{"id":154602,"date":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","date_gmt":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=154602"},"modified":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","modified_gmt":"2022-06-28T12:13:50","slug":"chiamare-per-nome-in-una-relazione","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/chiamare-per-nome-in-una-relazione\/","title":{"rendered":"Gli appellativi in una relazione sono tossici: ecco come fermarsi"},"content":{"rendered":"

Your partner is someone who’s supposed to make you feel safe and protected. When they turn into someone who hurts you, your relationship becomes a burden instead of a comfort. Gli insulti e le altre forme di abuso verbale provocano uno stato di terrore permanente e fanno venire voglia di evitare il partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I nomignoli in una relazione di coppia possono capitare durante una discussione, quando le emozioni sono turbolente.<\/strong> In those moments, it’s easy for one or both partners to lose their temper and lash out by yelling, calling each other degrading names, and exchanging insults.<\/p>\n

L'insulto pu\u00f2 assumere anche la forma di insidious snide remarks, which inevitably result in the deterioration of the victim’s self-esteem over time.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Una relazione sentimentale in cui i litigi si trasformano regolarmente in insulti e grida o in cui uno dei due partner ha la sensazione di dover camminare sulle uova per evitare di far arrabbiare l'altra persona. isn\u2019t a healthy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see what it does to a person, what\u2019s behind it, and how to make it stop.<\/p>\n

Come reagire agli appellativi in una relazione<\/h2>\n

In a healthy relationship, arguments aren’t fights between partners but un metodo per risolvere i problemi<\/strong>. In un relazione verbalmente violenta <\/a> where one or both people don’t know how to handle their feelings or talk through their issues, la comunicazione si interrompe.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Gli appellativi in una relazione fanno s\u00ec che la vittima si chiuda e smetta di rispondere. Invece di cercare soluzioni, la discussione viene trascorsa con il partner violento che urla contro l'altra persona finch\u00e9 non ottiene ci\u00f2 che vuole.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Come gestite una situazione in cui qualcuno vi urla e vi insulta?<\/p>\n

1. Recognize what’s going on<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Il primo passo \u00e8 prendere coscienza della situazione. If your significant other habitually calls you names, you might be used to it and start thinking that it\u2019s fine. It\u2019s not okay, and it\u2019s not acceptable.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s a form of bullying and can open the door to other harmful behaviors in your relationship. Because it\u2018s destructive and leads to constant fights, name calling often eventually leads to the end of a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Name-calling is abusive behavior, and it\u2018s rarely the only thing an abusive partner resorts to. It often overlaps with other forms of verbal abuse, such as:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Criticizing.<\/strong> \u201cAre you sure you want that piece of cake? Didn\u2019t you already eat?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Manipulation.<\/strong> \u201cYou’re overreacting!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

- Illuminazione a gas<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> \u201cWhat are you talking about? I never said that.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Accusations.<\/strong> \u201cYou did it on purpose.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Blame.<\/strong> \u201cYou made me spill my drink.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Silent treatment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Potrebbe essere sorprendente trovare alcuni di questi comportamenti nell'elenco dei comportamenti abusivi.<\/strong> There\u2019s a chance that you\u2019re guilty of a few of these yourself and that you\u2018ve done them without any intention of hurting the other person.<\/p>\n

In una relazione tossica, l'insulto e altri comportamenti abusivi provengono di solito da entrambe le parti. Most people don\u2019t set out to emotionally and verbally abuse a loved one,<\/strong> but the truth is that it can happen to anyone who doesn\u2019t know how to deal with their emotions.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t look for excuses<\/b><\/a> for the person who\u2019s calling you names, but if you\u2019re interested in saving your relationship, approach them with compassion.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Emotional abuse is often overlooked and not considered serious. Once it\u2019s clear to you that name-calling and yelling aren\u2019t normal and shouldn\u2019t be part of your relationship,<\/strong> you\u2019ll be able to see why it has to stop.<\/p>\n

2. Stabilire la comunicazione<\/h3>\n

Anche se il vostro partner vi ama, pu\u00f2 comunque mettere in atto un comportamento abusivo. Per affrontarlo, si dovrebbe iniziare ad aprire un canale di comunicazione tra voi due che funzioni davvero.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Name calling starts when your partner feels negative emotions, such as anger, disappointment, or hurt, and instead of telling you how they\u2019re feeling, they call you names. Una reazione comune \u00e8 quella di chiudersi e ignorare tutto ci\u00f2 che viene detto dopo l'insulto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Il vostro obiettivo \u00e8 ripristinare la comunicazione e, attraverso di essa, recuperare il rispetto e la fiducia reciproci. Il primo passo per raggiungere questo obiettivo \u00e8 mantenere il sangue freddo e impedirsi di reagire quando vi chiamano per nome.<\/strong>. Stay calm and focus on your goal \u2013 don\u2019t react to their abusive behavior, and don\u2019t check out.<\/p>\n

