{"id":15884,"date":"2020-09-07T09:24:13","date_gmt":"2020-09-07T09:24:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=15884"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:19:56","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:19:56","slug":"8-fasi-di-guarigione-dallabuso-narcisistico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/8-fasi-di-guarigione-dallabuso-narcisistico\/","title":{"rendered":"8 fasi di guarigione dopo un abuso narcisistico"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Avevo un'amica. Era una ragazza bellissima. Sorrideva sempre, anche quando non aveva motivo di sorridere.<\/p>\n<p>Guardava il mondo da una prospettiva positiva. Voleva sempre guardare solo le cose belle e cercare il meglio in tutti. Era una felicit\u00e0 ambulante.<\/p>\n<p>Credetemi, il mondo era un posto migliore grazie alla sua presenza.<\/p>\n<p>Sadly, good people don\u2019t always have a happy fate, nor did she and she didn\u2019t deserve it either. She deserved none of what she got.<\/p>\n<p>She didn\u2019t deserve him spitting in her face, the horrific screams every night. She didn\u2019t deserve her heart being ripped open and torn apart into thousands of pieces.<\/p>\n<p>She didn\u2019t deserve her self-confidence being taken away from her. She didn\u2019t deserve falling flat on her face at the lowest point in her life and for what?<\/p>\n<p>All because of the piece of narcissistic shit that walked into her life with one purpose only\u2014to suck her dry and feast himself on her.<\/p>\n<p>He manipulated her into oblivion. He isolated her from the world so she couldn\u2019t get any help and he made her incompetent to seek it herself.<\/p>\n<p>Le ha fatto credere di non essere nessuno, che a nessuno importava di lei e che doveva essere felice che qualcuno la volesse.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Le ha fatto credere che doveva essere grata di avere lui, il suo abusatore.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Il suo cammino era coperto di spine che la facevano sanguinare di pi\u00f9, a ogni passo che faceva verso la sua felicit\u00e0, verso la sua fuga.<\/p>\n<p>Ma quelle ferite guarirono e smisero di sanguinare. In seguito, le rimasero delle cicatrici che rimasero scolpite in profondit\u00e0 nella sua pelle come ricordo di ci\u00f2 che aveva passato.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 guarita ed ecco come.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ha deciso di guarire<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-105347\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-is-standing-in-a-brown-coat.jpg\" alt=\"la donna \u00e8 in piedi con un cappotto marrone\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-is-standing-in-a-brown-coat.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-is-standing-in-a-brown-coat-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-is-standing-in-a-brown-coat-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-is-standing-in-a-brown-coat-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-is-standing-in-a-brown-coat-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00c8 successo all'improvviso. Il suo meccanismo protettivo \u00e8 scattato e si \u00e8 attivato, urlando che era ora o mai pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p>Sapeva di dover fare qualcosa. Era stufa delle manipolazioni e si sentiva un pezzo di merda, indegna della vita.<\/p>\n<p>She knew that wasn\u2019t her and finally, she decided she would do something about it. She decided she would bring back her old self because no one had that kind of consuming power over her to make her stay in the condition she was in. She learned how to deal with narcissistic behavior.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Si \u00e8 liberata della tossicit\u00e0<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-105348\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-glasses-and-a-hat-on-her-head-in-the-street.jpg\" alt=\"una donna con gli occhiali e un cappello in testa per strada\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-glasses-and-a-hat-on-her-head-in-the-street.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-glasses-and-a-hat-on-her-head-in-the-street-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-glasses-and-a-hat-on-her-head-in-the-street-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-glasses-and-a-hat-on-her-head-in-the-street-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-glasses-and-a-hat-on-her-head-in-the-street-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>She is an empath and she has always walked in other people\u2019s shoes, trying to understand how they felt, so she walked in the shoes of her narcissist and that <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/lettera-aperta-uomo-distrutto\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ha distrutto la sua<\/a>. Ha riversato la tossicit\u00e0 nel suo corpo e nella sua mente, ma lei lo sapeva e sapeva che doveva liberarsene.<\/p>\n<p>Ha parlato con le persone che le sono state vicine in ogni momento, si \u00e8 unita a gruppi di sostegno e ha eliminato la tossicit\u00e0 di lui dal suo sistema.<\/p>\n<p>It didn\u2019t happen overnight and it was painful but she was brave enough to take this step. This way, she was one step closer to healing completely.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ha dovuto affrontare la crisi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-105349\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>She was feeling anxious because now all of a sudden there was no more fighting and screaming in her life. There was no one there to tell her what to do or manipulate and guilt-trip her into doing something she didn\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n<p>She wasn\u2019t observed and judged, she was finally free and she didn\u2019t know how to deal with it. It was all too much, too soon. Imagine that you\u2019ve been in bed for months and now that you are getting better, you feel you can walk and you want to walk, but you can\u2019t. Your body doesn\u2019t let you.<\/p>\n<p>Her body didn\u2019t let her relax. It was still hurt and didn\u2019t know how to function again. So she gave it some time.<\/p>\n<p>Ha affrontato il suo<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-ways-girls-anxiety-love-differently\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> ansia<\/a> and her fears because she knew it wouldn\u2019t last forever. It was only a phase which would pass and she would come out of it as a winner.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Si \u00e8 lasciata andare alla rabbia<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-105350\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-a-downcast-look.jpg\" alt=\"una donna con lo sguardo abbattuto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-a-downcast-look.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-a-downcast-look-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-a-downcast-look-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-a-downcast-look-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-a-downcast-look-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>She didn\u2019t hold her feelings inside her because she knew that would only destroy her more. She knew she wouldn\u2019t be able to continue pretending nothing had happened because she felt everything.<\/p>\n<p>She couldn\u2019t turn off her feelings, she needed to accept them and be angry\u2014be angry at him for taking advantage of her and be angry at herself for letting him.