{"id":167457,"date":"2024-07-08T08:46:08","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T08:46:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167457"},"modified":"2024-07-08T08:58:29","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T08:58:29","slug":"il-partner-non-soddisfa-le-vostre-esigenze","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-partner-non-soddisfa-le-vostre-esigenze\/","title":{"rendered":"Siete voi ad essere bisognosi o \u00e8 il vostro partner ad essere inadeguato?\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Having a partner that\u2019s not meeting your needs and always letting you down can be frustrating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s completely normal to be confused and not know in which direction to go. Essere onesti con se stessi e con il proprio partner \u00e8 sempre un buon inizio. <\/strong>If you\u2019re not sure what to do, don\u2019t worry! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il terapeuta Jeff Guenther ha ancora una volta trovato una soluzione perfetta e ha postato una video<\/a> con 12 domande da porsi per riflettere su se stessi<\/strong> that will surely help you and give you some clarity! So sit down, prepare yourself to be honest, and let\u2019s start!<\/p>\n\n\n

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1. \u201cHas anyone ever been able to meet this need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Jeff ha iniziato con questa domanda! Pu\u00f2 essere difficile chiedersi questo e dare una risposta onesta e obiettiva, ma vi aiuter\u00e0 davvero a chiarire le cose. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

L'auto-riflessione \u00e8 davvero importante e potente <\/strong>e pu\u00f2 rivelare se il problema risiede in voi o nel vostro partner. Naturalmente la cosa pi\u00f9 facile da fare \u00e8 dare la colpa a qualcun altro, ma dobbiamo essere sinceri con noi stessi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.  \u201cHave you clearly told them multiple times what the need is and how they can meet it?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You probably heard this a million times but I\u2019m going to say it anyway \u2013 good communication is the key to successful relationships! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nessuno legge nel pensiero, quindi you can\u2019t expect your partner to know what you want if you don\u2019t make it clear.<\/strong> I remember when I got upset because my boyfriend wasn\u2019t helping me enough with household chores but I never said it bothered me!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dopo averne parlato apertamente, le cose sono andate molto meglio perch\u00e9 ora sa quanto il suo aiuto sia importante per me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. \u201cDoes your partner acknowledge that they aren\u2019t meeting your need and do they want to meet your need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you openly discuss your needs with your partner and they are fully aware of them but still don\u2019t do anything to meet them, the problem might be in them. Ignoring your needs while knowing exactly what you want just means they don\u2019t respect you enough. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s important to know if they even want to meet your needs at all or if that\u2019s simply something they can\u2019t or won\u2019t do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In ogni caso, essere onesti l'uno con l'altro pu\u00f2 dire rapidamente tutto quello che c'\u00e8 da sapere<\/strong> di prendere una decisione importante sulla vostra relazione. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cDo you have weekly check-ins regarding the unmet need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I started implementing weekly check-ins with my boyfriend and our relationship has never been stronger! It\u2019s an extremely useful and simple way of making sure you\u2019re on the same page all the time. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

L'unico requisito \u00e8 creare uno spazio sicuro dove poter esprimere chiaramente le proprie opinioni ed essere onesti l'uno con l'altro senza arrabbiarsi o ferire i sentimenti dell'altro. In questo modo entrambi vi sentirete ascoltati e apprezzati. <\/p>\n\n\n

