{"id":167135,"date":"2024-07-03T12:53:35","date_gmt":"2024-07-03T12:53:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167135"},"modified":"2024-09-14T15:58:49","modified_gmt":"2024-09-14T15:58:49","slug":"la-vergogna-delle-mamme-e-tutti-i-consigli-non-richiesti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/la-vergogna-delle-mamme-e-tutti-i-consigli-non-richiesti\/","title":{"rendered":"Perch\u00e9 tutti si sentono in diritto di dire alle neomamme come educare i figli?"},"content":{"rendered":"

You must\u2019ve experienced a mom-shaming yourself. I had no idea it even existed until I became a mom. At the very same moment, tutti hanno iniziato a dirmi cosa fare.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was at a barbecue party that my parents organized to celebrate my dad\u2019s birthday. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cI\u2019ll take him, you should get some rest\u201d<\/em>, disse mia cugina e io, per fortuna, le passai mio figlio di 3 mesi. Ma Appena l'ha preso, il bambino ha iniziato a piangere. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

L'ho riportato indietro e si \u00e8 calmato di nuovo. Mio cugino sembrava un po' offeso e me lo ha detto: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cHe would have come down.\u201d<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi costrinsi a sorridere e risposi: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 \u201cHe doesn\u2019t like to be held by anyone but me.\u201d <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi ha dato una lezione davanti a tutti: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2013 <\/em>\u201cYou\u2019re making the big mistake to comfort him as soon as he starts crying. He was just fine.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tremavo e mi sentivo a disagio. La mia fiducia in me stesso \u00e8 scomparsa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

E se mi fossi sbagliato? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi sentivo come se tutti mi stessero fissando, la mamma incapace. <\/strong>I couldn\u2019t take it any longer, apologized to my parents, took my son, and left home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is quite common, when you\u2019re a new mom everyone feels entitled to give you advice and fare commenti sulle vostre scelte genitoriali. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It happens to many women, suddenly you\u2019re flooded with everyone’s opinions and judgments on your parenting style. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il mom-shaming inizia non appena si rimane incinta<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"Donna<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

First, they feel it\u2019s ok to make comments about your weight. <\/strong>Then they keep asking you about the due date. When the baby is born they ask about their weight and height and then compare it to their children\u2019s. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poi si ha un'esplosione di valutazioni che sembrano domande, ma in realt\u00e0 sono affermazioni sui vostri errori.<\/strong> Man mano che il bambino cresce, se ne ottengono ancora di pi\u00f9:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBaby needs to sleep alone in his bed, you will make him too dependent on you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIs he cold?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMaybe he\u2019s hungry?\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMaybe he\u2019s thirsty.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cDo you breastfeed? Why not? I breastfed my kids until they were two. You have no idea how crucial it is for their development and well-being.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMaybe you\u2019re low on milk, he looks skinny. Why don\u2019t you supplement with formula.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHe must get used to staying with someone else. You need to get out of the house sometimes.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOh, you do? We don\u2019t allow that in our house?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI would never let my baby cry herself out until she falls asleep. That\u2019s inhumane!\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cOh, just let him eat if he likes it. Kids love sweets.\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf you just do it like this, your kid would have no choice but to do what you\u2019re asking.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHe\u2019s still wearing diapers? I potty trained my kids when they were one year old.\u201d <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHe needs to socialize, why are you being overprotective?\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI can\u2019t believe you\u2019re allowing him to watch TV? Screens are a no-no.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat kind of mother lets her kids play in the dust?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSleeping was never an issue for us. Probably because we did it right at the beginning.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHave you tried bouncer? It worked miracles for us.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI promised myself when I become a mom I will never do that.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was overwhelmed with an excessive amount of advice that I didn’t ask for. It felt like I was wearing a huge sign above my head: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m a mom, please come to tell me what I should do!<\/em><\/strong> Please judge me if I do things differently than you and feel free to give me your opinion. I know you know better than me.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi sentivo come se qualcuno cercasse costantemente di modificare le mie azioni e di annullare le mie decisioni. Poi, i genitori mi hanno aiutato a imparare:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bisogna credere in se stessi <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
\"donna<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Il mio problema principale era l'insicurezza. Inoltre, ero cos\u00ec concentrata sull'evitare i conflitti e per me \u00e8 stato molto difficile stabilire dei limiti.<\/strong> Non potevo dire alle persone \u201cOk, thanks, but I didn\u2019t ask for your advice.\u201d<\/em> That\u2019s why I often felt like I was doing it all wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I doubted myself, and my parenting skills. I was scared I would spoil my son\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dopo un paio d'anni, sono diventata pi\u00f9 sicura di me stessa e sono riuscita a gestire tutte le critiche e i giudizi. I started following my intuition and I realized I KNOW what\u2019s best for my child.<\/strong> Of course, I make mistakes sometimes, but who doesn\u2019t?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mistakes are there to help us become better parents. Those who understand their children’s unique personality traits and know how to satisfy their needs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now that my boy has started school and I have a few years of parenting experience, I\u2019m telling you, ci sono cos\u00ec tanti modi e stili diversi di fare il genitore <\/strong>and they all could give amazing results. It\u2019s up to you to decide! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Potete scegliere ci\u00f2 che funziona per voi e per i vostri figli.<\/strong> It\u2019s not like one-size-fits-all. We are all different and so are our kids. We can assess what\u2019s best for them according to our experiences and we know what will make them respond. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I still don\u2019t understand why people feel the urge to share their opinions<\/strong> su quando i bambini devono essere educati al vasino, su quanto tempo devono allattare, su cosa devono mangiare e su come devono comportarsi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I\u2019m talking to a new parent I try to share my experience only if they ask me for advice. I don\u2019t \u201cteach\u201d them how to handle their kids.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

E la prossima volta che qualcuno cercher\u00e0 di darvi un consiglio genitoriale indesiderato, mostrategli questo video:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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@never_mind_dont_care<\/a>

#fyp<\/a> #virale<\/a> #bpddiari<\/a> #parents<\/a> #parenting<\/a> <\/p> \u266c original sound – Never_mind_dont_care<\/a> <\/section> <\/blockquote>