{"id":16957,"date":"2020-04-27T08:41:01","date_gmt":"2020-04-27T08:41:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=16957"},"modified":"2022-07-19T08:46:41","modified_gmt":"2022-07-19T08:46:41","slug":"11-dolorosi-segnali-che-non-sei-altro-che-il-suo-piano-di-riserva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/11-dolorosi-segnali-che-non-sei-altro-che-il-suo-piano-di-riserva\/","title":{"rendered":"11 dolorosi segni che non sei altro che il suo piano di riserva"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2>1. Non \u00e8 chiaro sui suoi sentimenti<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86918\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/worried-couple-looking-at-each-other-at-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"coppia preoccupata che si guarda al bar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/worried-couple-looking-at-each-other-at-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/worried-couple-looking-at-each-other-at-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/worried-couple-looking-at-each-other-at-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><br \/>\nNon sai mai a che punto sei con lui, non parla mai di esclusivit\u00e0 n\u00e9 rivela i suoi sentimenti verso di te. Non ti ha mai presentato a nessuno come la sua ragazza.<\/p>\n<p>Nasconde le sue emozioni. Si comporta in modo disinvolto e il suo comportamento dimostra che gli piaci, ma niente di pi\u00f9. A volte si ha addirittura la sensazione che sia incapace di provare emozioni.<\/p>\n<p>If this happens at the beginning of a relationship, it\u2019s nothing out of the ordinary.<\/p>\n<p>He can\u2019t know he loves you or where you stand after a short period of time.<\/p>\n<p>Ma se state insieme da molto tempo e lui non ha ancora le idee chiare sui suoi sentimenti, ti sta solo usando come un'arma di difesa. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/non-essere-accidentale-puttana-laterale\/\">un piano di riserva<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Evita di parlare del futuro<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86919\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-looking-at-man-while-holding-his-hand-in-street-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"donna che guarda l&#039;uomo mentre gli tiene la mano in un caff\u00e8 di strada\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-looking-at-man-while-holding-his-hand-in-street-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-looking-at-man-while-holding-his-hand-in-street-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-looking-at-man-while-holding-his-hand-in-street-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Non fa mai piani a lungo termine. Parlare di qualcosa che farete il mese prossimo, per non parlare dell'anno prossimo, \u00e8 una missione impossibile quando si tratta di lui.<\/p>\n<p>All the future plans he talks about never include the word \u2018we\u2019; he only talks about his life.<\/p>\n<p>E se gli chiedete direttamente di qualche progetto futuro, cambier\u00e0 argomento e continuer\u00e0 a parlare di qualcos'altro.<\/p>\n<p>The painful truth is he doesn\u2019t see <a href=\"https:\/\/pairedlife.com\/advice\/IsThereAFutureWithHim\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">il suo futuro con voi<\/a>, that\u2019s why he is avoiding talking about it.<\/p>\n<h2>3. He changes behavior when he is with you and when he is isn\u2019t<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86920\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/worried-couple-sitting-at-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"coppia preoccupata seduta al bar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/worried-couple-sitting-at-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/worried-couple-sitting-at-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/worried-couple-sitting-at-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You could almost say that he is somebody else entirely when you text him and when you are staring at each other\u2019s faces.<\/p>\n<p>When he is with you, his behavior is spot on but as soon as he leaves your sight it\u2019s a totally different story.<\/p>\n<p>I suoi testi sono rari e in essi sembra quasi sempre disinteressato e distante.<\/p>\n<p>Di solito sei tu a mandare i messaggi per prima e lui ci mette sempre molto tempo a rispondere.<\/p>\n<p>Non chiama quasi mai. In poche parole, vuole avervi intorno ma non si \u00e8 ancora impegnato del tutto e vi tiene come opzione.<\/p>\n<h2>4. Non avete mai incontrato nessuna delle persone importanti della sua vita.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86921\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Rear-view-of-offended-woman-looking-at-stubborn-lover.jpg\" alt=\"Vista posteriore di donna offesa che guarda l&#039;amante ostinato\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Rear-view-of-offended-woman-looking-at-stubborn-lover.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Rear-view-of-offended-woman-looking-at-stubborn-lover-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Rear-view-of-offended-woman-looking-at-stubborn-lover-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Non avete mai incontrato i suoi amici pi\u00f9 stretti o frequentato gli altri suoi amici. Non siete sicuri che la sua famiglia sappia che esistete.<\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t talk about them a lot, he keeps that part of his life to himself.