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5.  \u201cDo they have an unmet need that you can work on meeting so there\u2019s an equal exchange of energies?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This is another example of a question you need to answer while being real with yourself. If you expect everything from them but don\u2019t give anything in return, then that\u2019s not really fair. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dovete essere in grado di ricambiare la stessa energia che ricevete.<\/strong> Loro meritano che le loro aspettative siano soddisfatte come lo sono le vostre. Costruire una relazione felice e sana \u00e8 un lavoro per due persone!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. \u201cWhat steps have they taken to meet your need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you haven\u2019t seen any change in their behavior since your conversation, that might be an issue. However, sometimes we can\u2019t see small improvements someone is making<\/strong> perch\u00e9 ci aspettiamo e attendiamo con ansia il risultato finale che abbiamo richiesto all'inizio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In questo caso, pu\u00f2 essere utile chiedere loro i progressi compiuti.<\/strong> Seeing the steps they\u2019ve taken to meet your needs can reassure you they haven\u2019t forgotten about you and are actively striving to make you happy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. \u201cEven if it’s slow all in all, are they making forward progress towards meeting that need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Mentre alcune cose possono essere cambiate da un giorno all'altro, altre richiedono pi\u00f9 tempo. Tutto dipende dalla natura delle nostre aspettative e dei nostri bisogni. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ecco perch\u00e9 La pazienza \u00e8 fondamentale per costruire il vostro rapporto e crescere insieme. <\/strong>Ricordo che desideravo che il mio partner fosse meno geloso e pi\u00f9 sicuro di s\u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes I was frustrated he didn\u2019t manage to change this immediately after our conversation. But I realized I was too harsh and he was actually putting in effort to change that even though building confidence is not so easy and requires time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. \u201cHave you given them positive reinforcement as they\u2019ve made forward progress?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Spesso dimentichiamo che dobbiamo apprezzare tutto ci\u00f2 che il nostro partner fa per noi. Lo stesso vale per la soddisfazione dei nostri bisogni. Credo che l'intera narrazione di \u201cdoing the bare minimum\u201d<\/em> became a bit toxic because people now think they shouldn\u2019t appreciate the small gestures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un rinforzo positivo pu\u00f2 essere motivante e incoraggiare a impegnarsi ancora di pi\u00f9.<\/strong> Being thankful is important and shows our partner we notice their hard work and value it. At the end of the day, they\u2019re doing it to make us happy and satisfied so we should acknowledge it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. \u201cIs it a dealbreaker if they never meet that need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Alcune aspettative o esigenze non sono scontate e sono imprescindibili in una relazione. Chiedetevi se sareste infelici se non cambiasse nulla e la persona rimanesse la stessa che \u00e8 ora.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c8 necessario avere una conversazione onesta con se stessi e decidere se vale davvero la pena di vivere quella relazione, nel caso in cui non si riesca a soddisfare quel bisogno.<\/strong> This can be a painful and hard decision to make but it\u2019s important you put your well-being first. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. \u201cCan you get that need met outside of your relationship?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I always loved reading books and wanted to discuss them and have deep conversations about certain topics with my partner but he\u2019s more of a movie guy. I realized I also wouldn\u2019t like him to pressure me into loving sports all of a sudden and talking about football with him. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi sono iscritta a un club del libro e ho soddisfatto questo bisogno senza assillarlo e senza causare inutili drammi. Sometimes friends or some hobbies are all you need to get satisfaction your partner can\u2019t provide.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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Potete prendere esempio da me e fare lo stesso se il vostro bisogno specifico pu\u00f2 essere soddisfatto al di fuori di una relazione sentimentale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. \u201cAre you satisfied with all the other needs that they meet for you?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Take a moment to think about other needs your partner is meeting for you. We often focus so much on the negatives and what we\u2019re missing that trascuriamo le cose positive che amiamo di loro e che dovremmo apprezzare di pi\u00f9. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe your partner doesn\u2019t have what it takes to be spontaneous and plan some unexpected trip but he\u2019s really reliable and you can always trust him with important things and that\u2019s also important to you. We can\u2019t let one tiny thing ruin a whole view of our relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. \u201cHave you developed anger and resentment that needs to be processed with them regarding the unmet need?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This can be tricky. If you\u2019ve been nagging them about something for a long time and they still haven\u2019t changed anything, you\u2019ve probably built up resentment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nascondere i pensieri e le emozioni sotto il tappeto pu\u00f2 trasformarsi in un grosso problema.. Assicuratevi di non ignorare le vostre frustrazioni e fategli sapere come vi sentite.<\/strong> If they don\u2019t validate your feelings and just ignore what you said, it might be time to say goodbye once and for all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having standards is as important as making sure you\u2019re not too needy or unrealistic. So before making any big decisions, sit alone with your thoughts, ask yourself these questions, and then decide on your next move.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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