{"id":150283,"date":"2022-04-29T23:06:47","date_gmt":"2022-04-29T23:06:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=150283"},"modified":"2022-11-20T22:15:40","modified_gmt":"2022-11-20T22:15:40","slug":"come-rispondere-a-un-ex-che-vi-chiede-come-state","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-rispondere-a-un-ex-che-vi-chiede-come-state\/","title":{"rendered":"Guida completa: Come rispondere a un ex che chiede come stai"},"content":{"rendered":"

Relationships come to an end, and it can be difficult to move on. So what do you do when, after you\u2019ve finally managed to move on, they hit you up with what seems to be an innocuous text? Or even worse, if your ex contacts you while you\u2019re still not over them?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Come rispondere a un ex che vi chiede come state e se dovete preoccuparvi di farlo? Per trovare la risposta a questa domanda, dovete analizzare bene alcuni aspetti di voi stessi e del vostro rapporto con il vostro ex e Pensate bene a ci\u00f2 che volete veramente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to do it step-by-step.<\/p>\n

Come rispondere a un ex che chiede come stai<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Quando si tratta di relazioni, le cose si complicano prima di rendersene conto. La scelta di come rispondere a un ex che vi chiede come state \u00e8 una di queste cose complicate. There isn\u2019t really one correct answer to this dilemma because it depends on many factors, such as:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Prima di decidere se rispondere o meno, \u00e8 necessario ricordare che perch\u00e9 vi siete lasciati<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

2. Considerate poi il vostro stato emotivo. Come vi sentite in questo momento nei confronti del vostro ex ragazzo o della vostra ex ragazza? Li avete dimenticati? Provi ancora qualcosa per loro?<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Poi, pensate a come volete che sia il vostro rapporto con il vostro ex. Fare volete tornare insieme<\/strong><\/a>? Il motivo per cui vi siete lasciati esiste ancora? Cosa potrebbe cercare il vostro ex?<\/p>\n

If the answers to all of these questions boil down to the fact that you\u2019re over your ex and want to get on with your life, there\u2019s a great way to respond: don\u2019t ignore the text, but treat it like it\u2019s not a big deal. Text back and mention something casual you\u2019ve done recently and ask them how they are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Risposte casuali<\/h3>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

When your ex asks, \u201cHow are you?\u201d you can reply with something like one of these:<\/p>\n

\u2022\u201cWork has been crazy, but I\u2019m good. You?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2022\u201cGood! Just came home from a run. What about you?\u201c<\/p>\n

\u2022\u201cAbout to go check out that new pizza place near my work. How are you?\u201c<\/p>\n

All of these responses show that you\u2019re fine and that you\u2019ve moved on, but that you\u2019re not trying hard to let them know.<\/strong> Some people think that when you\u2019re trying to seem too over your ex, it might come off as an act.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to give your ex the satisfaction of thinking you\u2019re still hung up on them. Instead, approach the text like you\u2019re replying to a friend<\/a> you\u2019re not particularly close to. Basically, your ex isn\u2019t very important in your life, but you\u2019re polite enough to reply to a text.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ora la palla \u00e8 nel loro campo. Se la vostra rottura \u00e8 stata amichevole e pensate davvero di poter essere amici in questo momento, la loro risposta potrebbe indicarvi il modo migliore per farlo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s it for the short reply when you\u2019re over your ex. On the other hand, keep reading if you\u2019re considering getting back together or are simply in the mood to over-analyze their text.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 vi siete lasciati?<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Alcuni motivi di rottura fanno pi\u00f9 male di altri. A volte il dolore peggiore arriva quando ci si lascia a causa delle circostanze, anche se entrambi ci si ama ancora.<\/strong> Anche l'abbandono di una relazione violenta pu\u00f2 essere doloroso a causa dei danni emotivi lasciati dall'abuso.<\/p>\n

You never break up just because, so if you\u2019re thinking about getting back together, there will be no good outcome if the reason for your breakup still exists.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Breakups that can\u2019t be overcome.<\/h3>\n

\u2022 Your values are different.<\/h4>\n

If you couldn\u2019t agree on certain big things, such as marriage, having kids, or money, there was never much chance of a long-term relationship.<\/p>\n

Trovare un compromesso \u00e8 quasi impossibile e sicuramente lascer\u00e0 l'amaro in bocca a uno o a entrambi.<\/strong> Le convinzioni profonde raramente cambiano, quindi la rottura era probabilmente la scelta migliore.<\/p>\n