<\/p>\n<p>Tutti questi sono segnali che indicano che non vi sta facendo spazio nella sua vita. Un uomo che sa cosa vuole e dove vuole arrivare con voi vi presenter\u00e0, dopo un certo periodo di tempo nella relazione, le persone pi\u00f9 importanti della sua vita.<\/p>\n<p>Se non lo fa, vi tiene in disparte.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Avete paura che possa andarsene da un momento all'altro<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86922\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Sad-couple-not-talking-to-each-other-after-the-argument..jpg\" alt=\"Una coppia triste che non si parla dopo il litigio.\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Sad-couple-not-talking-to-each-other-after-the-argument..jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Sad-couple-not-talking-to-each-other-after-the-argument.-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Sad-couple-not-talking-to-each-other-after-the-argument.-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Camminate su gusci d'uovo intorno a lui. Hai paura che se fai una mossa sbagliata lui se ne vada.<\/p>\n<p>Forse c'\u00e8 qualcosa nel suo comportamento che ti porta a pensare questo.<\/p>\n<p>Forse si comporta come se tu dovessi essere felice di stare con lui. Avete il costante bisogno di dimostrargli il vostro valore e di impressionarlo in ogni modo.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe he even blackmails you that he is going to leave if you don\u2019t do everything his way.<\/p>\n<p>La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che, quando si \u00e8 in una situazione di salute e di impegno <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/gli-obiettivi-delle-relazioni-reali\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">relazione<\/a>Entrambi i partner sono alla pari. Non c'\u00e8 bisogno di impressionare o di inchinarsi a nessuno.<\/p>\n<p>Se vi manipola minacciandovi di perderlo, non solo vi sta trattando come un'opzione, ma sta usando il vostro amore contro di voi. Sicuramente non \u00e8 lui la persona con cui dovreste stare.<\/p>\n<h2>6. L'unica persona che ospita \u00e8 se stesso<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86923\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-woman-sitting-while-man-typing.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta mentre l&#039;uomo scrive a macchina\" width=\"800\" height=\"538\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-woman-sitting-while-man-typing.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-woman-sitting-while-man-typing-300x202.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-woman-sitting-while-man-typing-768x516.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/sad-woman-sitting-while-man-typing-760x510.jpg 760w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He skips out on your plans if he has something better going on. He discards your plans but gets mad if you don\u2019t go along with his.<\/p>\n<p>Fa tutto ci\u00f2 che gli conviene e che lo rende felice senza considerare le vostre esigenze.<\/p>\n<p>He won\u2019t mind you bending over backward to please him but he would never do the same for you. He is selfish and his own priority.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, se non fa alcun passo per accontentarvi o rendervi felici, vi sta solo prendendo in giro.<\/p>\n<h2>7. He is always &#8216;busy&#8217;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86924\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/serious-woman-wearing-white-shirt-and-talking-on-her-phone-outside.jpg\" alt=\"donna seria che indossa una camicia bianca e parla al telefono all&#039;aperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/serious-woman-wearing-white-shirt-and-talking-on-her-phone-outside.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/serious-woman-wearing-white-shirt-and-talking-on-her-phone-outside-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/serious-woman-wearing-white-shirt-and-talking-on-her-phone-outside-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Non ha mai abbastanza tempo per te, ma si vede chiaramente che trova il tempo per tutto il resto che gli interessa.<\/p>\n<p>He is using \u2018busy\u2019 as an<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/scuse-per-uscire-dai-piani\/\"> una scusa per abbandonare i vostri piani<\/a> la maggior parte del tempo o per giustificare il fatto che non ci si vede per un po' di tempo.<\/p>\n<p>La verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che chi ci tiene trover\u00e0 del tempo per voi anche se non ne ha.<\/p>\n<p>Non desidera altro che passare del tempo con voi e far\u00e0 tutti i passi in questa direzione.<\/p>\n<p>If he barely spends any time with you and uses \u2018busy\u2019 as an excuse, he is not busy, he is simply lacking interest and making you his second choice till someone else comes along.<\/p>\n<h2>8. Non si apre mai su nulla<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86925\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-looking-at-his-thoughtful-girlfriend-in-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che guarda la sua fidanzata pensieroso in un caff\u00e8\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-looking-at-his-thoughtful-girlfriend-in-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-looking-at-his-thoughtful-girlfriend-in-cafe-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-looking-at-his-thoughtful-girlfriend-in-cafe-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Tutte le vostre conversazioni sono superficiali e lui non dice mai nulla di veramente importante.