{"id":17081,"date":"2020-07-29T07:03:32","date_gmt":"2020-07-29T07:03:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17081"},"modified":"2022-09-26T12:19:37","modified_gmt":"2022-09-26T12:19:37","slug":"questo-e-il-motivo-per-cui-un-infj-e-la-vittima-piu-comune-dei-narcisisti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/questo-e-il-motivo-per-cui-un-infj-e-la-vittima-piu-comune-dei-narcisisti\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco perch\u00e9 un INFJ \u00e8 la vittima pi\u00f9 comune del narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Volete aiutare le persone. Volete rendere il mondo un posto migliore. Non potete farne a meno. \u00c8 il vostro modo di essere ed \u00e8 questo che vi rende cos\u00ec speciali.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>La personalit\u00e0 INFJ \u00e8 una delle pi\u00f9 rare al mondo, perch\u00e9 non sono molte le persone che sacrificherebbero il proprio benessere e i propri sentimenti per salvare gli altri.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>You are your own worst critic, especially when someone pressures you all the time and that\u2019s why <a href=\"http:\/\/www.rebelcircus.com\/blog\/characteristics-narcissists-prey\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">narcisisti preda<\/a> su di te.<\/p>\n<p>You are an easy target for them to leech off of. You won\u2019t give up on them even if they dry you out completely.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll criticize yourself and you\u2019ll have the feeling that it was all your fault. Well, that\u2019s exactly what they want.<\/p>\n<p>Vi fanno perdere il rispetto e l'amore per voi stessi, le due cose di cui avete pi\u00f9 bisogno.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>A narcissist is only capable of loving himself and no one else. There is no point in trying to evoke empathy or any feelings in them because they just can\u2019t show them. They don\u2019t care about anyone but themself.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/5-motivi-per-cui-un-narcisista-non-puo-durare-a-lungo-in-una-relazione\/\">Una relazione con un narcisista<\/a> is something you can\u2019t see coming. No matter how hard you try to spot them and try to deal with them, they can play you like a fool.<\/p>\n<p>Sono cos\u00ec bravi a recitare e a mentire, soprattutto quando vogliono o hanno bisogno di qualcosa di veramente importante, in questo caso di voi, e non avete mai una possibilit\u00e0 contro di loro.<\/p>\n<p>You have to understand that it\u2019s not your fault if you\u2019ve been victimized by a narcissist. It\u2019s not true that you are less worthy or that you don\u2019t deserve anything better than him. It\u2019s his goal to make you feel like crap, to make you feel guilty of everything, to make you feel submissive to him.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>That\u2019s how he controls you, through his little mind games and control. First, he convinces you that you are good for nothing and then he takes advantage of you. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>He uses your very last atom of energy and he doesn\u2019t leave you be. Not until you become an empty shell that once was a smiling and loving woman.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Perch\u00e9 gli INFJ attraggono i narcisisti?<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Un narcisista finge di darvi tutto l'amore di cui avete bisogno<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-101797\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/man-kissing-woman-in-the-head.jpg\" alt=\"uomo che bacia la donna in testa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/man-kissing-woman-in-the-head.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/man-kissing-woman-in-the-head-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/man-kissing-woman-in-the-head-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/man-kissing-woman-in-the-head-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/man-kissing-woman-in-the-head-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sono tutti uguali fin dall'inizio. Fingono di essere premurosi e amorevoli. Fanno finta di volerti dare il mondo, in modo che tu possa credergli e fidarti di loro. Poi ti tengono in trappola.<\/p>\n<p>Narcissists fake having something you want, something your personality needs, that\u2019s why you are an easy prey for them.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s similar to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/8-beautiful-traits-empath\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">empatici<\/a>, in quanto attirano anche queste personalit\u00e0 dai tratti oscuri.<\/p>\n<p>Bisogna stare molto attenti quando si incontrano nuove persone. So che vi fidate di tutti e che pensate che tutti agiscano e pensino come voi.<\/p>\n<p>Beh, non tutti vogliono far emergere solo il meglio delle persone. Alcuni di loro alimentano la propria energia succhiando gli altri, come i narcisisti.<\/p>\n<p>Dovete resistere a mostrare empatia a ogni singola persona che vi si presenta. Questo \u00e8 contrario a tutto ci\u00f2 che sapete e a tutto ci\u00f2 che siete, ma per il vostro bene dovete resistere.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Gli INFJ cercano la relazione perfetta<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-101798\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/couple-cuddling-in-the-pub.jpg\" alt=\"coppia che si coccola al pub\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/couple-cuddling-in-the-pub.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/couple-cuddling-in-the-pub-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/couple-cuddling-in-the-pub-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/couple-cuddling-in-the-pub-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/couple-cuddling-in-the-pub-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You are a perfectionist and it is normal that you reject everything that\u2019s less than perfect.<\/p>\n<p>So, you carefully choose the people who surround you but it\u2019s not easy to spot a narcissist in disguise, as they can sneak up on you and bomb you with their fake love, which will seem to you like perfection.<\/p>\n<p>And that\u2019s where you make the biggest mistake. You know that you deserve to be loved and respected and a narcissist will lie and manipulate you into thinking he will give you exactly what you want.<\/p>\n<p>You have to realize that the things that happen fast, like love at first sight and so on, are nice, cute and exciting but it doesn\u2019t have to mean it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n<p>Le cose possono sembrare perfette, ma bisogna avere paura della perfezione perch\u00e9 nulla \u00e8 mai perfetto. Potete sforzarvi di fare del vostro meglio, ma non sar\u00e0 mai perfetto.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Per proteggersi dai narcisisti, quindi, bisogna rendersi conto che la propria idea di perfezione pu\u00f2 condurci tra le loro braccia e che essi possono ferirci gravemente.