So as any couple who doesn\u2019t want to divorce does, we went to a counselor. Oh, he really slapped us in the face with a reality check. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWait, you think what media and those couples on IG show is real?\u201d<\/em>, ci ha chiesto il consulente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWell, they said they never argue, and they also seem pretty much perfect,\u201d<\/em> abbiamo detto.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cDo you go around telling people about negative things in your marriage? I don\u2019t think so. You can\u2019t trust these unrealistic expectations! No one\u2019s marriage is perfect, and there\u2019s nothing wrong with that,\u201d<\/em> ha risposto, lasciandoci scioccati. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Dopo questo controllo della realt\u00e0, ha condiviso cose che tutti noi possiamo fare per far prosperare il nostro matrimonio <\/strong>while not worrying about being perfect since that\u2019s not possible anyway. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Every person is unique and even two identical twins aren\u2019t 100% the same. So considering the differences we have, it\u2019s impossible to agree on every little thing. <\/strong>Couples in movies made it seem so easy but my partner and I soon realized that our marriage isn\u2019t scripted.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Our counselor\u2019s advice was like a wake-up call: \u201cIf you want to make it work you need to celebrate your differences, not hide them.\u201d <\/em>Poi finalmente abbiamo capito. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Imparare a celebrare le cose che ci rendono unici<\/strong> wasn\u2019t just about accepting the differences we have, it was about changing our whole mindset and learning that they actually make us stronger. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you and your spouse have different cultural or religious backgrounds and different personalities, that doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re not compatible. Dovete semplicemente trovare un modo per trovare un compromesso <\/strong>quando avete opinioni opposte, ma apritevi anche a conoscere meglio l'altro.<\/p>\n\n\n\n At the beginning of our marriage, we used to have a lot of unnecessary conflicts over stupid misunderstandings. If we only knew how to communicate effectively with one another we would\u2019ve avoided a lot of fights. <\/p>\n\n\n\n La cosa pi\u00f9 importante \u00e8 lasciare da parte l'ego e l'orgoglio.<\/strong> Solo cos\u00ec potrete comunicare nel modo giusto e vedere le cose con chiarezza.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Non appena abbiamo cambiato questo concetto, le nostre accese discussioni si sono trasformate in discussioni tranquille in cui eravamo open to understanding each other\u2019s perspectives.<\/strong> We realized that a perfect marriage doesn\u2019t exist in real life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tuttavia, si pu\u00f2 sicuramente cercare di averne uno cercando di risolvere i disaccordi in modo pacifico invece di fare di un elefante una mosca.<\/strong> Also, bottling up your emotions won\u2019t lead you anywhere good, so remember to always speak your mind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Once you learn how to communicate and actively listen to your spouse, you\u2019ll see there\u2019ll suddenly be more understanding and empathy in your marriage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You can\u2019t be supportive of one another if you don\u2019t even try to understand their point of view and their feelings. Being supportive isn\u2019t only important when they\u2019re winning in life. It\u2019s actually more important when things go south. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Whether it\u2019s work issues, family drama, or any life crisis, you need to stand by each other\u2019s side. <\/strong>When there\u2019s a problem you might want to offer them a solution and think you\u2019re done but sometimes your partner just wants you to be present emotionally. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Questo rafforzer\u00e0 sicuramente il vostro legame e render\u00e0 il vostro matrimonio pi\u00f9 resistente. Once you realize that the myth of the perfect marriage is false, you\u2019ll feel liberated. <\/strong>There\u2019s no point in trying to meet an unrealistic standard that no one is close to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sweeping problems under the carpet won\u2019t make others think your marriage is perfect. It will only create more opportunities for issues even your counselor might not be able to resolve. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Smettete di paragonare la vostra relazione a ci\u00f2 che vedete in giro e ricordate che il matrimonio non \u00e8 fatto per essere impeccabile. It\u2019s supposed to be constantly evolving and changing<\/strong> and there\u2019s nothing wrong with that!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" I was always excited about marriage, even when I was a kid. And who wouldn\u2019t be excited when all the movies I\u2019ve watched, and books I\u2019ve read presented marriage as this perfect union of two people? But then I got married and things weren\u2019t exactly perfect. 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