\u2022 First, calmly tell your partner how you\u2019re feeling and how their behavior is affecting you<\/strong>. This template is the most efficient: \u201cQuando<\/em> ~, Mi sento<\/em> ~ because ~.\u201d For example, \u201cWhen you call me names, I feel unloved because I love you.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2022 Ask your partner to rephrase their insult into something constructive using the same template<\/strong>. Questo \u00e8 un modo per andare alla radice del problema e per aiutarli a esprimere i loro sentimenti senza ferirvi.<\/p>\n

For example, if they called you stupid because you couldn\u2019t remember something they told you yesterday, they might rephrase it as \u201cWhen you couldn\u2019t remember what I told you yesterday, I felt neglected because I believed that you didn\u2018t listen to me when I told you about it.\u201c<\/p>\n

\u2022 Don\u2019t get stuck on the actual topic of your argument<\/strong> \u2013 it was just a trigger and not the real cause anyway. Instead of debating whether or not you really did whatever your partner accused you of, focus on how their name-calling affects you and makes you feel and ask them to stop.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Set boundaries<\/strong>. Having clearly defined and established boundaries is necessary for a healthy relationship. Figure out what\u2019s unacceptable, and let your partner be aware of it. Enforce those boundaries se si dimenticano o se succede per caso, ma se ignorano i vostri limiti o li infrangono di proposito, it\u2019s a red flag<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> It means that your partner doesn\u2019t regret their emotionally abusive behavior.<\/p>\n

Dealing with name-calling and other forms of verbal abuse isn\u2019t easy to handle on your own, so you might benefit from seeing a relationship expert.<\/strong> Un consulente dovrebbe essere in grado di guidarvi verso una soluzione che vada bene per entrambi.<\/p>\n

3. Chiedere una consulenza relazionale<\/h3>\n

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When you\u2019re determined to stay together but can\u2019t seem to get a grasp on how to do it, getting professional help can help you save your relationship.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re struggling to establish the best way to communicate, or if your partner resists change, a therapist can help you figure out where it\u2019s coming from and how to deal with it. Using methods and tools that aren\u2019t available to you, they might be able to guide you towards a solution.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s Tutto quello che c'\u00e8 da sapere sulla consulenza di coppia <\/a>.<\/p>\n

Porre fine alla relazione?<\/h3>\n

L'abuso verbale, e in particolare l'insulto, se non viene affrontato, porta spesso alla rottura. Se il vostro partner non \u00e8 disposto ad ammettere l'abuso verbale e a impegnarsi per cambiare, potrebbe anche non essere disponibile a una consulenza.<\/p>\n

A relationship goes two ways, and one person can’t fix it on their own<\/strong>. If the abuse is more than you’re prepared to deal with, and if the thought of being with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself is horrible, leaving the relationship might be the only solution.<\/p>\n

Se volete ancora provare a salvare la vostra relazione, la cosa migliore \u00e8 cercare di raggiungere il vostro partner attraverso una consulenza, quindi insistete.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Abusivi verbali<\/a> whose aim is to damage and hurt their victims can turn to physical abuse when they’re faced with resistance and their partner doesn\u2019t react in the way they imagined. If you feel unsafe or if your partner has shown signs that their behavior might escalate, don\u2019t hesitate to contact the Linea telefonica nazionale per la violenza domestica<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Come smettere di nominare i nomi nelle relazioni di coppia<\/h2>\n

Calling your partner bad names and belittling them won\u2019t resolve your problems. It\u2019ll only damage their psychological and emotional wellness. If you\u2019re the abusive partner<\/a>Ma ci sono delle misure che si possono adottare per smettere di farlo.<\/p>\n

Most people don\u2019t actively want to hurt their partners.<\/strong> Name-calling can start as something that at first seems harmless \u2013 a silly nickname that pokes fun at a small flaw and escalates into problematic behavior once name-calling becomes a habit.<\/p>\n

1. Riconoscere il proprio comportamento<\/h3>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Accept that what you\u2019ve been doing is hurtful and damaging to your partner. Comprendere il proprio comportamento: quali sono le cause e come si ripercuotono sul partner e accettarne la responsabilit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

People often don’t realize that what they\u2019re doing is abusive, and once they do, they feel guilty and regret it. Calling someone names doesn’t seem so bad in the heat of the moment during a fight, but afterward, you might be ashamed of your behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re in the middle of an argument and can tell that you\u2019re about to start saying mean things to your partner, take a moment to calm down. Impeditevi consapevolmente di chiamare il vostro partner con dei nomi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Chiedere scusa<\/h3>\n

