{"id":156609,"date":"2022-08-02T08:31:29","date_gmt":"2022-08-02T08:31:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156609"},"modified":"2022-11-26T11:29:10","modified_gmt":"2022-11-26T11:29:10","slug":"come-smettere-di-essere-tossici","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-smettere-di-essere-tossici\/","title":{"rendered":"Come smettere di essere tossici: diventare pi\u00f9 gentili e felici"},"content":{"rendered":"

Most people don\u2019t intend to do things that hurt people, but it happens to all of us anyway. Se vi trovate ripetutamente in situazioni che degenerano e finite per comportarvi in modo tossico, probabilmente ci sono dei problemi di fondo che vi fanno agire cos\u00ec.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The good news is that if you\u2019re trying to find out how to stop being toxic, you\u2019re aware of the problems in your behavior patterns and want to change. Realizing that you do things that hurt others \u2013 knowingly or unknowingly \u2013 is only the first step. Ammetterlo e decidere di fare qualcosa \u00e8 molto pi\u00f9 importante.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re serious about changing and becoming a kinder and happier person, nothing can stand in your way of achieving it. There will be setbacks, and you\u2019ll make mistakes, but as long as you don\u2019t give up, you can get rid of your toxic habits and create new ones.<\/p>\n

Come smettere di essere tossici: 13 passi verso la libert\u00e0<\/h2>\n

Essere al centro dell'attenzione di comportamento tossico<\/a> is painful, but doing it feels no better. The fact that bad behavior feels bad on both ends doesn\u2019t justify it \u2013 ma pu\u00f2 essere ci\u00f2 che ispira qualcuno che fa del male alle persone a cambiare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Qualcosa di piccolo e insignificante pu\u00f2 scatenarvi e farvi esplodere contro qualcuno? Cercate sempre delle scuse per le cose offensive che fate? La colpa dei vostri problemi \u00e8 sempre di qualcun altro?<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re aware that you have these and similar thought and behavior patterns, you\u2019re also aware that they\u2019re toxic.<\/strong> We all have bad days when we\u2019re grumpy and irritable. If these days are more frequent than neutral or good ones, there\u2019s a problem that needs to be addressed.<\/p>\n

During episodes of toxic behavior, you might feel like you have no control over your actions, but you know that when it\u2019s all over, you\u2019ll feel guilt and self-loathing. You don\u2019t want to hurt people, but you feel like you can\u2019t help yourself in the heat of the moment.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If this describes you, here\u2019s how to stop being toxic.<\/p>\n

1. Riconoscere il proprio comportamento<\/h3>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

By simply looking up how to stop being a toxic person, you\u2019ve already begun the journey to self-improvement. Even if you\u2019ve only just realized that there\u2019s a problem with your behavior and haven\u2019t made any changes yet, you\u2019re miles ahead of where you were yesterday.<\/p>\n

Potrebbe volerci del tempo per fare qualche passo concreto, ma la strada per cambiare il proprio comportamento inizia con l'autoconsapevolezza. Accepting that you\u2019re someone who has hurt people isn\u2019t easy.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Acknowledging your behavior and realizing that you genuinely don\u2019t want to act in a toxic manner anymore is how you actually make the decision to do better. Once you admit to yourself that you\u2019re toxic and that you don\u2019t want to be is when you start moving away from una personalit\u00e0 negativa<\/a><\/strong> verso una pi\u00f9 gentile e amorevole.<\/p>\n

The change won\u2019t happen overnight \u2013 you\u2019ll fall into old habits a few times, but as long as the willingness to be less toxic is present, you can return to the right path towards inner peace and healthy relationships.<\/p>\n

2. Esplorare le ragioni delle proprie azioni<\/h3>\n

What\u2019s the reason for your toxic behavior? Tratti tossici<\/a> e comportamenti come il gaslighting, la gelosia, le tendenze narcisistiche, il paragone con gli altri o il comportamento di controllo sono spesso causati da insicurezze.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When they struggle with low self-esteem and lack of self-worth, some people turn to toxic behavior because they don\u2019t know how to cope with their feelings. Negative feelings about your own value and insecurities are the most common cause of toxic behavior.<\/p>\n

