{"id":151532,"date":"2022-05-25T08:09:32","date_gmt":"2022-05-25T08:09:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=151532"},"modified":"2022-09-14T08:22:43","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T08:22:43","slug":"problemi-di-maternita-nelle-donne-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/problemi-di-maternita-nelle-donne-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Sintomi, cause e trattamento dei problemi della mamma nelle donne"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all dealt with at least one guy with an Oedipus complex. That\u2019s right, I\u2019m talking about men who remain little mama\u2019s boys<\/a> nonostante l'et\u00e0 e che si aspettano che la loro compagna continui a far loro da genitore.<\/p>\n

But what about mommy issues in women? Is that even a thing? Why isn\u2019t this topic addressed as much as the Oedipus complex?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quali sono le cause? Quali sono i segnali dei problemi della mamma? E soprattutto, si pu\u00f2 guarire e come?<\/p>\n

If you read on, you\u2019ll get all the answers you need and more!<\/p>\n

Cosa sono i problemi della mamma?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

I problemi della mamma sono come una relazione malsana avuta con la propria madre quando si era bambini abbia influenzato negativamente la propria vita da adulti.<\/strong> Se avete problemi con la mamma, significa che il rapporto che avete avuto con vostra madre ha avuto un impatto negativo sulle vostre relazioni sentimentali e sul rapporto con i vostri figli.<\/p>\n

Una donna pu\u00f2 avere problemi con la mamma?<\/h2>\n

Yes, women can have mommy issues. Mommy and daddy issues are in no way connected to the child\u2019s sex.<\/strong> Actually, it\u2019s a common misconception that females struggle more with daddy issues due to relazioni malsane tra padre e figlia<\/a> mentre le ferite materne sono riservate ai soli maschi.<\/p>\n

Quali sono le cause dei problemi di maternit\u00e0 nelle donne?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Ecco le cause pi\u00f9 comuni per cui una donna sviluppa una ferita materna:<\/p>\n

1. Abuso infantile<\/h3>\n

Il primo fattore scatenante per lo sviluppo di problemi sia di mamma che di pap\u00e0 \u00e8, senza dubbio, la abusi subiti da bambino<\/a>. But let\u2019s be clear about something here: I\u2019m not only talking about physical or sexual abuse here.<\/p>\n

There are other types of abuse, such as emotional abuse as well. The worst thing about emotional abuse is that it\u2019s incredibly hard to identify, and victims don\u2019t even recognize it as abuse.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Whatever abuse you\u2019ve been through, it has left consequences on your mental health \u2013 one way or another. And if your mother was the primary abuser or the enabler of the abuse (in the way that she didn\u2019t do anything to prevent it), you\u2019ll likely develop mommy issues later in life.<\/p>\n

2. Mother\u2019s neglect<\/h3>\n

Mother\u2019s neglect is another cause of mommy issues. The problem with neglect is that people assume a neglecting parent is just one who doesn\u2019t provide food, shelter, and schooling for their children.<\/p>\n

Anche se questo \u00e8 un trattamento orribile, ci sono altri comportamenti che vengono classificati come trascuratezza. Per esempio, se lei didn\u2019t provide protection<\/a> o sostegno emotivo nella vostra prima infanzia, sicuramente vi ha trascurato.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We\u2019re talking about the most important figure in an innocent person\u2019s life.<\/p>\n

If you didn\u2019t feel like your mother loved you enough, who will? If you didn\u2019t feel like you could go to her if you needed advice or just a hug, don\u2019t you think an experience like that would shape you into the person you are today?<\/p>\n

3. Una madre appiccicosa<\/h3>\n

However, being completely the opposite isn\u2019t right either. Your child should be the center of your world, right? Well, the thing is that your mom took this concept too literally.<\/p>\n

Moms who are overly clingy to their own children aren\u2019t doing them a favor either. We\u2019re talking about a woman who didn\u2019t have a life outside of yours.<\/p>\n

Your birth gave her meaning, and all of her love and attention was directed towards you. This might sound amazing at first, but trust, it\u2019s not a healthy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This woman\u2019s only role was that of your mother. You replaced her partner, her female friends, and her entire family.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And whether you like to admit it or not, this kind of behavior suffocated you, especially in your teen years. She didn\u2019t allow you to be independent and never taught you the importance of setting boundaries.<\/p>\n

4. Madre troppo permissiva<\/h3>\n

How about a doting mother? Well, that\u2019s not good either.<\/p>\n

Yes, your mom should love you, no matter what you do. But that doesn\u2019t mean that she must love everything you do. Do you see the difference?<\/p>\n

