{"id":162524,"date":"2023-03-06T08:11:47","date_gmt":"2023-03-06T08:11:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=162524"},"modified":"2023-03-06T08:11:54","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T08:11:54","slug":"perche-evitare-la-fase-di-conversazione","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/perche-evitare-la-fase-di-conversazione\/","title":{"rendered":"Perch\u00e9 dire di no alla fase di conversazione \u00e8 in realt\u00e0 un rispetto di base per s\u00e9 stessi"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We\u2019ve all been there: you meet someone, you hit it off, and you fall into the same old pattern of endless conversations that never seem to lead to anything.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Il<strong> PARLARE<\/strong> stadio.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you want another failed talking stage, another round of questioning what\u2019s wrong with you and rebuilding your self-confidence, go for it. But if you want to know why talking for months makes you feel miserable and without self-respect, keep scrolling down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>L'eccitazione iniziale e la conseguente delusione, l'attesa costante delle loro attenzioni, i pensieri eccessivi e la sensazione di essere stupidi per essersi aperti a qualcuno di nuovo sono solo alcuni degli aspetti che si possono verificare.<strong> reasons why I\u2019m done with the talking stage.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Some of you might say that the talking stage is necessary if you want to find true love, and you\u2019re right &#8211; but not if it lasts for half a year.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-1-i-want-this-vs-i-m-not-sure-i-want-this\">1. \u201cI want this.\u201d vs. \u201cI\u2019m not sure I want this.\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand.jpg\" alt=\"donna minuta seduta sul divano con il telefono cellulare in mano\" class=\"wp-image-162528\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/mindful-woman-sitting-on-sofa-with-mobile-phone-in-hand-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s natural to want to keep the conversation going while you try to figure out if you\u2019re compatible or not. <strong>But if you\u2019re talking more than actually doing anything, it\u2019s time to take a step back and rethink your decisions.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They can go hours or even days without texting you and you can\u2019t say<em> \u201cWhere are you?\u201d <\/em>because you need to be polite and not stick your nose where it doesn\u2019t belong. So you go with the well-behaved <em>\u201cOh, how was your day?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Volete davvero questo da una relazione?<\/strong> Spending endless hours thinking if you said something wrong, acted too clingy or if they just aren\u2019t interested in you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s why saying NO to the talking stage will let you clearly define what you WANT and DON\u2019T WANT from your partner. And you won\u2019t go against your principles. You owe yourself at least that much self-respect!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-2-you-won-t-manipulate-me-anymore\">2. \u201cYou won\u2019t manipulate me anymore.\u2019\u2019<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Usate il cervello. Avete davvero la forza di affrontare un'altra fase di conversazione che durer\u00e0 diversi mesi? Raccontare a qualcuno la storia della vostra vita, i vostri traumi, le cose che preferite, ci\u00f2 che vi fa ridere? <strong>Solo per farti suonare alla fine?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ti innamorerai di un altro <strong><em>\u201cI really love spending time with you but I\u2019m just not ready yet. Just give us some time and we will make it work. I promise?\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Avere rispetto di s\u00e9 significa stimarsi abbastanza da fuggire dalla persona che dice questo. Non potrete mai essere facilmente manipolati e feriti se lavorate per i VOSTRI interessi, non per i loro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Unless you\u2019re a hunter looking for self-sabotage and destruction, you better stop the chase.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">La fase di conversazione \u00e8 un modo per l'altra persona di tenerti agli standard di fidanzato\/ragazza senza renderti effettivamente la sua fidanzata\/il suo fidanzato. A me sembra una manipolazione <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/yFP3KFIPHL\">https:\/\/t.co\/yFP3KFIPHL<\/a><\/p>&mdash; CAPA\ud83e\udd84 (@yungcapa) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/yungcapa\/status\/1154208258984435712?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" rel=\"noopener\">25 luglio 2019<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-3-i-m-done-wasting-my-time-with-you\">3. \u201cI\u2019m done wasting my time with you.\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach.jpg\" alt=\"giovane donna che guarda lontano in orizzontale sulla spiaggia\" class=\"wp-image-162529\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-1200x801.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/03\/young-woman-looking-away-in-horizont-on-the-beach-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Maturare significa rendersi conto che la fase delle chiacchiere \u00e8 una perdita di tempo. Ho detto quello che ho detto. Pensateci.&nbsp; <strong>Avete davvero intenzione di uscire con il partner dei vostri sogni o avete appena sprecato tre mesi della vostra vita?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sappiamo tutti che la seconda opzione \u00e8 la pi\u00f9 probabile, purtroppo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La maggior parte di noi non \u00e8 mai andata oltre la fase delle chiacchiere, perch\u00e9 dopo la fase della luna di miele ti colpiscono tradizionalmente con il <em>\u201cI think I\u2019m not ready for a relationship now.\u2019\u2019&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si finisce per perdere tempo, emozioni e voglia di trovare qualcuno di nuovo. <strong>Ad ogni nuova fase di conversazione fallita, il desiderio di entrare in un'altra diminuisce.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019re left alone with your 2 AM thoughts thinking about never talking to anyone new again. Your time is you &#8211; so have some self-respect and don\u2019t spend yourself on someone who doesn\u2019t deserve you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">I totally understand. As an adult, &quot;talking stage&quot; is a waste of time. You either want to sleep with me, do business with me, hang with me for browny points, or have ONE meaningful conversation you think is important to you.But we are not going to be in a &quot;stage&quot; of just talking<\/p>- Nafimane Halweendo. (@Naffy101) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/Naffy101\/status\/1375489455163867143?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\" rel=\"noopener\">26 marzo 2021<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-4-i-m-finally-able-to-maintain-my-self-esteem\">4. \u201cI\u2019m finally able to maintain my self-esteem.\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>La fase di conversazione \u00e8 sinonimo di confusione. In questo periodo orribile si mette in discussione tutto: <strong>il vostro valore, la vostra personalit\u00e0 e i vostri interessi.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The sad reality is that this talking stage is a one-way street in which most of the time, you\u2019re the one making effort. Every time you\u2019re the first to respond, you become more and more insecure about yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Quindi, credetemi quando vi dico che dire di no alla fase di conversazione non solo vi aiuter\u00e0 a mantenere la vostra autostima, ma vi far\u00e0 anche sentire pi\u00f9 forti.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll finally stop worrying about where you stand, whether you\u2019re good enough, and what all those mixed signals mean.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h1 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"h-always-remember\">Ricorda sempre<\/h1>\n\n\n\n<p>Bye, bye, talking stage! It&#8217;s time to show off your maturity and strength by recognizing when something isn&#8217;t the right fit for you and standing up for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Don&#8217;t be afraid to put your foot down, it will do wonders for your peace of mind.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, be brave and don&#8217;t let anyone talk you into something you don&#8217;t want &#8211; it&#8217;s the best way to take your self-respect to the highest level.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We\u2019ve all been there: you meet someone, you hit it off, and you fall into the same old pattern of endless conversations that never seem to lead to anything.&nbsp; The TALKING stage.&nbsp; If you want another failed talking stage, another round of questioning what\u2019s wrong with you and rebuilding your self-confidence, go for it. 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