Un altro motivo per cui le persone si sfogano \u00e8 perch\u00e9 si sentono insoddisfatte della propria vita.<\/strong>. If you don\u2019t like your job or relationships, if you have problems or are generally unhappy with where you\u2019re at in life, your way of dealing with it might be to resort to toxic behaviors instead of working on what you can change.<\/p>\n

Carefully examine your emotions and circumstances to find out what\u2019s at the root of your actions.<\/strong> When you\u2019re able to pinpoint the origin of your negativity, you will be able to start dealing with it.<\/p>\n

3. Iniziare a lavorare sulle proprie insicurezze e sui propri problemi<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

After you identify the root cause of your toxic behavior, if you\u2019re truly determined to make your life better, dovete iniziare a occuparvene.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Il modo in cui ci si comporta nei confronti degli altri dipende dall'atteggiamento che si ha nei confronti della propria vita. Quando la soddisfazione per il proprio modo di vivere aumenter\u00e0, sar\u00e0 pi\u00f9 facile essere una persona pi\u00f9 gentile.<\/p>\n

Le due cose pi\u00f9 importanti per il vostro benessere e la vostra salute mentale sono amore e cura di s\u00e9<\/a><\/strong>. You must accept that you have value as a human being and do what\u2019s best for you. This goes beyond just pampering yourself or being gentle with yourself. On the contrary, it means having the determination to do whatever it takes to improve your life.<\/p>\n

Amare se stessi significa accettare ci\u00f2 che si \u00e8 e fare pace con esso.<\/strong> It doesn\u2019t mean that you should stop growing, only that you have to appreciate yourself and your feelings and treat yourself like someone you love: by doing things that are good for you.<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 il senso della cura di s\u00e9. A volte significa prendersela comoda e fermarsi un attimo, ma a volte significa costringersi ad alzarsi e a fare quello che si deve fare.<\/strong>. Si basa sulla capacit\u00e0 di riconoscere e soddisfare i propri bisogni e di distinguere i desideri autentici dalla soddisfazione momentanea.<\/p>\n

4. Accettare la responsabilit\u00e0 del proprio comportamento<\/h3>\n

Lo spostamento della colpa \u00e8 una componente del comportamento tossico. When you blame others for your life, your actions, your problems, or anything else, you\u2019re refusing to accept that you make choices that have consequences.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You must deal with the fact that the reason for your behavior isn\u2019t that you\u2019re a victim of your upbringing, your circumstances, or the other person. It\u2019s only you who decides what you do and how you act<\/strong>. Even if you\u2019re in a relazione tossica<\/a> with another toxic person, neither of you is to blame for the other\u2019s actions.<\/p>\n

Quando lo capirete appieno, acquisterete potere. If it\u2019s you who is responsible for your choices, it means that you have the power to choose differently.<\/strong> Nothing is making you act a certain way, and it\u2019s up to you to decide how to approach any person or situation.<\/p>\n

You can decide to be kind to your loved ones, see the good in people, and start each day with the commitment to improvement \u2013 Quando vi assumete la responsabilit\u00e0 del vostro comportamento, tutte queste cose sono in vostro potere.<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Decidere consapevolmente di fare meglio<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

After you find out why you\u2019re toxic, and while you\u2019re doing things to change those reasons, you can immediately start focusing on changing your behavior.<\/p>\n

Ci\u00f2 significa decidere consapevolmente di smettere di essere tossici e impegnarsi invece a sviluppare nuove abitudini positive<\/strong>. Individuare quando e in quali modi si agisce in modo tossico e decidere consapevolmente di fermarsi quando lo si fa.<\/p>\n

