{"id":156666,"date":"2022-08-03T20:41:19","date_gmt":"2022-08-03T20:41:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156666"},"modified":"2022-08-12T16:45:00","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T16:45:00","slug":"bandiere-rosse-dei-social-media-nelle-relazioni","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/bandiere-rosse-dei-social-media-nelle-relazioni\/","title":{"rendered":"35 bandiere rosse dei social media nelle relazioni di coppia da cui stare attenti"},"content":{"rendered":"

The good thing about social media is that it allows insight into people in your life you wouldn\u2019t have otherwise. Alcune persone si comportano in modo diverso sui social media rispetto alla vita reale perch\u00e9 separano il loro personaggio online dalla loro vita reale.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In romantic relationships, this can uncover some things that will make you question your choice of significant other. If they post things they wouldn\u2019t say to someone directly, or if they act in a way that they don\u2019t offline, these are social media red flags in relationships.<\/p>\n

Qualsiasi coach di relazioni direbbe che questo pu\u00f2 causare problemi, perch\u00e9 tutto ci\u00f2 che viene pubblicato online non \u00e8 mai veramente sparito.<\/strong> Even if something is deleted, there’s always some evidence somewhere that can lead to discovering a side of your partner that you can\u2019t accept.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what you should be watching out for.<\/p>\n

Bandiere rosse dei social media nelle relazioni<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

The best relationship advice is that you should always be honest with your significant other \u2013 if your partner is doing sketchy things on social media, it\u2019s the exact opposite of that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If instead of dealing with your problems in private, they\u2019re showing the whole world what\u2019s going on or if they\u2019re flirting with other people hoping you won\u2019t see, you might have a problem.<\/p>\n

Cercate queste bandiere rosse dei social media nelle relazioni per sapere a che punto siete.<\/p>\n

1. They’re always online<\/h3>\n

All of us probably spend too much time on social media, but if your partner is chronically online to a point where they get out of touch with reality, it\u2019s a definitive red flag. People who live like this have a completely warped worldview and forget what life among real people is like perch\u00e9 la maggior parte delle loro interazioni sono con persone essenzialmente anonime.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. They’re on social media a lot even when you\u2019re together<\/h3>\n

Constantly checking social media accounts even while you\u2019re spending time together could mean that they consider their feed more important than your relationship or have something going on that they prefer to being with you.<\/p>\n

Un altro motivo per controllare costantemente il telefono potrebbe essere la dipendenza dai social media:<\/strong> usare i social media per mettere da parte i problemi della vita reale e dimenticarli, invece di risolverli.<\/p>\n

3. Hanno pi\u00f9 account segreti<\/h3>\n

Alcune persone hanno pi\u00f9 account sulle piattaforme di social media perch\u00e9 li usano per scopi diversi, come ad esempio avere profili privati e aziendali, ma gli account segreti multipli sono una storia diversa. Di solito significa che hanno qualcosa da nascondere,<\/strong> and if it\u2019s your significant other hiding something from you, it\u2019s a definite cause of concern.<\/p>\n

4. Scatenano risse online o scrivono post sconclusionati<\/h3>\n

Most people get into an internet argument at some point, but if your partner has a habit of starting them, it\u2019s a red flag. People who enjoy online trolling and bullying aren\u2019t looking for constructive arguments, but personal satisfaction from defeating their opponent at any cost.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Scrivere post con lo scopo di adescare le persone \u00e8 forse ancora pi\u00f9 problematico perch\u00e9 dimostra la premeditazione e l'intenzione di turbare le persone.<\/p>\n

5. Ritwittano persone o post con cui non siete d'accordo<\/h3>\n

Il gradimento di un post che ti fa storcere il naso una volta pu\u00f2 essere trascurato, ma se il vostro partner ama e interagisce spesso con persone e post con cui non siete d'accordo, potrebbe essere una persona diversa da quella che pensavate che fosse<\/strong>. If these opinions are something they know you wouldn\u2019t approve of and they\u2019re hiding them from you on purpose, it indicates an even bigger problem.<\/p>\n

6. Pubblicano cose che contrastano con i vostri valori<\/h3>\n

Se il vostro partner crea post o adotta una personalit\u00e0 su Internet che si scontra direttamente con i vostri valori, si tratta di un serio segnale di allarme per la vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

Quando alcuni valori e convinzioni di una persona sono incompatibili, \u00e8 molto difficile avere una relazione sana.<\/strong> This especially applies if they don\u2019t express such opinions offline and you only learned about them from social media.<\/p>\n

