{"id":154154,"date":"2022-06-24T07:20:18","date_gmt":"2022-06-24T07:20:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=154154"},"modified":"2022-06-29T15:15:16","modified_gmt":"2022-06-29T15:15:16","slug":"bagliore-post-rottura","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/bagliore-post-rottura\/","title":{"rendered":"Il bagliore post-rottura: 5 passi per una persona pi\u00f9 felice"},"content":{"rendered":"

Per molte persone le rotture sono dolorose e impegnative, piuttosto che un motivo di gioia. \u00c8 difficile sfuggire alla morsa del cuore spezzato, anche quando si sa che \u00e8 stato per il meglio.<\/strong> When you’re going through the grieving process \u2013 and that’s what dealing with a breakup often is \u2013 rebuilding yourself is the last thing on your mind.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, some people are so relieved to be leaving a toxic relationship that they can’t wait to know what lies ahead, eager to embrace their new reality.<\/strong> For them, a breakup can be motivation to move forward and find out what life has to offer that wasn’t available until now.<\/p>\n

If you’re the second kind, the process of rebuilding yourself and moving on might come a little easier, but even if your breakup has left you hurt and nursing a broken heart, you’ll see how it’s possible to overcome the pain and find parts of yourself that you forgot about.<\/strong><\/p>\n

A post breakup glow up isn’t an easy task, but by taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically, it’s possible to not only heal but flourish.<\/p>\n

Riflessi post-rottura in 5 passi<\/h2>\n

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There’s a prerequisite to achieving a post breakup glow up: accettare che la rottura \u00e8 definitiva<\/a> e allontanare il tuo ex dalla tua vita<\/strong>. Protect your wounded heart and focus on yourself. This is a chance for personal growth and transformation. Remember that you’re better off without this person: adopt a new mindset that’s all about you.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s call this step zero.<\/p>\n

Passo 0. Eliminare l'ex dalla propria vita<\/h3>\n

Your personal development can’t begin if you’re hung up on your ex \u2013 the longer you pay them any attention, the more you’re hurting yourself and delaying the healing process. Don’t let your ex hold you back.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is going to be hard, but a complete purge is necessary to detox and start the healing process. If you’re constantly reminded of them or seeing what’s going on with them, you’ll keep getting hurt over and over again.<\/p>\n

Allontanate completamente il vostro ex dalla vostra vita.<\/strong> Throw away any gifts they gave you, their stuff lying around, and anything that reminds you of them. Don’t meet up with your ex, and if anyone tries to talk to you about them, politely tell them you’re not interested.<\/p>\n

Bloccare e cancellare il loro numero di telefono<\/a>Non seguiteli e bloccateli su tutti i social media e fate lo stesso con chiunque sia collegato a loro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t make yourself look at what they’re up to without you \u2013 you’ll only feel horrible, and the memories of how they hurt you in the first place will keep resurfacing. The time you’d use to stalk their social media is better used for self-reflection and thinking about your future goals.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Passo 1. Permettete a voi stessi di sentire il vostro dolore<\/h3>\n

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Questa \u00e8 la parte pi\u00f9 difficile, ma purtroppo non ci sono scorciatoie. Dovete attraversare l'intero processo e sentire tutte le vostre emozioni complicate e angoscianti per poterle affrontare.<\/strong> Dare a se stessi il tempo e il permesso di provare dolore e di elaborare il lutto \u00e8 una parte cruciale del viaggio verso la guarigione dopo la rottura.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Feel your feelings<\/h4>\n

Le cose che provate saranno turbolente e impegnative: ferite, tradimenti, solitudine, delusione, vergogna, rabbia. Dovete permettere a voi stessi di sentirli tutti se volete liberarvene.<\/strong>. After you\u2019ve recovered, you\u2019ll realize how empowering it is to deal with your negative emotions in a productive way and transform your pain into something beneficial.<\/p>\n

