{"id":158648,"date":"2022-10-23T14:28:14","date_gmt":"2022-10-23T14:28:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=158648"},"modified":"2022-11-29T13:49:22","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T13:49:22","slug":"non-ho-desiderio-sessuale-e-mio-marito-e-arrabbiato","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-ho-desiderio-sessuale-e-mio-marito-e-arrabbiato\/","title":{"rendered":"Non ho voglia di fare sesso e mio marito \u00e8 arrabbiato: 11 soluzioni"},"content":{"rendered":"

Non molto tempo fa, I told my therapist: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad.\u201d<\/strong> Just like that, I spoke the sentence that\u2019s been bugging me for some time. And I felt relieved because I spilled it out.<\/p>\n

A quel punto, io e mio marito stavamo insieme da un paio d'anni. Ero certa che tutto fosse perfetto nel nostro rapporto, a parte il fatto che eravamo intrappolati in un matrimonio senza sesso.<\/p>\n

Per fortuna, my therapist told me that there was a way out of this situation. A way that didn\u2019t include adultery or divorce.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quindi, eccomi qui: condividere questa saggezza e mostrarvi come ho salvato la mia libido e il mio matrimonio.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Non ho voglia di fare sesso e mio marito \u00e8 arrabbiato: 11 cose da fare<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Seguite questo programma in 11 passi e riattiverete la vostra libido in un batter d'occhio.<\/p>\n

1. Trovare la causa del vostro scarso desiderio sessuale<\/h3>\n

La prima cosa da fare \u00e8 trovare la causa di questo problema.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re only human, and it\u2019s natural to have sexual desire, especially when you\u2019re married. After all, you\u2019re constantly with the man you love and who attracts you physically. If this is not the case and if your sex life is suffering, there must be a reason for it.<\/p>\n

Allora, che cos'\u00e8? Dig deep inside of yourself and be completely honest. Don\u2019t worry \u2013 you can do it on your own, without your husband, at least in the beginning.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The worst possible scenario is for you to ignore the fact that you have a low libido. There is an issue here that should be worked on. And the first step is to dissect your feelings to try and find out what\u2019s wrong.<\/p>\n

Siete attratti da altri uomini ma non da vostro marito? Hai un matrimonio senza sesso<\/a> ma si sente eccitato da altri uomini? E che dire della masturbazione?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Prova ancora sentimenti romantici per suo marito? Lo vede come un partner o solo come un compagno di stanza?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Infine, vi piacerebbe avere un desiderio sessuale pi\u00f9 elevato o siete perfettamente a posto con il vostro basso desiderio sessuale?<\/p>\n

Once you answer these questions, you\u2019re good to go!<\/p>\n

2. Lavorare sulle relazioni<\/h3>\n

When you tell someone: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d the first piece of advice you\u2019ll get is to spice things up in the bedroom. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 there is nothing wrong with that.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, \u00e8 necessario comprendere che a lack of sex in your marriage is a sign of something else. Therefore, if you put your bedroom activities in first place, you\u2019ll only deal with the surface problem, which is wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That is why you have to work on your relationship before anything else. It\u2019s time to ricostruire il vostro matrimonio<\/a> because it\u2019s obviously broken.
\nDon\u2019t obsess over sexual satisfaction. Instead, just introduce some romance into our marriage.<\/p>\n

Uscire con gli amici, start saying \u201cI love you\u201d<\/a> e sorprendervi a vicenda. Tutte queste cose rafforzeranno il vostro legame e faranno s\u00ec che voi e vostro marito vi innamoriate di nuovo l'uno dell'altra.<\/p>\n

Una volta che ci\u00f2 sar\u00e0 avvenuto, la libido aumenter\u00e0.<\/p>\n

3. Lavorare da soli sulla libido<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Sapevate che potete lavorare sulla vostra libido da soli? Start with masturbating and see if you\u2019re capable of reaching climax by yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If that\u2019s the case, there is nothing physically wrong with you. This is not about sexual dysfunction \u2013 your marriage needs to be worked on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esplorate diversi argomenti sessuali. Cosa vi eccita di pi\u00f9? Dove e come vi piace essere toccati?<\/p>\n

Dimenticate le norme sociali e scavate dentro di voi. Discover your deepest sexual desires and wildest sexual fantasies. Don\u2019t be ashamed \u2013 there is no one listening; you can be honest with yourself.<\/strong><\/p>\n

C'\u00e8 qualcosa che suo marito fa per causare il suo calo della libido? Quali sono le sue antipatie e le sue disfunzioni in camera da letto?<\/p>\n

