{"id":15981,"date":"2018-03-08T07:57:53","date_gmt":"2018-03-08T07:57:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=15981"},"modified":"2022-02-06T17:07:01","modified_gmt":"2022-02-06T17:07:01","slug":"ragazzo-e-stato-catturato-mano-biscotto-barattolo-non-incolpare-cookie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ragazzo-e-stato-catturato-mano-biscotto-barattolo-non-incolpare-cookie\/","title":{"rendered":"Al ragazzo che \u00e8 stato beccato con le mani nel barattolo dei biscotti: Non dare la colpa al biscotto"},"content":{"rendered":"

Oh, you\u2019re mad at me I hear. I made things difficult for you, did I? Am I supposed to apologize? Sai cosa hai fatto, vero? Hai imbrogliato e ti hanno beccato.<\/strong> I didn\u2019t try to cheat on my wife. I didn\u2019t track down my high school sweetheart nearly a decade after I broke her heart to apologize. I was minding my own fucking business. Living my life. You, a distant memory accompanied by a bad taste in my mouth. The taste of pain, betrayal and desperation.<\/p>\n

Eri un sogno del liceo che si \u00e8 avverato e che si \u00e8 trasformato in un incubo.<\/strong> Sei entrato nella mia vita come una fantasia. Capitano della squadra di calcio e di basket. Intelligente, carismatico, bello, affascinante e divertente. Tutte queste cose! Il tipo di attrazione che \u00e8 innegabile. Mi hai lasciato innamorare di te e poi hai scelto lei. E poi, invece di lasciarmi andare, mi hai tenuto con te finch\u00e9 non sono diventata scomoda per te. Poi, alla fine, ti sei liberato di me nel modo peggiore. Sai cosa hai fatto. E poi ti ha perseguitato. Per otto anni ti ha perseguitato. Hai chiesto di me ai nostri amici, ti sei informato su come stavo e hai aspettato. You waited until I was perfectly fine. When the ghost of who you were to me had long since settled in my mind, and then you decided to assuage your own guilt. At the expense of my heart\u2014and had I let you in\u2014possibly my future.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Quando ho sentito la tua voce, sono tornata quindicenne. Quando mi hai detto che mi amavi, la ragazzina che era in me era euforica. Era come se il tempo fosse scomparso e fossimo tornati a essere noi. Tutte le cose che erano belle dell'essere noi. Ma le donne adulte mi hanno chiamato \"stronzate\". Stronzate del cazzo. Eravamo una bugia. Eravamo un'illusione<\/a> that disappeared when you returned to your girlfriend and pretended that we were just friends, and I pretended that it didn’t kill me.<\/strong> We were nothing more than me idolizing you to the point that I couldn\u2019t see you were using me. I gave you all the things you were missing from your relationship, and then you got to go back to it while I was left twisting in the wind until the next time you needed what you needed from me. Ero il tuo posto sicuro. La tua persona. Ma lei era la tua donna. E ho passato 10 anni ad aspettare che ti svegliassi e vedessi che potevo essere il tuo tutto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can pretend that you didn\u2019t know that I LOVED you, that we were something that we weren\u2019t. Potete riscrivere la storia nella vostra testa per far apparire il vostro personaggio pi\u00f9 comprensibile. Ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che eravate egoisti. Eravate egoisti allora e lo siete anche adesso.<\/strong> After everything you put me through, and you put me through some shit that could fill up a novel\u2026 you don\u2019t even deserve to be forgiven. But I did forgive you. A long time ago. When I stopped loving you. When I looked long and hard at the situation and determined that you did what you thought you needed to for yourself and your family, I let it go. Mi sono spostato cos\u00ec lontano<\/a> past it that I didn\u2019t even hate you anymore.<\/p>\n

In tutto questo tempo, ti ho lasciato solo. A vivere la tua vita con la donna che avevi scelto. A costruire una famiglia con il bambino che hai creato mentre andavi ancora a letto con me e non usavi consapevolmente gli anticoncezionali. Anche quando mi hai fatto scoprire da un'altra persona che tuo figlio era nato, due settimane dopo l'ultima volta che sono stata con te e non avevo idea che ti mancassero poche settimane per diventare padre. Ti ho lasciata sola. Despite how much you hurt me, I didn\u2019t try to hurt you back, or shatter your world like you did mine. I left you alone\u2014to marry her, have another child with her, raise those children with her. I left you alone.<\/strong> That\u2019s what you do when you actually love somebody. Li hai lasciati andare<\/a>. You let them live their life, even if it\u2019s not with you because you sincerely want the best for them\u2026 even when they have given you no reason to show such loyalty.<\/p>\n

Quindi, ora lei, signore, NON pu\u00f2 arrabbiarsi con me.<\/strong> I did NOTHING to you, aside from express what effect your appearance in my life (8 years after you extinguished yourself from it in the cruelest possible way) was having on my psyche. And just to be clear about what that effect was, for starters, I cried for three full days. I called in sick to work for two. My mom came to visit me, got off the plane, took one look at me and thought I was vomiting all day. Nope, just crying. Non-stop. Because mom, you remember that time you told me, \u201cThat guy doesn\u2019t love you. He is not your friend, and you need to leave him alone.\u201d Remember that? Yeah, well, apparently he really DID love me. So there. See. More tears. Some mom rage. Reminders of alllllllll the things he did that were terrible. Like I forgot. That was the start of it.<\/p>\n

Poi l'incertezza, mentre cercavi di dirmi che eri sempre stato io ad amare e a voler stare con me. Il desiderio profondo che ho di crederti. Il bisogno che fosse vero. Di confermare che tutto quello che era successo faceva parte di una storia d'amore molto contorta che si sarebbe conclusa felicemente con me e te che saltavamo verso il tramonto.<\/strong> The months of anguish as I heard from you sporadically at best, but you kept swearing you loved me, and wanted to be with me, and you just want to see me\u2026 and me saying no. Wanting to say yes. Missing you, wanting you, aching for something that I had resigned to myself would never be. Until finally I was like, fuck you in a flurry of texts\u2026 seemingly out of nowhere. Just expressing how selfish you\u2019ve been, and how much you\u2019ve really hurt me over the years. I was entitled to that. At the very least. So you don\u2019t get to be mad at me because your wife saw that. That\u2019s not my fault, nor was it my intention. I\u2019ll be honest though, I feel bad for her\u2026 but you? Puoi andare a farti fottere.<\/strong> You\u2019re mad at me? Go on.<\/p>\n

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Oh, you\u2019re mad at me I hear. I made things difficult for you, did I? Am I supposed to apologize? You do know what you did, right? You cheated, and then you got caught. I didn\u2019t try to cheat on my wife. I didn\u2019t track down my high school sweetheart nearly a decade after I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":15984,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29626],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-15981","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-affair"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29626,"label":"affair"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/toa-heftiba-295056-unsplash.jpg",800,574,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29626,"name":"affair","slug":"affair","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29626,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","parent":29620,"count":132,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29626,"category_count":132,"category_description":"If you want to learn more about affairs, here you'll learn about different types of infidelity, how affairs happen, how to recognize a cheater, and more.","cat_name":"affair","category_nicename":"affair","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15981","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15981"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15981\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/15984"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15981"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15981"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15981"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}