Nel momento in cui io e mio marito abbiamo detto \u201cyes\u201d <\/em>all'altare, la gente ha iniziato ad assillarci. \u00c8 stata la cosa pi\u00f9 fastidiosa di sempre! Credo che questa sia un'esperienza universale per tutti gli sposi. E tutti noi la odiamo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Why are people so stuck on one way of doing things? I\u2019ve always wondered about that. Is it because i film ritraggono sempre questa esperienza universale del matrimonio <\/strong>and how things should be going? Or because that\u2019s what they expect from us?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sorry to disappoint you but things aren\u2019t exactly the same as they once were. Also, people are free to live how they want. Imagine that!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ecco alcune delle ipotesi pi\u00f9 comuni (e fastidiose) che le persone hanno di solito. Iniziare con forza con:<\/p>\n\n\n\n In realt\u00e0, siamo ancora lontani dalla vacanza dei nostri sogni! La realt\u00e0 \u00e8 un po' diversa, purtroppo, e crudele. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Remember the laws in the USA? No paid vacation\u2026yeah. We spent tons of money on our wedding and abbiamo bisogno di tempo per rimetterci in sesto prima di andare da qualche parte. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, planning a wedding and honeymoon at the same time is quite exhausting! It\u2019s just a lot to do and we already had a couple of pretty chaotic months. So for now on, our honeymoon is still on hold, but we can\u2019t wait to travel! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Se qualcuno aspettasse fino al matrimonio, allora questo potrebbe essere vero, ma anche in questo caso le persone hanno bisogno di tempo per adattarsi ed esplorare le cose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n La maggior parte di noi aveva gi\u00e0 qualche azione in corso o addirittura viveva insieme! Being married didn\u2019t magically change our <\/strong>routine in camera da letto<\/em><\/strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, we have a more serious sense of commitment now but our worlds didn\u2019t turn upside down just because we got a paper saying we\u2019re official! <\/p>\n\n\n\n I don\u2019t know what it is about people asking newlyweds about having kids as soon as they get married. Firstly, it\u2019s an insanely inappropriate and awkward thing to ask, and secondly, that\u2019s not your business!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Alcune coppie possono decidere di volere che <\/strong>doppio reddito, senza figli<\/em><\/strong> vita<\/strong>, which is perfectly fine by the way and we shouldn\u2019t judge it! Others may really want babies but can\u2019t have them for some reason and this question can only be hurtful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n E poi ci sono persone che vogliono dei figli, ma non subito. <\/strong>Whatever the case, please for the love of God, never ask newlyweds if they\u2019re preparing for a new addition to the family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Capisco perch\u00e9 le persone lo pensino, ma non tutti odiano la vita di citt\u00e0. Le nuove generazioni di i giovani amano vivere in una grande citt\u00e0<\/strong> dove tutto \u00e8 disponibile con uno schiocco di dita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You\u2019re craving pizza at 2 am? No problem, delivery will be there in seconds! You need something quickly from the store? There\u2019s one around the corner! It\u2019s simply more convenient <\/strong>e la grande citt\u00e0 offre numerose opportunit\u00e0 che vogliamo cogliere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n However, maybe we\u2019ll appreciate the peace of the suburbs and the big green yard in front of the house when we get older. But for now, we\u2019re staying where we are!<\/p>\n\n\n\n I mean we\u2019re feeling pretty good and happy about being married. However, we don\u2019t think we instantly became better than everyone else.<\/strong> <\/p>\n\n\n\n Some people might not be married and living better lives than us. They probably don\u2019t argue about things like who forgot to buy toilet paper this time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Abbiamo ancora rispetto per tutti allo stesso modo! Pensare di considerarci superiori solo perch\u00e9 ci siamo sposati \u00e8 davvero sciocco e non \u00e8 assolutamente vero!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Oh, il buon vecchio patriarcato! S\u00ec, i tempi sono decisamente diversi ora, zia Brenda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Don\u2019t get me wrong. We don\u2019t have anything against women who choose to have their husband’s last name or couples who get a completely new one, but like I said, everyone\u2019s different. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If that\u2019s what you like, then go for it! Ad alcuni di noi piace molto il proprio cognome e vogliono tenerlo.<\/strong> Inoltre, in questo modo evitiamo tante noiose scartoffie e il fastidio di aggiornare ogni nostro documento personale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019ll probably never convince my husband to go to opera with me. He\u2019ll probably never convince me to watch war or sci-fi movies. And guess what? We\u2019re still happily married!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Being married doesn\u2019t mean you suddenly have the same interests and hobbies<\/strong> e buttare via la vecchia personalit\u00e0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I mean sure, we have some things in common, that\u2019s why we got married in the first place but we\u2019re far away from morphing into one person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u00ec, ora siamo decisamente un pacchetto. Quando vuoi uscire con una di noi, le prendi entrambe, mi dispiace! Per favore, sii serio. \u00c8 una cosa stupida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Abbiamo ancora vite separate!<\/strong> Don\u2019t think I can\u2019t go on a brunch with you just because my husband\u2019s out of town. Actually, please call me, I\u2019m bored in the house!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Marriage is all about finding a balance between spending time together and having some time apart. If we were together 24\/7 we wouldn\u2019t have a chance to ever miss each other, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pochi giorni dopo il mio matrimonio, la gente ha iniziato subito a chiedermelo: \u201dSo, what\u2019s it like?\u201d<\/em>Si aspettavano che raccontassi loro qualche storia assurda su come le nostre vite fossero cambiate drasticamente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I say that everything\u2019s pretty much the same, I always disappoint them with that answer. I\u2019m not sure what could possibly change<\/strong>, apart from magically finding my husband\u2019s dirty socks everywhere except in the laundry basket.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Oh yeah, we also got a ton of kitchen appliances as wedding gifts and we\u2019re trying to figure out how to use them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n People often assume that there\u2019s simply no way we can live on our own and be happy. If we\u2019re not transforming our home into a tiny human factory, we will get ourselves something a bit easier to keep alive, like a pet!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Okay, I\u2019m not going to lie and say probabilmente \u00e8 vero! <\/strong>I mean, I don\u2019t have to go through torture for 9 months, pets are always there for cuddles (not cats though) and my husband and I don\u2019t need to argue about who\u2019ll change the diapers this time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So yeah, we\u2019re definitely getting a pet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n There you have it. A free manual of things you shouldn\u2019t assume about newlyweds or ask them. 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Siamo passati direttamente dall'altare alla luna di miele!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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2. We\u2019re so busy in bed, we don\u2019t even leave the bedroom!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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3. La nostra casa \u00e8 diventata una piccola fabbrica umana!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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4. Goodbye city life, we\u2019re moving to the suburbs!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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5. We pity the people who still haven\u2019t tied the knot!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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6. La moglie deve essere entusiasta del suo nuovo cognome!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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7. In pratica siamo diventati la stessa persona!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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8. We\u2019re glued to each other all the time!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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9. Things are so much different now that we\u2019re married!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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10. Since storks are not coming yet, we\u2019re adopting a pet!<\/h2>\n\n\n
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