Una madre troppo permissiva vi fa credere di essere i padroni del mondo. Avete il diritto di trattare le persone come volete e potete fare quello che volete senza conseguenze.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quando eravate bambini, non siete mai stati disciplinati. Non siete mai stati messi in punizione e non avete mai subito le conseguenze del vostro comportamento.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the contrary, you were permitted anything. You had unlimited finances, and your mother never told you \u201cno.\u201d And look how that turned out!<\/p>\n

Yes, she did this out of love. But at the same time, her behavior enabled bad actions, and that\u2019s never okay.<\/p>\n

And what happens when the real world hits you? That\u2019s right, you finally understand that it\u2019s not how things work.<\/p>\n

5. Madre eccessivamente protettiva<\/h3>\n

Finally, we arrived at overly protective moms. I\u2019m sure you know the type.<\/p>\n

Tutti i genitori del mondo sono spaventati a morte dall'idea che possa accadere qualcosa di brutto ai loro figli. A nessuno piace vedere i propri figli cadere e colpirsi, figuriamoci qualcosa di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n

But healthy parents know that they can\u2019t protect their children from every bad thing in this world. So they let them learn by letting them go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

However, your mother was different. She kept you in her arms for as long as she could \u2013 literally and figuratively.<\/p>\n

Questa donna aveva paura di vivere e ha trasferito le sue paure irrazionali su di voi.<\/p>\n

Unlike the child from the previous passage, you were never allowed to do anything. You couldn\u2019t have a boyfriend, weren\u2019t allowed to travel with your friends, she didn\u2019t let you go out…<\/p>\n

L'elenco \u00e8 infinito, ma il punto fondamentale \u00e8 che questo tipo di comportamento ha lasciato cicatrici anche su di voi. E naturalmente ha sviluppato un rapporto malsano con tua madre.<\/p>\n

6. Ruoli sbagliati<\/h3>\n

Your mom shouldn\u2019t be your best friend. And you shouldn\u2019t play the role of her mother either.<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 ve lo dico? Molte mamme tossiche invertono i ruoli con i loro figli e i bambini finiscono per prendersi cura di loro.<\/p>\n

O forse vostra madre voleva fare la figa, cos\u00ec si \u00e8 sempre comportata come la vostra migliore amica, invece di essere severa quando era il caso. Questa donna ovviamente non aveva amicizie femminili, quindi ha pianificato di trasformarti in una di loro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Anche se queste relazioni madre-figlia possono essere molto divertenti, in fin dei conti significa che non avete mai avuto una madre che svolgesse il suo ruolo durante la vostra crescita (nonostante la mamma fosse fisicamente presente nella vostra vita).<\/p>\n

So cosa state pensando in questo momento: ogni tipo di mamma e ogni stile genitoriale pu\u00f2 causare problemi alla mamma. Sembra che niente sia abbastanza buono. Quindi, come dovrebbe comportarsi una madre per evitare di causare una ferita materna nei propri figli?<\/p>\n

Well, the emphasis here is on the word \u201coverly.\u201d There is no balance in being overprotective, overpermissive, or overclingy.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: 11 segni di ragazzi con problemi con la mamma (+ 7 modi per affrontarli)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Quali sono i segni dei problemi della mamma nelle donne?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Un rapporto complicato con la madre si traduce in altri rapporti complicati nella vita adulta, ed \u00e8 proprio cos\u00ec:<\/p>\n

1. Comportamento appiccicoso<\/h3>\n

You tend to be overly needy in all of your personal relationships, especially romantic relationships. It\u2019s more than clear that you crave the attention, love, and validation you didn\u2019t get from your mother when it should have been given to you.<\/p>\n

You live in constant fear that your partner will leave you when you least expect it. You\u2019re unaware of it, but you have some serious problemi di abbandono<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O forse pensate che essere appiccicosi<\/a> is the only way to show love? After all, that\u2019s what your mother taught you.<\/p>\n

If your boyfriend doesn\u2019t give you his undivided attention 24\/7, you assume that he\u2019s stopped loving you.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you know nothing about healthy boundaries. You\u2019re jealous and possessive, and the worst part is that you don\u2019t even see it.<\/p>\n

2. Stile di attaccamento malsano<\/h3>\n

Secondo la teoria dell'attaccamento, il vostro stile di attacco<\/a> dipende dal rapporto che avete avuto con il vostro caregiver principale. In poche parole, avete problemi di attaccamento a causa del rapporto teso con vostra madre.<\/p>\n

Ad esempio, se si dispone di un stile di attaccamento evitante<\/a>, it\u2019s because your mother neglected you as a child. The same goes for insecure attachment \u2013 you didn\u2019t get enough attention from your own mother and father.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, se si ha uno stile di attaccamento sicuro, significa che si \u00e8 avuta una relazione affettuosa e premurosa con il proprio caregiver primario.<\/p>\n

