{"id":160641,"date":"2022-11-28T09:39:32","date_gmt":"2022-11-28T09:39:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=160641"},"modified":"2023-02-03T09:31:42","modified_gmt":"2023-02-03T09:31:42","slug":"ha-mandato-un-messaggio-dopo-il-primo-appuntamento-ma-non-da-allora","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ha-mandato-un-messaggio-dopo-il-primo-appuntamento-ma-non-da-allora\/","title":{"rendered":"Ha mandato un messaggio dopo il primo appuntamento ma non pi\u00f9? Ecco cosa succede"},"content":{"rendered":"

You both swiped right, talked for a while, then finally went out. The date was fun, there was a mention of the second date, he texted after dropping you off, then \u2013 nothing. Not a peep from this dude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But tell me something: have you texted him? If you haven\u2019t and you like the guy, what are you waiting for? If you have and he hasn\u2019t replied, well, then keep reading.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why would a guy give you the impression that he\u2019s interested and then ghost you?<\/strong> The reasons might be more unremarkable than you\u2019re hoping for. Here are all the possibilities why he texted after first date but not since.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13 motivi per cui ha mandato un messaggio dopo il primo appuntamento ma non da allora<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You had a great date with a guy, and now he\u2019s nowhere to be found \u2013 a tale as old as time; or Tinder, if you met online, which you probably did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He sent a text after you parted ways and you thought it was a good sign that your next date was around the corner, but now you\u2019re wondering why this guy is ghosting you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he texted after first date but not since, here\u2019s what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Aveva aspettative diverse<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Losing interest after a date is more common than you\u2019d think. Before the date, we build a picture of the other person in our minds. Then we face the real deal, realizing reality doesn\u2019t match our expectations \u2013 and we\u2019re done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Probabilmente hai parlato con questo ragazzo qualche volta prima di uscire, e entrambi vi siete creati un'immagine di come sarebbe stata l'altra persona sulla base di quelle poche interazioni<\/strong>. Thinking about this imaginary person \u2013 who fit your desires and was just your type \u2013 got you excited about the date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poi ci si incontra di persona, ma l'essere umano reale non potr\u00e0 mai essere all'altezza della fantasia. Il giorno dopo, la realt\u00e0 si fa sentire e vi rendete conto che la persona con cui siete usciti <\/strong>ieri sera<\/strong> non \u00e8 affatto il personaggio idealizzato che speravi di trovare.<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So here you have the most likely answer to your dilemma. He gave up because he realized after your date that you\u2019re nothing like he imagined, especially if he\u2019s talking to other girls, all of whom he\u2019s building up in his head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E voi? Ti piace o l'idea<\/em> di lui<\/a>? Do you really like this guy you\u2019ve met once so much that you\u2019re letting his silence eat you up inside?<\/strong> You might only be wondering why he hasn\u2019t texted again because of your bruised ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Ha deciso di non uscire con voi per un altro motivo<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Once he\u2019s had time to sleep on it and think about your date, he might have realized that you said or did something that he considers a red flag or you mentioned something that, to him, is a deal breaker in relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t take this personally. Everyone has their preferences and you can\u2019t influence what someone considers important when it comes to dating. He might have just realized that you\u2019re too incompatible to pursue a relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

D'altra parte, questa potrebbe essere una buona occasione per pensare se avete davvero fatto qualcosa che lui avrebbe potuto ragionevolmente interpretare come un campanello d'allarme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Of course, it\u2019s as likely that it has nothing at all to do with you, but it doesn\u2019t hurt to riflettere sulle proprie parole e azioni<\/strong> from the date. Don\u2019t overanalyze and obsess, but take a moment to think it through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Siate onesti con voi stessi perch\u00e9, se c'\u00e8 qualcosa, potreste farlo anche con altri ragazzi e questo potrebbe impedirvi di andare oltre il primo appuntamento con altri ragazzi in futuro. Se riuscite a individuare cosa potrebbe essere stato, potete lavorarci su e rendere la vostra vita amorosa pi\u00f9 riuscita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. He realized he’s not as attracted as he thought<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"uomo<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Il suo comportamento, il linguaggio del corpo e le cose che diceva ti davano l'impressione che le cose potessero andare oltre un appuntamento, ma poi niente?