{"id":15271,"date":"2020-04-26T11:41:47","date_gmt":"2020-04-26T11:41:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=15271"},"modified":"2022-01-13T01:02:18","modified_gmt":"2022-01-13T01:02:18","slug":"5-giochi-mentali-che-gli-uomini-tossici-fanno-nelle-relazioni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-giochi-mentali-che-gli-uomini-tossici-fanno-nelle-relazioni\/","title":{"rendered":"5 giochi mentali che gli uomini tossici fanno nelle relazioni di coppia"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Forse non ne siete nemmeno consapevoli. Potreste pensare che sia tutta colpa vostra.<\/p>\n<p>Quando, in realt\u00e0, sta facendo giochi pericolosi con la vostra mente. \u00c8 lui che ha le dita impigliate nella vostra insicurezza.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 lui il responsabile dei vostri sentimenti.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Think about it: you weren\u2019t this person before. You used to smile. You used to enjoy things in life. But, now all that is gone, and he is the one who took it away.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ha giocato con la vostra mente per ottenere il controllo su di voi e trasformarvi nel suo burattino obbediente.<\/p>\n<p>Voleva comandare la vostra relazione escludendovi da ogni decisione e togliendovi il diritto di dire qualcosa o di avere qualsiasi tipo di input in generale.<\/p>\n<p>Dovete porre fine a tutto questo! Fermare questa follia che sta accadendo intorno a voi.<\/p>\n<p>Life is too short to spend it with a manipulative asshole who doesn\u2019t give a damn about your feelings.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87527\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/exhausted-woman-sitting-on-street-outside.jpg\" alt=\"donna esausta seduta in strada all&#039;aperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/exhausted-woman-sitting-on-street-outside.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/exhausted-woman-sitting-on-street-outside-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/exhausted-woman-sitting-on-street-outside-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Probabilmente \u00e8 <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-incredibili-consigli-per-uscire-con-un-uomo-emotivamente-danneggiato\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">emotivamente danneggiato<\/a> e insicuro, quindi cerca il controllo nella vostra relazione.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why he is being a manipulative jerk because deep down, he is insecure.<\/p>\n<p>Ma questa non \u00e8 una scusa per questo comportamento. Il fatto che lui sia insicuro non pu\u00f2 giustificare il suo comportamento e il fatto che ti abbia trasformato in una donna insicura e frustrata, a cui viene fatto il lavaggio del cervello ogni giorno.<\/p>\n<p>That doesn\u2019t justify how he <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elitedaily.com\/dating\/get-over-someone-hurt-self-esteem\/1784144\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ha distrutto la vostra autostima<\/a> and your self-respect. He did all that just so he could feel better. I\u2019m sorry, but that is not love\u2014that is psychopathic behavior.<\/p>\n<p>If you suspect that your mind has been tampered with, read these mind games to see if your guy is doing this to you and if he is, just run for the hills and don\u2019t look back.<\/p>\n<h2>1. Il gioco delle colpe<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87528\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/mad-man-pointing-finger-at-woman-1.jpg\" alt=\"uomo pazzo che punta il dito contro una donna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/mad-man-pointing-finger-at-woman-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/mad-man-pointing-finger-at-woman-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/mad-man-pointing-finger-at-woman-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Vi incolpa per tutto ci\u00f2 che va storto. Il biasimo \u00e8 un comportamento tossico che gli d\u00e0 una spinta all'ego, perch\u00e9 distoglie l'attenzione da se stesso, cos\u00ec lui si sente meglio e voi vi sentite uno schifo.<\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t want to own up to his mistakes, so he is forcing you to take the blame instead of him.<\/p>\n<p>E la cosa pi\u00f9 triste \u00e8 che la cosa ti prende. Dopo un po' di tempo, si smette di lottare perch\u00e9 non si pu\u00f2 fare nulla. In qualche modo, la colpa \u00e8 sempre vostra.<\/p>\n<p>So, you stop fighting and after some time you start believing in it. He planted that seed in your head and he has nourished it until it has grown and forced you to believe it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Il gioco del gaslighting<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87529\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/thoughtful-woman-hugging-pillow-on-bed.jpg\" alt=\"donna pensierosa che abbraccia il cuscino sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/thoughtful-woman-hugging-pillow-on-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/thoughtful-woman-hugging-pillow-on-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/thoughtful-woman-hugging-pillow-on-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Gaslighting is a psychological term defined as: \u201cA form of emotional abuse where the abuser manipulates situations repeatedly to trick the victim into distrusting his or her own memory and perceptions\u2026<\/p>\n<p>[The term is derived] from the British play-turned-movie, \u2018Gas Light\u2019 in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy using a variety of tricks causing her to question her own perceptions and sanity.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You see, it\u2019s not your fault. It never was. He was making you believe in things which are not real in order to fuck up your self-confidence and respect.