Cosa c'entra questo con le altre relazioni personali? Beh, trasferite questo stile di attacco<\/a> alle relazioni sentimentali, ai rapporti con gli amici e a tutto il resto della vita adulta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

3. Comportamento materno nelle relazioni<\/h3>\n

Motherly behavior in other relationships is quite common for mommy issues in women. You didn\u2019t have a healthy mother figure in your life, and you think that you\u2019ll compensate for this by becoming a mother figure to your romantic partner or friends.<\/p>\n

This is especially true if you are an older sibling. You were responsible for the caretaking of your entire family. You had to worry about your little brothers and sisters\u2019 well-being, and you transferred these behavior patterns to your adult relationships.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, ti manca avere una figura materna. Per questo motivo, ritenete che anche a tutti gli altri manchi. Per voi questa \u00e8 la massima espressione dell'amore: crescere il vostro partner romantico o il vostro migliore amico.<\/strong><\/p>\n

4. Bassa autostima<\/h3>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

You weren\u2019t given enough validation in your early childhood. You were never told that you were beautiful or smart.<\/p>\n

Ma soprattutto, vostra madre non \u00e8 riuscita a dimostrarvi che eravate abbastanza bravi. La dura verit\u00e0<\/strong> is that she didn\u2019t love you how you wanted to be loved.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So now you think that you\u2019re unworthy of anyone\u2019s love. If the person who gave birth to you didn\u2019t see you as valuable enough and if she couldn\u2019t get herself to love and respect you, what can you expect from the rest of the world?<\/p>\n

Tutto questo ha causato alcune grandi insicurezze e bassa autostima<\/a> you don\u2019t know how to deal with properly. You have a distorted sense of self, and at the end of the day, you don\u2019t know how to love yourself.<\/p>\n

5. Idealizzare altre relazioni<\/h3>\n

I hate to break it to you, but you\u2019re a good candidate for bombardamento d'amore<\/a>. You\u2019re so desperate to receive the love you never got that you fall for other people\u2019s lies without any hesitation.<\/p>\n

Quante volte avete pensato che fosse quello giusto? Quante relazioni sentimentali avete immaginato che finissero con il matrimonio?<\/p>\n

Non c'\u00e8 niente di male nel fantasticare. Ma il vostro problema \u00e8 che idealizzate le vostre relazioni personali.<\/p>\n

Every time a new person enters your life, you assume that you\u2019ve finally found someone who will heal your inner child and fill your void.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Those expectations put rose-tinted glasses over your eyes. You fail to see someone\u2019s flaws, and you are blind to the red flags.<\/p>\n

Cos\u00ec, naturalmente, si finisce per essere ancora pi\u00f9 delusi ogni volta!<\/p>\n

6. Dipendenza emotiva<\/h3>\n

You don\u2019t know what healthy boundaries mean. You\u2019re unfamiliar with the term independence.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, you\u2019re emotivamente dipendente<\/a> su tutti quelli che amate. E questo crea relazioni malsane.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t breathe without your partner. You think that your life would be pointless without them, and consequently, you develop relationship anxiety.<\/p>\n

This can be the result of many factors, but they\u2019re all related to your mamma tossica<\/a>. Se era troppo appiccicosa, mostrava segni di dipendenza emotiva, e vi veniva insegnato che questo era amore.<\/strong><\/p>\n

D'altra parte, se ti ha trascurato, hai passato tutta l'infanzia a desiderare il suo amore. E anche questo potrebbe causare questo tipo di dipendenza.<\/p>\n

Whatever the reason is, the bottom line is the same: you can never allow your happiness to depend on someone else. And that\u2019s exactly what you\u2019ve been doing all along.<\/p>\n

7. Critiche eccessive<\/h3>\n

Mommy issues in women are connected with nagging, grumbling, and fault-finding. If you\u2019re one of those moms or wives who keep on criticizing her entire family, this is why you act that way.<\/p>\n

Per tutto il tempo che riuscite a ricordare, nulla di ci\u00f2 che avete fatto \u00e8 stato abbastanza buono. Siete stati sgridati e maltrattati in vari modi e avete adottato questi modelli di comportamento come normali.<\/p>\n

Anche se nel profondo sapete che si tratta di un comportamento tossico, allo stesso tempo continuate a comportarvi nello stesso modo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Why? Well, it\u2019s actually pretty simple: you don\u2019t know better.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a little secret: people don\u2019t like this about you. They don\u2019t care if you\u2019re doing it for their own good \u2013 they feel like they\u2019re under constant attack, and nobody feels comfortable that way.<\/p>\n

8. Indisponibilit\u00e0 emotiva<\/h3>\n

We\u2019ve already discussed overly clingy and emotionally dependent females with mother wounds.<\/p>\n

