{"id":165117,"date":"2024-06-04T12:34:56","date_gmt":"2024-06-04T12:34:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165117"},"modified":"2024-06-04T12:34:58","modified_gmt":"2024-06-04T12:34:58","slug":"come-superare-la-dipendenza-da-app-di-incontri","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-superare-la-dipendenza-da-app-di-incontri\/","title":{"rendered":"Ero dipendente dalle app di incontri e questo \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che mi ha tenuto sotto incantesimo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m eating my lunch, and all of a sudden I feel a vibration floating through the surface of my table. I hold my breath and take the phone \u2013 \u201c<em>OMG, a Tinder notification!\u201d<\/em> Immediatamente <strong>I immerse myself in the app\u2019s virtual universe and lose the sense of time.<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La mia pausa pranzo \u00e8 finita, devo tornare di corsa in ufficio e <strong>il mio pranzo mi guarda con enorme disappunto.<\/strong> \"<em>Potreste inscatolarla per me? Grazie.<\/em>\u201d I ask the waiter and explain that I will finish my lunch in the office.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the way back I started thinking\u2026 Am I addicted to dating apps?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Da quando sono state rilasciate le app di incontri sono <em>quindi<\/em> entusiasta e ha iniziato a frequentare con impegno. Io <strong>scorrere a destra e a sinistra, cambiare foto e riscrivere la mia biografia un paio di volte.<\/strong> Spesso rimanevo sveglia fino a tardi e mi svegliavo sopraffatta da tutti i messaggi.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The tiredness didn\u2019t prevent compulsive swiping during my free time. Even when I felt I\u2019d had enough, <strong>I couldn\u2019t make myself stop<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dopo un po' di tempo, si \u00e8 capito che c'\u00e8 <strong>qualcosa di molto coinvolgente nelle app di incontri<\/strong>, the same as with social media. It didn\u2019t take long until I realized I was actually obsessed. This is how I figured out <strong>Cosa rende le app di incontri cos\u00ec coinvolgenti<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Ero dipendente da un ciclo perpetuo di strisciamenti<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"678\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app--1024x678.jpg\" alt=\"incontri donna su app\" class=\"wp-image-165120\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app--1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app--300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app--768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app--18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app--960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app--1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app--1200x795.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-dating-on-app-.jpg 1600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>There is a sea of limitless flirting possibilities and it\u2019s all so exciting! So many men, so little time. Suddenly you find yourself wanting to have them all. You jump from one match to another, hoping the next one will be better.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Prima di accorgersene, si cade nella trappola. <strong>You\u2019re in an endless loop and you see no exit door.<\/strong> Inoltre, i piani gratuiti diventano presto insufficienti, bisogna pagare per le funzioni aggiuntive (<strong>pagare per giocare!<\/strong>), and you do it because you\u2019re hooked!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Been there, done that\u2026&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Mi \u00e8 piaciuta la giocosit\u00e0<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Dating apps have addictive design features that resemble game-like experiences. Swiping, push notifications, complementing, showing progress, and rewards \u2013 they\u2019re all <strong>inneschi che vi attireranno e vi faranno sentire incantati.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Tutto sembra <strong>as if you&#8217;re just playing a game.<\/strong> Anche l'interfaccia \u00e8 simile a un gioco.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Ero come sotto un incantesimo<\/strong>Una parte di me era qui nel mondo reale e un'altra era continuamente attaccata alla mia esistenza sulle app di appuntamenti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Mi risolleverebbe l'umore<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>C'\u00e8 un trucco neurochimico dietro le app di incontri. Quando siamo coinvolti in <strong>attivit\u00e0 emozionanti e piacevoli<\/strong> our brain releases dopamine. Dopamine, A.K.A \u201cfeel-good\u201d hormone, is the chemical messenger that turns on the brain&#8217;s reward system.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The swiping, matching with someone, all the likes and comments \u2013 it all lifts your mood and makes you <strong>sentirsi entusiasti e pieni di speranza.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That\u2019s when it hit me! I was actually addicted to dopamine, that\u2019s why it was so hard to free myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. Mi avrebbe aiutato quando mi sentivo solo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app.jpg\" alt=\"donna che scorre su un&#039;app di incontri\" class=\"wp-image-165118\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-scrolling-on-dating-app-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re shy or introverted you\u2019ll find it difficult to meet people in the real world. Dating apps <strong>vi permettono di esplorare un'abbondanza di scelte e possibilit\u00e0.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s easy to deceive yourself and believe dating apps will <strong>vi aiuter\u00e0 a trovare un partner molto pi\u00f9 velocemente <\/strong>di quanto si potrebbe fare altrimenti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I know I thought so, but I was naive and unaware of the dating apps\u2019 side effects.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Ho trovato l'avventura nell'ignoto<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Ancora la nostra buona amica dopamina! Il <strong>imprevedibilit\u00e0 delle interazioni sulle app di incontri<\/strong> increases our levels of \u201cfeel-good\u201d hormone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Inoltre, c'\u00e8 curiosit\u00e0 e <strong>brivido dell'ignoto<\/strong>. When we start searching for matching users we\u2019re imagining different scenarios and trust me, it brings a lot of joy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Poich\u00e9 c'era una moltitudine di opzioni, a volte avevo paura di perdere grandi opportunit\u00e0 di abbinamento. <strong>La FOMO ti fa sprofondare nel fango dello swiping<\/strong>, diventando ancora pi\u00f9 dipendente!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. Sono riuscito a fuggire dalla realt\u00e0<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Se non siete veramente soddisfatti del vostro rapporto di coppia, potreste essere inclini a fuggire e a <strong>tuffarsi nel mondo parallelo degli incontri online.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There you\u2019re not you, <strong>il vostro alter ego pu\u00f2 indossare tanti cappelli<\/strong>e l'esperienza \u00e8 entusiasmante.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I kept building my \u201cdating muscle\u201d, and changed my \u201cdating image\u201d frequently. I felt so powerful. As if <strong>Ho potuto creare tante storie e versioni diverse di me stesso.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Even if your relationship feels off sometimes, you mustn\u2019t forget that users of dating apps are real people. <strong>Anche se sembra un gioco virtuale, qualcuno potrebbe prenderlo sul serio.<\/strong> e pu\u00f2 diventare quantomeno pericoloso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So make sure your escapism doesn&#8217;t hurt anyone, especially your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Aiutate voi stessi! Disintossicatevi dalle app di incontri.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1060\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone.jpg\" alt=\"donna che guarda il cellulare\" class=\"wp-image-165119\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone-1080x716.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/woman-looking-at-mobile-phone-1200x795.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>If you think you might be addicted to dating apps, get ready for a detox. I don\u2019t say it will be easy but stay firm and follow my tips.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Innanzitutto, quando si mangia, si mangia e basta, quindi <strong>Tenete lontano il telefono durante il pasto! <\/strong>The same goes for sleep \u2013 make your bedroom a tech-free area.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Turn off notifications! You don\u2019t need constant interruption. Let yourself <strong>sentirsi presenti nel momento.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Smettete di fare multitasking e limitatevi a uno schermo alla volta. <strong>Scegliete una o due app di incontri<\/strong> and don\u2019t juggle between too many options.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Assicuratevi di <strong>Riservate una parte del vostro tempo per non usare la tecnologia!<\/strong> Niente TV, niente telefono, niente tablet, niente computer! Solo voi e le interazioni della vita reale. Potete passare del tempo con gli amici, la famiglia o il vostro cane. 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