{"id":167953,"date":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","date_gmt":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=167953"},"modified":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","modified_gmt":"2024-07-10T15:14:05","slug":"i-vantaggi-di-non-mollare","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-vantaggi-di-non-mollare\/","title":{"rendered":"Perch\u00e9 lasciarsi potrebbe non essere la soluzione migliore anche se ci si sente bene"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s completely normal that every relationship has its ups and downs. After all, they aren\u2019t all sunshine and rainbows. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know you sometimes feel like you\u2019re enemies and not lovers. How do I know it? Well, I experienced the exact same thing. Every little thing he did started to annoy me. We\u2019ve been fighting nonstop and problems were just piling up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In queste situazioni, it\u2019s natural to think the best thing you can do is break up<\/strong> e continuate la vostra vita.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuttavia, andare avanti non appena le cose si fanno difficili non \u00e8 sempre la scelta migliore perch\u00e9 you\u2019re avoiding an opportunity to work on yourself <\/strong>e risolvere i problemi sepolti nel profondo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Joe Kort (@drjoekort<\/a>), psicoterapeuta, lo ha spiegato cos\u00ec bene in un TikTok che sicuramente vi far\u00e0 ripensare a tutto ci\u00f2 che sapete sulle relazioni!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La seconda fase \u00e8 il punto critico di ogni relazione.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Joe, the psychotherapist started a video talking about the first stage of every relationship. That is inevitably the best part which everyone enjoys. Why? Well because that\u2019s when we\u2019re still getting to know each other and there\u2019s no build-up resentment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Il legame e la costruzione di una connessione sono la vostra priorit\u00e0 all'inizio.<\/strong> It\u2019s all about the things that make you similar and interests you share. You also still try pretty hard to make the other person fall for you even more. Some people call this a fase di luna di miele.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Quello che viene dopo non \u00e8 cos\u00ec dolce ed \u00e8 per questo che la maggior parte delle coppie rompe durante la seconda fase.<\/strong> Joe lo ha descritto come un lotta per il potere<\/em>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe power struggle which is the second stage is all about differences and conflict arises and people start arguing and people start highlighting the differences between each other to the point if they don\u2019t know what they\u2019re doing breaking up is the best solution because it feels better.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n

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\u00c8 logico che le persone vogliano andarsene in quei momenti difficili, perch\u00e9 a nessuno piace essere messo alla prova e scoprire che le persone sono diverse dalla versione ideale che ci siamo immaginati.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuttavia, this is not ideal because we\u2019re running away from confronting them and even ourselves alone<\/strong> quando si tratta di problemi che abbiamo. <\/p>\n\n\n

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Lo psicoterapeuta ha detto che questa \u00e8 la fase in cui tutte le nostre questioni irrisolte vengono a galla. <\/strong>It\u2019s also not rare we\u2019re triggering some old traumas which is normal because we\u2019re still getting to know each other and learning about our boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vale la pena di provare a resistere<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Joe sottolinea l'importanza di rimanere e lavorare insieme sui nostri problemi:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cSo you want to make sure that you\u2019re working through the power struggle and not abandoning yourself and the relationship just to feel better.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

He also said it\u2019s important to note that this advice is not applicable to every relationship:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cIf it\u2019s untreated addiction or somebody who\u2019s a narcissist and unwilling to work with you, that\u2019s different. But most other relationships, the power struggle is exactly what you need to heal and grow as individuals and as a couple.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Pu\u00f2 essere piuttosto difficile superare i traumi e le differenze, ma se ci si ama davvero, questo diventa solo un piccolo ostacolo da superare. Anche se ci si lascia e si va avanti, c'\u00e8 un'alta probabilit\u00e0 che la stessa cosa si ripeta nella prossima relazione.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dobbiamo renderci conto che mentre lavorare su noi stessi non \u00e8 la cosa pi\u00f9 semplice da fare<\/strong>, it\u2019s absolutely required if we want to live fulfilled lives and have successful relationships with others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Come ha detto Joe, che ci permetta di crescere individualmente e come coppia<\/strong> che \u00e8 molto importante per costruire una base solida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Molte persone nei commenti hanno detto che erano gli unici a fare il lavoro. Naturalmente, some people are not ready or simply don\u2019t want to do the work<\/strong> and that\u2019s also fine. You don\u2019t deserve someone who won\u2019t fight for your love anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some said it\u2019s also important to know what the differences between you are because some things can\u2019t be worked through if you\u2019re simply not compatible.<\/p>\n\n\n

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In my case, my boyfriend and I realized we had differences but they weren\u2019t something that could keep us apart because our love was stronger. We were ready to find common ground and make it work and that\u2019s what we did!So if you\u2019re in the same situation don\u2019t give up easily, try to talk to your partner and see where they\u2019re standing.<\/strong> If it\u2019s clear they\u2019re pulling back and want to give up, don\u2019t waste your time and energy!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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