Ma che dire indisponibilit\u00e0 emotiva<\/a>? Pu\u00f2 essere uno dei segni di problemi di maternit\u00e0 nelle donne? Sicuramente s\u00ec.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re simply scared. La relazione pi\u00f9 importante che avete avuto da bambini si \u00e8 rivelata fallimentare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quindi, cosa ci si pu\u00f2 aspettare dai migliori amici, dai partner romantici e dagli altri membri della famiglia?<\/strong><\/p>\n

With time, you\u2019ve developed a defense mechanism. You\u2019ve decided that the only way to keep yourself safe is to keep everyone else out.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t let people see the true you. You\u2019ve built thick and high walls around your heart to protect it.<\/p>\n

And you think that you\u2019re doing just fine like that. Well, you\u2019re not. You\u2019re actually missing out on a lot.<\/p>\n

9. Problemi di fiducia<\/h3>\n

Problemi di fiducia<\/a> are also very common with females who suffer from mommy issues. It\u2019s actually the same as with love.<\/p>\n

La persona di cui avreste dovuto fidarvi di pi\u00f9 (e la cosa peggiore \u00e8 che l'avete fatto davvero) vi ha tradito. Vi ha pugnalato alle spalle e vi ha trattato come se foste il suo peggior nemico.<\/p>\n

So how could you ever get yourself to trust anyone again? If the woman who brought you into this world deceived you, why wouldn\u2019t some random guy you met a few months ago?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Beh, lasciate che vi dica un piccolo segreto: non tutti sono come vostra madre.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 this doesn\u2019t mean that you should live life recklessly. It doesn\u2019t mean that you should trust everyone who comes your way.<\/p>\n

Ma per favore, date a qualcuno il beneficio del dubbio.<\/strong> Potrebbero sorprendervi!<\/p>\n

Come si possono trattare i problemi di maternit\u00e0 nelle donne?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Si pu\u00f2 guarire dai problemi delle mamme? \u00c8 possibile rompere il ciclo ed essere una mamma diversa per i propri figli? S\u00ec, e anche s\u00ec. E questo \u00e8 esattamente il modo per farlo!<\/p>\n

1. Identificazione del problema<\/h3>\n

Acquisire consapevolezza di s\u00e9 \u00e8 il primo passo per risolvere qualsiasi problema, compreso questo. Quindi, per quanto vi faccia male, dovete tornare alla vostra infanzia e riviverla nella vostra testa.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, you have to accept that you have had a troubled relationship with your mother forever. This doesn\u2019t mean that you love her any less or that you accuse her of anything right away \u2013 you\u2019re just acknowledging that fact.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Which of your mother\u2019s behaviors hurt you the most? How did she impact your life right now? Why was your relationship unhealthy? What could have made it better?<\/p>\n

Dig deep inside of you to find the answers because you can\u2019t move on with your healing journey until you do.<\/p>\n

2. La forza di perdonare<\/h3>\n

Il perdono \u00e8 fondamentale per ogni progresso! Questo significa che dovreste perdonare vostra madre anche se fosse stata il vostro abusatore?<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re the only one who can answer that question. However, letting go of resentment and hatred will take a huge burden off your chest \u2013 I can promise you that.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: it would be great to forgive your mother, especially if she didn\u2019t mean to hurt you (disclaimer: I\u2019m not talking about abusive mothers here). Questa non \u00e8 una scusa per il suo comportamento tossico, ma credetemi, ha fatto del suo meglio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

She loved you the way she considered best. It is likely that she was a victim of toxic parents herself. But unlike you, she wasn\u2019t strong enough to break the cycle.<\/p>\n

Soprattutto, per favore perdonare se stessi<\/a>. Remember: you\u2019re the victim here, and a little child can never be blamed for his or her parents\u2019 actions.<\/p>\n

3. Guarire il bambino interiore<\/h3>\n

Finally, it\u2019s time to heal your inner child. Date a voi stessi ci\u00f2 che desideravate di pi\u00f9 quando eravate solo un bambino.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t care if we\u2019re talking about that toy you never got or more important things such as emotional support or validation. Sometimes, you have to engage in self-parenting practices, and that\u2019s perfectly fine as well.<\/p>\n

The point is to do whatever makes you happy. Engage in self-care and learn how to love yourself \u2013 that\u2019s the key to everything.<\/p>\n

Per concludere:<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll be honest with you: mommy issues in women are as common as the Oedipus complex. And both conditions should not be taken lightly.<\/p>\n

However, as long as you\u2019re here, it means you\u2019re perfectly aware that you have a problem. By just accepting that, you\u2019re one step closer to healing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Good luck, you\u2019ve got this!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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