\u2022 They did something you can\u2019t forgive.<\/h4>\n

Some people are capable of forgiving things others aren\u2019t. It\u2019s okay if you can\u2019t get over something your ex has done, such as tradirti.<\/a><\/strong> I vostri sentimenti sono validi e dovete accettarli senza sentirvi in colpa.<\/p>\n

Trying to forgive and stay in a relationship when it\u2019s impossible will result in nothing but resentment and unhappiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 The relationship was unhealthy<\/h4>\n

You shouldn\u2019t even think about returning to a toxic or relazione abusiva<\/a>. Una relazione tossica pu\u00f2 avere i suoi momenti eccitanti, ma prima o poi crolla.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Cercare scuse per una relazione abusiva porter\u00e0 solo ad altri abusi. It\u2019s highly unlikely that someone abusive the first time around will change.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Even if they\u2019ve been working on their behavior extensively, you should still avoid placing your mental and physical well-being in danger and proteggersi dagli abusi<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u2022 You had given up on the relationship<\/h4>\n

Quando stavate insieme, avete semplicemente smesso di fare sforzi. You weren\u2019t happy, and you weren\u2019t trying to fix it.<\/strong> Your arguments weren\u2019t didn\u2019t solve any of your issues but only made you angry at each other.<\/p>\n

Pensare di tornare a questo tipo di relazione sarebbe solo per abitudine, non perch\u00e9 si pensa che sarebbe bello.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Breakups where there\u2019s still a chance.<\/h3>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

\u2022 You weren’t ready to break up.<\/h4>\n

Ad esempio, se non eravate soddisfatti di qualcosa nella relazione e volevate cambiarla, potreste aver interpretato erroneamente che il vostro partner non fosse giusto per voi. You might have misunderstood each other\u2019s intentions.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes, you\u2019re just not in the right place mentally, and your breakup had nothing to do with the relationship.<\/p>\n

\u2022 The reason for your breakup no longer exists.<\/h4>\n

Se il motivo per cui vi siete lasciati era fuori dal vostro controllo, potrebbe esserci ancora una possibilit\u00e0 di risolvere la situazione. You weren’t ready to end your relationship, and now the circumstances that led to it have changed or may be resolved.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For example, if you broke up because you were long-distance, and you live close now. Or you broke up because of something you don\u2019t even remember anymore.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re regretting breaking up, and the reason it happened was external, it might be possible to get your ex back.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 There\u2019s no bad blood.<\/h4>\n

If you broke up without hurting each other, especially if there was no \u2018dumper\u2019 or \u2018dumpee,\u2019 a reconciliation might be possible. When the cause of your hurt was the end of your relationship and not the other person, there\u2019s probably no resentment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Going back to this kind of relationship is easy if there\u2019s a willingness on both sides.<\/p>\n

Volete tornare insieme?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Chiedetevi e date risposte sincere:<\/p>\n

\u2022 How do you feel about your ex?<\/strong><\/p>\n

- Li ami ancora<\/a>?<\/p>\n

\u2022 Is there still a connection between the two of you?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Are you still attracted to them?<\/p>\n

\u2022 Do you trust them?<\/p>\n

\u2022 Are you prepared to work on your relationship?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se la risposta a queste domande \u00e8 s\u00ec, pensate a cosa volete fare.<\/p>\n

Un'altra cosa importante da tenere in considerazione prima di ogni altra cosa \u00e8 assicurarsi che il vostro ex sia ancora single e che vi mostri segnali che indicano che vi vogliono ancora<\/a>.<\/strong> If there\u2019s already a new girl or a new guy in your ex\u2019s life, you\u2019re setting yourself up for heartache.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve already moved on and aren\u2019t single, think about whether you really want to mess up the new relationship you have with your new partner.<\/p>\n

Se volete tornare insieme<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Take your time to think about your breakup and feelings before responding to your ex\u2019s text. Don\u2019t think, \u201cMy ex texted me. Let\u2019s get back together.\u201d Force of habit might make credete di volere ancora il vostro ex<\/a> when you really don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Riflettete bene prima di fare questo grande passo.<\/strong> When you\u2019re calm and sure about what you want, send a casual text but show a willingness to talk. Una risposta semplice \u00e8 la migliore, senza sentimenti intensi e spiegazioni.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So when your ex sends a text saying, \u201cHow are you?\u201d you can reply with something that\u2019s a variation of \u201cI\u2019m good, how about you?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

And then it\u2019s their turn. Quello che volete ora \u00e8 che il vostro ex mostri lo stesso tipo di desiderio di tornare insieme, ma anche la volont\u00e0 di lavorare su qualunque sia il motivo della vostra rottura.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se il vostro ex dice di volersi riconciliare<\/a>e, chiedete loro cosa \u00e8 cambiato rispetto a prima.<\/p>\n

