{"id":156811,"date":"2022-08-09T14:58:05","date_gmt":"2022-08-09T14:58:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=156811"},"modified":"2022-12-05T16:45:31","modified_gmt":"2022-12-05T16:45:31","slug":"dice-che-ha-bisogno-di-tempo-quanto-devo-aspettare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/dice-che-ha-bisogno-di-tempo-quanto-devo-aspettare\/","title":{"rendered":"Dice che ha bisogno di tempo, quanto devo aspettare?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Prima di tutto: non c'\u00e8 bisogno di preoccuparsi e di essere ansiosi se al momento vi trovate in una situazione di \"bisogno di spazio\" con la vostra ragazza.<\/p>\n

The probability that it means the end of the relationship is low \u2013 it\u2019s more likely that she\u2019s actually trying to make your relationship work<\/b> by giving the both of you a chance to think about it. That, or she\u2019s going through some personal stuff.<\/p>\n

The chances of a breakup are low, but not zero, so if you had done something that could cause her to consider a breakup, you\u2019d probably already have a pretty good idea of what’s going on. In that case, Se volete salvare la vostra relazione, iniziate a lavorare sulle vostre scuse, e fatelo sul serio.<\/b><\/p>\n

So, if you hadn\u2019t messed up in some way, you\u2019re thinking, \u201cIf she says she needs time, how long should I wait before contacting my girlfriend?\u201d Truthfully, you should wait as long as you\u2019re willing to wait for her.<\/b><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see what that means, how to know what\u2019s on her mind and what you should do.<\/p>\n

Dice che ha bisogno di tempo, quanto devo aspettare?<\/h2>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

Quando la vostra ragazza vi dice che ha bisogno di un po' di spazio, vi trovate inevitabilmente di fronte a un dilemma: fate come dice lei e rispettate la sua volont\u00e0 di stare lontano o le dimostrate che ci tenete contattandola?<\/p>\n

Si dovrebbe sempre scegliere la prima opzione.<\/b><\/p>\n

If she\u2019s honest about needing space, she\u2019ll appreciate that you\u2019re taking her wishes seriously instead of disrespecting her boundaries. If she\u2019s testing you to see if you\u2019ll fight for her in some imaginary struggle, you\u2019re refusing to play her games and base your relationship on deception.<\/p>\n

When you decide to give her the space she needs, you\u2019re now in another predicament. \u201cShe says she needs time. How long should I wait?\u201d you\u2019re probably thinking. Questo <\/b>tipo di<\/i><\/b> ha una risposta chiara: da una settimana a un mese.<\/b><\/p>\n

She might contact you sooner, and it\u2019s possible that she might need longer than a month, but the longer it takes, the more likely it is that she doesn\u2019t want to stay in the relationship. But it\u2019s \u2018kind of\u2019 because the answer to this question still depends on a number of factors which only you know.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u2022 How new is the relationship? If you\u2019ve been together for a while, you might be able to figure out what she wants.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Have you been having relationship problems? What happened before she asked for time?<\/p>\n

\u2022 How strong is your connessione emotiva<\/a>? Siete onesti e sinceri l'uno con l'altro?<\/p>\n

\u2022 How do you feel about her and do you know how she feels about you? Don\u2019t look for a solution by thinking in terms of what women want, but consider what lei<\/i> vuole.<\/p>\n

\u2022 How much do you trust her? Do you believe that she’ll come back?<\/p>\n

\u2022 Did you do anything to hurt her?<\/p>\n

Riflettete attentamente su queste domande, poi aspettate il tempo che ritenete necessario.<\/b><\/p>\n

Taking some time for yourself isn\u2019t a bad thing. Un po' di spazio \u00e8 salutare in una relazione<\/b>Ma quando lei chiede la distanza, la cosa ti spaventa perch\u00e9 ti fa temere che voglia lasciarti.<\/p>\n

When she talks to you about needing time, it\u2019s a good idea to ask her how much time she needs and what does <\/b>spazio medio<\/b> a lei.<\/b> Lei e voi potreste avere idee diverse su cosa significhi: forse intende vedersi meno o non vedersi affatto.<\/p>\n

