/h3>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t have comunicazione sana<\/a> in your relationship, these feelings of retroactive jealousy shouldn\u2019t surprise you.<\/p>\n

Instead of talking to your partner about what\u2019s bothering you both (yes, that includes your past lives as well), you direct different mental movies in your head.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Every time you asked your partner about their exes, they gave you vague responses, and it\u2019s made you doubt the entire thing. Even when you try to share your intrusive thoughts with them, they don\u2019t take you seriously and refuse to talk about it.<\/p>\n

Consequently, you think that you\u2019re right for feeling this way. You assume that you\u2019re jealous for a reason and that they\u2019re clearly hiding something from you!<\/p>\n

Che effetto fa la gelosia retroattiva?<\/h2>\n

La gelosia retroattiva \u00e8 a combination of intrusive thoughts you can\u2019t control, insecurities, self-doubts, trust issues, irrational paralyzing fears, and low self-esteem.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Come posso fermare la gelosia retroattiva?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Overcoming retroactive jealousy is possible and here\u2019s exactly how it can be done!<\/p>\n

1. Identificare la causa<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s like this with everything in life: you can\u2019t cure the symptoms without identifying the cause. So now that you know what causes retroactive jealousy, bisogna vedere qual \u00e8 la radice principale del problema.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Which of the causes can you relate to the most? Once you have that figured out, you\u2019re good to go!<\/p>\n

2. Don\u2019t repress your feelings<\/h3>\n

At first, you might think that ignoring your jealous thoughts will make them go away. Well, guess what \u2013 it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n

These are unwanted thoughts, and all OCD sufferers know it\u2019s impossible to just ignore them. Besides, repressing your emotions is never healthy.<\/p>\n

Invece, bisogna guardarli a fondo negli occhi e chiedersi perch\u00e9 li si sente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Di cosa ho paura? Qual \u00e8 la cosa peggiore che potrebbe accadere?<\/em><\/p>\n

Why am I so obsessed with my partner\u2019s romantic history? Am I allowed to have a romantic past? If the answer is yes, why is my SO different?<\/em><\/p>\n

Mi manca qualcosa nella mia relazione che mi fa sentire cos\u00ec?<\/em><\/p>\n

3. Identificare i propri modelli di comportamento tossici<\/h3>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

The next step is to work on your behavior patterns. You can\u2019t snap your finger and chase away your intrusive thoughts, but you can be in charge of your actions.<\/p>\n

How many times a day do you check your SO\u2019s ex\u2019s social media profiles? How many times a day do you look at that one photo of them together you managed to find?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, it\u2019s about time to reduce it and finally stop with this habit.<\/p>\n

The same goes for snooping through your partner\u2019s phone and reading their text messages. After all, if you can\u2019t trust the person you\u2019re with, maybe it\u2019s better to break up right away!<\/p>\n

4. Siate onesti con il vostro partner<\/h3>\n

Whether you like to admit it or not, your partner feels your retroactive jealousy. It\u2019s time to be honest with them regarding this issue. Tell them how you feel and do your best to explain everything in detail.<\/p>\n

Make sure you tell them that you don\u2019t lay any responsibility on their shoulders. They\u2019re not giving you any reason to feel retroactive jealousy, but you feel it nevertheless.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Naturalmente, questo pu\u00f2 essere possibile solo se la comunicazione \u00e8 sana. In caso contrario, \u00e8 un aspetto su cui dovete lavorare prima di ogni altra cosa.<\/p>\n

5. Lavorare sulla propria autostima<\/h3>\n

Il punto fondamentale \u00e8 che dovete imparare a mettetevi al primo posto<\/a> nella vostra vita.<\/p>\n

Avere un relazione sana<\/a> with your partner is significant \u2013 nobody can argue against that. But you know what\u2019s even more important? Building a healthy rapporto con se stessi<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se lavorare sulla propria autostima<\/a> and learn how to love yourself, you\u2019ll realize that you don\u2019t need this person. Actually, you don\u2019t need anyone besides yourself.<\/p>\n

Once you understand that, you\u2019ll realize that even the worst-case scenario wouldn\u2019t be the end of the world. So, what if they really did go back to their ex?<\/p>\n

Posso garantirvi una cosa: sopravvivereste!<\/p>\n

6. Riformulare gli schemi di pensiero<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Your thought patterns have become a compulsion, and if you think about overcoming retroactive jealousy, it\u2019s time to reframe them. What does that mean?<\/p>\n

Prima di tutto, ogni volta che attenzione al passato<\/a>riorientate i vostri pensieri su qualcosa di bello nella vostra attuale relazione.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Every time you think about the qualities of your partner\u2019s ex, name a few things that make you such a great girlfriend or boyfriend.<\/p>\n

Ogni volta che pensate all'amore che i due condividevano, riorientate i vostri pensieri verso l'incredibile relazione che voi due avete.<\/p>\n

7. Chiedere un aiuto professionale<\/h3>\n

Finally, if you suffer from a form of OCD, you\u2019re unlikely to resolve it without psychotherapy.<\/p>\n

La CBT (terapia cognitivo-comportamentale) si \u00e8 dimostrata efficace per molte persone affette da disturbo ossessivo compulsivo, ed \u00e8 un'opzione da prendere in considerazione. con il proprio professionista della salute mentale.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Either way, what\u2019s important is to know that there is no shame in asking for help.<\/p>\n

Per concludere:<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

I know this is easier said than done, but please, don\u2019t allow the past to destroy your present and future. The worst part is that it\u2019s not even your past to begin with.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let retroactive jealousy get the best of your current relationship. Remember: if your SO wanted to be with any of their exes, that\u2019s exactly what they would have done. But they are with you, aren\u2019t they?<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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