{"id":155803,"date":"2022-07-13T21:28:28","date_gmt":"2022-07-13T21:28:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=155803"},"modified":"2022-09-14T08:21:53","modified_gmt":"2022-09-14T08:21:53","slug":"fidanzato-amicizie-femminili-confini","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/fidanzato-amicizie-femminili-confini\/","title":{"rendered":"11 Limiti del fidanzato e dell'amica che devono essere rispettati"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let\u2019s be honest: nobody is overjoyed that their partner has friends of the opposite sex. Even if your boyfriend\u2019s female friends don\u2019t represent any danger to your relationship, deep down, you can\u2019t help but feel threatened by their presence in his life.<\/p>\n

So, what exactly should you do about it? Should you turn into a psycho girlfriend who expects her boyfriend\u2019s friend to stop existing just because you appeared on the scene?<\/p>\n

Assolutamente no! Invece, ho una soluzione molto migliore per voi: porre dei limiti alle amiche del fidanzato.<\/p>\n

This way, both of you can have a place in your man\u2019s life, and everyone\u2019s role is clearly defined!<\/p>\n

L'elenco dei limiti dei fidanzati e degli amici femminili<\/h2>\n

If you want a healthy relationship, follow these rules, and you\u2019re good to go:<\/p>\n

1. La vostra relazione viene prima di tutto<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Che le piaccia o no, la relazione con il vostro ragazzo viene sempre al primo posto, a prescindere da tutto. You don\u2019t care how long she has been in his life or what they\u2019ve been through. It\u2019s not okay for <\/b>lui ad amare lei pi\u00f9 di voi<\/b><\/a>!<\/b><\/p>\n

You need to set some clear boundaries regarding your time together. It\u2019s not acceptable for him to cancel your plans to hang out with his friend or to only call you when she is too busy to spend time with him.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the women he chose to share his life with, and nobody should come before you. Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean you should be selfish and demand to be the only person he spends time with.<\/p>\n

Yes, you\u2019re the only woman in a romantic sense for him. And you\u2019re his priority.<\/p>\n

However, if his female best friend needs a hand or has an emergency, don\u2019t make a big deal about it. If he runs off and helps her, it only shows that you\u2019re dating a good person with a kind heart.<\/p>\n

2. Nessun contatto fisico<\/h3>\n

Let\u2019s be honest: some friends are used to a lot of physical contact. They don\u2019t see it as a big deal \u2013 sometimes they sleep next to each other in the same bed, tease one another, she sits on his lap, and stuff like that.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not saying that there must be anything sexual about this. Maybe they\u2019ve been friends their entire lives and don\u2019t see anything wrong with this kind of contact.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, questo dovrebbe essere un punto di rottura quando si parla di confini tra fidanzati e amici. Il vostro fidanzato ha una relazione seria e questo tipo di comportamento non \u00e8 pi\u00f9 accettabile.<\/p>\n

They\u2019re still allowed to quickly hug or kiss each other on the cheek when they greet, but anything more than that is out of the question.<\/b><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t care if he thinks of her as a sister \u2013 they\u2019re not related, and he is a human being. The last thing you need is to wonder whether he\u2019ll get a natural bodily reaction to this woman\u2019s presence.<\/p>\n

3. Non \u00e8 consentito l'uso della terza ruota<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s one thing if you and your boyfriend hang out with his friends in a group setting from time to time. That is a great sign that he wants to make you part of his life. But even those get-togethers shouldn\u2019t come at the expense of your one-on-one time.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, ci\u00f2 che non \u00e8 accettabile \u00e8 che la sua amica donna sia una costante terzo incomodo durante il tempo trascorso da soli<\/a>. I mean, you two are dating \u2013 this is not a polyamorous relationship!<\/b><\/p>\n

At the risk of sounding selfish, you shouldn\u2019t care whether she has no one to go on vacation with or that she\u2019s celebrating New Year\u2019s Eve by herself. I\u2019m not saying that the three of you can never spend time together, but please don\u2019t become her foster carer.<\/p>\n

Besides, just because she is your boyfriend\u2019s BFF doesn\u2019t mean you have the desire to spend your free time with her as well.<\/p>\n

4. Nessuna conversazione segreta<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Gli ultimatum di solito non sono la scelta migliore per un relazione sana<\/a>ma a volte \u00e8 necessario emetterli. Questo \u00e8 uno di quei casi.<\/p>\n