There will be days when it’s going to seem like it’s getting a little easier, only for the anguish to come crashing down the next.<\/strong> Potreste sentirvi senza speranza e desiderare disperatamente di anestetizzare i sentimenti opprimenti e di smettere di soffrire in qualsiasi modo, ma se resistete solo un po' di pi\u00f9, il dolore sparir\u00e0.<\/a><\/p>\n

\u2022 Don’t take shortcuts<\/h4>\n

You’ll be tempted to engage in self-destructive behavior to cope on those days that seem darker and sweep those feelings under the rug, but you must resist if you don’t want to let the break up leave permanent emotional damage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t contact your ex<\/a> in qualsiasi circostanza. Don’t act like you don’t care and that you’re over your ex before you really feel it.<\/strong> If you want to get over your breakup, you have to actually go through its stages. You\u2019ve experienced the end of a relationship with someone, and your connection with this person can’t immediately disappear.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Don’t give up<\/h4>\n

Lasciatevi andare a tutta la vostra tristezza. Soffrite la vostra perdita. Sentite il vuoto e permettete a voi stessi di sentire la mancanza di qualcuno che non avete pi\u00f9 nella vostra vita. Piangere fino a non avere pi\u00f9 lacrime<\/strong>. Ascoltate tutte le canzoni tristi. Datevi tempo e sperimentate i vostri sentimenti.<\/p>\n

Little by little, you’ll feel the growth and change. One day, you’ll notice that the clouds are clearing up and that once again, you feel hope. <\/strong>Now is the time that you can see the path to self improvement and happiness. You’ve reached the stage where a positive change after hardship \u2013 also known as crescita traumatica<\/a> \u2013 is possible.<\/p>\n

Quando questo accade, congratulatevi con voi stessi perch\u00e9 il primo e pi\u00f9 difficile passo del vostro glow up \u00e8 stato completato.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fase 2. Avviare il processo di guarigione<\/h3>\n

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Now that your feelings are easier to handle, you can begin healing. Your heart has been injured, and the worst is over, but it’s still bruised and needs to be treated gently and with care.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Give yourself time to heal<\/h4>\n

Potrebbero esserci ancora dei giorni difficili. Siate compassionevoli con voi stessi, permettetevi di sentire e di prendere il vostro tempo.<\/strong> Right now, you don’t need to dig deep and look for answers \u2013 while your wound is still fresh, you need all the self-love you can muster.<\/p>\n

Cose come la meditazione, affermazioni di amore per se stessi<\/a>e la mindfulness possono essere molto utili.<\/strong> Mantenendo i piedi per terra e circondandosi di positivit\u00e0, si apre la strada per ritrovare completamente la gioia.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Get support<\/h4>\n

You don’t have to go through it alone. When you’re feeling hurt and heartbroken, rely on your loved ones to help you through it<\/strong>. Spend time with your family and best friends, and don’t be afraid to open up.<\/p>\n

Parlare della vostra rottura e dei vostri sentimenti con persone che vi sostengono vi far\u00e0 sentire meno soli e senza speranza.<\/strong>. Stare vicino alle persone che vi amano vi ricorder\u00e0 che ci sono altre cose importanti nella vostra vita oltre alla vostra rottura. Lasciate che vi aiutino.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Forgive yourself<\/h4>\n

Incolpare se stessi per il proprio comportamento nella relazione, per le cose che sono andate male o per la rottura \u00e8 inutile. You didn’t ruin your relationship, and you don’t deserve to punish yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s not uncommon to do things in a relationship that go against everything you are because you desperately want to hold on to your partner. You might feel like you betrayed yourself, but that’s not true \u2013 you did the only thing you could at that moment.<\/p>\n

Qualunque cosa sia successa, dovete perdonare se stessi<\/a> per poter andare avanti.<\/strong> This is non-negotiable, and it might take some time. As long as you remember that you did the best you could and you deserve love and happiness, you’re on the right path.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Forgive your ex<\/h4>\n

When you’re at your lowest, your feelings for your ex might fluctuate between longing and hatred. Neither of these is helpful, and dovete imparare a lasciarvi andare per il vostro bene.<\/strong><\/p>\n

