{"id":16900,"date":"2020-07-26T08:02:36","date_gmt":"2020-07-26T08:02:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16900"},"modified":"2021-08-12T09:14:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T09:14:25","slug":"una-lettera-aperta-della-ragazza-che-ha-deciso-di-voltare-pagina","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/una-lettera-aperta-della-ragazza-che-ha-deciso-di-voltare-pagina\/","title":{"rendered":"Una lettera aperta dalla ragazza che ha deciso di andare avanti"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, yet another letter from an abandoned girl. But I promise you, this time it\u2019s not a sad letter. In this letter, I won\u2019t curse fate or my destiny or even my bad luck with men. I won\u2019t cry my heart out.<\/p>\n

This is a different kind of letter and it\u2019s a different story.<\/p>\n

La storia si svolge cos\u00ec:<\/p>\n

Mi sono innamorata di un ragazzo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t just fall for him, I was made to believe that it was mutual. There were clear and segni evidenti di attrazione<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Le scintille che si accendevano tra noi erano impossibili da perdere o da fingere. Abbiamo fatto un passo alla volta e nulla sembrava essere affrettato.<\/p>\n

Mi ha fatto credere che stavamo andando da qualche parte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Never for a moment did I feel like we were stuck. Our random texting was replaced with long, deep conversations and then it all moved to late-night talks about literally everything. From just casual going out to going out together, it was only the two of us running away from everyone just so we\u2019d have time for ourselves.<\/p>\n

Ogni passo che abbiamo fatto, ogni momento che abbiamo trascorso insieme, ogni tocco che abbiamo sentito, era una promessa silenziosa che qualcosa di migliore, pi\u00f9 grande e pi\u00f9 serio si stava dirigendo verso di noi.<\/p>\n

Ero pronto per il passo successivo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tutto quello che abbiamo vissuto mi ha fatto sentire pronta e sicura del nostro futuro insieme. Segni vuole qualcosa di serio<\/a> erano scritte dappertutto.<\/p>\n

And honestly, I wanted it too. I thought it was finally time I stopped wandering around and committed myself to a single person. It felt cozy with him, it felt good. I could picture us together in life, holding each other\u2019s hands as we fought all the battles destiny threw at us.<\/p>\n

\"un<\/p>\n

While I couldn\u2019t have been more sure about us, he couldn\u2019t have been more scared.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Honestly, I don\u2019t know if it was fear of commitment or just his decision to keep his options open.<\/p>\n

After all that we shared together, he told me how he wasn\u2019t really ready for anything serious. He wasn\u2019t looking for anything that he could sink his teeth into.<\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t interested in anything that would demand a lot of time, effort and communication from him. He didn\u2019t really want to be in a relationship, including with me.<\/p>\n

La cosa che mi ha fatto pi\u00f9 male \u00e8 stato il fatto che volevo davvero tutte quelle cose da lui. Volevo una cosa seria.<\/p>\n

I was interested in giving him my time and efforts and devoting myself to our relationship. I really wanted us to be in a place to which he said a firm \u2018no\u2019 and that\u2019s what hurt me the most.<\/p>\n

When he said he wasn\u2019t interested in moving on I was caught off guard. I didn\u2019t see that coming. There were no telltale signs, there was nothing to give me a hint of this outcome. Actually, everything I saw was directing me toward something completely opposite.<\/p>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

I guess I was wrong. I was so easily deceived and I let my assumptions get the best of me. The worst part is, I\u2019d still do everything the same if I could turn back time. I can\u2019t help it.<\/p>\n

Honestly, I don\u2019t like how things ended and I do wish for something different but I\u2019m going to have to respect his decision.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ho sperato cos\u00ec tanto e ho creduto cos\u00ec tanto in noi che ho finito per ricevere solo freddezza invece dell'amore che pensavo di meritare. Ero cos\u00ec presa dai miei sentimenti che non ho mai pensato che ci fosse la possibilit\u00e0 di un esito diverso.<\/p>\n

Mentre io ho fatto un atto di fede per renderci ufficiali, lui si \u00e8 tirato indietro. Mentre io ero pronta a far salpare la nostra nave, lui ha scelto di rimanere nel porto.<\/p>\n

E ci\u00f2 che mi colpisce di pi\u00f9 \u00e8 la sensazione che tutto ci\u00f2 che avevamo vissuto prima fosse stato vano. I momenti che consideravo tra i pi\u00f9 felici della mia vita si sono rivelati delle bugie. Lui era stato solo mi sta prendendo per i fondelli<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Non ho idea del perch\u00e9 ci abbia fatto vivere tutto questo solo per portarmelo via. Solo per distruggere tutto e dirmi che niente di tutto ci\u00f2 era reale.<\/p>\n

Be that as it may, I decided I\u2019m going to move on.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to force things. I don\u2019t want a relationship I\u2019ll have to beg for. I don\u2019t want a guy if I have to beg him to choose me. And I don\u2019t want to stay undefined either. It\u2019s way more humiliating than I can take. And it’s more painful than moving on.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m choosing to love everything we should\u2019ve been, but I\u2019m also accepting that it won\u2019t happen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019m a grown-up girl and despite the pain I\u2019m feeling, I won\u2019t allow it to get the best of me. Despite my desires, I know that we don\u2019t always get the things in life that we want and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m ready to accept that life won\u2019t give me the person I want the most. I\u2019m accepting that we\u2019re only going to stay an unlived dream, an opportunity that never came to see the light of day.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m choosing to keep in my mind all our memories but I\u2019m accepting that there won\u2019t be any new ones.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In other words, I\u2019m choosing to leave us in the past. But I\u2019m choosing to look back at the past and be grateful for all the happy moments we shared instead of looking at it with a bitter taste in my mouth.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, the things that could\u2019ve been and should\u2019ve been don\u2019t really happen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s when you need to choose to search for your own happiness and find love in some other place and accept that sometimes we all sail into our lives having to leave some people behind in the harbor and choose to move on.<\/p>\n

\"Una<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

So, yet another letter from an abandoned girl. But I promise you, this time it\u2019s not a sad letter. In this letter, I won\u2019t curse fate or my destiny or even my bad luck with men. I won\u2019t cry my heart out. This is a different kind of letter and it\u2019s a different story. The…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":105017,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29618],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-16900","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29618,"label":"moving on"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/An-Open-Letter-From-The-Girl-Who-Decided-To-Move-On.jpeg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29618,"name":"moving on","slug":"moving-on","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29618,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","parent":38,"count":200,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29618,"category_count":200,"category_description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","cat_name":"moving on","category_nicename":"moving-on","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16900","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=16900"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/16900\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/105017"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=16900"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=16900"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=16900"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}