7. I loro interessi sono discutibili<\/h3>\n

The internet is great when you want to explore and learn about things that interest you, but for the same reason it\u2019s also terrible. Unfortunately, it\u2019s easy to find groups centered around certain interests which are immediate major red flags, such as anything involving violence, hate and abuse. If you notice that your partner\u2019s online interests include some of these, be wary.<\/strong><\/p>\n

8. I loro stati e post sono per lo pi\u00f9 negativi<\/h3>\n

If their posts are mostly concerned with how much someone sucks or how much they hate something, it\u2019s a red flag that points to unhappiness with their own self. The danger of being excessively negative on the internet is that it tends to draw in people with similar opinions.<\/p>\n

Quando le persone che hanno atteggiamenti simili, pessimistici e ostili, si trovano in rete, tendono a creare un circuito di feedback.<\/strong> \u2013 they feed one another\u2019s ideas and escalate them.<\/p>\n

9. I loro post sono alla ricerca di attenzione<\/h3>\n

La ricerca di attenzione \u00e8 un tratto fondamentale dei narcisisti. Because of their low self-esteem, they need constant external validation, and there\u2019s no better place to get it than on social media, which thrives on glorifying an image.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If your partner is presenting themselves in an insincere way designed to give them a certain type of attention, pay attention to other possible signs that you\u2019re dealing with a narcissist.<\/p>\n

10. Si vantano di aver fatto qualcosa di altruistico<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Being kind should be its own reward, so if your partner does seemingly selfless things only to get recognition and praise, it\u2019s a sign of a less-than-genuine person. This shows that they\u2019re calculated and cold and that they don\u2019t really care about the person or the cause they appear to support, but they\u2019re actually using them. Kindness for personal gain isn\u2019t kindness at all<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

11. Non pubblicano mai nulla su di voi<\/h3>\n

You never feature on your significant other\u2019s social media, but is there a reason to worry? Whether or not it\u2019s a cause for concern depends on the content of their account. If they mostly repost things they find interesting or share links and memes, then it\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n

Se pubblicano dettagli sulla loro vita sui social media e hanno condiviso in particolare le loro precedenti relazioni, allora la vostra assenza potrebbe essere un problema<\/strong> unless you\u2019ve specifically decided to have a relazione privata<\/a>.<\/p>\n

12. They don’t tag you in pics<\/h3>\n

Usually the person you\u2019re in a relationship with wants to show you off to the world and let everyone know that you\u2019re together. However, this is another issue that depends on the context and how important it is for the both of you.<\/p>\n

As long as you\u2019re both on the same page when it comes to the visibility of your relationship online, you\u2019re good, but if you\u2019re tagging them and they\u2019re not tagging you, it may be a warning sign.<\/strong><\/p>\n

13. Comunicano attivamente con un ex<\/h3>\n

Staying friends with an ex after a breakup is possible for some people, but whether or not that\u2019s all there is isn\u2019t the issue here: la vera domanda \u00e8 cosa ne pensi del fatto che il tuo partner si tenga in contatto con il suo ex.<\/strong> If you\u2019re okay with it, then this isn\u2019t a red flag. On the other hand, if they\u2019re doing it even though you dislike it or even behind your back, it\u2019s something to watch out for.<\/p>\n

14. Scrivono post cattivi su un ex<\/h3>\n

Ending a bad relationship is a relief, but holding a grudge and clinging to hard feelings even after starting a new one isn\u2019t a good sign. They might have moved on too soon \u2013 or haven\u2019t really moved on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s also a peek into your future: if they\u2019re still angry at an ex after enough time has passed that they\u2019re in a new relationship with you, what will it mean if you ever break up with each other?<\/p>\n

15. They\u2019re stalking an ex<\/h3>\n

Following what their ex is up to on social media is a definitive red flag. This means that your partner isn\u2019t over their ex, no matter how much they might be trying to convince you and themselves of it. If they didn\u2019t care about their ex any more, they wouldn\u2019t be interested in what\u2019s going on in their lives.<\/strong><\/p>\n

16. Sembra che stiano tenendo aperte le loro opzioni<\/h3>\n

If your partner is keeping dating apps installed and even still talks to people they meet, they\u2019re looking to replace you with a better option.<\/p>\n

Lo scopo di incontri online<\/a> \u00e8 lo stesso degli appuntamenti normali, per incontrare qualcuno con cui avere una relazione, quindi le persone smettono di cercare quando incontrano una persona che gli piace. If your partner is still looking, it means that they\u2019re not taking your relationship seriously.<\/strong><\/p>\n