When your ex is in the same place as you, they\u2019re not going to pretend not to know or play games. Il vostro obiettivo in questo momento \u00e8 trovare un modo per tornare alla relazione e risolvere i problemi che l'hanno fatta fallire.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If they continue the conversation and you\u2019re happy with it, arrange to meet up for coffee. Quando vi vedete, comunicate apertamente e discutete dei vostri sentimenti e problemi.<\/strong> Assicuratevi che il vostro ex vi voglia per le giuste ragioni e non per abitudine.<\/p>\n

Tenete sotto controllo i vostri sentimenti e ricordate: la comunicazione onesta viene prima di tutto!<\/p>\n

If You Don\u2019t Want To Get Back Together<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve been working on moving on by following the regola del divieto di contatto<\/a>Il contatto con il vostro ex pu\u00f2 rovinare tutto il vostro duro lavoro. For that reason, it\u2019s best to block them everywhere from the moment you decide that you\u2019re done with them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bloccate e cancellate il loro numero di telefono e bloccateli e non seguiteli sui social media. The less chance you have of getting in touch with them, the less chance you\u2019ll do it in a moment of weakness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So if you\u2019re committed to getting over them, reply with something like, \u201cI\u2019m good, but I think it\u2019s best if we both move on. Please don\u2019t contact me anymore.\u201d<\/strong> It\u2019s going to feel great when you realize you really don\u2019t care about them.<\/p>\n

At this point, it\u2019s best if you immediately block them without waiting to see if they\u2019ll reply. By going no contact, you\u2019re darsi la migliore possibilit\u00e0 di guarire<\/a> senza la tentazione di messaggi o telefonate.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Those might lead to ideas of staying friends or becoming friends with benefits, but neither would work if you\u2019re still hurting. Stay away until you have moved on in your new life, and even then, don\u2019t think about trying to be best friends with your ex.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Why Would Your Ex Ask You How You\u2019re Doing?<\/h2>\n

\"ragazza<\/p>\n

Quando il vostro ex vi contatta via messaggio, potreste esserne molto felici se volete tornare insieme, ma dovete fare attenzione.<\/p>\n

A seconda di come \u00e8 finita la vostra relazione, il vostro ex potrebbe non avere buone intenzioni.<\/strong> Anche se lo fanno, dovete comunque mettere al primo posto voi stessi e i vostri sentimenti.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Your ex wants to get back together.<\/h3>\n

Solo perch\u00e9 Il tuo ex sente la tua mancanza<\/a> doesn\u2019t mean you have to talk to them. If you\u2019re in a good place, healing from the breakup, and finally getting your love life back on track, a text message from an ex can cause chaos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not interested in getting back together, especially if this person has hurt you, take the advice above and reply curtly, then block them. You don\u2019t owe them anything or to listen to what they have to say if you\u2019ve made your decision.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Your ex wants to try being friends.<\/h3>\n

A seconda della vostra situazione emotiva, questo potrebbe essere possibile se entrambi lo volete. Maybe you broke up because even though you liked each other, a relationship between you just didn\u2019t work.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not hurting and don\u2019t have hopes of getting back together, if your feelings for them are no longer romantic, and both you and il tuo ex pensa che possiate essere amici<\/a>, si pu\u00f2 fare una prova.<\/p>\n

Assicuratevi solo che entrambi abbiate chiari i vostri sentimenti, i vostri limiti e le vostre aspettative.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Your ex wants to keep you on the hook.<\/h3>\n

Il vostro ex potrebbe contattarvi per assicurarsi di avere ancora potere su di voi. Vogliono vedere se un testo o una chiamata possono scuotervi e rendervi deboli alla loro influenza.<\/strong>. Your ex is only seeking validation and doesn\u2019t actually care about your feelings.<\/p>\n

Your ex is contacting you to see if you\u2019re single or willing to have a casual relationship.<\/strong> They want to make sure you won\u2019t stop thinking about them if they even want something from you.<\/p>\n

They might be trying to keep the possibility of a hook-up open and are simply making sure they\u2019re still desirable.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to catch up with your ex if they show signs they\u2019re trying to play games.<\/strong> Don\u2019t succumb to \u201cI miss you,\u201d and don\u2019t let them see that they\u2019re affecting you. Bloccateli e andate avanti.<\/strong> It\u2019s going to be hard, but it\u2019s the only way to get on with your life<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Should You Respond At All If You\u2019re Done With Your Ex?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Some people might think that even in this type of situation, it\u2019s best to be polite and reply, but I think that when your feelings are at stake, you should always do what\u2019s best for you.<\/p>\n

