{"id":15298,"date":"2019-02-26T14:10:26","date_gmt":"2019-02-26T14:10:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=15298"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:48:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:48:10","slug":"il-dolore-non-definisce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-dolore-non-definisce\/","title":{"rendered":"Il dolore non definisce la persona che siete"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando si prova un vero dolore emotivo, si va in pezzi, per quanto si possa sembrare forti prima di allora. Ci si sente come se il peso del mondo intero fosse caduto sulle proprie spalle.<\/p>\n

Siete persi, devastati, arrabbiati e amareggiati. Ma soprattutto, si prova un'enorme tristezza<\/a> che vi opprime al punto da avere difficolt\u00e0 a respirare correttamente.<\/p>\n

Questo dolore vi impedisce di funzionare e ha completamente ucciso la persona che eravate prima.<\/p>\n

You feel like you\u2019ve lost your spark. You\u2019ve become negative and pessimistic and all you can think about are the things you don\u2019t have, instead of focusing on those you do.<\/p>\n

Il dolore che state vivendo ha cambiato l'essenza della vostra personalit\u00e0, ha appesantito il vostro cuore, facendovi vagare nelle vostre giornate senza alcuno scopo e facendovi sentire come se nulla al mondo avesse pi\u00f9 uno scopo.<\/p>\n

It has bound you to the point that you\u2019ve started thinking about it as the only emotion you could ever feel. You feel tied and caged by it, you feel like you are its prisoner, like this pain completely owns you.<\/p>\n

You feel like you\u2019ve lost your identity and individuality and the only thing you see about yourself is this all-consuming emotion that overwhelms you.<\/p>\n

E vi sentite come se non ci fosse una via d'uscita, come se non ci fosse niente e nessuno che possa salvarvi da questo abisso in cui vi trovate.<\/p>\n

What you don\u2019t know is that you are the only one who can save yourself if you stop allowing this pain to define you.<\/p>\n

Spesso le persone vi diranno non permettere al tuo passato di definirti<\/a>. What does that actually mean? It doesn\u2019t mean that you should pretend like some things that were devastating for you in the past didn\u2019t happen; they did and there is no point in running away from them.<\/p>\n

Vi hanno cambiato e, che vi piaccia o no, fanno parte di ci\u00f2 che siete ora. Il dolore che provate \u00e8 parte di ci\u00f2 che siete e non c'\u00e8 nulla di sbagliato in questo.<\/p>\n

\"IlBut the worst thing for you to do is to start perceiving it as more than just a part of your personality. And this is exactly what you\u2019re doing. You are holding on to it like you have nothing else to offer.<\/p>\n

But remember that the pain you are feeling and the negative things you\u2019ve experienced only form a part of you\u2014they don\u2019t define you as a person and they never will.<\/p>\n

If you hold on only to negative things you\u2019ve experienced and if you are focusing on the pain as the only quality you have, you are allowing this per definirvi<\/a>senza nemmeno esserne consapevoli.<\/p>\n

Your past happened and your pain is still present but it shouldn\u2019t be the only thing someone sees in you. And most importantly, it shouldn\u2019t be the only thing you see in yourself.<\/p>\n

No, you can\u2019t erase this pain, as much as you would like to, but it can serve you as a life lesson, instead of being a roadblock.<\/p>\n

All the pain you are feeling is just a test of your strength and it\u2019s about time you start perceiving it that way. It is a part of your life journey and it is up to you whether you\u2019ll choose to hold on to it or you\u2019ll use it as fuel to drive forward.<\/p>\n

Questo pu\u00f2 essere uno shock per voi, ma il dolore pu\u00f2 anche servire da motivazione. Pu\u00f2 spingervi ad apportare alcuni cambiamenti necessari nella vostra vita o ad allontanare le persone tossiche da essa.<\/p>\n

But most importantly, it can teach you to put yourself first. It can help you see that you don\u2019t actually need anyone in your life and that you could fight all of life\u2019s difficulties on your own.<\/p>\n

E vi aiuter\u00e0 sicuramente a vedere quali sono le persone che meritano un posto nella vostra vita e quali sono quelle su cui non dovreste mai provare a fare affidamento. Vi aiuter\u00e0 ad amare voi stessi, anche quando siete a pezzi.<\/p>\n

Non c'\u00e8 nulla di vergognoso nel provare dolore, perch\u00e9 \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che ci rende umani. Quello che dovete sapere \u00e8 che questa sensazione sparir\u00e0 quando meno ve lo aspettate. Potreste pensare che vi perseguiter\u00e0 per sempre, ma credetemi, \u00e8 solo temporaneo.<\/p>\n

There are great things waiting for you\u2014you just need to be patient. And there will come a day when you\u2019ll realize that everything you were going through right now was worth it. Just be patient. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When you experience real emotional pain, it breaks you into pieces, no matter how strong you seemed before that. You feel like the weight of the entire world has fallen on your shoulders. You are lost, devastated, angry and bitter. But most of all, you feel this enormous sadness that overwhelms you to the point…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":15300,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15298","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/02\/thought-catalog-570124-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","parent":38,"count":146,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29617,"category_count":146,"category_description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","cat_name":"heartbreak","category_nicename":"heartbreak","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15298","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15298"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15298\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15300"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15298"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15298"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15298"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}