<\/p>\n<p>Si potrebbe anche dire che tutti i vostri incontri potrebbero assomigliare a due sconosciuti che fanno due chiacchiere alla stazione degli autobus.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not uncommon for a man to keep his guard up early on in the relationship.<\/p>\n<p>But if after he really got to know you and spent a lot of time with you, he still has no need to open up about his emotions, troubles, or his life, he is holding himself back from wholeheartedly entering into the relationship and he is holding you at arm\u2019s length.<\/p>\n<h2>9. \u00c8 troppo concentrato sul cellulare quando siete insieme<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86926\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-ignoring-his-girlfriend-and-using-phone.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che ignora la sua ragazza e usa il telefono\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\"><\/p>\n<p>Most of us these days are slightly addicted to our phone and until it crosses the border of normal behavior, it\u2019s considered usual.<\/p>\n<p>But if your boyfriend spends most of his alone time with you staring at his phone and not paying attention to you, it\u2019s a bad sign.<\/p>\n<p>Not only is he rude and he lacks common courtesy but his behavior indicates that he is disrespectful toward you and doesn\u2019t consider you as someone who should have his full attention.<\/p>\n<p>Talk to him and see if things can change and if not, don\u2019t settle for being second choice while his phone, social media and whoever he is texting comes first. Things shouldn\u2019t go that way.<\/p>\n<h2>10. Manca di impegno<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86927\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/back-view-of-man-and-woman-sitting-around-trees.jpg\" alt=\"vista posteriore di uomo e donna seduti intorno agli alberi\" width=\"800\" height=\"541\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/back-view-of-man-and-woman-sitting-around-trees.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/back-view-of-man-and-woman-sitting-around-trees-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/back-view-of-man-and-woman-sitting-around-trees-768x519.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Lascia che sia tu a fare tutti i piani e non ti propone mai qualcosa da fare insieme.<\/p>\n<p>Di solito sei tu a chiedere per primo quando vi incontrerete.<\/p>\n<p>Di solito chiamate o mandate un messaggio prima. Voi programmate il vostro tempo per adattarlo alle sue esigenze e lui non fa mai lo stesso. E l'elenco continua.<\/p>\n<p>The bottom line is you are the one giving your everything while he doesn\u2019t give anything back, and it shouldn\u2019t be like that.<\/p>\n<p>Un uomo che si preoccupa e ti considera un <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/11-signs-youre-someones-priority\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">priorit\u00e0<\/a> si presenter\u00e0, far\u00e0 progetti e restituir\u00e0 tutto ci\u00f2 che riceve e forse anche di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p>Se non c'\u00e8 reciprocit\u00e0, si \u00e8 in una relazione unilaterale e si viene trattati come un'opzione.<\/p>\n<h2>11. \u00c8 pi\u00f9 interessato a fare l'amore che ad amarvi.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86928\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-kissing-woman-on-neck.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che bacia la donna sul collo\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-kissing-woman-on-neck.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-kissing-woman-on-neck-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/man-kissing-woman-on-neck-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He is all sweet and nice when he wants to take off your clothes but as soon that\u2019s done, he is cold and distant.<\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t want to know anything about you or really hear anything you have to say, the only thing he cares about is the sexual aspects of your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>E sebbene il sesso sia una parte importante di una relazione, non tutto pu\u00f2 basarsi su di esso.<\/p>\n<p>Se in una relazione mancano l'amore, il coinvolgimento emotivo e il sostegno, lui vi sta solo usando per alleviare i suoi bisogni.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s not the kind of guy who stays or the kind of guy you really need. He is just using you as <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/sono-fottutamente-stanca-di-essere-la-tua-donna-sotto-copertura\/\">il suo piano di riserva<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-86916\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/11-Painful-Signs-You-Are-Nothing-More-Than-His-Backup-Plan-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"11 dolorosi segni che non sei altro che il suo piano di riserva\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/11-Painful-Signs-You-Are-Nothing-More-Than-His-Backup-Plan-Pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/11-Painful-Signs-You-Are-Nothing-More-Than-His-Backup-Plan-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1. He is unclear about his feelings You never know where you stand with him, he never brings up exclusivity or reveals his feelings toward you. He has never introduced you as his girlfriend to anybody. He hides his emotions. He acts casual and his behavior shows that he likes you but nothing more. 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