17. Their social media activity hints that they’re into someone else<\/h3>\n

If your partner is invested in another person and their posts more than others, it could be a hint that they\u2019re interested in them. Is there someone they follow and religiously keep up with? Someone whose every post gets a like and a comment, and those comments often have a flirty note? Your significant other might already be a lost cause.<\/p>\n

18. Their relationship status isn’t “in a relationship”<\/h3>\n

They don\u2019t have to explicitly state on their profile that they\u2019re in a relationship if that\u2019s not something that matters to the both of you, but if they\u2019re pretending that they\u2019re single, it\u2019s a red flag for sure.<\/strong> There\u2019s a difference between staying private and hiding.<\/p>\n

19. Lasciano e ricevono commenti flirtanti<\/h3>\n

If their comments consist of ??\ufe0f?\ufe0f?\ufe0f emojis and flirty or sexual comments, it might be harmless fun, but usually it isn\u2019t. It\u2019s one thing to post something like this under a picture of a sexy celebrity or in a clearly joking manner, but se flirtano con le stesse persone<\/a> repeatedly and seriously, they\u2019re being disrespectful to you at best and ready to cheat at worst.<\/strong><\/p>\n

20. They don’t follow you or let you follow them<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Some couples like to keep certain parts of their lives separate, which is healthy because it\u2019s necessary to stay your own person in a relationship.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, insistence on keeping your online life separate is a definite red flag unless it\u2019s something you mutually agreed on.<\/strong> If your significant other doesn\u2019t want you to see what they\u2019re up to or isn\u2019t interested in the things you post, it usually means they have something to hide.<\/p>\n

21. They’re hiding your relationship from people who know them<\/h3>\n

Not telling their family members or friends that you\u2019re together is a symptom of toxic behavior. This is different from being in a private relationship in which you\u2019re not hiding each other, but simply mantenere la calma<\/a>. Non far sapere ai propri cari di voi \u00e8 un segnale di allarme<\/strong> that your partner doesn\u2019t have good intentions when it comes to you.<\/p>\n

22. You find out what they’ve been up to from their social media<\/h3>\n

Apprendere che il vostro partner \u00e8 in viaggio da una foto su Instagram \u00e8 scioccante. Quando il vostro partner pubblica post sulla sua vita sui social media e voi lo scoprite solo in quel momento, avete sicuramente dei problemi di relazione. Potrebbe essere un segno che il vostro partner si sta ritirando dalla relazione e sta cercando di creare distanza da voi.<\/p>\n

23. Le loro foto suggeriscono un problema di alcolismo o di droga<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve been dating someone for a while but you still don\u2019t know them that well, noticing that all of their posts include pictures or stories of drinking or doing drugs is a warning sign that they could have a problem. Talking to them about it might prove difficult, so be gentle when you decide to breach this subject.<\/p>\n

24. Spesso postano lasciandovi in lettura<\/h3>\n

If you text them and they don\u2019t reply, but you see that they\u2019re active on social media, they can\u2019t be bothered to talk to you or they don\u2019t know how to reply. Either way, they\u2019re choosing not to reply but aren\u2019t trying to hide that they\u2019ve seen your message.<\/strong> Unless you have a relationship in which you don\u2019t insist on immediate replies, it\u2019s likely a sign that they\u2019re losing interest.<\/p>\n

25. I loro conti sono privati<\/h3>\n

La trasparenza in una relazione \u00e8 necessaria per mantenerla sana. If your partner uses an excuse of having a private account, you can\u2019t help but wonder why the secrecy<\/strong>. There\u2019s something that immediately says shady about having a private account that\u2019s kept locked even from their significant other.<\/p>\n

26. Li cogliete in una menzogna su una foto con tag<\/h3>\n

Catching your significant other somewhere where they weren\u2019t supposed to be because they were tagged in a photo or doing something they swore they weren\u2019t doing is a red flag. Mentire in una relazione \u00e8 sia un sintomo di problemi che porta ad altri problemi.<\/strong>. Confronting your partner if they don\u2019t admit that they were lying on their own has a chance of turning into an argument.<\/p>\n

27. Seguono molti account con contenuti sexy<\/h3>\n

If your partner is following one or two accounts that post sexy content, it\u2019s probably harmless. However, there\u2019s a certain limit to the number of accounts where it stops being fun and could be a symptom of a problem.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quando il vostro interlocutore ha un intero feed che consiste solo di persone che trovano attraenti<\/a>, it\u2019s a red flag to watch out for.<\/p>\n

