{"id":167795,"date":"2024-07-10T10:14:14","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T10:14:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167795"},"modified":"2024-07-10T10:14:14","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T10:14:14","slug":"lattrazione-puo-crescere-nel-tempo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lattrazione-puo-crescere-nel-tempo\/","title":{"rendered":"L'attrazione pu\u00f2 crescere nel tempo? Quest'uomo crede che dovresti dare una possibilit\u00e0 a quel ragazzo"},"content":{"rendered":"

To tell you the truth, I didn\u2019t really like my fiance right after I met him. He was just not my type. Okay, he was really funny and easygoing, but Non erano queste le qualit\u00e0 che cercavo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Preferivo uomini che si impegnassero in conversazioni profonde sui problemi esistenziali della vita moderna e su altri argomenti pi\u00f9 seri. Le sue battute erano divertenti, ma non c'era nessuna scintilla. <\/strong>Ho pensato, \u201cOkay, one date, and that\u2019s it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, for some reason, I went on a second, and a third date\u2026 until I learned to appreciate his qualities and committed to a relationship. Apparently, I knew what I wanted but didn’t really know what I NEEDED.<\/strong> Fortunatamente, la situazione si \u00e8 risolta per il meglio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mentre si pensa a why we tend to like those who\u2019re not good for us,<\/strong> e perch\u00e9 i nostri desideri non sono allineati con i nostri bisogni, mi sono imbattuto in una video<\/a> where\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un coach di relazioni sostiene che l'attrazione si pu\u00f2 costruire nel tempo<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Inizia con una constatazione: le donne sono consapevoli che esiste una percentuale considerevole di uomini che sono davvero alla ricerca di una relazione seria,<\/strong> but\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe problem is most of you ladies don\u2019t wanna date these guys. And let’s be honest, alright, most single women that hire me for coaching tell me something like this. I know two or three guys that are super sweet and always treat me kindly but\u2026 I don\u2019t really like them.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Then he explains that while rejecting the idea of dating those they don\u2019t like, Le donne hanno difficolt\u00e0 a far funzionare le cose con gli uomini che desiderano.<\/strong> Oftentimes, these men ignore them and play games. He\u2019s not saying women should lower their standards:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cMy point is that attraction can build over time with someone if you give them a chance. But if you see you only keep falling for dishonest men, then beautiful, we\u2019ve got some healing to do.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Quindi, dovremmo dargli una possibilit\u00e0 e vedere if we can develop the attraction for men we don\u2019t like at first sight?<\/strong> \u00c8 possibile?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is an interesting argument, I would say, and worth considering. However, let\u2019s see what the public opinion on TikTok says about this standpoint.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Come ritiene un utente:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt\u2019s either there or it\u2019s not\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Some commenters believed this couldn’t be possible, and the relationship coach tried to reassure them dicendo che una scintilla pu\u00f2 <\/strong>trasformarsi in un incendio<\/em><\/strong>.<\/strong> Someone suggested why he doesn’t try convincing men to date women they don\u2019t like. But there were also agreeable comments:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Un utente chiamato Panashe<\/em>, made a funny observation about how it\u2019s impossible to build attraction with a guy who doesn\u2019t have it for her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Alcuni commentatori hanno animato la discussione cercando anche di essere divertenti:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cBut I am emotionally unavailable i have been like that since a kid. Is being emotionally unavailable a bad thing?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Parlare di disponibilit\u00e0 emotiva, Laura <\/em>crede Quelli che non sono emotivamente disponibili sono i ragazzi migliori. <\/strong>Still, the relationship coach claims such men don’t really exist.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Credo che lui creda che non siano indisponibili quando sono con la persona giusta. Tutte noi ricordiamo almeno un uomo che ha fatto finta di non volersi impegnare ma poi ha incontrato una persona e, sorprendentemente, tutto \u00e8 cambiato per lui.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un utente, Creda_B, <\/em>agreed and confirmed that it\u2019s possible to build an attraction over time. Another user, Angie, <\/em>ha avuto una brutta esperienza nel dare una possibilit\u00e0 a a \u201cnice guy\u201d who turned out to be a dishonest person <\/strong>che l'ha interpretata.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

IlTramontoTrash<\/em> said she can\u2019t force herself to like the guys who she knows are into a commitment, she simply finds them unattractive. At the same time, gli uomini attraenti non sono infastiditi dall'idea di una relazione <\/strong>mentre quelli che hanno meno successo con le donne lo desiderano.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Credito: @save_the_messenger<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Then, there\u2019s CLAUDIA J, <\/em>who believes that it\u2019s not possible:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cUm Noooooooo, I know within the first 5 seconds of meeting someone. No attraction doesn’t build up. If I’m not physically attracted it’s Noooo.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Other comments confirm the same experience: if they don\u2019t feel it right at the beginning, there\u2019s no chance chemistry will develop over time,<\/strong> \u201cit\u2019s either there or it\u2019s not\u201d<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some people admit they gave it a try, but it didn\u2019t work out, and there is the possibility that you build an attachment but not a real attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Credito: @save_the_messenger<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Ma poi mothermayo <\/em>ha dato una visione diversa sostenendo che le relazioni possono risultare migliori se \u201cstarted from the bottom and blossom into something beautiful.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

SAL’S <\/em>rispose alla sua nota sulla guarigione, chiedendogli cosa intendesse dire. Voglio dire, davvero, di che tipo di guarigione stava parlando?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Poi, alcuni commenti hanno chiarito meglio la situazione:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Credito: @save_the_messenger<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

Allora, cosa ne pensate? Credete che un ragazzo simpatico potrebbe valere la pena di provare<\/strong> even if you don\u2019t really like him?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Based on my experience, I would say, go for it girl! My fiance couldn\u2019t be further from what I preferred, and now he\u2019s the most attractive man in my eyes.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every day, I think how thankful I am for having him in my life. I can\u2019t believe I even considered rejecting him when he invited me on a date.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

To tell you the truth, I didn\u2019t really like my fiance right after I met him. He was just not my type. Okay, he was really funny and easygoing, but those were not the qualities I was looking for. I preferred men who would engage in deep conversations about the existential problems of modern life…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":167801,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-167795","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/07\/Attraction-Can-Build-Over-Time-This-Man-Believes-You-Should-Give-That-Guy-A-Chance-1024x576.jpg",1024,576,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167795","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=167795"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167795\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":167808,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/167795\/revisions\/167808"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/167801"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=167795"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=167795"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=167795"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}