At first, it’s normal to want your ex to feel the same pain that you’re feeling, but those feelings will only hurt you further. Odiare il vostro ex per il dolore che vi ha fatto passare \u00e8 comprensibile, ma questo va di pari passo con l'odiare anche voi stessi per avergli permesso di trattarvi in quel modo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Feeling like this is what makes you want to seek revenge, which won’t make you feel better but only prolong the whole experience. Per liberarvi della rabbia e del risentimento, dovete perdonare il vostro ex.<\/strong> Rendetevi conto che il loro comportamento non ha nulla a che fare con voi e liberatevi dal passato.<\/p>\n

Fase 3. Concentrarsi sulla propria salute mentale<\/h3>\n

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When you feel like you’re over your breakup enough to be able to make sense of what happened, it’s time to start working on self-growth. It’s vital to first deal with the mental health issues that are holding you back and can cause you problems in future relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Regain your rispetto di s\u00e9<\/a><\/h4>\n

Il primo passo per rimettere in sesto la vostra vita \u00e8 lavorare sulla vostra autostima. Se avete avuto una relazione con una persona tossica o semplicemente avete trovato la rottura scoraggiante, la vostra visione di voi stessi potrebbe essere deformata e danneggiata.<\/p>\n

It’s easy to lose yourself in a relationship, to leave behind the things you love and people who mean a lot to you.<\/strong> Ricordare chi si \u00e8 pu\u00f2 essere un processo lungo, ma dovrebbe iniziare con il rispetto di se stessi. Treat yourself the way you’d treat a friend in the same situation.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lasciate che la vostra rottura sia un catalizzatore per il cambiamento. Dimenticate la persona che vi ha mancato di rispetto e vi ha ferito. Usatelo per spingere voi stessi e ritrovare la vostra autostima<\/strong>. Aprite gli occhi su ci\u00f2 che questa relazione vi ha tolto e riprendetevelo.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Examine your negative thoughts<\/h4>\n

Pensieri negativi<\/a> sono le cose che diciamo a noi stessi e che ci impediscono di vivere pienamente la nostra vita. They’re damaging and limiting, and you’d never say to another person the mean things you tell yourself.<\/strong> La presenza di una relazione malsana pu\u00f2 peggiorare ulteriormente questi pensieri.<\/p>\n

Insulti<\/a> and insults, telling yourself that you’re not enough, that you don’t deserve something, that there’s no way someone would pick you over anyone else \u2013 Queste idee possono impedirvi di vivere la vostra vita.<\/strong> Quando questi pensieri passano quotidianamente nella vostra testa, vi controllano fino a farvi allontanare da tutto ci\u00f2 che pu\u00f2 darvi felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n

You must change how you think: learn to recognize your negative thoughts and stop them as soon as they come. Most importantly, don’t believe them! Scegliete il rispetto per voi stessi piuttosto che il disprezzo per voi stessi.<\/strong> You’re a person, and therefore, you deserve to be happy.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Deal with your own toxic traits<\/h4>\n

This time of self-reflection won’t be used well unless you also examine your own behavior and qualities that contribute to the problems in your relationship. Una volta capito dove si sono commessi gli errori, si pu\u00f2 iniziare a correggerli.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For instance, what is it that attracts you to people like your ex, or what makes you stay when a relationship doesn’t work? Why did you lasciare che il tuo ex ti tratti male<\/a>e perch\u00e9 avete accettato il loro comportamento? Cosa vi fa credere di meritarlo?<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re honest with yourself about these things, you can apply what you\u2019ve learned to your<\/strong> e di evitare di ripetere la stessa situazione.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Discover your boundaries<\/h4>\n

After going through a breakup, you gain a new perspective and are more equipped to decide what you want and what you don’t want in a partner. Think of qualities your ex had that made your relationship difficult, as well as those that you didn’t mind.<\/p>\n

Oltre a sapere che tipo di persona volete che sia il vostro futuro partner, dovete determinare la vostra confini personali<\/a><\/strong> \u2013 how you want to be treated and what you won’t accept. Be very serious about these boundaries and be prepared to enforce them.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Get therapy<\/h4>\n