Se volete un relazione sana<\/a>, you\u2019ll take her wishes into account. Don’t make her explain why, but ask her how she wants you to deal with it. Maybe your girlfriend wants occasional contact, maybe she wants none.<\/p>\n

Lasciatele il tempo di occuparsi di ci\u00f2 di cui ha bisogno e poi, dopo il periodo di tempo che ha detto di volere, contattatela. If she still needs time, don\u2019t try to pressure her, but give her the additional time she needs.<\/b><\/p>\n

Cosa intende quando dice che ha bisogno di tempo?<\/h2>\n

Cercare di capire cosa non \u00e8 stato detto pu\u00f2 facilmente complicare la vostra vita di coppia. Quando la tua ragazza dice che ha bisogno di tempo, cosa intende?<\/b> Of course, the best way to find out is through honest communication, but if she\u2019s not ready to talk about it, you\u2019re left with worry.<\/p>\n

Esaminate questo elenco di possibili motivi per cui potrebbe <\/b>bisogno di tempo<\/b> pensare a come \u00e8 la vostra relazione. <\/b>You\u2019ll be able to find a lot of clues for what the real answer is if you closely think about your particular circumstances.<\/p>\n

1. Ha bisogno di tempo per se stessa<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Sometimes when she says she needs alone time, she just needs some alone time and it has nothing to do with you or anyone else. When she needs space because she\u2019s busy, has a lot on her plate or she\u2019s simply tired, sometimes that’s all there is to it. There\u2019s no need to complicate the situation.<\/b><\/p>\n

2. Ha problemi personali non legati a voi<\/h3>\n

Potrebbe avere problemi con la famiglia, qualcosa sul lavoro o lottare con problemi di salute mentale, quindi ha bisogno di tempo per affrontarli. There\u2019s no need to be hurt that she isn\u2019t discussing these things with you<\/b> \u2013 maybe her way of working through her problems is that she needs to completely focus on them, so anyone\u2019s help might be unwelcome.<\/p>\n

3. Ha bisogno di tempo lontano da voi<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve been coming on too strong, she might be overwhelmed by you. If you spend too much time together, she might need time to feel like an individual instead of always being a part of a couple. Ha bisogno di riacquistare un po' di indipendenza.<\/b><\/p>\n

It might be tempting to take this to heart and get angry or offended, but accepting each other\u2019s boundaries is part of a healthy relationship. Right now she\u2019s setting hers, so by respecting them, you\u2019re creating a basis of a successful relationship.<\/p>\n

4. She thinks you’re moving too fast<\/h3>\n

Examine your behavior. Have you placed responsibility for your feelings on her? Did you say \u2018I love you\u2019 after you\u2019ve been dating for a month? Are you looking at her for validation instead of having confidence in your self-worth?<\/p>\n

Quando qualcuno \u00e8 bisognoso e insicuro<\/b><\/a>tendono ad affezionarsi troppo rapidamente ai loro partner romantici.<\/b> You need to think hard about your behavior to figure out if you\u2019ve been acting that way. If you have, use the time apart to start working on your self-esteem.<\/p>\n

5. She’s angry with you<\/h3>\n

Have you done something and when you tried to ask her to forgive you, all she said was \u201cI need space?\u201d If she\u2019s angry with you, don\u2019t just wait for her to forgive you and come back. Dovete riflettere sulle vostre azioni, pensare a come l'avete ferita, decidere <\/b>come farsi perdonare<\/b><\/a> e preparare le scuse.<\/b><\/p>\n

When you apologize, you must mean it and accept responsibility for what you\u2019ve done. You must be prepared to make changes.<\/p>\n

6. She thinks it’s you who needs time<\/h3>\n

Dicendole che ha bisogno di tempo, potrebbe in realt\u00e0 concederti del tempo perch\u00e9 pensa che tu abbia bisogno di lavorare su alcune cose. Potreste essere bloccati da una ex, potreste avere problemi a impegnarvi, potreste fare ripetutamente cose che lei vi chiede di non fare.<\/p>\n

Think about what led to her asking for space \u2013 probabilmente vi ha gi\u00e0 detto qual era il problema.<\/b><\/p>\n