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes it takes a while to realize you\u2019re not attracted enough to someone to make an effort.<\/strong> Se era indeciso durante il vostro appuntamento e subito dopo, gli \u00e8 bastato dormirci su per prendere una decisione definitiva sul fatto che gli piaciate o meno abbastanza da proseguire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When someone you\u2019re interested in doesn\u2019t like you back, it can feel like a blow to the pride, but when you accept that it\u2019s perfectly fine if not everyone likes you, it\u2019s easy to get over it. Dating is all about discovering the people you\u2019re most compatible with.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So don\u2019t beat yourself up if the reason why he didn\u2019t follow up is that he realized he was less attracted to you than he thought. Another person\u2019s opinion has nothing to do with you. You don\u2019t depend on anyone else to assure you of your worth because you know how valuable you are. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Besides, isn\u2019t it better to know before you\u2019ve developed serious feelings?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. He’s dating someone else or he met someone new<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re both just dating and meeting new people, it\u2019s safe to assume that you\u2019re not the only girl he\u2019s dating<\/strong>. (He\u2019s probably not the only guy in your recents, either.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avete solo bevuto un paio di drink insieme, ma forse i suoi altri interessi sentimentali sono pi\u00f9 seri. Oppure gli \u00e8 piaciuto il vostro appuntamento, ma poi ha trovato un'altra persona che gli interessava di pi\u00f9 e si \u00e8 concentrato su quella.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Questo \u00e8 stato il vostro primo incontro, ma forse lui \u00e8 gi\u00e0 uscito al terzo appuntamento con un'altra ragazza che gli piaceva e lei gli ha fatto sapere che anche lui le piace. Forse lui vi piace ma ha iniziato a frequentare un'altra persona<\/a> because they\u2019re more compatible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se c'\u00e8 stato un cambiamento che sperava nella sua relazione con un'altra persona, potrebbe aver deciso di non uscire con te per motivi che non hanno nulla a che fare con te. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your best choice in most of these situations is to forget about him and get in touch with another guy you\u2019ve been texting<\/strong>. Chiss\u00e0, forse il prossimo appuntamento sar\u00e0 con qualcuno che vi piacer\u00e0 molto di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Era solo educato quando ti ha mandato un messaggio.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Se non aveva intenzione di chiederti di uscire di nuovo, perch\u00e9 ti ha mandato un messaggio dopo il vostro appuntamento? Forse \u00e8 stato solo educato.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ti ha mandato un messaggio per sapere se eri tornata a casa sana e salva o perch\u00e9 riteneva che fosse una cosa cortese da fare.<\/strong> It might have been a wrong move that got your hopes up for no reason, but maybe he didn\u2019t look at it that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ideally, we\u2019d all always say what we mean and how we feel but of course, life doesn\u2019t work that way. If he had been upfront with you and immediately told you that he wasn\u2019t interested in anything, that would have hurt too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L'unica cosa da fare in questa situazione \u00e8 lasciar perdere e andare avanti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. La sua vita \u00e8 troppo impegnata<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Spesso, quando un ragazzo vi ignora ma vi piace<\/a>, it\u2019s because he\u2019s too busy<\/strong>. Look at your life and all the things you have going on \u2013 work, family, close friends, hobbies, obligations, stress, emergencies. No doubt it\u2019s the same for him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You might have placed more value on your date than he has or you\u2019re dwelling on it because he didn\u2019t follow up, but either way, look at your date in a larger context. An evening out with someone you’ve only met once can hardly become a priority if your life is hectic and there\u2019s always something going on.