Therapy isn’t only for when it’s completely impossible to deal with your problems on your own. It’s especially helpful during transitional periods like breakups.<\/p>\n

Talking to someone you don’t know and who listens without prejudice can in itself be transformative<\/strong>E, soprattutto, il terapeuta vi guider\u00e0 e vi aiuter\u00e0 a raggiungere soluzioni apparentemente ovvie che altrimenti sarebbero fuori portata.<\/p>\n

Passo 4. Prendete sul serio la cura di voi stessi<\/h3>\n

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Self-care doesn’t mean doing what’s most pleasant \u2013 it means doing what’s best for you<\/strong>. Sometimes it’s about pampering yourself, and sometimes it’s about making yourself do your chores. Self-care is kindness, but it’s also tough love<\/strong>E dovete essere onesti con voi stessi per sapere qual \u00e8 quello di cui avete bisogno al momento.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Learn to meet your own needs<\/h4>\n

Di che cosa avevate bisogno dal vostro ex (o da chiunque altro) per rimanere con lui? Imparare a soddisfare i propri bisogni pu\u00f2 liberarci dal dipendere emotivamente da qualcuno.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Avete bisogno di rispetto, quindi iniziate a rispettare voi stessi. Avete bisogno di amore, quindi amare se stessi.<\/a> Avete bisogno di sentirvi importanti? Dimostratelo a voi stessi. Per ottenere questi e altri risultati, iniziate con piccole cose. Dimostratevi amore con piccoli gesti e rispettatevi essendo onesti su come vi sentite.<\/strong> Trovate il modo di soddisfare le vostre esigenze nel modo migliore per voi.<\/p>\n

In questo modo sar\u00e0 molto pi\u00f9 facile chiedere agli altri ci\u00f2 che si desidera.<\/strong> When you\u2019re confident that if you don’t get it from someone else, it’s not the end of the world because you know how to do it for yourself.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Date only yourself for a while<\/h4>\n

Until your heart has healed and you’re at peace with the breakup and happy with yourself, it’s important not to get into another relationship<\/strong>. You’ll miss your ex and repeat old patterns, which will hurt both you and the other person.<\/p>\n

Questa \u00e8 un'altra parte dell'apprendimento di come soddisfare le proprie esigenze.<\/strong>. Uscite e fate cose divertenti per conto vostro. Trascorrete del tempo con i vostri amici e con le persone che potreste aver trascurato durante la vostra relazione. Ampliate la vostra cerchia sociale e prendete l'abitudine di frequentare diverse persone.<\/p>\n

Date yourself \u2013 do whatever it is that you want to do.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Prioritize your well-being<\/h4>\n

Siate diligenti nel mantenervi in salute. Sottovalutiamo quanto la nostra salute emotiva e mentale dipenda dalla nostra salute fisica. <\/strong>Mangiare bene, dormire a sufficienza e imparare a gestire lo stress<\/a>, and you’ll be shocked at how much easier it is to deal with everything life throws at you.<\/p>\n

Il vostro benessere fisico ed emotivo deve essere la vostra priorit\u00e0<\/strong>. Don’t compromise them for anyone. Learn to say no and have your own back. This will boost your health, your confidence, and your resilience.<\/p>\n

\u2022 External glow up is optional<\/h4>\n

Does your glow up have to show on the outside? No. You can use your physical appearance to symbolize all the work you’ve done on the inside, but if you don’t want to do it, it doesn’t mean that you didn’t improve.<\/p>\n

Eat healthy and exercise, but forget about ‘revenge body.’<\/strong> If your desire for change is an impetus that gets you to develop a healthy habit, it’s a good thing, but the idea that you have to become more attractive after a breakup is harmful and will only make things more difficult if you don\u2019t achieve it.<\/p>\n

Il vero significato di un'illuminazione post-rottura \u00e8 quello di prendetevi il tempo per guarire<\/a> e prendersi cura di s\u00e9.<\/strong> You’re enough. You’re doing the best you can, and you don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Your ex and your breakup don’t get any credit for whatever you manage to achieve.<\/p>\n

