{"id":168146,"date":"2024-07-11T14:47:55","date_gmt":"2024-07-11T14:47:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=168146"},"modified":"2024-07-11T15:11:13","modified_gmt":"2024-07-11T15:11:13","slug":"solitudine-della-maternita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/solitudine-della-maternita\/","title":{"rendered":"Una donna piange dicendo che la maternit\u00e0 non \u00e8 mai stata pensata per una sola persona"},"content":{"rendered":"

You can\u2019t really understand the full meaning of the old proverb \u201cIt takes a village to raise a child\u201d <\/em><\/strong>until you become a mom. Then you get the picture of how parenting is a very tough job and you’re surprised by how many things you have to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Navigazione motherhood in today\u2019s world includes a whole set of struggles.<\/strong> You need to take care of the kids, cook, and maintain the household. Then there\u2019s a mental load \u2013 an overwhelming list of tasks that moms keep track of daily.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re a working mom then it gets even harder. You\u2019re under constant stress, destreggiarsi tra le responsabilit\u00e0 professionali e le esigenze familiari, <\/strong>and there\u2019s little time for self-care.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I social media vi servono per glimpses of someone else\u2019s life and creates pressure to be perfect.<\/strong> Vi sentite inadeguati e in colpa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma una delle lotte pi\u00f9 ignorate della maternit\u00e0 \u00e8 che Le mamme devono spesso affrontare sentimenti di isolamento e solitudine. <\/strong>In parte perch\u00e9 i nuovi orari non lasciano tempo per socializzare, in parte perch\u00e9 gli amici senza figli diventano improvvisamente distanti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Una donna in lacrime ne ha parlato in un video<\/a> su TikTok:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMothers and children are like a forgotten species in our modern-day society\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n
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Woman explains that when you become a mother people start treating you like you\u2019re not the same person anymore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cLike you become a mom and then suddenly you\u2019re like pushed out, \u2018go find your mommy and me group\u2019, \u2018go figure it out on your own\u2019, and \u2018we\u2019ll see you when you can be productive again.\u2019\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Poi si presenta con una prospettiva che apre gli occhi, parlando della idea essenziale della maternit\u00e0 tradizionale.<\/strong> Una cosa di cui ci siamo un po' dimenticati:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThe job of being a mother, it feels a lot for one person, because it was never meant to be for one person. It was meant for a village.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Vuole sottolineare l'importanza di <\/strong>che \u00e8 cruciale per le mamme moderne, perch\u00e9 di solito sono non hanno alcun sostegno mentre portano un fardello molto pesante.<\/strong> Also, there is tremendous change happening in women\u2019s lives and they need help to adjust to it:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cThey need rest, they need proper nutrition. They need help, they need love, they need loving touch. They, you know, to just help them through this transition from woman to mother.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Altri TikTokers (ovviamente di sesso femminile) sono stati d'accordo e hanno condiviso le loro esperienze su quanto ci si senta soli ad essere mamma.<\/strong> Qualcuno ha scritto che anche gli amici smettono di invitarti a eventi o incontri perch\u00e9:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWe didn\u2019t think you\u2019d want to come because of the baby\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I commenti hanno mostrato come le donne si sentono davvero escluse e isolate quando diventano madri. <\/strong>La maggior parte di loro si \u00e8 trovata d'accordo con la sua affermazione e ha aggiunto che la societ\u00e0 pone grandi aspettative alle donne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI feel like motherhood meant for us but we weren\u2019t meant to do all the other things society expects from us.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Poi, quando si diventa mamma, ci si comporta come se la maternit\u00e0 avesse fatto perdere l'intelligenza:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Allora la metafora del villaggio acquista un vero significato:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cRight?! I always wondered what people were talking about, but now I\u2019m a mother I totally get what they mean by a \u2018village\u2019.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

C'\u00e8 nessun supporto ed empatia<\/strong> come persone che ritengono che essere genitori sia una scelta personale e che nessuno debba preoccuparsene:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Sometimes you have to make your own \u201csociety\u201d as the one you are coming from is doing everything to make it hard for you. Friends and coworkers often perceive women who use maternity leave as unsuccessful and lazy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cit’s true, I’ve returned to work and I feel like I’m being shamed for having been off work, and potentially wanting more children.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Quando le donne scelgono di essere mamme casalinghe, la gente inizia a farle sentire inutili:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Societal pressure is causing women to feel bad because they\u2019re not contributing financially while they are stay-at-home moms. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, it\u2019s quite common: you\u2019ve been there for everyone, and now when you\u2019re in need they disappear in thin air:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI was everyones village. Now that i have my own i have no one.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

However, we shouldn\u2019t forget what it\u2019s like for those women who don’t plan on having kids.<\/strong> Society requires women to be moms if they want to be accepted and perceived as a part of the group. Those who don\u2019t have children are looked down upon even by women:<\/p>\n\n\n

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Anche loro ricevono il trattamento di isolamento:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cthe opposite has happened to me. i don\u2019t want children and all my friends have had them, i no longer get included.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Essere donna oggi comporta tante sfide diverse. Con o senza figli, the feeling of exclusion is something you\u2019ll probably face one way or another.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ma potete trovare il vostro villaggio<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cercate gruppi di genitori locali, comunit\u00e0 online o sui social media dove potete entrare in contatto con altre mamme. Costruire un La rete \u00e8 essenziale per condividere esperienze, consigli e sostegno emotivo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This will help you understand that you\u2019re doing an amazing job, help you with your doubts, and remind you to celebrate your accomplishments!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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