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Gli INFJ hanno un insaziabile desiderio di salvare le persone<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-101799\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/calm-woman-holding-crossed-hands-on-the-chest.jpg\" alt=\"donna calma che tiene le mani incrociate sul petto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/calm-woman-holding-crossed-hands-on-the-chest.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/calm-woman-holding-crossed-hands-on-the-chest-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/calm-woman-holding-crossed-hands-on-the-chest-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/calm-woman-holding-crossed-hands-on-the-chest-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/calm-woman-holding-crossed-hands-on-the-chest-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ogni volta che un narcisista fa qualcosa di manipolativo e offensivo, invece di prendere le sue cose e lasciarlo, un INFJ pensa di poterlo far tornare indietro.<\/p>\n<p>She thinks she can change him for the better. Well, that is not going to happen. A narcissist can\u2019t change because he doesn\u2019t want to change.<\/p>\n<p>Nulla di ci\u00f2 che fa gli sembra negativo. Ritiene che il suo comportamento sia del tutto normale e che le sue azioni siano giustificate.<\/p>\n<p>Crede che siate voi a essere in crisi perch\u00e9 vi rifiutate di vivere secondo le sue regole, perch\u00e9 vi rifiutate di obbedirgli.<\/p>\n<p>D'altra parte, i suoi tratti oscuri sono stati presenti per cos\u00ec tanto tempo che \u00e8 diventato parte di loro.<\/p>\n<p>Queste caratteristiche morbose sono ci\u00f2 che lo rende ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 e nulla pu\u00f2 cambiarlo.<\/p>\n<p>Nessuno pu\u00f2 cambiare l'essenza di un essere umano, qualcosa che lo definisce, quindi nemmeno voi potete farlo.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">I narcisisti sono attratti dalle persone empatiche<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-101800\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/serious-man-looking-at-mirror.jpg\" alt=\"uomo serio che si guarda allo specchio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/serious-man-looking-at-mirror.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/serious-man-looking-at-mirror-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/serious-man-looking-at-mirror-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/serious-man-looking-at-mirror-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/serious-man-looking-at-mirror-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Narcissists target people who have empathy and who are strong. They can\u2019t take advantage of weak people because they have nothing to offer them.<\/p>\n<p>Solo chi \u00e8 forte, come te, pu\u00f2 sopportare di essere risucchiato da questi <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/5-tipi-di-vampiri-emotivi\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">vampiri emotivi<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Avete qualcosa da dare, qualcosa che loro vogliono, come la compassione, l'amore o l'integrit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>You want to fix people, you want to help them and that\u2019s what draws them closer to you.<\/p>\n<p>I narcisisti sanno di potervi fare tutto quello che vogliono, perch\u00e9 anche se vi feriscono e superano ogni limite, vi faranno sentire in colpa per dargli un'altra possibilit\u00e0 o per dispiacersi di loro.<\/p>\n<p>They know you\u2019ll fall for that trick because you want to help them, you want to heal them.<\/p>\n<p>In this situation, your kind personality will be your downfall and no, that\u2019s not fair, but it happens and you have to learn to fight it.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Gli INFJ sanno di dubitare spesso di se stessi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-101801\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/pretty-woman-in-deep-minds.jpg\" alt=\"donna carina in mente profonda\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/pretty-woman-in-deep-minds.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/pretty-woman-in-deep-minds-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/pretty-woman-in-deep-minds-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/pretty-woman-in-deep-minds-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/pretty-woman-in-deep-minds-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nel profondo, sapete di meritare tutto il rispetto e l'amore possibile, ma il vostro problema pi\u00f9 grande \u00e8 che dubitate troppo di voi stessi.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re too sensitive and pretty much anything can hurt you because <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/perche-mi-affeziono-cosi-facilmente\/\">ci si affeziona cos\u00ec facilmente e velocemente<\/a> to people. It\u2019s your good nature and you can\u2019t avoid it.<\/p>\n<p>But that\u2019s why you put people on a pedestal; you think everyone is better than you when that\u2019s far from the truth.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Di solito, coloro che meritano rispetto e lode sono quelli che dubitano maggiormente di se stessi.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I narcisisti si approfittano della vostra buona natura. Si presenteranno come migliori di voi, anche se in realt\u00e0 non lo sono.<\/p>\n<p>Vi faranno sentire come se aveste colpito l'obiettivo.<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/jackpot-relationship-will-someone-17-things\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> relazione con il jackpot<\/a> ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che si potrebbe fare molto meglio.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-101803\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/This-Is-Why-an-INFJ-Is-A-Narcissists-Most-Common-Victim-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Ecco perch\u00e9 un INFJ \u00e8 la vittima pi\u00f9 comune del narcisista\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/This-Is-Why-an-INFJ-Is-A-Narcissists-Most-Common-Victim-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/This-Is-Why-an-INFJ-Is-A-Narcissists-Most-Common-Victim-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/This-Is-Why-an-INFJ-Is-A-Narcissists-Most-Common-Victim-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/This-Is-Why-an-INFJ-Is-A-Narcissists-Most-Common-Victim-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/This-Is-Why-an-INFJ-Is-A-Narcissists-Most-Common-Victim-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You want to help people. You want to make the world a better place. You can\u2019t help it. It\u2019s just the way you are and that\u2019s what makes you so special. The INFJ personality is one of the rarest ones in the world because there are not too many people who would sacrifice their own&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":101802,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17081","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/This-Is-Why-an-INFJ-Is-A-Narcissists-Most-Common-Victim.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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