A volte un cambiamento fisico \u00e8 un buon modo per aiutarvi a superare il passato e iniziare un nuovo capitolo.<\/strong> You don’t have to get a makeover, but if it makes you happy, go for it. Get a new hairstyle, step up your skincare routine and focus on wellness, but do it to take care of yourself, not because it’s expected of you.<\/p>\n

Passo 5. Entrare nel proprio futuro<\/h3>\n

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You spent your relationship helping your ex reach their goals, or you went with the flow and lived your life passively. Changing this isn’t about having to be enthusiastic about every day of your life but fare ci\u00f2 che vi rende felici e desiderosi di vedere cosa vi riserva il futuro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Focus on yourself<\/h4>\n

If you were used to going along and adjusting to your partner’s way of life, it might be hard to figure out how to put yourself first. How do you do it?<\/p>\n

Concentrarsi su se stessi significa abbracciare la propria vita e seguire i propri desideri e bisogni.<\/strong>. If you’ve been following the tips to achieve your glow up, you already have a clear idea of what they are.<\/p>\n

Con la scomparsa del vostro ex, nessuno vi impedir\u00e0 di fare le cose che volete.<\/strong> Travel to the spot you’ve been dreaming about, get that tattoo without someone nagging you about it, party with your friends, or stay in the whole day.<\/p>\n

You’re the only one who has a say about how you live your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Learn things and achieve goals<\/h4>\n

Usate il vostro tempo in modo saggio. Quando volete passare il tempo sul vostro telefono, invece di scorrere su TikTok, guardate un tutorial su YouTube. Ascoltate un podcast in lingua straniera o imparate finalmente a disegnare o a confezionare i vostri vestiti.<\/p>\n

The reason why it’s a good idea to learn new things and do them is because raggiungere gli obiettivi<\/a> vi d\u00e0 un senso di realizzazione, che \u00e8 necessario per la felicit\u00e0.<\/strong> Se amate il vostro lavoro, potete realizzarvi l\u00ec o trovare degli hobby per ampliare i vostri interessi.<\/p>\n

By feeling like you’re advancing, you’re moving forward in life rather than staying in one place while time passes.<\/strong> Qualunque sia la vostra scelta, trovate qualcosa che vi faccia sentire cos\u00ec.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Discover your joy<\/h4>\n

Questo \u00e8 il passo pi\u00f9 importante di tutto il processo di risveglio dopo la rottura: trovare ci\u00f2 che vi rende felici.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is almost one of those important existential questions, but finding the answer to it isn’t as complicated as in some other cases. Si scopre quando si provano le cose e si scopre cosa si prova.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You don’t have to have a passion to be happy, but it helps because doing something you’re passionate about is a scorciatoia per la felicit\u00e0<\/a>.<\/strong> Pu\u00f2 essere qualsiasi cosa: un'attivit\u00e0 creativa, uscire con gli amici, aiutare le persone o qualcosa come truccarsi.<\/p>\n

Trovate le cose che vi fanno sorridere e fatene il pi\u00f9 possibile.<\/p>\n

Il bagliore viene dall'interno<\/h2>\n

After a breakup, there comes pain but also freedom. The relationship that was hurting you is finally over, and you’re free to be yourself. After you take your time to feel your sadness and anger, you’ll see that this is the opportunity to live your life the way you want, with no one holding you back.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Il miglior consiglio per le relazioni che potete ricevere a questo punto \u00e8 imparare dalla vostra rottura. Riflettere e scoprire cose su di s\u00e9<\/strong> \u2013 how you want to be treated and how you should move on. This is where your post breakup glow up begins.<\/p>\n

Riprendete la vostra vita facendo ci\u00f2 che volete e imparando a soddisfare le vostre esigenze.<\/strong> Become the best version of yourself. If you focus on your recovery and not on what you’ve lost, for the first time in a while, you’ll feel like nothing is impossible.<\/p>\n

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