Chiedere immediatamente scusa quando si insulta il partner. You can\u2019t take back what you said, but you can show your partner that you regret it<\/strong>. Be sincere and remorseful in your apology. Explain to your partner that you\u2019re working on stopping your behavior once and for all.<\/p>\n

An effective apology is one where you accept blame, express genuine regret, and make a firm promise that you\u2019ll try to change.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t skimp on the apology by making it just a formality. L'incapacit\u00e0 di accettare che il problema sia il proprio comportamento \u00e8 non vale la pena di perdere un <\/b>relazione a lungo termine<\/b> oltre<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> Perdonate il vostro partner e capite se ha un certo livello di diffidenza nei vostri confronti.<\/p>\n

3. Smettere di scaricare la colpa<\/h3>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Il comportamento verbalmente offensivo \u00e8 spesso causato da Spostamento della colpa<\/a>. Incolpare la vittima per il proprio comportamento sembra giustificare le proprie azioni e assolvere la propria colpa.<\/strong> Per smettere di farlo, assumetevi la responsabilit\u00e0 delle vostre azioni.<\/p>\n

Once you’re able to accept that it’s only you and not your partner who’s responsible for your behavior, you won’t place expectations on them that are impossible to meet.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Try to see things from your partner\u2019s perspective and understand how much your words hurt them. Dovete smetterla di aspettarvi che il vostro partner si comporti in un certo modo e accettarlo per quello che \u00e8.<\/strong> Impedire a voi stessi di chiamarli per nome diventer\u00e0 pi\u00f9 facile.<\/p>\n

4. Affrontare i propri sentimenti<\/h3>\n

Parlare al partner di ci\u00f2 che si prova diventer\u00e0 pi\u00f9 facile con la pratica. All'inizio dovrete forzarvi ad aprirvi, ma man mano che vi eserciterete, you\u2019ll be both more capable of recognizing your emotions, contextualizing them, and talking about them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Siate consapevoli dei vostri pensieri. Capire da dove proviene il vostro comportamento<\/strong>. State trattenendo delle emozioni negative nei confronti del vostro partner o della vostra vita? Provate risentimento, rabbia, gelosia, delusione, ecc.<\/p>\n

Understand why you\u2019re attacking your partner and how much it hurts them.<\/strong> People who are emotionally abusive may not be fully aware that this is what they’re doing, or they might be used to doing it without being aware of how damaging it is to their partner.<\/p>\n

5. Imparare a comunicare<\/h3>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Learn to actually own and express your emotions so you can let your partner know how you\u2019re feeling instead of taking the negativity out on them. During an argument when you’re emotional and not thinking straight, name-calling may feel deserved and rational, but you might regret it the moment it comes out of your mouth.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Comportamento emotivamente offensivo<\/a> \u00e8 tossico per entrambe le persone. L'insulto alimenta altra rabbia e la discussione si inasprisce, facendovi sentire esausti e in colpa.<\/strong> Pride and anger often won’t let you immediately go back on what you said and apologize, and it causes damage to both you and your partner and your relationship.<\/p>\n

Imparate ad ascoltare davvero il vostro partner.<\/strong> Don\u2019t just wait for them to finish so you can talk and prove your point. Practice talking to your partner openly. Let them know how you feel instead of allowing your feelings to cloud your judgment.<\/p>\n

Considerate le conseguenze delle vostre azioni e scegliete di parlare solo per gentilezza.<\/strong> Comunicate con il vostro partner nel modo in cui volete essere comunicati: con rispetto e comprensione. Se vi sforzate di essere aperti e gentili, potete imparare a parlare con il vostro partner in un modo che porter\u00e0 a una maggiore intimit\u00e0 e vicinanza.<\/p>\n

Che cosa provoca in una persona l'insulto dei nomi?<\/h2>\n

Hearing anyone say hurtful words is damaging, but it\u2019s especially cruel from a loved one. Il danno emotivo che provoca va oltre i sentimenti feriti.<\/strong> When an emotional abuser repeatedly throws insults, criticism, and put downs on their victim, those words don\u2019t just disappear.<\/p>\n

Alla fine, le idee si radicano ed entrambi iniziano a credere in quelle idee.<\/strong> L'abuso emotivo cambia la vittima<\/a> and causes them to question themselves and their own worth. This can permanently hurt the victim\u2019s self-esteem and ruin their self-confidence, causando depressione e ansia.<\/strong><\/p>\n