Che gli piaccia o no, il vostro <\/b>altro significativo<\/b> shouldn\u2019t be allowed to have <\/b>conversazioni private<\/b> con il suo amico del <\/b>genere opposto<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

This might sound unreasonable to him, but let\u2019s put it this way: let\u2019s say that he has a lot of female friends, but he doesn\u2019t let you read any of the conversations he has with him.<\/p>\n

Who can guarantee that they\u2019re all nothing but friends? I mean, he can tell you every girl he\u2019s flirting with is his close friend.<\/p>\n

Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019ll read every conversation they have. It is important that you have access to their communication, so you can find out everything you need to know whenever you feel like it.<\/p>\n

5. Nessun viaggio insieme<\/h3>\n

Si pu\u00f2 discutere se il vostro partner debba o meno andare in vacanza con i suoi amici maschi. Tuttavia, uno dei limiti pi\u00f9 importanti per le amiche del fidanzato \u00e8 quello di non fare viaggi insieme.<\/p>\n

Forse il vostro ragazzo aveva l'abitudine di viaggiare con un <\/b>molte amiche donne,<\/b> ma quei giorni sono finiti. S\u00ec, questo include anche i viaggi in <\/b>impostazione del gruppo<\/b> anche.<\/b><\/p>\n

The only way these journeys might happen is if you all go together and if you\u2019re okay traveling with his friends. Of course, you won\u2019t agree to your BF\u2019s female BFF traveling with you \u2013 I\u2019m talking about the bunch of you traveling together.<\/p>\n

E se devono partecipare a un evento? Non c'\u00e8 problema, ci si aggrega.<\/p>\n

What if they\u2019ve already booked a trip before you issued this ultimatum or even before you two started dating? Tough break, but they\u2019ll have to find a way to cancel it.<\/p>\n

6. Limiti dei social media<\/h3>\n

Il vostro ragazzo pu\u00f2 pubblicare foto con la sua amica del cuore sui suoi social media? \u00c8 giusto che lo faccia anche lei?<\/p>\n

Ci sono diversi fattori da prendere in considerazione prima di poter dare una risposta adeguata.<\/p>\n

First of all, does your boyfriend put photos with you on his social media profiles? Are all of his followers familiar with the fact that you\u2019re his girlfriend?<\/p>\n

Se la risposta \u00e8 s\u00ec, dovreste permettergli di postare ogni tanto una storia con la sua BFF. Un post permanente \u00e8 consentito quando c'\u00e8 un'occasione speciale.<\/p>\n

What is crucial to note here is that he can\u2019t have more photos with her than with you. Once again, you\u2019re the number one woman in his life.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ma \u00e8 ancora pi\u00f9 importante che la natura della loro relazione sia chiara. Se lui pubblica una foto con lei, dovrebbe scrivere un <\/b>friend\u2019s caption<\/b><\/a> o un <\/b>citazione sull'amicizia<\/b><\/a> e niente di pi\u00f9.<\/b><\/p>\n

The same goes both ways. Don\u2019t let her post selfies with him without any explanation \u2013 it\u2019s natural that her followers will assume he\u2019s her boyfriend.<\/p>\n

7. Nessuna interferenza nella vostra relazione<\/h3>\n

The biggest red flag that your BF\u2019s friend of the opposite gender is jealous of you is the way she interferes in your relationship. You know exactly what I\u2019m talking about: she constantly gives him \u201cadvice\u201d that somehow never works in your favor.<\/p>\n

She knows every little thing that happens between you two, and sometimes you wonder if you\u2019re dating her or him. Whenever you two argue or break up, she helps him come up with comebacks and tells him how to play his cards right.<\/p>\n

Must I even explain why this isn\u2019t acceptable? S\u00ec, lei \u00e8 una sua cara amica e lui ha voglia di condividere con lei i suoi pensieri e i suoi sentimenti, ma come vi fa sentire questa configurazione?<\/b><\/p>\n

Trust me \u2013 this is one of the most significant boyfriend female friends boundaries you\u2019ll have to impose in time. Make it clear that your private matters shouldn\u2019t concern anyone outside of your relationship.<\/p>\n

8. Deve rispettarvi<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Look, it would be great if you could also become friends with this girl. However, things don\u2019t work that way always. Maybe you two have different interests or just didn\u2019t click from the first time you met. And that\u2019s perfectly okay.<\/p>\n

Basically, I\u2019m saying that she doesn’t have to like you, as long as her negative emotions don\u2019t affect your boyfriend. However, she must respect you.<\/p>\n