7. She doesn’t know how to talk to you<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

She might have a problem she doesn\u2019t know how to talk about or she\u2019s afraid of how you might react. If you don\u2019t know come comunicare efficacemente <\/a>con l'altro, pu\u00f2 causare molti problemi nella vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

Entrambi dovete imparare a parlarvi. <\/b>It starts by listening and looking to understand each other without judgment. Let her know that you\u2019re willing to listen.<\/p>\n

8. She doesn’t want a serious relationship<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve only been dating for a while and you made it clear you want something serious, she might need time to think about it. Commitment is a big step which shouldn\u2019t be taken lightly.<\/b><\/p>\n

It might be too soon or she\u2019s not looking for a serious relationship right now, so it\u2019s better to take a step back to make sure you\u2019re on the same page. If your values aren\u2019t the same, there\u2019s a chance that things won\u2019t work out, so don\u2019t uninstall your online dating apps just yet.<\/p>\n

9. She’s unsure of her feelings<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s perfectly normal to have doubts about your feelings. Realizing how you feel about someone is sometimes easier when you\u2019re apart. If she\u2019s not sure about how she feels about you and your relationship, she made the decision to take some time and think about it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t push and make her decide right away.<\/b> Datele la possibilit\u00e0 di dare un senso ai suoi sentimenti e di capire cosa vuole veramente.<\/p>\n

10. She’s unhappy in your relationship<\/h3>\n

Come trattate la vostra ragazza? Siate onesti con voi stessi e pensate se le date regolarmente affetto, se le dimostrate che la apprezzate e se vi impegnate per far funzionare la vostra relazione.<\/p>\n

If she thinks you’ve been taking her for granted or that you don\u2019t listen to her, she\u2019s <\/b>infelice nella sua relazione<\/b><\/a> e deve fare un passo indietro. <\/b>Questa \u00e8 la tua occasione per impegnarti a fare dei cambiamenti se vuoi tenerla.<\/p>\n

11. Vuole decidere se la vostra relazione ne vale la pena.<\/h3>\n

Relationships have their ups and downs. At the end of the day, it\u2019s important that there are more good than bad things about it because otherwise, what\u2019s the point? Se la vostra relazione vi rende infelici e non vi rende felici, perch\u00e9 restare?<\/b><\/p>\n

Se la vostra ragazza sta cercando di capire cosa prova per la vostra relazione, ha bisogno di tempo per soppesare i pro e i contro e confrontarsi con se stessa.<\/p>\n

12. She’s interested in someone else<\/h3>\n

Your girlfriend might be interested in someone else, but if that option isn\u2019t secure, she\u2019s keeping you on the hook in case things don\u2019t work out with them.<\/p>\n

Have you ever noticed that she\u2019s showing interest in someone else, such as talking to them online a lot or talking about them like she can\u2019t help herself but bring them up? If you figure out for sure that you’re just a fallback for her, it\u2019s best to move on.<\/b><\/p>\n

13. She’s playing games<\/h3>\n

She might be testing you or trying to gain the upper hand in the relationship. If she\u2019s manipulative and does things to ensure that she has all the power, asking for space might be one of her tactics.<\/p>\n

Someone like this isn\u2019t really interested in you, only in what you can give them.<\/b> Se she\u2019s playing games<\/a> with you, she doesn\u2019t take you seriously, so think honestly about her behavior so far and you\u2019ll be able to tell if she has feelings for you or if she\u2019s just using you.<\/p>\n

14. She’s thinking of ending things<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Maybe she\u2019s not 100% sure that she wants to break up, but she\u2019s considering it, so she might be taking time to think about it and see what it\u2019s like to be on her own. Se pensate alla vostra relazione, potreste trovare alcuni indizi che indicano che questo sta accadendo.<\/b><\/p>\n

Le cose sono state difficili? \u00c8 chiaramente infelice? \u00c8 stata distante anche prima di chiedere tempo? Questi potrebbero essere segnali del fatto che vuole uscire dalla relazione.<\/p>\n