For example, if you know you\u2019re jealous, manipulative, dishonest, attention-seeking, confrontational, or there\u2019s another of the many possible harmful behaviors you\u2019ve recognized in yourself \u2013 when you feel like you\u2019re about to do it, make your best effort to stop.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s unavoidable that you\u2019ll experience moments when old habits spring up. It takes a while to adopt new ways of thinking and doing things, no matter how determined you are.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be hard on yourself if you stumble, but also don\u2019t let it be the first step towards giving up.<\/strong> Accettate semplicemente che \u00e8 successo, chiedete scusa se lo dovete a qualcuno e andate avanti.<\/p>\n

6. Stabilire e rispettare i confini<\/h3>\n

Set boundaries to protect yourself and respect other people\u2019s boundaries so that they feel safe around you. I limiti sono assolutamente necessari per la salute e il benessere mentale.<\/strong> Definire i propri confini per dire agli altri come possono comportarsi con voi, in modo da sentirvi sicuri, \u00e8 un fondamento per relazioni sane<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Toxic behavior often includes an unwillingness to respect other people\u2019s boundaries. If your toxic traits include crossing other people\u2019s boundaries, you must work on it<\/strong>. Ascoltate quando gli altri vi informano dei loro confini e accettate i loro limiti.<\/p>\n

Una cosa importante da tenere a mente riguardo ai confini \u00e8 che essi cambiano.<\/strong> Something that was okay with you in the past doesn\u2019t have to be okay right now. This applies to other people as well. This is why it\u2019s important to communicate and respect each other\u2019s words and feelings.<\/p>\n

7. Lasciare andare le cose<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Realize that you don\u2019t have to react to everything. People sometimes say things for no reason, and if one of your toxic behaviors is to have an intense reaction to other people\u2019s words and actions, find a way to sometimes let things go.<\/p>\n

Spesso le questioni poco importanti causano problemi e discussioni.<\/strong> Think before you react: are other people\u2019s actions and words genuinely problematic, or are you just irritable at the moment? Stop criticizing others for every single thing you don\u2019t like about them.<\/strong> Invece, accettateli cos\u00ec come siete.<\/p>\n

If your goal is to stop being toxic, you must let go of the idea that you\u2019re always right. Not only that, but dovete imparare a scendere a compromessi, anche in situazioni in cui avete effettivamente ragione.<\/strong> Un importante consiglio sulle relazioni di coppia da tenere sempre a mente \u00e8 che, alla fine della giornata, perdere una discussione \u00e8 meglio che perdere una persona<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

8. Concentrarsi sugli aspetti positivi<\/h3>\n

I vostri pensieri hanno un grande impatto sui vostri sentimenti e sulle vostre azioni. I pensieri negativi sono spesso alla base di comportamenti tossici.<\/strong> Vedere le cose in bianco e nero, generalizzare, etichettare le persone e giudicare le situazioni in base alle proprie reazioni emotive possono influenzare notevolmente il modo in cui ci si comporta.<\/p>\n

Imparare a gestire i pensieri negativi e concentrarsi invece sui lati positivi delle persone e delle situazioni pu\u00f2 avere un effetto importante sul modo in cui ci si sente e si agisce. You\u2019d be surprised by how powerful clear intent to focus on the positives can be.<\/strong> By choosing to see the good in everything, you\u2019re increasing your chances of the good happening.<\/p>\n

An optimistic outlook makes it less likely that you\u2019ll react in a negative way when interacting with other people. If you choose to expect good vibes from someone, you won\u2019t judge them from the start, but instead, try to see where they\u2019re coming from.<\/strong><\/p>\n

9. Praticare consapevolmente la gentilezza<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Kindness is the opposite of toxicity \u2013 when you consciously choose to treat people with compassion, there\u2019s no place for toxic behaviors.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Invece di cercare di colpevolizzare, manipolare, controllare, giudicare o criticare le persone, scegliere di comprendere, sostenere e accettare le persone e i loro sentimenti.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Learn to understand others\u2019 feelings and develop empathy. This approach will dramatically change your relationships with anyone you come into contact with.<\/p>\n

Quando qualcuno \u00e8 accidentalmente scortese con voi, una reazione tossica potrebbe essere quella di arrabbiarsi immediatamente e litigare con lui. Questo inevitabilmente lascia sia voi che l'altra persona irritati, esausti e con la giornata rovinata.<\/p>\n

