{"id":156396,"date":"2022-07-26T13:10:46","date_gmt":"2022-07-26T13:10:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156396"},"modified":"2023-04-04T09:11:04","modified_gmt":"2023-04-04T09:11:04","slug":"desiderare-qualcosa-che-non-si-puo-avere","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/desiderare-qualcosa-che-non-si-puo-avere\/","title":{"rendered":"13 ragioni psicologiche per desiderare qualcosa che non si pu\u00f2 avere"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vestiti o scarpe troppo costosi.<\/em> Una donna o un uomo non disponibili o presi. Sogni troppo complessi per diventare realt\u00e0.<\/em> Wanting something you can\u2019t have at the moment can be really frustrating.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tendiamo a passare giorni, settimane e mesi a pensare a una cosa o a una persona che vogliamo nella nostra vita. A volte siamo cos\u00ec ossessionati da trascurare tutte le altre cose che stanno accadendo in questo momento.<\/p>\n

Why do we do that? Why do we want what we can\u2019t have?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esistono spiegazioni psicologiche di questo fenomeno che sono davvero sconvolgenti. Once you understand the background of your intense desire for things you can\u2019t have, your life will instantly change.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Below you\u2019ll find all the psychological reasons behind wanting something you can\u2019t have and what you can do about it.<\/p>\n

13 Psychological Explanations Of Wanting Something You Can\u2019t Have<\/h2>\n

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Do you think that having that one thing or being with that one person would change your life for the better and make you ultimately happy? Here\u2019s exactly what\u2019s going on in our minds when we want something we can\u2019t have:<\/p>\n

1. Il brivido dell'inseguimento e l'iniezione di dopamina<\/h3>\n

Every time someone you like pays attention to you or texts you, the levels of the hormone dopamine (\u201cthe happy hormone\u201d) immediately increase. You feel excited and on cloud nine.<\/p>\n

Sapevate che potete diventare dipendenti da questa dose di dopamina?<\/strong> It\u2019s like being on drugs.<\/p>\n

Every time you come in contact with the object of your desire (read: your drug), you get a shot of dopamine \u2013 a shot of happiness. Quindi, in pratica, si finisce per inseguire il colpo che deriva dall'inseguire qualcuno che piace.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Il brivido dell'inseguimento ha il potere di rendere suscettibili di panatura<\/a> (quando qualcuno vi d\u00e0 un'attenzione appena sufficiente, che vi fa desiderare di averne ancora).<\/p>\n

2. Rafforzamento dell'ego<\/h3>\n

Sometimes, you want what you can\u2019t have because your ego is at play. Now imagine seeing a luxury perfume, car, attractive woman or man.<\/p>\n

In quella situazione, il vostro ego pu\u00f2 costringervi a comprare quella cosa o a inseguire quella donna o quell'uomo perch\u00e9 avete bisogno di raggiungere quel senso di soddisfazione.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Poter indossare quel profumo, guidare quell'auto o stare con quella donna o quell'uomo vi darebbe un'iniezione di ego.<\/p>\n

In altre parole, vi sentirete potenti, felici e appagati. That\u2019s exactly what forces you to want and chase something you can\u2019t have.<\/strong><\/p>\n

CONSIGLIO PER L'USO:<\/strong>\u00a0Se avete questo bisogno incontrollabile di sentirvi sempre dei vincenti, allora sapete che hai un problema di ego.<\/a><\/p>\n

3. L'effetto scarsit\u00e0<\/h3>\n

The scarcity effect is also one of the culprits for wanting something you can\u2019t have. It works on the following principle: Siamo pi\u00f9 interessati a perseguire le cose rare (scarse) perch\u00e9, nella nostra mente, hanno un valore pi\u00f9 alto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Here\u2019s one brilliant explanation of the effetto scarsit\u00e0 da Psychology Today<\/a>: \u201cScarcity functions like an obstacle to goal pursuit, which intensifies the value of the goal.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Ricordo quando avevamo un frutteto con centinaia di meli. Quando raccoglievamo tutti i frutti, avevamo un'intera stanza piena di mele. Indovinate un po'?<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t eat a single one as long as there were so many of them. Dopo averle vendute e mangiate quasi tutte, mi sono improvvisamente interessato a consumare le mele.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si tratta dell'effetto scarsit\u00e0 nella sua massima espressione.<\/p>\n