15. She’s thinks she’s letting you down gently<\/h3>\n

Purtroppo, a volte il bisogno di tempo \u00e8 un codice per lasciarvi senza dirlo. Invece di dirvi che vuole <\/b>rottura<\/b>, she\u2019s letting things fade away. <\/b>The reason she\u2019s doing it might be because she doesn\u2019t want to hurt your feelings, or she\u2019s being cowardly and letting time do what she should do herself.<\/p>\n

RELATIVO: <\/b>8 modi per dare spazio a qualcuno e mantenerlo al vostro fianco<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

Cosa fare quando una ragazza dice di aver bisogno di tempo per pensare?<\/h2>\n

I seguenti consigli sulle relazioni si applicano a qualsiasi situazione: una relazione di lunga durata, una relazione a distanza o una nuova relazione. Your best bet for a positive outcome is if you show her care, honesty and respect, and don\u2019t try to force anything.<\/b><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll achieve that by following these tips.<\/p>\n

1. Datele tempo e spazio<\/h3>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

If your girlfriend asks you to give her space, then you should give her space. If you refuse, thinking that you must keep her close, you\u2019ll make her uncomfortable and push her away for sure. By respecting her wishes, you\u2019re showing that you respect <\/b>lei<\/i><\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Chiedetele di dirvi di quanto tempo pensa di aver bisogno e di quanto spazio ha bisogno, ma don\u2019t interrogate her<\/b>, make her explain why and give you any definite answers because she doesn\u2019t have them either.<\/p>\n

2. Don’t pressure her<\/h3>\n

Quindi hai detto ok e hai accettato di lasciarla in pace per un po' di tempo. Even though you want to make things better and get her to spend time with you again, don\u2019t try to force it. <\/b>If she told you that it\u2019s okay to contact her, you don\u2019t have to follow the \u2018no contact rule\u2019.<\/p>\n

You can keep in touch, but don\u2019t call and text her all the time. Don\u2019t be desperate<\/b><\/a> e pregarla di farla finita.<\/b> Don’t try to impress her so that she\u2019ll want to come back. If she’s not ready for a relationship<\/a>, trying to make her change her mind, guilt-trip her or tell you when she\u2019ll be done taking her time, you\u2019re only prolonging it<\/p>\n

3. Don’t think of it as a breakup<\/h3>\n

If this is the first time you\u2019ve been in this situation, you might be worried that this is really a breakup or that it\u2019s inevitable. Don\u2019t get angry and make any rash decisions. <\/b>C'\u00e8 qualche possibilit\u00e0 che lo sia, ma prima di decidere di pensare a lei come a una tua ex, pensa se hai motivo di crederlo.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 successo qualcosa o hai fatto qualcosa che le ha fatto desiderare di lasciarti? If you can\u2019t think of anything, then give her the benefit of the doubt. <\/b>If you trust her, trust what she\u2019s saying. If you don\u2019t trust her, think about why that is and what you can do to change it. Use this time wisely.<\/p>\n

4. Riflettere sulla propria relazione<\/h3>\n

A meno che non abbia bisogno di tempo per lavorare su questioni personali, questa situazione ha a che fare con la vostra relazione. Tempo e spazio<\/b> non far\u00e0 magicamente sparire i vostri problemi,<\/b> ma pu\u00f2 dare a entrambi la possibilit\u00e0 di riflettere su voi stessi, sui vostri problemi e su come avete contribuito a crearli.<\/p>\n

Dovete partecipare alla ricerca di soluzioni ai vostri problemi esaminando con onest\u00e0 come \u00e8 la vostra relazione e come potete migliorarla<\/b>. Unless you openly admit to yourself what your role in your relationship problems is in the first place, you can\u2019t figure out what doesn\u2019t work and how to fix it.<\/p>\n

5. Lavorare su se stessi<\/h3>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

While she\u2019s taking her time, you shouldn\u2019t sit around waiting. Instead, make an effort to diventare una versione migliore di se stessi<\/a>. Anche se potrebbe essere impossibile subire una trasformazione che cambia la vita in un periodo di tempo cos\u00ec breve, si pu\u00f2 comunque ottenere molto.<\/p>\n