<\/p>\n<p>Sentiva dolore in tutto il corpo, un dolore psicologico che si trasformava in dolore fisico, ed era arrabbiata per questo. Era arrabbiata con se stessa perch\u00e9 aveva lasciato che il suo corpo soffrisse, insieme al suo cuore e alla sua anima.<\/p>\n<p>Ma anche questo \u00e8 passato, cos\u00ec \u00e8 passata alla sfida successiva.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Si \u00e8 perdonata accettando la verit\u00e0<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-105351\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-imaginary-woman-leaned-against-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"la donna immaginaria appoggiata alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-imaginary-woman-leaned-against-the-window.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-imaginary-woman-leaned-against-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-imaginary-woman-leaned-against-the-window-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-imaginary-woman-leaned-against-the-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-imaginary-woman-leaned-against-the-window-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>She forgave herself because she knew it wasn\u2019t her fault. She knew he was sick and his manipulations were strictly designed to stray her from her path and bring her to him so he could perform his magic, and suck the blood out of her like the<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/5-tipi-di-vampiri-emotivi\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> vampiro emotivo<\/a> era.<\/p>\n<p>She accepted he was toxic and his only goal was to hurt her; it\u2019s the way he functioned. She realized she had been used and she had fallen into a narcissistic trap, from which she barely escaped. She forgave herself because she didn\u2019t know any better.<\/p>\n<p>Era un'empatica che voleva solo aiutare e far sorridere le persone. Alla fine ci riusc\u00ec, ma questo la consum\u00f2 e le lasci\u00f2 dentro solo dolore e sofferenza.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ha confessato di aver sempre saputo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-105352\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-walks-alone.jpg\" alt=\"la donna cammina da sola\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-walks-alone.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-walks-alone-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-walks-alone-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-walks-alone-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/the-woman-walks-alone-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Finalmente si \u00e8 assunta la responsabilit\u00e0 e ha ammesso che una parte di lei sapeva cosa stava succedendo da sempre, ma era molto pi\u00f9 facile credere che lui sarebbe cambiato e avrebbe reso tutto migliore.<\/p>\n<p>She fooled herself because it meant she didn\u2019t have to go through everything she did, she didn\u2019t have to be heartbroken, and she didn\u2019t have to take the path to recovering from a narcissist, which is extremely painful and long.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ha rispettato la regola del divieto di contatto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-105353\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-disappointed-woman-with-a-red-cap.jpg\" alt=\"una donna delusa con un berretto rosso\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-disappointed-woman-with-a-red-cap.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-disappointed-woman-with-a-red-cap-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-disappointed-woman-with-a-red-cap-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-disappointed-woman-with-a-red-cap-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-disappointed-woman-with-a-red-cap-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I narcisisti tornano. Faranno di tutto per riavervi. Mentiranno e cercheranno di manipolarvi per indurvi a fidarvi di nuovo di loro, in modo che torniate da loro e possiate abusare di nuovo di voi.<\/p>\n<p>Lei lo sapeva e rispettava la <a href=\"http:\/\/www.vixendaily.com\/love\/no-contact-rule-everything-you-need-to-know\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">regola del divieto di contatto<\/a>. She didn\u2019t want to have anything to do with him. She ignored his texts, his calls, and his failed attempt to trash-talk her to her friends. She cut him off completely and that is what saved her from ever going back.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ha abbracciato la sua vita e finalmente si \u00e8 lasciata andare<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-105354\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-long-blonde-hair-laughs.jpg\" alt=\"una donna dai lunghi capelli biondi ride\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-long-blonde-hair-laughs.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-long-blonde-hair-laughs-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-long-blonde-hair-laughs-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-long-blonde-hair-laughs-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/a-woman-with-long-blonde-hair-laughs-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>La fase finale era quella della liberazione. La fase finale \u00e8 stata quella in cui si \u00e8 sentita libera, in cui ha ritrovato il sorriso.<\/p>\n<p>She forgave herself and peeked deep into her soul and she found all the love that was missing\u2014the love for herself, respect for herself and a belief in a better world and long-term happiness.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Oggi \u00e8 di nuovo quella bella ragazza che ho conosciuto tanto tempo fa, che porta il sorriso su tutti i volti, compreso il suo.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-105346 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/8-Stages-Of-Healing-After-Escaping-Narcissistic-Abuse-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"8 fasi di guarigione dopo un abuso narcisistico\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/8-Stages-Of-Healing-After-Escaping-Narcissistic-Abuse-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/8-Stages-Of-Healing-After-Escaping-Narcissistic-Abuse-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/8-Stages-Of-Healing-After-Escaping-Narcissistic-Abuse-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/8-Stages-Of-Healing-After-Escaping-Narcissistic-Abuse-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/8-Stages-Of-Healing-After-Escaping-Narcissistic-Abuse-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I had a friend. She was a beautiful girl. She smiled all the time, even when she had no reason to smile. She looked at the world from a positive perspective. She always wanted to look at only the beautiful things and look for the best in everyone. She was a walking happiness. Believe me,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":105345,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15884","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/8-Stages-Of-Healing-After-Escaping-Narcissistic-Abuse.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15884","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15884"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15884\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/105345"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15884"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15884"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15884"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}