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s annoying, I know, but instead of racking your brain about why he doesn\u2019t text, focus on the more important things in your own life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Ha problemi personali<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A ton of personal issues affect romantic relationships and the decisions we make about the people we date. For example, maybe he just got out of a relationship and realized he\u2019s not ready to date yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He might have mental health issues or poor self-esteem and became discouraged from dating because he\u2019s not feeling good about himself. It\u2019s also possible that he has medical problems that pushed dating into a low spot on his list of priorities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he has personal issues, it\u2019s really impossible to know unless he shares them with you. <\/strong>Trying to figure out what\u2019s happening won\u2019t bring you closure but only occupy your time and sap your energy, so it\u2019s best to just let it go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. He thinks you’re not interested<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Maybe something about your date made him think that you\u2019re not interested and this discouraged him from pursuing anything. If he\u2019s assuming that you won\u2019t accept a <\/strong>secondo appuntamento<\/strong>, he\u2019s not even going to ask you.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

La vostra apparente mancanza di interesse lo sta facendo paura del rifiuto<\/a>, with good reason, so he\u2019s avoiding contact to spare his feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he got the wrong impression, you could easily solve this problem by contacting him and giving him a clear sign that you\u2019re interested. <\/strong>It depends on how much time has passed since you\u2019ve last heard from him, but if you don’t think it’s too late, shoot him a text and assess the situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he replies quickly and enthusiastically, then it\u2019s likely that he didn\u2019t text you because he believed you weren\u2019t interested, so now\u2019s your chance to prove him wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Stava aspettando che voi prendeste l'iniziativa<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
\"una<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Uno dei motivi pi\u00f9 comuni per cui un ragazzo fa finta di essere interessato e poi si tira indietro<\/a> \u00e8 perch\u00e9 spera che sia lei a fare la prima mossa. Vuole che mostriate un interesse attivo nei suoi confronti, invece di aspettare che sia lui a fare tutto.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re interested in this guy, then you won\u2019t make things worse if you contact him. Texting him can change things for the better or leave them as they are, so you really have nothing to lose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It depends on how much time has passed since you\u2019ve last heard from him, but if you don’t think it’s too late, text him. If he replies, talk to him a bit and let him know that you want to spend time with him. Se sembra ricettivo, <\/strong>voi<\/em><\/strong> chiedere <\/strong>lui<\/em><\/strong> fuori.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He might say no and you\u2019re right where you started, so no biggie. If he says yes, you have another chance to let him know that you\u2019re interested in him, this time with added eye contact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. He doesn’t like talking to you<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The dynamic of your text conversations with someone you\u2019re interested in matters more than you\u2019d think. Ask yourself, who initiated most of your conversations? Who was keeping the conversation going?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lots of girls expect guys to convince them to go out with them, so they don\u2019t even try.<\/strong> If you\u2019re the type who waits for the guy to do everything, then he might be tired of talking to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If he\u2019s initiating texting and you expect him to keep them alive, then you make him feel like it\u2019s all up to him. This makes your conversations difficult and exhausting for him, so he doesn\u2019t want to do it anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Com'era la situazione durante l'appuntamento? Era ancora lui a guidare la conversazione? Faceva domande, mostrava interesse, iniziava a parlare? Like everyone else, he wants someone who\u2019ll show him they like his company and want to get to know him.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quindi, se questo \u00e8 il vostro caso, imparate da questo per il prossimo appuntamento con il prossimo ragazzo, e mostrate pi\u00f9 interesse e iniziativa per far s\u00ec che un ragazzo si senta bene a passare del tempo con voi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Non \u00e8 mai stato veramente interessato<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Potrebbe essere una pillola difficile da ingoiare, ma se ci pensate bene, sapete che cose del genere accadono. You\u2019re talking to someone, and you don\u2019t dislike them, but you also don\u2019t like them enough to date them.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gli si manda un messaggio solo perch\u00e9 e si parla anche se non si ha alcuna intenzione di perseguire qualcosa. Potrebbero parlare di qualcosa di interessante o potresti essere annoiato, quindi continui a parlare con loro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poi si va a un appuntamento sperando che possa scoccare la scintilla, o per nessun motivo particolare, e, naturalmente, non succede nulla. The date goes okay, but there\u2019s no sudden magic or love at first sight.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You text again out of habit or because you\u2019re not thinking, then immediately regret it because you decide that you don\u2019t have any interest in this person at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This might seem cruel when it happens to you, but it\u2019s very common and rarely done with bad intentions.<\/strong> It\u2019s one of those things people do and can\u2019t explain why.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I bet you didn\u2019t have any deep feelings for him, either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. Cercava una convalida<\/h3>\n\n\n\n\n\n