4. Lotta contro la bassa autostima<\/h3>\n

Se lottate con una bassa autostima, questa pu\u00f2 influenzare ogni aspetto della vostra vita (soprattutto quella sentimentale). Pu\u00f2 danneggiare la vostra salute mentale e rendervi frustrati, ansiosi e persino depressi.<\/p>\n

Donne o uomini con scarsa fiducia in se stessi<\/a> spesso pensano che possedere qualcosa di prezioso e raro li faccia sentire meglio con se stessi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sono convinti che possedere quell'unica cosa o stare con quell'unica persona sia il pezzo mancante del puzzle quando si tratta di trovare il proprio valore.<\/p>\n

As long as they\u2019re pursuing the object of their affection, they feel like there is hope, and their well-being is at stake.<\/p>\n

5. Il fascino dell'ignoto<\/h3>\n

Unpredictability, forbidden fruit, unknown scenarios… All these things can influence you to chase something you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

Passate molto tempo a pensare a come vi sentirete una volta comprato l'oggetto o conquistata la persona che vi piace.<\/strong> Wanting what you can\u2019t have has never been more frustrating and yet, at the same time, alluring.<\/p>\n

L'attrattiva dell'ignoto fa pensare che l'erba \u00e8 pi\u00f9 verde<\/a> dall'altro lato.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re convinced that all the other people who own what you want are happier and more content in life than you. That\u2019s why you become so focused on pursuing that feeling.<\/p>\n

6. Ricerca dell'autostima<\/h3>\n

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Feeling like you\u2019re not good enough<\/a> can put you in a state of constant pursuit of self-worth. You want something you can\u2019t have because you want to feel worthy of it.<\/p>\n

Nella vostra testa si verifica il seguente scenario: \u201cIf I manage to earn enough money to buy that one luxury thing or if I manage to win that attractive man or woman, my self-worth will increase.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pensate che il loro valore diventer\u00e0 il vostro valore. Avere l'oggetto del vostro desiderio vi far\u00e0 sentire degni, potenti e sicuri di voi stessi.<\/p>\n

7. Idealizzazione dell'oggetto del desiderio<\/h3>\n

Quando si idealizza l'oggetto del proprio desiderio, in pratica si pensa che sia perfetto e molto migliore di quanto sia in realt\u00e0. Nella vostra testa, sono ESATTAMENTE ci\u00f2 di cui avete bisogno nella vita per sentirvi completi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mente Molto Bene<\/a> explains idealization in the following way: \u201cL'idealizzazione \u00e8 un processo psicologico o mentale che consiste nell'attribuire qualit\u00e0 eccessivamente positive a un'altra persona o cosa.<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n

Basically, you want something you can\u2019t have because you\u2019ve idealized that thing or person<\/strong>. You\u2019ve convinced yourself that their value is higher than it really is. That\u2019s exactly what makes you chase after it or them.<\/p>\n

8. La gioia di realizzare una fantasia<\/h3>\n

This is also known as projection. It\u2019s when you spend a considerable amount of time fantasizing about owning that thing or spending time with a certain person.<\/p>\n

La vostra mente \u00e8 andata cos\u00ec lontano quando si tratta di creare queste piccole immagini nella vostra testa di voi che li baciate, li tenete per mano, li abbracciate, viaggiate con loro...<\/strong> (if we\u2019re talking about a person).<\/p>\n

\u201cI want what I can\u2019t have because I want my fantasy to be fulfilled.\u201d<\/p>\n

9. Quanto pi\u00f9 sono irraggiungibili, tanto pi\u00f9 ci si investe.<\/h3>\n

Sadly, we often categorize those who are unreachable as highly valuable. Here\u2019s my real-life personal example of this:<\/p>\n

Stavo inseguendo questo ragazzo che era emotivamente non disponibile e, quindi, irraggiungibile.<\/strong> The less he texted me, the more invested I became and determined to “make him reachable.\u201d<\/p>\n

Nel farlo, ho ignorato tutti i bravi ragazzi che in realt\u00e0 valevano pi\u00f9 di lui. Imparata la lezione, sono andata avanti.<\/p>\n

Quello che voglio che ricordiate \u00e8 che il valore percepito dell'oggetto del vostro desiderio \u00e8 tutto nella vostra testa.<\/strong> Questo pu\u00f2 anche essere preziosi consigli sulle relazioni<\/a> anche.<\/p>\n