Just be careful: if you decide to watch porn or read erotic stories, don\u2019t exaggerate. It\u2019s okay to dive into this world to help yourself out, but don\u2019t lose touch with reality.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t look for a cure outside of your marriage<\/h3>\n

When a woman says: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d in most cases, her first impulse is to go to social media or someplace else and look for another man to skyrocket her libido.<\/p>\n

In realt\u00e0, sia gli uomini che le donne si comportano cos\u00ec quando la loro relazione a lungo termine diventa priva di sesso.<\/p>\n

Well, I\u2019m advising you not to. As long as you\u2019re here, it means that you think your marriage is worth saving. Infidelity will only make things worse.<\/p>\n

First of all, it would be unfair to your husband to cheat on him. Besides, the first time you do, you\u2019ll realize that it\u2019s not the solution to your problems. No, you won\u2019t get a high libido like that.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You should try and fix this issue inside of your marriage instead of looking for a cure outside of it. If you don\u2019t listen to this advice, your relationship will be broken beyond repair. Just like that, you\u2019ll have another problem you have to deal with.<\/p>\n

5. Comunicazione aperta<\/h3>\n

Look, your husband knows very well what\u2019s going on. Trust me, he doesn\u2019t believe that you have a headache all the time. And nobody is that tired.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I mean, he married a high-libido woman, and now all of a sudden, he\u2019s got one with zero sexual needs.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t try ignoring the problem because it won\u2019t magically go away. Instead, remember the importance of comunicazione aperta<\/a> in ogni relazione.<\/p>\n

Say it out loud: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad.\u201d There is nothing shameful here.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Parli con suo marito e gli dica esattamente come si sente. Gli dia tutte le risposte che lei stessa ha dato all'inizio.<\/p>\n

Cercate di analizzare la vostra relazione per capire dove e quando le cose hanno iniziato ad andare male. \u00c8 successo qualcosa di anomalo? Com'era la vostra vita sessuale prima di affrontare il calo del desiderio sessuale?<\/p>\n

6. Cercare di capire suo marito<\/h3>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Most importantly, ask your husband how he feels about this situation. Ask him to be honest because that\u2019s the whole point of healthy communication.<\/p>\n

Yes, you know he\u2019s mad. But I mean, let\u2019s be real: who wouldn\u2019t be? Instead of fighting with him, do your best to understand his position.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I mean, this man has sexual needs. He is attracted to you, and he wants you two to be intimate as much as possible. But it\u2019s more than obvious that you don\u2019t share the same desires.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tutto ci\u00f2 lo rende frustrato.<\/strong> The worst part is that he has no idea what\u2019s going on. What\u2019s the cause of your low libido?<\/p>\n

\u00c8 diventato poco attraente da un giorno all'altro? Non siete soddisfatte delle sue prestazioni sessuali? Ha smesso di amarlo? \u00c8 innamorata di un altro? Lo sta tradendo?<\/p>\n

Credetemi: non c'\u00e8 niente di peggio per l'ego maschile di questa situazione.<\/p>\n

But even though he\u2019s allowed to be mad, this isn\u2019t an excuse to be abusive or unfaithful. Everything can be resolved, and if it can\u2019t, nobody can stop him from leaving you.<\/p>\n

7. Don\u2019t play the blame game<\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s another big fat no for all the women saying: \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad\u201d: giocare a scaricabarile<\/a>. I have to warn you: you\u2019ll both feel tempted to do this, but this practice can be fatal for your marriage.<\/p>\n

Your low sexual desire is nobody\u2019s fault.<\/strong> I\u2019m sure your husband is doing his best to turn you on. He is trying his hardest to improve your sex life. Besides, he\u2019s feeling bad already. His self-esteem is at its lowest, and you definitely shouldn\u2019t do anything to destroy it even more.<\/p>\n

At the same time, he must avoid accusing you. It\u2019s not like you enjoy your matrimonio senza sesso<\/a>. I mean, you\u2019d be much happier if you didn\u2019t have to struggle with your low libido.<\/p>\n

Ricorda: it\u2019s you two against the problem, not one against the other.<\/strong> If you start with the blame game, you\u2019ll just end up arguing pointlessly, and you\u2019ll never come to a solution. Instead, focus all this energy on resolving this issue in the healthiest way possible.<\/p>\n

8. Intimit\u00e0 fisica diversa dal sesso<\/h3>\n

Vedete, ci sono tonnellate di altri cose intime che potreste fare oltre al sesso<\/a>. Don\u2019t get me wrong \u2013 I\u2019m not claiming that sex isn\u2019t a crucial part of every romantic relationship. However, it\u2019s not the only thing that can improve a couple\u2019s intimacy and strengthen their connection.<\/p>\n