<\/p>\n<p>Il suo piano era di far vacillare la tua fiducia in te stessa, in modo che tu potessi riporla completamente in lui. Poi, avrebbe potuto fare di te quello che voleva.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Il gioco del senso di colpa<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87531\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/upset-man-raise-hand-on-her-girlfriend-while-sitting-on-bed.png\" alt=\"uomo sconvolto alza la mano sulla sua ragazza mentre \u00e8 seduto sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/upset-man-raise-hand-on-her-girlfriend-while-sitting-on-bed.png 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/upset-man-raise-hand-on-her-girlfriend-while-sitting-on-bed-300x190.png 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/upset-man-raise-hand-on-her-girlfriend-while-sitting-on-bed-768x487.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In qualche modo far\u00e0 in modo che tutto sia incentrato su di lui. Quando ha bisogno di qualcosa da voi, qualcosa che non \u00e8 cos\u00ec ragionevole, vi far\u00e0 sentire in colpa per dargliela.<\/p>\n<p>Vi ricatter\u00e0 con le sue emozioni, solo per farvi piegare e dargli quello che vuole.<\/p>\n<p>Purtroppo, provi ancora dei sentimenti per lui e a un certo punto ti dispiace per lui, cos\u00ec ti arrendi.<\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t have a problem with lowering himself to the lowest possible position only to get what he wants.<\/p>\n<p>He\u2019s got no morals whatsoever. That\u2019s why he can do this. That\u2019s why he has the power to destroy you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Vedi anche:<\/strong>&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/lettera-aperta-uomo-distrutto\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Una lettera aperta all'uomo che mi ha distrutto<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>4. The \u2018Bait and Switch Game\u2019<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87532\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Angry-couple-arguing-furiously-in-a-bar-1.jpg\" alt=\"Coppia arrabbiata che litiga furiosamente in un bar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Angry-couple-arguing-furiously-in-a-bar-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Angry-couple-arguing-furiously-in-a-bar-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Angry-couple-arguing-furiously-in-a-bar-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando si litiga e si urla l'uno contro l'altro, lui sa come ribaltare le cose all'improvviso.<\/p>\n<p>So, let\u2019s say you\u2019ve been talking about something particular, you\u2019ve been arguing about it, and after ten minutes of yelling, you find yourself defending while he puts all the blame on you.<\/p>\n<p>And not just that, you are no longer fighting about the same thing. Now, you\u2019re fighting about something that you screwed up a year ago and he never let it go.<\/p>\n<p>Inoltre, ha conservato il tuo errore proprio per un momento come questo: un momento in cui lui sbaglia qualcosa, in modo da poter ribaltare le cose sbattendoti in faccia il tuo antico errore.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Il gioco delle montagne russe<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87534\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/sad-couple-sitting-on-sofa-at-home.jpg\" alt=\"coppia triste seduta sul divano di casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/sad-couple-sitting-on-sofa-at-home.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/sad-couple-sitting-on-sofa-at-home-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/sad-couple-sitting-on-sofa-at-home-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Questa \u00e8 una mossa classica di ogni uomo tossico in una relazione. Cambiano tutti il loro comportamento nel giro di pochi minuti, senza alcun preavviso, senza alcun motivo.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s what he does to you. One day he is the best boyfriend you ever had and the next day he is a serious jackass.<\/p>\n<p>Questo ci fa pensare: La fonte del problema siete voi? Avete fatto qualcosa che lo ha fatto arrabbiare?<\/p>\n<p>La risposta \u00e8 molto semplice. Non avete fatto nulla di male. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/le-10-cose-piu-comuni-che-dice-se-ti-sta-manipolando\/\">Sta solo cercando di manipolarvi<\/a> per la prossima cosa che vuole da voi. Ignoratelo e lasciatelo il prima possibile.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-87524\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/5-Mind-Games-Toxic-Men-Play-In-Relationships-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"5 giochi mentali che gli uomini tossici fanno nelle relazioni di coppia\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/5-Mind-Games-Toxic-Men-Play-In-Relationships-Pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/5-Mind-Games-Toxic-Men-Play-In-Relationships-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/5-Mind-Games-Toxic-Men-Play-In-Relationships-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You might not even be aware of this. You might think that it is all your fault. When, actually, he is playing dangerous games with your mind. He is the one who has his fingers entangled in your insecurity. He is responsible for you feeling the way you do. Think about it: you weren\u2019t this&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":87536,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15271","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/5-Mind-Games-Toxic-Men-Play-In-Relationships-1.jpg",800,545,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. 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