10. Ricerca di convalida<\/h3>\n

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Why do you want what you can\u2019t have? Because ricerca di convalida<\/a> vi costringe a rincorrere cose e persone che vi facciano sentire apprezzati.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s a simple example of this: A smart, beautiful, attractive woman or man is playing hard to get with you. Lo vedete come un segno di alto valore e diventate pienamente determinati a perseguirli.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dopo un po' di tempo, si va al primo appuntamento, al secondo e cos\u00ec via. Lentamente ma inesorabilmente, iniziate a conquistarli e vi sentite meglio che mai. Perch\u00e9?<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9, accettando di uscire con voi, vi hanno fatto sentire valorizzati.<\/strong> Ti hanno fatto sentire meglio con te stesso perch\u00e9 ti hanno accettato.<\/p>\n

Now let\u2019s go back to the beginning of this story. You want something you can\u2019t have because having it or being with them will make you feel validated.<\/p>\n

11. Maggiore attenzione<\/h3>\n

When someone tells you that you can\u2019t have something, do you instantly want it even more? Of course, you do. Gli esseri umani sono portati a desiderare cose che sono scarse o, in un certo senso, proibite.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s where heightened focus comes into the story. This basically means that you\u2019ll spend more time thinking of something or someone you can\u2019t have than about anything else.<\/p>\n

The more you think about it, the more you\u2019ll become \u201cobsessed\u201d with it<\/strong>. Perhaps you have no idea why you even want that thing or person. You just want it because you can\u2019t have it.<\/p>\n

I know it sounds ridiculous, but it\u2019s totally true.<\/strong> The same thing applies to reverse psychology. If you want to make someone do something, just tell them they can\u2019t or shouldn\u2019t do it.<\/p>\n

12. Sentirsi minacciati<\/h3>\n

Due to all the fantasizing about the object of your desire, you enter a state of feeling threatened about losing it. Wait, but how can you lose something or someone you don\u2019t even have?<\/p>\n

Nella vostra mente, esistono. Sono con voi 24 ore su 24, 7 giorni su 7, perch\u00e9 passate molto tempo a pensare a lui o a loro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ti ricordi spesso che qualcun altro potrebbe comprare quella cosa prima di te, o che qualcun altro potrebbe sedurre quel ragazzo o quella ragazza prima di te.<\/p>\n

The more threatened you feel, the more you want what you can\u2019t have.<\/strong> It\u2019s really impressive how our brain can play tricks on us.<\/p>\n

13. La ricerca della felicit\u00e0<\/h3>\n

One of the reasons you always want what you can\u2019t have is that you\u2019re pursuing happiness. You\u2019ve convinced yourself that the source of your happiness is connected with the thing or person you\u2019re interested in.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Si dimentica che la felicit\u00e0 \u00e8 una scelta<\/a>. Once you stop pursuing things or people you can\u2019t have, you\u2019ll find happiness. Pursuing something you can\u2019t have can\u2019t guarantee that you\u2019ll be happy once you achieve it.<\/p>\n

After that, you\u2019ll find another thing or another person that you would want to pursue again.<\/strong> The only person who can make you happy is YOU. So, stop looking for happiness in things or people you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

What Do You Do When You Want Something You Can’t Have?<\/h2>\n

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Do you go out of your way to own that thing or attract that person? Do you lose yourself only to pursue something you can\u2019t have? Here\u2019s what you should do when you find yourself wanting something you can\u2019t have:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Question the emotions that drive you<\/h3>\n

Why do you want something or someone you can\u2019t have? Do you think they would boost your self-esteem and make you feel more content in life? Do you wish to fulfill a fantasy?<\/em><\/p>\n

Question the emotions that drive you. Don\u2019t just fall into the trap of wanting and desiring something you can\u2019t have.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Desiring things you don\u2019t need in life means wasting your time. Unrequited love leads to inevitable heartbreak.<\/p>\n

Avete la possibilit\u00e0 di scegliere!<\/p>\n

Potete decidere di non perseguire i vostri desideri se vi influenzano negativamente.<\/strong> Naturalmente, ci\u00f2 che si sente \u00e8 reale<\/a>, but don\u2019t let it become an everyday obsession. You deserve better than that.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Remove society\u2019s pressure and unrealistic expectations<\/h3>\n