You have a low sex drive \u2013 I get it. But that doesn\u2019t include kissing, hugging, holding hands, cuddling, and things like that, does it?<\/p>\n

Yes, all of this can lead to sex, but this time, sex is not first place. Don\u2019t see these things as foreplay \u2013 just dare un bacio appassionato a suo marito<\/a> e vedere come vi sentite dopo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Also, don\u2019t forget about manifestazioni pubbliche di affetto<\/a>. Don\u2019t jump all over each other in public, but don\u2019t forget to hold hands or walk around while hugging. Show the world that you\u2019re proud to have a husband like him!<\/p>\n

Since you\u2019re the one with low libido, it would also be fair for you to initiate these forms of intimacy. This will be more powerful than saying, \u201cI love you.\u201d<\/p>\n

9. Ricominciare a frequentare suo marito<\/h3>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve already advised you to go on serate di coppia<\/a> with your husband. But for some couples, going on a couple of dates doesn\u2019t help much. If that\u2019s the case with you, I suggest you start dating your husband again.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, you can still live together. But why wouldn\u2019t you pretend like you\u2019ve just met and you\u2019re about to fall in love with each other for the first time again?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Flirt with this man and do your best to get to know him on another level. Ask him to court you, and you start doing the same. Text each other good morning and good night even though you\u2019re sleeping next to each other.<\/p>\n

Fate tutto quello che farebbe una nuova coppia. Questo include trattenersi dal fare sesso<\/a> as well. After all, if you\u2019ve just met this man, you\u2019ll need some time to relax before sleeping with him, am I right?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Take things slowly. Remember: baby steps are key. When you feel the need to take this \u201crelationship\u201d to the next level, do so.<\/p>\n

Your husband might even propose to you all over again! This way, you can wait for your \u201cwedding night\u201d to sleep with him. How romantic is that?<\/p>\n

10. Provare cose nuove in camera da letto<\/h3>\n

Now that you\u2019ve worked on all the layers of your partnership, it\u2019s time to focus on the real deal. That\u2019s right, you\u2019ve reached the stage where you can hit the bedroom.<\/p>\n

But please, don\u2019t do whatever you were doing before. It\u2019s clear that you\u2019ve gotten tired of the same old routine. Or maybe deep down, it never pleased you.<\/p>\n

In ogni caso, \u00e8 il momento di vivacizzare la vostra vita sessuale<\/a>. Lei e suo marito avete imparato l'arte della comunicazione sana e nulla pu\u00f2 fermarvi ora.<\/p>\n

Remember when you worked on your libido by yourself? Well, what\u2019s stopping you from implementing all those things in real intercourse now?<\/p>\n

Tell your husband what you\u2019re into. Tell him that you\u2019ve been exploring your body, and talk to him about everything you\u2019ve discovered.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Soprattutto, esploratevi a vicenda. Scoprite insieme le vostre preferenze.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Prova sexting<\/a>, gioco di ruolo, linguaggio sporco<\/a>, BSDM… whatever comes to mind. Look, I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019ll enjoy all of these things.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s always important to only do things you\u2019re comfortable with. However, make sure to push your limits and try something new.<\/p>\n

11. Visitare un terapista sessuale<\/h3>\n

Finally, I suggest going to a sex therapist. Don\u2019t worry, this is perfectly normal, and it only means that you\u2019re mature enough to recognize the problem.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be able to talk to a mental health expert who will help you get to the bottom of your problem and help you resolve it in the healthiest way possible.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Naturalmente, la cosa migliore sarebbe andare da un terapeuta del sesso insieme a suo marito. Potete provare diversi tipi di terapia sessuale e rimettere in piedi la vostra vita sessuale.<\/p>\n

However, you can also go on your own, even before discussing it with him, or even if he\u2019s not interested.<\/p>\n

Cosa provoca un basso desiderio sessuale in una moglie?<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

We\u2019ve already talked about how important it is to find the cause of your problem. I mean, you didn\u2019t just wake up one morning and say, \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d did you? This has been going on for a while now, and it\u2019s about time you see what\u2019s hidden behind this sentence.<\/p>\n

1. Problemi di relazione<\/h3>\n

The most common cause of low sex drive in women is different relationship problems. As hard as you try, you can\u2019t separate your body, mind, and heart.<\/p>\n

What does this mean? Well, if your heart is broken, it\u2019s impossible for the person who hurt you to turn you on.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t feel any physical attraction or sexual desire towards the man who caused you emotional pain \u2013 it\u2019s simply how women work.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Avete un matrimonio infelice<\/a>, and you\u2019re perfectly aware that jumping into bed with your husband won\u2019t magically make things okay.<\/p>\n

