{"id":162508,"date":"2023-03-06T08:13:24","date_gmt":"2023-03-06T08:13:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=162508"},"modified":"2023-03-06T08:13:31","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T08:13:31","slug":"perche-le-rotture-delle-situazioni-fanno-piu-male-delle-relazioni-vere-e-proprie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/perche-le-rotture-delle-situazioni-fanno-piu-male-delle-relazioni-vere-e-proprie\/","title":{"rendered":"4 motivi per cui le rotture di situazioni fanno pi\u00f9 male delle relazioni vere e proprie"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m so sick and tired of all those situationships. Those in-between phases of relationships, the gray area where two people aren&#8217;t quite committed, but still care about each other a great deal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I\u2019m tired of talking with strangers about my hobbies, goals, likes and dislikes over and over again..but that isn\u2019t even the worst part of it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>If you\u2019ve ever experienced a situationship breakup, you know what I\u2019m talking about.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There are plenty of reasons why these gray areas hurt more than any actual relationship, and the whole essence of it lies in two things: It\u2019s POTENTIAL and your INVESTMENT.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-you-became-addicted-to-them\">1. Siete diventati dipendenti da loro<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste e pensierosa che guarda la strada\" class=\"wp-image-162511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-1200x795.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/sad-woman-in-deep-thouhts-looking-at-street-150x99.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>The pain isn\u2019t about the amount of time you were together. It never was. The real pain is about the intensity. You\u2019re on and then you\u2019re off again &#8211; <strong>Alti assurdi e poi bassi assurdi.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s your first few months of romance and you\u2019re filled with love drugs (oxytocin, dopamine, beta-endorphin and serotonin), and as with every drug &#8211; you become addicted to it. <strong>So, once your relationship ends abruptly, you\u2019re cut off on a high.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being in a heavy withdrawal is what makes the pain so INTENSE. On the other hand, when you\u2019re in a relationship, the initial romance decreases as time flies. You create tolerance for this love drug and there are no crazy highs that can hurt you now.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kimberly Rae, una coach di relazioni, parla molto di questo argomento sul suo account TikTok, quindi vi consigliamo di dargli un'occhiata.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-tiktok wp-block-embed-tiktok\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"tiktok-embed\" cite=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@kimberlyrae.life\/video\/7191530991201258794\" data-video-id=\"7191530991201258794\" data-embed-from=\"oembed\" style=\"max-width:605px; min-width:325px;\"> <section> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"@kimberlyrae.life\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/@kimberlyrae.life?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">@kimberlyrae.life<\/a> <p>3 motivi per cui la fine di una relazione pu\u00f2 essere cos\u00ec dura. <a title=\"Situazione di vita\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/situationship?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5Situazione<\/a> <a title=\"relazione\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relationship?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5Relazioni<\/a> <a title=\"consigli sulle relazioni\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relationshipadvice?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5Consigli di relazione<\/a> <a title=\"incontri\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/dating?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#dating<\/a> <a title=\"consiglio per gli incontri\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/datingadvice?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#consigli per gli appuntamenti<\/a> <a title=\"allenatore di incontri\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/datingcoach?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#datingcoach<\/a> <a title=\"allenatore di relazioni\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relationshipcoach?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5Allenatore di relazioni<\/a> <a title=\"rotture\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/breakups?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#roppe rotture<\/a> <a title=\"breakuptiktok\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/breakuptiktok?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#breakuptiktok<\/a> <a title=\"crepacuore\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/heartbreak?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">1TP5La rottura<\/a> <a title=\"difficolt\u00e0 relazionali\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/tag\/relationshipstruggles?