Cercate di individuare gli aspetti di voi stessi che volete migliorare e imparate ad avvicinarvi a ci\u00f2 che volete essere. <\/b>This doesn\u2019t have to be related to your relationship.<\/p>\n

For example, if you want to be more confident, learn how you can do it by watching videos on a YouTube channel or reading articles and books. Doing this won\u2019t turn you into someone perfectly confident overnight, but vi fornir\u00e0 l'ispirazione e gli strumenti necessari<\/b>. Ora non vi resta che impegnarvi e continuare a farlo.<\/p>\n

6. Trascorrere del tempo con altre persone<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019re used to spending time with your girlfriend, you could get lonely if you suddenly have a lot of time for yourself. Sfruttate il tempo che vi separa dalla vostra ragazza per riallacciare i rapporti con le persone della vostra vita.<\/b><\/p>\n

Invece di crogiolarsi nell'autocommiserazione, chiamate il vostro migliore amico e pensate a qualcosa di divertente da fare. Visitare i familiari e uscire con gli amici will help you get out of your head and stop worrying about what\u2019s going on.<\/b><\/p>\n

7. Don’t stalk her<\/h3>\n

It\u2019s normal that you follow your girlfriend on social media and there\u2019s no need for this to change, but don\u2019t check up on her. There\u2019s no need to ignore it when she updates, but don\u2019t comment and like her posts. Don\u2019t follow her around <\/b>social media<\/b>controllando la sua attivit\u00e0 e monitorando le persone con cui interagisce.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t show up in places you know she\u2019s going to be and try to make it seem like you ran into her by chance. The more you try to push her, the more she\u2019ll withdraw. <\/b>By keeping a close eye on her, you\u2019re only giving yourself anxiety without achieving anything with her.<\/p>\n

8. Rimanere fedeli<\/h3>\n

Se aprite Tinder alla ricerca di un appuntamento nel momento in cui la vostra ragazza vi chiede spazio, dovreste riconsiderare la vostra relazione con lei. Maybe this is an opportunity to change your habits and get out of the relationship if you\u2019re not happy.<\/b><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you know you want to be with her, then make sure that your actions are in line with your wishes. It\u2019s normal to be upset and miss her, but you must not let your feelings do something you might regret. Stay loyal to her in every way so that when you\u2019re reunited, you don\u2019t have anything to hide.<\/b><\/p>\n

9. Essere un partner migliore quando torna<\/h3>\n

First of all, you should be prepared to have an open conversation with her. Talk about the reasons she needed space if they\u2019re related to you or your relationship, share what you\u2019ve figured out and how you both plan to go on.<\/b><\/p>\n

If her reason for taking time was personal, offer to listen if she wants to talk about it. Listen to her concerns and commit to improving your relationship. If she was feeling bad because of your actions, make sure you\u2019re serious about not doing it again.<\/p>\n

Tell her of any issues you might have, but don\u2019t accuse her or get angry.<\/b> If something in your relationship wasn\u2019t working, you both have to decide to work on it.<\/p>\n

RELATIVO: <\/b>10 segni di bisogno di spazio nella vostra relazione e perch\u00e9 \u00e8 una cosa positiva<\/b><\/a><\/p>\n

Per riassumere<\/h2>\n

Relationships are complicated, but never more than when you\u2019re unsure of where you stand and what you should do. As long as you have good intentions and want to do what’s best for your relationship, you can feel real struggle thinking, \u201cShe says she needs time, how long should I wait?\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s understandable: you want to respect your girlfriend\u2019s wishes, but you don\u2019t want your relationship to fade away if you wait too long<\/b>. Generally, having to wait for over a month isn\u2019t a good sign, but even three months of space have been known to save marriages.<\/p>\n

She might need time and space for a number of reasons, but you\u2019re the one who can best figure out which one applies to your situation based on how your relationship so far looks like, her behavior and your own actions.<\/p>\n

Qualunque cosa tu faccia, don\u2019t try to force it <\/b>\u2013 this will only drive her away. Instead, work on yourself so that when she comes back, you have a chance to contribute more to your relationship. Good luck!<\/p>\n

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