Forse avete problemi di fiducia<\/a> nel vostro matrimonio. O vi sentite traditi a causa di qualcosa che lui ha fatto?<\/p>\n

Forse vi sentite come se aveste un marito irrispettoso<\/a>, or you two are arguing so much that you can\u2019t get yourself to even kiss him, let alone something else. The list could be endless, but you get the picture.<\/p>\n

In questo caso, sapete innanzitutto cosa bisogna fare. Nel momento in cui risolverete i vostri problemi relazionali, la vostra libido torner\u00e0 ad essere elevata.<\/p>\n

2. Squilibrio ormonale<\/h3>\n

Lo squilibrio ormonale \u00e8 una causa frequente di scarso desiderio sessuale nelle donne. Questo fenomeno \u00e8 particolarmente comune nelle donne in menopausa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another diagnosis is hypogonadism. To put things simply, having this condition means that your body is unable to produce enough sex hormones. If you\u2019re a woman, we\u2019re talking about estrogen.<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 esattamente ci\u00f2 che accade in menopausa: i livelli di estrogeni iniziano a diminuire. Questo fenomeno \u00e8 solitamente seguito da secchezza vaginale.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Either way, the biggest problem is that you\u2019re probably not even aware that you have a hormone imbalance. That\u2019s why I suggest you pay your MD a visit and do a check-up before anything else.<\/p>\n

3. Bassa autostima<\/h3>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Have you involuntarily gained or lost a lot of weight lately? Or maybe you\u2019re just not feeling like your best self? In this case, your low self-esteem might be what\u2019s causing your low sexual desire.<\/p>\n

Questo \u00e8 ancora pi\u00f9 possibile se il vostro il marito \u00e8 cattivo<\/a> e ha fatto commenti sgradevoli sul suo aspetto. He\u2019s killed your confidence, and now you\u2019d rather die than allow him to see you naked. You no longer feel loved and wanted, and consequently, nothing can turn you on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ancora una volta, \u00e8 necessario lavorare sulla causa, il che significa aumentare l'autostima.<\/a><\/p>\n

4. Scarsa comunicazione in camera da letto<\/h3>\n

La comunicazione aperta \u00e8 la chiave per una relazione sana<\/a>e questo vale anche per la camera da letto. Quindi, if you can\u2019t tell your husband what your likes and dislikes are, and if he\u2019s not putting any effort into pleasing you, it\u2019s natural that your libido is at its lowest.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You wouldn\u2019t admit this to him, but you\u2019d rather spend time masturbating than sleeping with him. At least, like this, you climax.<\/p>\n

Se questo \u00e8 qualcosa che vi riguarda, per favore parlate di sesso con il vostro uomo.<\/a> Fategli vedere come vi soddisfa!<\/p>\n

5. Problemi di salute mentale<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve been struggling with mental health problems, come la depressione,<\/a> it\u2019s perfectly natural that your libido has almost disappeared. Tenete presente che un basso desiderio sessuale \u00e8 un effetto collaterale di alcuni antidepressivi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I suggest talking to your mental health expert and telling them about the issues you\u2019re facing<\/strong>. Maybe they\u2019ll prescribe you a different type of antidepressant. But please, don\u2019t do anything on your own without consulting a professional!<\/p>\n

\u00c8 normale non avere desiderio sessuale in una relazione?<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Having no sex drive in a long-term relationship or marriage is actually more common than you might think. In fact, both men and women face this problem, so nobody can tell you it\u2019s not normal.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tuttavia, \u00e8 sicuramente un segnale di difficolt\u00e0. La cosa peggiore che potete fare \u00e8 accettare le cose come stanno e seguire la corrente. Ricordate: si tratta di una relazione sentimentale, non di un'amicizia, e il vostro partner non \u00e8 il vostro coinquilino.<\/p>\n

Luckily, there are numerous ways to help you build a higher libido. No, sexual desire is not a death sentence for your relationship, and it most definitely doesn\u2019t have to be permanent.<\/p>\n

Per concludere:<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re a woman who says, \u201cI have no sex drive and my husband is mad,\u201d it means only one thing: you\u2019ve taken the first step \u2013 you\u2019ve admitted that you have a problem. You\u2019ve reached the point of self-awareness where you see what this is doing to your marriage, and you\u2019re mature enough to recognize how this entire situation makes your husband feel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Questo significa che avete grandi possibilit\u00e0 di migliorare la situazione. Se anche vostro marito \u00e8 pronto a lavorare sulla vostra scarsa libido, nulla vi impedir\u00e0 di riuscirci.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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