Even if she secretly hates your guts, she should keep it to herself and respect you as her friend\u2019s girlfriend.<\/b><\/p>\n

Lo stesso vale per tutti gli altri amici e familiari. Devono rispettare la sua scelta.<\/p>\n

However, it all depends on how your boyfriend behaves in these situations. If he lets them badmouth you or continues hanging out with them even after they\u2019ve insulted you or tried humiliating you in any way, I\u2019m sorry to break it to you, but then, he\u2019s the one who doesn\u2019t respect you.<\/p>\n

D'altra parte, se vi d\u00e0 il posto che meritate nella sua vita e se vi porta il rispetto che dovrebbe<\/a>, they\u2019ll have no other choice but follow his lead.<\/p>\n

9. Tutto \u00e8 alla luce del sole<\/h3>\n

Ricordate che abbiamo parlato delle conversazioni private nelle amicizie tra uomo e donna? Ebbene, questa regola si applica a tutto il resto della relazione.<\/p>\n

Does this mean the two of them are not allowed to have secrets? Absolutely yes \u2013 if they could affect you in any way possible.<\/p>\n

For example, your boyfriend is not obliged to talk to you about his friend\u2019s childhood traumas or anything similar related to her personal life. After all, let\u2019s not forget that he is the friend she chose \u2013 you\u2019re not. She probably wouldn\u2019t feel comfortable having all of her secrets exposed in front of a stranger, which you are to her.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, se i due si sono mai piaciuti o, peggio ancora, si sono frequentati in passato, \u00e8 una cosa che conoscete bene. L\u00ec <\/b>dovrebbe<\/b>\u2019t be secrets about the nature of their friendship: how they met, how long they\u2019ve been friends, how close they are as friends, and so on.<\/b><\/p>\n

You have to have all this information to get a bigger picture of their relationship and figure out whether there are some red flags you should look out for and if there\u2019s a reason for you to be geloso di lei<\/a>.<\/p>\n

10. Niente battute interne<\/h3>\n

Is there anything more annoying than a girl trying to prove her dominance over a man, especially in front of that man\u2019s girlfriend, by constantly mentioning inside jokes? Of course, she never cares to explain to you what they\u2019re talking about \u2013 she enjoys that you feel left out.<\/b><\/p>\n

In fact, this is the primary reason she uses these jokes: to show you that there is a part of his life you know nothing about, that she knows him better than you, and that they\u2019re so incredibly close. She just tells him: \u201cHey, remember that time when we were on a beach…\u201d and starts laughing hysterically.<\/p>\n

Then, they proceed to talk in code, and you stand there, completely clueless about what\u2019s going on. Are they talking about that time they hooked up? Or about an embarrassing hangover they wish you know nothing about?<\/p>\n

Per evitare queste situazioni, vietate le battute interne.<\/p>\n

11. Cambiamento nella comunicazione<\/h3>\n

Your significant other has a lot of female friends \u2013 that\u2019s quite clear. He\u2019s probably used to talking to them in the middle of the night or spending hours on the phone together.<\/p>\n

Beh, questo deve finire! Insomma, l'ultima cosa che si vuole \u00e8 dormire tranquillamente accanto al proprio fidanzato, per poi essere svegliate dal suo <\/b>amica donna<\/b>\u2019s drunk call in the middle of the night.<\/b><\/p>\n

You understandably wouldn\u2019t feel comfortable in this scenario.<\/p>\n

Now that you\u2019re in the picture, there is no more late-night texting and no more all-nighter phone calls.<\/p>\n

If he is uncomfortable telling them this, just ask him not to pick up the phone after midnight. He can reply in the morning, and I\u2019m sure that, after a while, they\u2019ll understand that you\u2019ve set boundaries.<\/p>\n

Lo stesso vale per la comunicazione in generale. Basta con i discorsi da bambini e con i complimenti al limite del flirt.<\/p>\n

There is no need for heart emojis and stuff like that when they\u2019re texting. Ask them both to keep their relationship as friendly as possible!<\/p>\n

Un uomo che ha una relazione pu\u00f2 avere amicizie femminili?<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Non c'\u00e8 assolutamente nulla di sbagliato nel fatto che un uomo in una relazione abbia <\/b>amicizie femminili<\/b>purch\u00e9 sappia come <\/b>fissare i confini<\/b> con loro.<\/b> Nonostante quello che si dice in giro, uomini e donne possono essere amici<\/a>!<\/p>\n

Questo vale soprattutto se queste fidanzate facevano parte della sua vita prima che lui iniziasse la sua attuale relazione.<\/p>\n

