{"id":165246,"date":"2024-06-05T08:12:55","date_gmt":"2024-06-05T08:12:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=165246"},"modified":"2024-06-05T08:12:55","modified_gmt":"2024-06-05T08:12:55","slug":"lati-negativi-della-positivita-tossica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lati-negativi-della-positivita-tossica\/","title":{"rendered":"Perch\u00e9 la positivit\u00e0 tossica ci fa male e come affrontarla?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Vi \u00e8 mai capitato di avere una di quelle giornate in cui nulla va secondo i piani o magari avete appena sentito una brutta notizia che vi ha distrutto il mondo?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When that happens, we usually share it with someone close. I mean, it\u2019s much easier when we don\u2019t keep everything to ourselves, right? At least this is how it should be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuttavia, a volte parlare con gli altri pu\u00f2 prosciugarci ancora di pi\u00f9<\/strong> perch\u00e9 tendono a costringerci a essere felici e grati a prescindere da tutto. Vi siete mai trovati in queste situazioni?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You know, when people don\u2019t take anything you say seriously. They expect you to shake everything off with a smile and a \u201cit\u2019s no big deal\u201d<\/em> attitude. If yes, you\u2019ve been the victim of toxic positivity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In che modo la societ\u00e0 ci ha convinto che la positivit\u00e0 tossica sia normale<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"donna<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Dopo aver letto questo articolo, cercate di prestare attenzione alle cose che vi circondano, agli spot televisivi, ai cartelloni pubblicitari, alle cose che appaiono sul vostro telefono, a tutto! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s crazy when you think about it but we\u2019re literally surrounded by this big cloud of positivity wherever we go. This sounds funny and harmless but in this way, La societ\u00e0 ci fa pesare molto.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avete mai visto una pubblicit\u00e0 realistica di un assorbente o di un tampone? Si vedono queste ragazze felici che corrono spensierate, saltellando nei loro jeans bianchi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They look like they just won a jackpot and not like they\u2019re bleeding and feeling like their insides are shredding. And here you are \u2013 lying down in the fetal position, in excruciating pain cursing the day you were born as a woman. So yeah\u2026not really accurate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La mentalit\u00e0 positiva ci viene sempre spintonata in gola. <\/strong>Gli influencer predicano uno stile di vita facile, la \u201cgood vibes only\u201d<\/em> \u00e8 su tutto ci\u00f2 che ci circonda e I sedicenti guru ci vendono i loro libri e i loro corsi! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t even catch a break in the workplace! More and more often le aziende spingono la positivit\u00e0 attraverso la loro cultura del lavoro<\/strong> with the excuse of wanting to create a healthy environment when they\u2019re actually doing the exact opposite.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vivere in questo modo non \u00e8 normale e naturale per gli esseri umani, e in pi\u00f9 crea un contraccolpo maggiore nel lungo periodo! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allora, perch\u00e9 non \u00e8 normale?<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"donna<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Fare pressione sulle persone affinch\u00e9 mettano un bel fiocco su tutto ci\u00f2 che dicono non fa altro che ignorare i loro sentimenti e farli sentire come se le loro reazioni ed emozioni fossero esagerate. E questa \u00e8 una strada pericolosa da percorrere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keeping an optimistic attitude is recommended as we shouldn\u2019t be pessimistic about everything but forcing ourselves to be happy even when that\u2019s not the case is not healthy at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Persino la scienza ha scoperto che reprimere le emozioni porta solo a quello che chiamano un \u201crebound effect\u201d<\/em>. Certo, si pu\u00f2 scegliere di ignorare i propri sentimenti e di esprimere certe emozioni solo per un certo periodo di tempo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuttavia, prima o poi, questo rimbalzer\u00e0 e creer\u00e0 solo un effetto peggiore di quello iniziale, quando abbiamo scelto di non affrontarlo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trust me, I\u2019ve tried that and can confirm it. Dismissing my negative emotions and pushing myself to feel happy all the time gave me nothing except un crollo improvviso e mesi di terapia. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Alcuni studi hanno persino dimostrato che evitare le emozioni negative per periodi prolungati pu\u00f2 portare allo sviluppo di molte malattie, tra cui il cancro! Come uscire da questo circolo vizioso di tossicit\u00e0?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Consentire a se stessi e agli altri di sentire TUTTO<\/h2>\n\n\n
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\"donna<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

I remember how my psychologist gave me a really simple advice \u2013 you need to feel everything. Sure, feeling ugly emotions is not fun and easy but it\u2019s a must to keep our sanity<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t hide from anger, sadness, and frustration by scrolling on your phone or binge-watching some TV show. If you do, those negative emotions will find you when you least expect it and crush you down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Questo vale anche per i rapporti con le altre persone. Se qualcuno vi riversa la sua anima, evitate di dire cose come:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  • \u201cDon\u2019t be so negative.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • \u201cIt can always be worse\/Someone has it worse than you.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • \u201cAlways look at the bright side.\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • \u201cEverything happens for a reason<\/em>.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    I know it\u2019s in our human nature to help others and we often think the right way to do it is by cheering them up but sometimes that\u2019s not the case. It\u2019s completely fine to be upset<\/strong> e spesso la cosa migliore che possiamo offrire a qualcuno \u00e8 solo un cenno silenzioso e una spalla su cui piangere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Un altro consiglio utile \u00e8 quello di consumare sempre i media con un grano di sale.<\/strong> You don\u2019t post your worst life moments on Instagram, do you? So why do you think that an influencer and a friend from high school are living their best life every day? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Whenever you think someone\u2019s life is perfect, just know that you\u2019re not seeing the full picture. You have to remember that there\u2019s more to life than what we show on social media. Ognuno ha le sue difficolt\u00e0<\/strong> and obviously, we won\u2019t share it all with the world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

    But what we should do, is find ourselves friends we can share it with and not be attacked by a stream of toxic positivity but compassion and understanding. Don\u2019t forget to do the same for yourself too and remember that Tutti i sentimenti sono validi e vanno benissimo!<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    Ever had one of those days where nothing goes according to plan or maybe you just heard some bad news that crushed your world? When that happens, we usually share it with someone close. I mean, it\u2019s much easier when we don\u2019t keep everything to ourselves, right? At least this is how it should be….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":165254,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-165246","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/06\/Why-Is-Toxic-Positivity-Bad-For-Us-And-How-To-Deal-With-It-1024x678.jpg",1024,678,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165246","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=165246"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165246\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":165255,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/165246\/revisions\/165255"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/165254"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=165246"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=165246"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=165246"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}