Al contrario, if you respond to the other person\u2019s rude behavior with kindness, you\u2019ll stop them in their tracks and make them change their demeanor.<\/strong> Se scegliete di pensare al punto di vista di questa persona, la vostra comprensione pu\u00f2 ribaltare la situazione.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t get angry, and there will be no argument. Scegliendo la gentilezza<\/a>, you didn\u2019t act in a toxic manner, and your day isn\u2019t ruined.<\/strong><\/p>\n

10. Aspettatevi gentilezza<\/h3>\n

Essere gentili con gli altri pu\u00f2 cambiare profondamente il vostro atteggiamento e le vostre relazioni. Ma sapevate che se prevedete sempre che anche gli altri saranno gentili con voi \u00e8 altrettanto potente?<\/strong><\/p>\n

When you offer kindness and assume that it will be returned, you won\u2019t see a reason to behave in a toxic manner. Date alle persone il beneficio del dubbio.<\/strong> Anche quando commettono degli errori, pensate che intendano essere gentili.<\/p>\n

La maggior parte delle persone giudica se stessa in base alle proprie intenzioni e gli altri in base agli effetti delle loro azioni.<\/strong> If you hurt someone and didn\u2019t mean it, you\u2019ve still hurt them. You can flip this idea and assume that when people do something you might not like, their intent wasn\u2019t to hurt you.<\/p>\n

L'ostilit\u00e0 e il giudizio sono alcuni segnali di un comportamento tossico. Scegliere di reagire con comprensione invece di dare per scontato che abbiano fatto qualcosa di proposito vi d\u00e0 la possibilit\u00e0 di conoscerli meglio e di approfondire il vostro rapporto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

11. Essere pi\u00f9 vulnerabili<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Le persone tossiche sono spesso guidate dal loro ego. Siate onesti riguardo ai vostri sentimenti, invece di rifiutarvi di ammettere qualcosa che percepite come una debolezza.<\/strong> Don\u2019t insist on maintaining a picture of how you should act or be. Instead, be sincere and show who you really are.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re used to wearing a mask, learning how to mostra la vulnerabilit\u00e0<\/a> sar\u00e0 difficile ma alla fine cambier\u00e0 la vita.<\/strong> To stop being toxic, remember that continuing to pretend that you\u2019re something you\u2019re not will make it impossible to develop truly deep relationships.<\/p>\n

Mettere il proprio ego al primo posto \u00e8 tossico perch\u00e9 impedisce di crescere e svilupparsi. Mostrate alle persone i vostri difetti invece di nasconderli a tutti i costi.<\/strong> Of course, it\u2019s okay to keep an appropriate distance with co-workers, but when spending time with friends, family members, or anyone else you\u2019re close to, don\u2019t hide.<\/p>\n

12. Comunicare meglio<\/h3>\n

One of the signs of a toxic person is that they don\u2019t communicate in a straightforward manner. It\u2019s vital that you learn healthy communication if you want to stop being toxic.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Essere diretto, onesto e disposto al compromesso<\/strong> \u00e8 la differenza tra relazioni sane e malsane. La comunicazione tossica \u00e8 l'opposto di questo. Se vi impegnate ad affrontare i vostri tratti tossici, gestire i problemi di comunicazione diventer\u00e0 pi\u00f9 facile.<\/p>\n

As long as you\u2019re not trying to one-up your conversation partner and instead connect with them, you can avoid toxic communication, such as:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Blame.<\/h4>\n

Instead of rushing to blame the other person for your feelings, calmly explain why you feel a certain way. If something bothers you in the other person\u2019s behavior, let them know without making them feel guilty about it. Scegliete di capire invece di biasimare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2022 Not listening.<\/h4>\n

When you\u2019re communicating with someone, pay attention to them and them only. Don\u2019t allow your mind to wander, and don\u2019t let yourself be distracted. If you\u2019re only waiting on your turn to speak instead of actually listening to what they\u2019re saying, you\u2019re not giving the other person a chance to have their turn.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Being defensive.<\/h4>\n