I mean, what should he do? Stop being friends with them every time he finds a new girlfriend and then resurface whenever he\u2019s single again?<\/p>\n

This wouldn\u2019t be fair to these friends, and nobody would tolerate this kind of behavior.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, nessuna fidanzata ragionevole pu\u00f2 aspettarsi che il suo ragazzo cancelli tutta la sua vita prima di lei solo perch\u00e9 \u00e8 arrivata lei.<\/b><\/p>\n

Naturalmente, questo vale in entrambi i sensi: non c'\u00e8 nulla di male se le persone che hanno una relazione hanno amici di sesso opposto.<\/p>\n

Cosa fare quando il fidanzato ha un'amica intima?<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re smart enough, you also become friends with this woman! <\/b>Don\u2019t worry, she doesn\u2019t have to become your BFF overnight. After all, I sure hope that you have a life of your own that includes numerous close friendships you\u2019ve built before your relationship.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, it would be great if you could at least be on good terms with your BF\u2019s friend<\/b>. This way, you\u2019ll gain better insight into what\u2019s going on between the two of them. You won\u2019t feel like an outsider, and you\u2019ll have more control over their relationship.<\/p>\n

If that\u2019s not possible, you must ask your boyfriend to set some clear boundaries. Make sure you both agree on these boyfriend female friends boundaries instead of making it look like you\u2019re the bad guy who is suddenly imposing all these new rules.<\/p>\n

Either way, you shouldn\u2019t disrespect this woman. After all, she is in your BF\u2019s life for a reason. Of course, this doesn\u2019t apply to situations when she is the first to show you disrespect!<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 il mio ragazzo ha amicizie femminili?<\/h2>\n

Il tuo ragazzo ha <\/b>amicizie femminili<\/b> per lo stesso motivo per cui ha <\/b>amici maschi<\/b>perch\u00e9 corrispondono alla sua energia, li trova affidabili o semplicemente gli piace passare del tempo con loro. Nella maggior parte dei casi, non c'\u00e8 una psicologia pi\u00f9 profonda che si nasconde dietro la sua <\/b>amicizie femminili<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s clear that he\u2019s found something in each one of his good friends. Maybe he likes their loyalty, the fact that he can count on them, or they make him laugh, and he enjoys being in their company.<\/p>\n

Just because your BF doesn\u2019t spend all of his time with his guy friends and hangs out with women as well doesn\u2019t mean that ha problemi con la mamma<\/a> o che gli manca qualcosa nella vostra relazione sentimentale.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s probably been through a lot with his friends of the opposite sex, and he\u2019s not going to ditch them just because you\u2019re not okay with it.<\/p>\n

How Do I Accept My Boyfriend\u2019s Female Friends?<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

Innanzitutto, you have to stop looking at your boyfriend\u2019s <\/b>migliore amica femminile<\/b> come competizione<\/b>. If you\u2019ve gotten to know these girls and seen that nobody crosses the line of friendship, there is nothing to be worried about.<\/p>\n

Think of it this way: they have been friends longer than you two have been dating. That means they\u2019ve had plenty of time to realize whether there is something more going on between them. They\u2019ve had the chance to grow feelings for each other and to start a relationship \u2013 if they wanted to.<\/p>\n

However, none of this ever happened. So, why do you think they would start something when you\u2019re in the picture? It makes no sense!<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s some relationship advice: If you\u2019re smart enough, you won\u2019t be jealous of your BF\u2019s <\/b>amici di sesso opposto<\/b>. On the contrary, you\u2019ll turn them into your friends as well.<\/b><\/p>\n

This way, you\u2019ll have allies in his life \u2013 I\u2019m sure these women will give you advice or even tell you his secrets if you play your cards right.<\/p>\n

Per concludere:<\/h2>\n

All of these boyfriend female friends boundaries are useful and will help you maintain a healthy relationship. However, it will all be in vain if the parties involved don\u2019t agree with them.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s the point of demanding all these rules be followed if your boyfriend refuses to impose them? It\u2019s one thing that he has a <\/b>amica donna<\/b>. Tuttavia, se <\/b>he doesn\u2019t put your relationship first<\/b><\/a> and prioritizes this woman over you, you\u2019ve got yourself a problem.<\/b><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, even then, it\u2019s crucial for you to remember: this woman isn\u2019t your primary concern \u2013 your boyfriend is! He is the one who should love and respect you enough to set up clear boundaries without you having to ask him to do so!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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