If this person has hurt you, if your breakup was painful and difficult, if you\u2019re still trying to move on, go ahead and ignore the message. You don\u2019t owe them anything.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know your ex best, and you\u2019re the best judge of what they might be up to. Their reason for sending this text could be to hurt you more by showing you they\u2019ve moved on or to look for confirmation that they could still have you if they wanted.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the other hand, your ex might not be a bad person, and they could be genuinely interested in whether or not you\u2019re okay.<\/p>\n

This might be even worse if you\u2019re in the processo di tentativo di rialzarsi<\/a>. Someone who\u2019s bad to you is easier to get over than a good person.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In ogni caso, a questo punto, il regola del divieto di contatto<\/a> is the way to go. It\u2019s the only effective way to keep your ex off your mind and let you get over them. In un secondo momento, si pu\u00f2 pensare se si pu\u00f2 andare o meno a essere amici del proprio ex<\/a> and if they\u2019re someone you want in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Come reagire se si vuole essere meschini<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

If things ended badly, you might be tempted to reply to their message with an emotionally charged response and show that you\u2019re still mad.<\/p>\n

I would recommend against it, but I know that in times of heartbreak, it\u2019s hard to keep a cool head, and sometimes you just want to push back.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Keep in mind that the effect this has on your ex might be the opposite of what you\u2019re hoping for \u2013 instead of putting them down, your display of angry feelings might give them the satisfaction of knowing you\u2019re still not over them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s better if you bloccare e ignorare<\/a>Ma se volete davvero rispondere in questo modo, procedete con cautela.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Leave them on seen.<\/h3>\n

This is a response in itself and has a particular power. It shows you saw their message but didn\u2019t care enough to reply. Don\u2019t go back on it after you\u2019ve opened their text, though, and reply later.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your ex might think that you needed time to think about what to say, which isn\u2019t the result you want to achieve. If you want time to reply but don\u2019t want them to know you\u2019re thinking about it, read their message from the notification bar without opening it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Send a meme.<\/h3>\n

Ma fate in modo che sia una scelta. Look for something funny that shows you\u2019re unbothered and living your best life without your ex.<\/strong> Find a meme that says they\u2019re ridiculous for even trying to talk to you. You don\u2019t have to rush to reply,<\/p>\n

\u2022 Reply with a single emoji or make a hit combo<\/h3>\n

You can choose from the select petty emojis below, or if you\u2019re an expert emoji user, pick the combination from your frequently used ones that best shows your feelings.<\/p>\n

??\u200d????\u270c\ufe0f?????????<\/p>\n

\u2022 lol \/ ?? \/ ok?<\/h4>\n

This response might be especially appropriate if their text was something like, \u201c\u2018sup\u201d or \u201cwyd?\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2022 Why?\/None of your business\/Is there a problem?<\/h4>\n

These sound a bit confrontational, so you might get a reaction if you send one. If that\u2019s what you\u2019re looking for, then this is what you want. Ricordate che la mossa pi\u00f9 potente \u00e8 quella di ignorare il prossimo messaggio inviato dal vostro ex.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Already done with your rebound relationship?<\/h4>\n

You\u2019re clearly showing that you still pay attention to them, that you know they\u2019ve moved on<\/a>, and that you\u2019re mad about it with a response like this. If you\u2019re trying to provoke them, it\u2019s a great move, but to keep an upper hand, don\u2019t engage at all when they reply.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 This is a nice surprise!\/I\u2019m great, thanks for asking! \u2764\ufe0f\ufe0f<\/h4>\n

A response like this is clearly sarcastic and making fun of your ex. If they don\u2019t get what you mean, they might get confused and try to go on with the conversation.<\/p>\n

If you want to continue replying, keep your tone nice and sweet, and sit back and watch them try to figure out what\u2019s going on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Conclusione<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Trying to figure out how to respond to an ex asking how you are is a challenge because it\u2019s hard to think rationally when your feelings are in turmoil. It\u2019s best to avoid responding to it right away. Datevi il tempo di pensare a come vi sentite e a cosa volete.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ricordate i motivi per cui vi siete lasciati. Considerate il motivo per cui potrebbero contattarvi. Esaminate i vostri sentimenti e cercate di capire cosa volete.<\/p>\n

Think about whether it\u2019s worth the hassle even replying to your ex.<\/strong> Se decidete di farlo, mettete voi stessi e i vostri sentimenti al primo posto. There\u2019s no place to worry about hurting your ex\u2019s feelings when they\u2019ve hurt you already.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Soprattutto, proteggete i vostri sentimenti.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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