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">#rattamenti di coppia<\/a> <\/p> <a target=\"_blank\" title=\"\u266c suono originale - Kimberly Rae | Dating Coach\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/music\/original-sound-7191531025997007659?refer=embed\" rel=\"noopener\">\u266c original sound &#8211; Kimberly Rae | Dating Coach<\/a> <\/section> <\/blockquote> <script async src=\"https:\/\/www.tiktok.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-you-were-emotionally-invested\">2. Siete stati investiti emotivamente<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>La brutta verit\u00e0 di ogni relazione \u00e8 che nessuno dei due \u00e8 sicuro di ci\u00f2 che vuole, eppure le emozioni tendono a salire.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>You\u2019re in too deep to just be friends, but not quite there for a real relationship.<\/strong> Even though you\u2019re aware that being emotionally invested in this situationship is the literal definition of self-sabotage, you just can\u2019t help yourself but to continue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Think about it. In a situationship, you\u2019re putting in all the effort and emotional investment without getting any of the rewards that come with a real relationship. <strong>You\u2019re making the same level of commitment, but you\u2019re not getting the same level of commitment back.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E a giudicare da questo Tweet molte persone sono d'accordo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">situationship heartbreak hurt worse cuz y\u2019all was never truly anything<\/p>- ** (@bigguccicraigy) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/bigguccicraigy\/status\/1618812749446017027?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" rel=\"noopener\">27 gennaio 2023<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>La cosa naturale che ne consegue \u00e8 il dolore.<strong> Un sacco di dolore.<\/strong> Because all the time you were holding onto the hope that it will eventually turn into a real relationship, but it didn\u2019t, and now you\u2019ve drained all the emotions you\u2019ve had.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-you-had-the-potential\">3. Avevate il potenziale&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts.jpg\" alt=\"donna seria con occhiali seduta in profonda riflessione\" class=\"wp-image-162512\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/serious-woman-with-glasses-sitting-in-deep-thoughts-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>When you\u2019re in a situationship, you\u2019re basically dating potential and when it ends, you\u2019re dealing with the death of that potential. So, you\u2019re probably thinking why would this be the cause of why situationships hurt so much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Beh, vedila come la morte di ci\u00f2 che avrebbe potuto essere. <\/strong>When you&#8217;re in a situationship, all you actually have are the possibilities of what might be (the fake scenarios you create everytime you go to sleep).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHm, this guy loves to travel and go to music festivals and I love to travel and go to music festivals..I can only imagine how fun and adventurous life we&#8217;re going to have.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>So, all you have is this idealized fantasy of what could be and when it ends it\u2019s painful that this fantasy never got off the ground.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s easy to romanticize a relationship that could\u2019ve been perfect rather than one you knew for a fact wasn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-you-need-a-closure\">4. \u00c8 necessaria una chiusura&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>In a real relationship, when it&#8217;s over, it&#8217;s over. You can go your separate ways, mourn the end of the relationship, and move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This, however, isn\u2019t the same for situationships. <strong>It\u2019s the hope that hurts and disappoints you.<\/strong> You\u2019re constantly thinking, <em>\u201cOh okay, I haven\u2019t heard of them today, but maybe tomorrow they\u2019ll text me.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The whole ending makes you feel ridiculous and like the grieving isn\u2019t justified. Also, it doesn\u2019t help that they seem completely unbothered which further invalidates how you feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ma ricordate, <strong>disrespect is all the closure you\u2019ll ever need.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-the-closure-you-needed\">La chiusura di cui avevate bisogno<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The fact that you\u2019re in a situationship gaslighting yourself into believing you have a future with this person already means you\u2019re in a vulnerable position.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then the rejection comes. It\u2019s like betting everything you own on something that has a 50% chance it will fail.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Quindi, s\u00ec, per farla breve: <strong>the title and the length of time doesn\u2019t determine the threshold of your pain. <\/strong>Le emozioni si misurano con l'esperienza e, purtroppo, le situazioni di coppia tendono ad averne in abbondanza.&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m so sick and tired of all those situationships. Those in-between phases of relationships, the gray area where two people aren&#8217;t quite committed, but still care about each other a great deal. 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