\u00c8 stato lui ad andare avanti per primo, ha trovato una ragazza dopo qualche mese e poi mi ha mandato un messaggio:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u2013 \u201cCan we stay friends?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019ve broken up recently, you probably feel the same, torn between a plausible idea of keeping him in your life and the urge to forget about the past and move on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dopo la separazione, la prima sfida \u00e8 abituarsi a non vederlo e sentirlo tutti i giorni. Someone who had a very important role in your life suddenly isn\u2019t there anymore,<\/strong> e ti manca da morire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s like an addiction and you need to detoxify yourself from it, or a chemical attraction that needs to fade to allow you to get rid of the habit. There is an un enorme buco nella vostra vita che ha bisogno di essere riempito con un nuovo significato.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sentirsi disperati, si vuole mantenere la sensazione di sicurezza emotiva<\/strong> La vostra relazione vi sta dando problemi e pensate che l'amicizia sia un ottimo modo per farlo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n But why can’t we be friends after the breakup?<\/em> you’ll probably ask. Well, to tell you the truth, you can, but not right after the separation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Prima \u00e8 necessario un intervallo di tempo. After a dark night of the soul, you\u2019ll need to reclaim yourself<\/strong>, put together your broken pieces, meet new people, and find new joys. When you fill the emptiness you\u2019ll feel better and then it might be the right time to give it a try.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A volte l'amicizia pu\u00f2 essere un modo per trovare una chiusura, ma bisogna fare attenzione. Dovete essere entrambi sulla stessa lunghezza d'onda e vogliono davvero mantenere rapporti amichevoli con l'altro senza alcun bagaglio emotivo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, make sure you\u2019re not trying to stay friends hoping you\u2019ll get him back. No secret agenda please, when it\u2019s over it\u2019s over.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Se provi a essere sua amica subito dopo la rottura, senza lasciar sbollire i tuoi sentimenti, you may fool yourself into thinking that it\u2019s not over yet.<\/strong> You\u2019ll live in a false hope and that will prevent you from moving on and giving a chance to someone new.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Il mio ex mi ha spiegato l'idea:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2013 \u201cI still can\u2019t see you only as a friend but I hope you can stay in my life in some way. If you want that too! I care to know you\u2019re well. We might never see each other again but we can keep in touch even when we have different lives.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n I couldn\u2019t decide if I wanted to stay in touch. I was afraid it would be even more painful to recover and impossible to forget him. On the other hand, I couldn\u2019t let us become strangers. Avevo bisogno di sapere come stava.<\/strong> Mi importava della sua vita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Cos\u00ec abbiamo continuato a mandarci messaggi di tanto in tanto, ma Con il tempo siamo diventati pi\u00f9 distanti.<\/strong> L'ho superata, ho incontrato un'altra persona e mi sono innamorata di nuovo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Anche se rimanere amico del mio ex mi ha aiutato ad ammortizzare il dolore<\/strong> and allowed us to reinvent our relationship in a new platonic way, I don\u2019t believe it\u2019s always a good choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Quindi, potrebbe essere una buona idea rimanere amici del vostro ex quando lo decidete onestamente e reciprocamente e quando \u00e8 passato abbastanza tempo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019ll also need to be honest with yourself. Why do you really want to keep him in your life as a friend? Are you emotionally capable of handling his new role?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Perch\u00e9 questa amicizia sar\u00e0 molto diversa da quella che avevate come coppia. <\/strong>You\u2019ll tell yourself you just want to know how he’s doing, but some news might upset you. When he told me he had a girlfriend I was devastated and had a hard time accepting it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When you\u2019re fully recovered and if he\u2019s open to it, try nurturing friendship. Don\u2019t start a friendship before you\u2019re done putting back all the pieces of your broken heart.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Assicuratevi di stabilire dei limiti e di tracciare le linee che non devono essere superate. Just friends. Without \u201cthe benefits.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n E se ti avesse fatto del male? Perch\u00e9 vorresti essere amica di qualcuno che \u00e8 stato cattivo con te? Don\u2019t stay friends with a toxic man who abused you in some way. <\/strong>Inoltre, se \u00e8 stato infedele e sleale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Anche rimanere amici quando si provano ancora dei sentimenti per lui \u00e8 una cattiva idea. Don\u2019t hope a friendship will help you get him back. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t try to assure him you\u2019re well off without him. Voltate pagina e iniziate un nuovo capitolo della vostra vita. <\/strong>Lui pu\u00f2 essere presente per sostenervi, come dovrebbe fare un vero amico, ma voi dovete concentrarvi sulle opportunit\u00e0 di relazione future. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" He was my lover, my best friend, my home, and the whole world to me. Then he moved to California for work and the long-distance relationship took a toll on us so we broke up. At first, I was completely shattered, as if a huge piece of tissue was violently removed from my body. 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If you need advice on when and how to break up, you'll find it all here.\r\n","parent":29627,"count":263,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29628,"category_count":263,"category_description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\nL'amicizia dopo la rottura mi ha aiutato ad ammortizzare il dolore<\/h2>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\nWhen is friendship a good idea and when isn\u2019t?<\/h2>\n\n\n
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