28. Apprezzano o commentano immagini inappropriate<\/h3>\n

Liking or commenting on someone\u2019s overly sexualized pictures or nude selfies then passing it off as not a big deal is a red flag, especially if done repeatedly.<\/p>\n

Liking many photos posted by the same person means that they\u2019re trying to establish some kind of contact with them. Liking pictures posted by many people is un segno che il vostro interlocutore sta pescando qualsiasi cosa possa abboccare.<\/strong><\/p>\n

29. Pubblicano dettagli sulla vostra relazione<\/h3>\n

Partners in a healthy relationship should be focused on each other, instead of other people\u2019s impression of how things are going between them. The temptation to let everyone know that you\u2019re a part of a happy couple is understandable, but the decision has to come from both sides. Otherwise, tenere la vostra relazione lontana dai social media.<\/a><\/p>\n

When one of you shares intimate details of your relationship with the world by posting them online without the other person\u2019s approval, it\u2019s a breach of trust and privacy.<\/p>\n

30. Parlano dei vostri problemi di coppia sui social media<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in a serious relationship, the details should stay only between the people who are involved. Your problems are nobody else\u2019s business because nobody else can understand it the way you do.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Talking to a close friend who\u2019s known the both of you for a while is helpful, but airing your private matters where anyone has access is a mistake. Your partner talking to their followers about your personal problems is a red flag.<\/p>\n

31. They’re comparing your relationship to what they see online<\/h3>\n

Coppie insicure<\/a> sono ossessionati dal presentare una certa immagine online. Si tratta di una selezione altamente abbellita e curata di momenti della loro vita che non ha nulla a che fare con la realt\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Purtroppo, Queste fantasie possono sembrare abbastanza reali a chi \u00e8 insoddisfatto della propria vita.<\/strong> If your significant other is comparing your relationship with a fictional one like this, something isn\u2019t working.<\/p>\n

32. They’re stalking you<\/h3>\n

This might be hard to notice because if your significant other is following your activity, they can easily do it anonymously and without showing any signs that they\u2019re doing it. Lo stalking sui social media comprende la conoscenza di tutti i vostri account e l'attenzione a tutto ci\u00f2 che postate, mettete like o commentate.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Having any kind of page on the internet means that you\u2019re aware that people will look at it, but following your every move is a red flag.<\/p>\n

33. Vogliono controllare il vostro conto o la vostra attivit\u00e0<\/h3>\n

An abusive relationship isn\u2019t only one which involves physical abuse. Controllo del comportamento<\/a> \u00e8 uno dei segni di abuso emotivo, quindi if your partner is trying to control what you\u2019re doing online, it could be just the first step in their abusive behavior.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If they\u2019re acting in a similar way in real life as well, take precautions and ask for help if you\u2019re concerned about your safety.<\/p>\n

34. They’re checking your followers list<\/h3>\n

Another sign of manipulative behavior is if your partner demands to know who you\u2019re in touch with. Checking who follows you and whom you follow is out of line.<\/p>\n

Jealous behavior like this is a sign that your partner doesn\u2019t trust you and wants to control you and your life.<\/strong> Unless you\u2019ve betrayed them in the past and they\u2019re still learning to trust you again, it says more about your significant other than about your relationship.<\/p>\n

35. They ask what you’re doing on your phone or snoop on their own<\/h3>\n

Curiosity is fine, but nosiness isn\u2019t. Your partner sometimes casually asking you about what you\u2019re looking at on your phone when you laugh at something, is normal, always wanting to know who you\u2019re talking to and what about, is controlling.<\/p>\n

Looking through your phone is even worse, especially if they don\u2019t have your permission. It can be a symptom of a toxic relationship.<\/p>\n

In sintesi<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Ci sono alcune cose che gli esperti di relazioni chiamano \"deal-breaker\" in una relazione: sono comportamenti o tratti che si rifiutano categoricamente di condividere, rendendo impossibile una relazione con qualcuno.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Because your deal-breakers can be something so fundamentally obvious to you, you might never state them to your partner, assuming they think the same way. This is why seeing a different side of the person you\u2019re with can sometimes make you realize that they aren\u2019t who you believed they were.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Riconoscere le bandiere rosse dei social media nelle relazioni di coppia pu\u00f2 essere utile per individuare eventuali problemi relazionali e decidere cosa fare prima che si aggravino e danneggino la vostra salute mentale e il vostro benessere.<\/p>\n

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