L'abuso verbale continuo diventa una forma di comunicazione regolare in una relazione. Using hurtful words tells the victim that they don’t matter and that their feelings don’t count.<\/strong> Si crea una relazione tossica in cui i partner diventano nemici in guerra.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It feeds the victim\u2019s insecurities<\/strong>. Verbal abuse reinforces the victim’s insecurities and attacks them where they already feel vulnerable, causing them to feel even more insecure. Also, it\u2019s isolating and makes it difficult for the victim to reach out for help, leaving them feeling unloved and hopeless.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It destroys the victim\u2019s self-worth.<\/strong> When your partner calls you degrading names, it doesn’t only make you feel horrible, it makes you lose self-confidence and manipulates how you feel and what you think about yourself.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It makes the victim feel degraded and inferior.<\/strong> Name-calling makes the victim feel like their potential and abilities are insignificant. They start to perceive themselves through the lens of the insult, making them feel like they’re less than the person they are.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It makes the victim withdraw and shut down.<\/strong> Gli attacchi continui fanno s\u00ec che la vittima voglia abbandonare la discussione. Invece di reagire, si sente rassegnata e smette di preoccuparsi del risultato e di raggiungere una soluzione.<\/p>\n

\u2022 It creates self-doubt.<\/strong> The victim begins to wonder if they’re overreacting and if the abuse isn’t as bad as it seems. They might also begin to blame themselves and start to believe that they deserve it.<\/p>\n

- Distrugge la fiducia<\/b><\/a>.<\/strong> La mancanza di rispetto e di attenzione evidente nel comportamento abusivo porta la vittima a perdere fiducia non solo in se stessa, ma anche nel partner. La persona su cui dovrebbe poter contare le provoca dolore, per cui diventa impossibile fidarsi di lei, danneggiando la relazione.<\/p>\n

Spesso la vittima vuole vendicarsi o diventa timida e chiusa in se stessa.<\/strong> Il partner maltrattante si sente in colpa per le sue azioni, ma anche se smette per un po' di tempo Se non imparano a gestire i propri sentimenti, alla fine lo rifanno.<\/strong> The victim’s hurt feelings matter for a moment, then they forget about it.<\/p>\n

Qual \u00e8 la psicologia che si nasconde dietro l'insulto?<\/h2>\n

\"Giovane<\/p>\n

Gli insulti in una relazione sono causati dalla frustrazione, dall'insicurezza o dal bisogno di controllare il partner. Sentirsi turbati da una situazione o da una persona \u00e8 normale, ma \u00e8 il modo in cui si reagisce a questi sentimenti a fare la differenza.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quando esprimete i vostri sentimenti in modo da renderli chiari al vostro partner, l'effetto sulla relazione \u00e8 positivo. Quando la vostra reazione \u00e8 quella di attaccare il partner e di farlo sentire in colpa, fate del male alla vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Frustration.<\/strong> This is often caused when one partner feels like the other person is ignoring their feelings. Frustrated with their inability to communicate with their partner, they believe they don’t listen to them and don’t care.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Insecurity.<\/strong> Someone who name-calls is plagued by insecurities. Something in their life isn’t working, and they’re afraid of their feelings. They use the other person as a scapegoat and take it out on them. To get past this, they must get to the root of their insecurities and learn how to cope with their feelings in a productive way.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Control.<\/strong> Verbal abuse is a power play. It’s a strumenti di controllo del partner<\/a>. Fa sentire la vittima male con se stessa, inferiore, svergognata e imbarazzata. Le fa dubitare di se stesse ed enfatizza le loro insicurezze.<\/p>\n

This, in turn, makes them even more dependent on the person who’s telling them those things. Because they feel so bad about themselves, they begin to rely on those moments when their partner acts kindly and makes them feel good. They start to feel worthless and believe that their partner is the only person willing to accept them.<\/p>\n

L'insulto in una relazione di coppia \u00e8 spesso un comportamento appreso<\/strong> e l'unico modo in cui qualcuno sa come reagire ai propri sentimenti. Forse i genitori comunicavano allo stesso modo tra di loro o con loro, oppure lo hanno imparato nel corso della vita. L'incapacit\u00e0 di esprimere e gestire i propri sentimenti negativi li porta a sfogarsi e a prendersela con un'altra persona.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quando imparano a esprimere queste emozioni in modo produttivo, si crea una relazione pi\u00f9 sana. La possibilit\u00e0 di condividere i propri sentimenti con il partner aumenta l'intimit\u00e0 e la fiducia e vi avvicina.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dove andare da qui<\/h2>\n

Name calling in a relationship can have a devastating effect on the victim\u2019s emotional and mental health and self-esteem. It\u2019s more often caused by the inability of the abusive partner to deal with their emotions than any intention to truly hurt their significant other.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Per ristabilire il rispetto, la fiducia e la comunicazione, sono necessarie la compassione e la comprensione di entrambe le parti, nonch\u00e9 il desiderio reciproco di lavorare sulla relazione.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll become able to stop calling your partner names once you stop shifting blame to your significant other and rationalizing your behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Imparare a esprimere i propri sentimenti in modo calmo ed efficace e farne un'abitudine si tradurr\u00e0 in una relazione complessivamente pi\u00f9 sana.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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