{"id":164800,"date":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","date_gmt":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=164800"},"modified":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","modified_gmt":"2024-05-27T14:15:07","slug":"viaggio-verso-lamore-per-se-stessi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/viaggio-verso-lamore-per-se-stessi\/","title":{"rendered":"Dopo anni di offese al corpo, finalmente mi amo di nuovo!"},"content":{"rendered":"

I haven\u2019t felt like I was attractive enough for the last, I don\u2019t even know how many years. In qualche modo non sono mai stata in grado di rientrare negli standard di bellezza<\/strong> tutti ci spingono in gola. Non importa cosa ho fatto o quanto sono cambiata, non \u00e8 mai stato abbastanza.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Although at first, I didn\u2019t seem to notice something was so awfully wrong (it wasn\u2019t) with my body, others often made sure to let me know that loud and clear. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This caused me to question my sanity. I wasn\u2019t even sure if I loved myself anymore?! My mental health took a toll on me and years of struggling were in front of me. However, this also marked the beginning of my long journey to self-love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Non ero altro che pelle e ossa per gli altri<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"donna<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Ever since elementary school kids would pick on me because of my weight. It didn\u2019t help that I was the tallest girl in my class, even taller than all the boys.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Teasing from my peers didn\u2019t really surprise me, unlike grown-up people who would <\/strong>comment on my body all the time! And yeah, they didn\u2019t have many positive things to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nel corso degli anni ho sentito molti commenti diversi, il pi\u00f9 delle volte quelli che cercavano di essere travestito da divertente e dannoso<\/strong>. \u201cDo you have anything to eat?\u201d<\/em> S\u00ec, Karen, mangio molto cibo. A volte ho persino mangiato pi\u00f9 di mio padre. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tutto questo mi ha reso molto consapevole e insicuro.<\/strong>. I always wondered how the world praises models like Bella Hadid and does everything to look like her, while they treat me like I\u2019m some kind of a skeleton. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

One day I checked her height and weight, and all her proportions, only to find out that the only difference between us is that I have wider hips. (Sure, I\u2019m also not a billionaire, but you know what I think.) <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quello che mi ha dato molto fastidio \u00e8 che nessuno ha capito seriamente il mio dolore<\/strong>. Alcuni troverebbero divertente il fatto che io mi senta in imbarazzo perch\u00e9 sono magra. \u201cI wish that was my problem!\u201d, <\/em>dicevano.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People can\u2019t understand that someone dire che si \u00e8 troppo magri \u00e8 altrettanto offensivo e doloroso<\/strong> come qualcuno che ti d\u00e0 del sovrappeso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The worst thing wasn\u2019t even the fact that random people would give themselves permission to speak about mio<\/em> corpo. La vera caduta della mia fiducia in me stessa \u00e8 iniziata quando ho iniziato a frequentare qualcuno.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Worst of all, my partner\u2019s hate exceeded everyone else\u2019s<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"donna<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Ogni volta che eravamo insieme, il suo sguardo intenso mi lasciava quasi nuda. Mentre i suoi occhi vagavano sul mio corpo, la punta delle sue dita dipingeva sul mio corpo come se fosse una tela. Aspettavo con il desiderio di vedere dove ci avrebbe portato il suo prossimo tocco.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mentre i suoi occhi continuavano a percorrere ogni centimetro di me, sembrava quasi che stesse cercando qualcosa. Avevo ragione. Cercava un modo per demolire la mia fiducia gi\u00e0 infranta.<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quello che pensavo fosse un momento di pura soddisfazione per entrambi, si \u00e8 rivelato nient'altro che lui... cercando di trovare i miei difetti<\/strong>. I didn\u2019t realize how much words can hurt until I heard them from someone I deeply loved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cReal women have curves. You would look better with more meat on your bones. It\u2019s like you\u2019re almost invisible,\u201d<\/em> direbbe. Ogni parola incideva pi\u00f9 a fondo nella mia mente<\/strong>, con un dolore che non ho mai provato prima. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve gone through this hell for a couple of months thinking that he\u2019ll change and fall in love with my body. When I realized that wouldn\u2019t happen, it was like something just switched in my head and I started thinking differently. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il mio amor proprio ha superato tutto<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"giovane<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Dopo aver dubitato a lungo di me stessa e aver cercato di capire quale fosse il mio problema, mi sono resa conto che il problema non \u00e8 mai stato in me<\/strong>. Tutto il tempo era negli altri, nelle loro insicurezze nascoste e nel riflesso della loro fiducia vacillante su di me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I realized that a person who is primarily fulfilled with themselves and happy in their skin would never act purposely in a way that would hurt someone. They are busy with their life and don\u2019t want to waste their energy on such negative things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Those people are also aware they won\u2019t gain anything from hurting someone\u2019s feelings (besides good old karma), while Le persone infelici traggono una rapida dose di soddisfazione dal mettere in cattiva luce gli altri <\/strong>fino a quando non torneranno alle loro tristi e miserabili vite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ho preferito la mia felicit\u00e0 alle insicurezze<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"donna<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Una volta ho preso le distanze dalle persone negative e mi sono circondato di persone gentili, Ho ritrovato la fiducia in me stessa e l'amore per me stessa che avevo perso da tempo<\/strong>. Ora penso che il mio corpo sia perfetto cos\u00ec com'\u00e8. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone\u2019s body is beyond perfect even though we don\u2019t realize it. Your body keeps you alive, your legs take you wherever you want, your brain helps you create amazing things and every cell in your body has some function which it tirelessly performs every second. Our bodies truly are a miracle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You should never lose hope because what isn\u2019t attractive to one man, another one will happily praise! At the end of the day, the most important thing is up to us. How can we expect others to love us if we don\u2019t love ourselves? <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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