{"id":167463,"date":"2024-07-08T09:11:18","date_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:11:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167463"},"modified":"2024-07-08T09:12:04","modified_gmt":"2024-07-08T09:12:04","slug":"consigli-controversi-per-gli-appuntamenti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/consigli-controversi-per-gli-appuntamenti\/","title":{"rendered":"Un consiglio impopolare di un terapeuta per gli appuntamenti che sta scatenando il dramma"},"content":{"rendered":"

Gli appuntamenti al giorno d'oggi sembrano quasi un campo minato. Si cerca di imparare il maggior numero di consigli e trucchi che possano aiutare, ma ogni volta si incontrano opinioni diverse!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pu\u00f2 essere piuttosto frustrante capire come orientarsi tra gli appuntamenti e le relazioni.<\/strong> when everyone seems to have some opinion today. I\u2019ve also been confused too many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While one person advises you to behave a certain way, the other is saying that\u2019s a major red flag. So who can I trust, damn it?!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Volete sapere la risposta? Alcuni dei migliori consigli sono in realt\u00e0 considerati piuttosto controversi. <\/strong>E chi \u00e8 la persona migliore e pi\u00f9 affidabile per parlarne se non un terapeuta?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why I want to share with you the most unpopular (but effective) dating tips according to the therapist Jeff Guenther<\/a>. Ha iniziato il suo video<\/a> con il consiglio pi\u00f9 controverso!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. If it\u2019s meant to be, sleeping with them on a first date won\u2019t change anything<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

If you never heard people saying you shouldn\u2019t sleep with someone on a first date you\u2019ve probably been living under a rock! This became like an unwritten rule but turns out it\u2019s complete nonsense!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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Credito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Dice Jeff:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cA relationship is gonna happen whether or not you bang the first time you go out together. Sleep with them or don\u2019t sleep with them, it makes no difference\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

I think I agree with him. Sleeping with someone on a first date won\u2019t ruin your chances of developing a serious relationship as many believe. In the same way, not sleeping with them will not guarantee you\u2019ll end up having your happily ever after story. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuttavia, non tutti sono d'accordo che questo sia un buon consiglio:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cSleeping with someone on a first date has made me attach to people too quickly, in my experience.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

D'altra parte, molte persone nei commenti hanno ammesso che la loro avventura di una notte si \u00e8 trasformata in una relazione a lungo termine e, in alcuni casi, addirittura in un matrimonio. Una donna ha commentato:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSlept with my partner on the 1st date and we\u2019ve been together now almost 13 years \ud83e\udd70\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quindi, ecco fatto! Sappiate che se qualcuno \u00e8 sinceramente interessato a voi e vuole impegnarsi, non avete nulla di cui preoccuparvi! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. It\u2019s okay to be direct and open about your needs early on<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Alcuni pensano che si possa spaventare il partner se si parla troppo presto delle proprie esigenze e aspettative. Ma in realt\u00e0 questo \u00e8 a great way to see if they\u2019re the right person for you. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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Credito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Spiega Jeff:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cBeing direct about your expectations allows your date to either show that they can step up or they can\u2019t. Great data to gather right from the start!\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Una donna ha provato questo consiglio e ha funzionato molto bene:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cTrue! the moment I told this guy what I want, he delivers. so, I know now this is going somewhere.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t say this isn\u2019t smart! It\u2019s absurd to expect that someone magically knows everything we want and need, so why not say it loud and clear? If they have a problem with it, then they\u2019re probably not a good match. <\/strong>So, let\u2019s not waste each other\u2019s time and see if we\u2019re on the same page!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Fategli conoscere i vostri amici non appena lo desiderate<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Many say letting your date meet your friends is a serious big step you shouldn\u2019t make if you\u2019re not 100% sure about them.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Credito: <\/strong>Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Jeff ci spiega perch\u00e9 dovreste ripensarci:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cInvite them around your friends as soon as you want and ask your friends if they felt like you were acting like your authentic self around them.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Una donna ha detto il suo accompagnatore l'ha piacevolmente sorpresa invitando il suo gruppo di amici <\/strong>al loro secondo appuntamento. Ha commentato:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI’m currently seeing a guy I met on Hinge and the second time we hung out, his entire friend group came! I thought it was sweet actually! It made me immediately cut off all of my other options!\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Isn\u2019t this a really good idea? Others can sometimes see things more clearly than you can, especially if you have butterflies in your stomach. Have your friends observe the vibe and if you\u2019re acting how you normally would <\/strong>to find out if they\u2019re right for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cIf they wanted to, they would\u201d mindset is not the best <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While this is a motto some people live by, others agree with the therapist that it\u2019s just an unrealistic expectation. He thinks things are more complicated than that:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c\u2018If they wanted to, they would\u2019 is too simplistic and black and white, and doesn\u2019t allow for any nuance. Someone may really want you but not be super forward about it for a million reasons.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

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Credito: Tiktok<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

It\u2019s important to realize it takes time to build a connection and deserve someone to go above and beyond for you. Dovete dare alle persone la possibilit\u00e0 di mostrarvi chi sono e cosa sono pronte a fare per voi. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Alcune persone nei commenti si sono dette d'accordo con questo punto:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201c\u2018If they wanted to they would\u2019 but you\u2019ve never told them what you want\/need is soooo dumb.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Un'altra donna ha aggiunto:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cYes! I hate that \u201cif they wanted to they would\u201d I get why it\u2019s a saying. But, not always the case.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Siate onesti. Questa intuizione di un terapeuta probabilmente vi ha fatto ripensare a molte cose, giusto? Questa \u00e8 solo un'altra prova che non si pu\u00f2 mai sbagliare a fidarsi del proprio istinto<\/strong> e di fare ci\u00f2 che il vostro cuore vi dice di fare! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cosa ne pensate di queste opinioni? Sono valide o no?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dating nowadays feels almost like a minefield. You are trying to learn as many tips & tricks that will help you but you encounter different opinions every time! It can be quite frustrating to figure out how to navigate dating and relationships when everyone seems to have some opinion today. I\u2019ve also been confused too…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":167468,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29814],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-167463","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29814,"label":"Stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Unpopular-Dating-Advice-From-A-Therapist-That-Is-Stirring-Up-Drama-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29814,"name":"Stories","slug":"stories","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29814,"taxonomy":"category","description":"","parent":29651,"count":244,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29814,"category_count":244,"category_description":"","cat_name":"Stories","category_nicename":"stories","category_parent":29651}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=167463"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167469,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167463\/revisions\/167469"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/167468"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=167463"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=167463"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=167463"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}