Questo \u00e8 legato al fatto di non essere in grado di assumersi le proprie responsabilit\u00e0. Se smettete di ascoltare e vi mettete sulla difensiva quando qualcuno parla delle vostre azioni, significa che vedete i loro commenti come una minaccia.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Sarcasm.<\/h4>\n

Il sarcasmo che ha lo scopo di prendere in giro \u00e8 una forma di abuso emotivo. Avoid using it unless it\u2019s clear to everyone that it\u2019s good-natured and its purpose isn\u2019t to hurt anyone.<\/strong> Even if you don\u2019t use sarcasm in a malicious way, avoid it because some people take things at face value. It can be especially harmful on social media, where the tone is difficult to determine.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Gaslighting.<\/h4>\n

Il gaslighting \u00e8 una tecnica di manipolazione tossica<\/a> that you might not even be aware you\u2019re using. Lo scopo del gaslighting \u00e8 stabilire il controllo facendo s\u00ec che qualcuno metta in discussione il proprio giudizio.<\/strong> Some behaviors that you might not even realize count as gaslighting are talking about the other person\u2019s past mistakes to make your point, playing the victim, or comparing them to someone else.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Passive-aggressive behavior.<\/h4>\n

Non dire ci\u00f2 che si intende, il trattamento del silenzio e l'ostruzionismo sono tutti esempi di comportamenti comunicativi passivi-aggressivi. Le persone di solito fanno questo perch\u00e9 pensano che l'altra persona dovrebbe gi\u00e0 sapere come si sente senza che glielo si dica.<\/strong>, che \u00e8 sempre un errore di comunicazione.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Not admitting your mistakes.<\/h4>\n

Apologize quickly and sincerely when you\u2019ve done something wrong. This is the best way to deal with whatever happened and put it behind you. Some people would rather break up than apologize, putting their egos ahead of everything else, which is a clear example of toxic behavior.<\/p>\n

13. Praticare la consapevolezza<\/h3>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Il comportamento tossico raggiunge spesso l'apice nella foga del momento, quando you become overwhelmed with anger and can\u2019t stop yourself from acting in a way you know you\u2019ll regret as soon as it\u2019s over.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Regolarmente praticare la consapevolezza<\/a> will help you recognize your negative thoughts and become aware of what you\u2019re doing even when you\u2019re feeling upset. Se volete fermare il vostro comportamento tossico, la mindfulness pu\u00f2 essere utile per insegnarvi a concentrarvi sul momento presente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mindfulness significa essere pienamente presenti e consapevoli dei propri sentimenti e delle proprie azioni, invece di essere provocati da ci\u00f2 che accade intorno a noi. Pi\u00f9 ci si esercita, pi\u00f9 diventa facile. Diventare capaci di rimanere nel momento aiuta a ridurre notevolmente i comportamenti tossici causati dalla rabbia.<\/p>\n

Being aware of your surroundings and your reactions, as well as being able to handle them, will greatly reduce toxic reactions that come up when you\u2019re overwhelmed.<\/strong> When you observe the moment instead of letting yourself explode, you\u2019ll be able to control your reactions.<\/p>\n

In sintesi<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019ve decided to find out how to stop being toxic, it means you\u2019re aware of your behavior. Questo \u00e8 un ottimo segno della vostra volont\u00e0 di cambiare e quando le persone vogliono qualcosa, si sforzano di ottenerla.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Per interrompere il vostro comportamento tossico, iniziate a capire quali sono le sue cause. Per la maggior parte delle persone, it\u2019s causati da insicurezze<\/a> e infelicit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Once you begin to deal with this and focus on your wellness, you\u2019ll be able to consciously stop yourself from being toxic in your daily life.<\/p>\n

Questo processo non \u00e8 affatto semplice, ma if you persevere and keep working on being kinder to yourself and to others, you\u2019ll develop healthy habits that will help you form healthy relationships.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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