\"un<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Alcuni ragazzi hanno bisogno di attenzioni femminili costanti<\/a> to feel good about themselves, so they surround themselves with women who\u2019ll give it to them. They\u2019re never serious about those women and they rarely go beyond dating or casual sex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guys like this don\u2019t feel good about themselves and are always looking for external validation<\/strong>, so the only thing he wanted from you was to show him that you\u2019re interested in him. You were just another one in the line of girls he needed to feed his fragile ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Se non ha fiducia in se stesso, \u00e8 l'attenzione costante a dargli la certezza del suo valore. Il suo bisogno di convalida potrebbe essere un <\/strong>bandiera rossa<\/strong> e forse avete avuto a che fare con un <\/strong>narcisista<\/strong>, <\/strong>Quindi, se ti ha lasciata andare prima di essere trascinata nei suoi piani, considerati fortunata.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Ti stava prendendo in giro<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t rule out the possibility that he was giocare con te<\/a>. Maybe he was hoping for something physical after your date, and when it didn\u2019t come, he lost interest. If you did have sex with him, then he got what he wanted, said goodbye and that\u2019s it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I giocatori sono tutti <\/strong>festa<\/strong> con il maggior numero possibile di donne e di avere un costante rifornimento di nuove ragazze per intrattenerli. <\/strong>They move on quickly, no matter what you\u2019re like and how you act. A player will drop you as soon as he realizes that you\u2019re not on the same page or that you are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guys like this are best avoided. But even if you don\u2019t spot what he\u2019s like in time, you can still get out of it fairly unscathed if you let it go and don\u2019t dwell. Don\u2019t chase him or try to change him because it has no chance of working.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cosa fare se ha mandato un messaggio dopo il primo appuntamento ma non dopo?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Andate avanti. Siate contenti che sia successo prima che voi foste investiti e che il danno sia minimo. You didn\u2019t miss out on your <\/strong>amore vero<\/strong>, fidatevi di me. <\/strong>In realt\u00e0, l'unica cosa che \u00e8 stata ferita \u00e8 il suo ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you still need some comfort, think back to a time when you didn\u2019t even notice that you ghosted a guy because he was just so meh, and meanwhile, he was probably waiting for you to contact him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m not saying that this is what happened here, only that it\u2019s possible to look at things from more than one point of view. Just accept that he wasn\u2019t interested enough and <\/strong>andare avanti<\/strong> senza rimpianti.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pensate invece all'appuntamento con lui come a una serata divertente che non ha un significato particolare, ma che \u00e8 stata un modo piacevole di passare il tempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ragazze e guys flirt when they\u2019re not interested<\/a>promettere appuntamenti e non darvi seguito. Succede nel mondo degli appuntamenti moderni. Non ha nulla a che fare con te, quindi smetti di preoccuparti.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It doesn\u2019t matter why he isn\u2019t texting. Take care of yourself and live your own life. Lasciate perdere e smettete di sprecare le vostre energie chiedendovi il perch\u00e9. <\/strong>Worrying about it is a burden you don\u2019t need because it\u2019s so insignificant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In chiusura<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI had a great time last night,\u201d he said, and you believed him. You went out, he texted after first date but not since, so what gives? There are several possible reasons why he\u2019s ghosting you, but three are the most likely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In primo luogo, potrebbe aver capito dopo l'appuntamento che he wasn\u2019t as interested as he thought<\/strong> because you didn\u2019t click. Next, he decided against dating you because he realized that you\u2019re incompatible<\/strong>. Infine, potrebbe essere troppo occupato<\/strong> Qualunque sia il motivo, dovete lasciar perdere. Don\u2019t torture yourself over a guy you went on one date with. <\/strong>Go live your life instead of wondering why some guy\u2019s text is nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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