I nostri familiari, gli amici o la societ\u00e0 spesso ci spingono a credere che dobbiamo comportarci in determinati modi. When we add unrealistic expectations to this, we\u2019ve got a recipe for ultimate unhappiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nessuna aspettativa = nessuna delusione.<\/a> Eliminare la pressione della societ\u00e0 e concentrarsi su ci\u00f2 che VOI<\/strong> bisogno e di cui si ha veramente bisogno nella vita.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t buy things just because others are advertising them. Don\u2019t feel pressured to date others because society and those closest to you are frightening you into thinking that you\u2019ll be single forever.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pensate a ci\u00f2 che volete nella vita e seguite il vostro istinto. Spegnete tutte le pressioni e le aspettative degli altri.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Practice gratitude<\/h3>\n

The reason we want things and people we can\u2019t have is that we often think we lack something in our lives.<\/p>\n

La pratica della gratitudine vi aiuter\u00e0 a capire che avete gi\u00e0 tante cose per cui essere grati.<\/p>\n

Once you realize how blessed you truly are, you\u2019ll be less inclined to want something you can\u2019t have.<\/strong> You\u2019ll focus on cherishing the people and things you already have in your life.<\/p>\n

Quando ho iniziato praticare la gratitudine<\/a>, for the first time in my life, I was surrounded by this veil of positive energy. The more I practiced it, the more complete I felt. I bet you\u2019ll feel the same way!<\/p>\n

\u2022 Keep a diary<\/h3>\n

Writing down your thoughts daily is a brilliant way to keep track of your mindset. Write down how you feel, what you\u2019re grateful for, and whatever comes to mind.<\/p>\n

By doing this, you\u2019ll be more in control of your actions. You will not let your mind wander and<\/strong> fantasize about things you can\u2019t have.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be more \u201cin the moment,\u201d which is essential if you want to get rid of that burden of wanting something you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Limit your time spent on social media<\/h3>\n

I\u2019m convinced that every single person on earth needs a disintossicazione dai social media<\/a> once in a while. Limiting the time spent on social media will limit the time you\u2019re exposed to things you might want but can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s one of my most recent examples:<\/strong> When I started following one online clothing store, I felt bombarded with all those beautiful summer dresses, skirts, cool T-shirts… Every time they posted something new, I immediately thought, \u201cI need that thing!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Deep down in my heart, I knew that I couldn\u2019t buy all those things, and that\u2019s why I wanted them even more. Sapete cosa ho fatto?<\/strong> I unfollowed the store, and now I\u2019m living happily and peacefully.<\/p>\n

I hope my story inspired you to limit your time spent on social media or at least to unfollow the sites that make you want something you can\u2019t have.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Cultivate self-love<\/h3>\n

When you want something you can\u2019t have, this is often connected with a lack of self-love. In a nutshell, you\u2019re looking for things and people who will make you feel better and happier.<\/p>\n

Questo non accade mai. L'unico modo sicuro per raggiungere la felicit\u00e0 \u00e8 attraverso aumentare l'amore per se stessi<\/a>trascorrere del tempo con i propri cari e lavorare su se stessi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Invece di cercare cose o persone che vi completino, completate voi stessi.<\/p>\n

Instead Of Wanting Something You Can\u2019t Have, Focus On What\u2019s Good For You.<\/h2>\n

Wanting something you can\u2019t have can be overcome if you\u2019re really determined and willing. The easiest way to fight these tiring feelings of desiring things and people you can\u2019t have is by focusing on what\u2019s good for you.<\/p>\n

Quali sono le cose e le persone che aggiungono valore alla vostra vita?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t just want something because you can\u2019t have it. Want something because it\u2019s good for you.<\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s the secret to true happiness and essere liberi<\/a> dei propri desideri.<\/p>\n

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Clothes or shoes that are too expensive. A woman or a man who is unavailable or taken. Dreams that are too complex to become a reality. Wanting something you can\u2019t have at the moment can be really frustrating. We tend to spend days, weeks, and months thinking about a thing or a person we want…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":156400,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-156396","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/13-Psychological-Reasons-Behind-Wanting-Something-You-Cant-Have-1024x683.jpg",1024,683,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":316,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":316,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/156396","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=156396"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/156396\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/156400"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=156396"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=156396"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=156396"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}