{"id":17102,"date":"2020-08-29T12:53:33","date_gmt":"2020-08-29T12:53:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17102"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:10:54","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:10:54","slug":"essere-single-e-sempre-meglio-che-essere-trattati-di-merda","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/essere-single-e-sempre-meglio-che-essere-trattati-di-merda\/","title":{"rendered":"Essere single \u00e8 sempre meglio che essere trattati di merda"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nessuna quantit\u00e0 di amore che provate per una persona dovrebbe mai sostituire la vostra dignit\u00e0 o abbassare i vostri standard. Nessuna quantit\u00e0 di paura che potreste provare quando pensate di essere single dovrebbe permettervi di permettere a qualcun altro di trattarvi come una merda. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, I know what I\u2019m talking about. <\/b><\/p>\n

Pensate a questo: Quanto \u00e8 importante l'amore se non si \u00e8 rispettati, stimati, apprezzati o trattati nel modo in cui si merita di essere trattati dalla persona che si ama? <\/span><\/p>\n

Quanto \u00e8 importante avere qualcuno accanto a s\u00e9 se questo qualcuno <\/span>ti tratta di merda<\/span><\/a>? You have no idea until you\u2019ve had the chance to feel it all on your skin. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been there you know, and I can tell you, there is nothing worse than being with someone who makes you feel miserable all the time. <\/b><\/p>\n

Non c'\u00e8 niente di peggio, anche se si rimane single per il resto della vita, che permettere a un altro essere umano di trascinare costantemente il proprio spirito verso il basso. <\/b><\/p>\n

See, I\u2019m the type of person who\u2019s constantly led by her feelings and therefore it may happen at times that my feelings cloud my judgment or that I think up irrational things that I probably wouldn\u2019t if I didn\u2019t overthink like I normally do. And taking all this and mixing it together, I let myself get attached to someone who treated me like shit.<\/span><\/p>\n

While I stayed at home, he went and partied like there was no tomorrow. While I was planning a future for us, he lived like there was no tomorrow. While I couldn\u2019t have been quicker to pick up the phone when he called, it took him hours to reply to a text. <\/span><\/p>\n

While I was giving him all my kindness and putting him on a pedestal, he couldn\u2019t have treated me with less respect or shoved me any lower down his <\/span>priorit\u00e0<\/span><\/a> lista. Eppure, sono rimasta al suo fianco. <\/span><\/p>\n

I thought I should have been happy to have someone next to me, that it was all part of a relationship. I thought that I was one of the lucky ones who had found her soulmate, even though that \u2018soulmate\u2019 was more of a nightmare. Never for a second did I think that being alone would be better than being in a toxic relationship. <\/b><\/p>\n

I should\u2019ve been happy to have someone next to me but the reality couldn\u2019t have been more different to be honest. Because this person I had next to me didn\u2019t make me happy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mi ha fatto dubitare del mio valore, dubitare di essere<\/span> abbastanza buono<\/span><\/a> e mi ha quasi convinto che lui era il meglio che potessi avere, perch\u00e9 ero cos\u00ec cattivo che non c'era nessun altro che volesse amarmi, deliberatamente e da solo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Vedete, per paura di rimanere sola, mi sono aggrappata per tanto tempo a qualcuno che mi trattava come se fossi la cosa pi\u00f9 irrilevante di questo mondo, come se non valessi nulla. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vedete, per paura di essere giudicata o di essere etichettata come non abbastanza buona per essere desiderata da qualcun altro, mi sono buttata in una relazione tossica e l'ho chiamata amore. E ho fatto tutto questo a me stessa. <\/span><\/p>\n

I allowed other people’s opinions of  me to be more important to me than how I was treated. I allowed someone to treat me like shit just because I thought that was better than being alone. <\/span><\/p>\n

E desidero che nessun altro essere umano, nessun'altra ragazza o donna, si umili fino al punto in cui l'ho fatto io. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quindi ascoltatemi quando ve lo dico: Rimanete single! Rimanete single il pi\u00f9 a lungo possibile. Attraversate la vita da soli a testa alta. Siate orgogliosi di voi stessi con tutti i vostri difetti, cicatrici e imperfezioni. Amate la vostra vita e lavorate per creare la vita che volete avere. <\/b><\/p>\n

Rimanete single. Imparate a conoscere le cose che vi emozionano, imparate a conoscere le cose che vi piacciono e quelle che non vi piacciono, esplorate ci\u00f2 che infiamma la vostra anima. Amate voi stessi per come siete e solo allora potrete amare ed essere amati nel modo giusto da un altro essere umano. <\/span><\/p>\n

Stay single. Fall and then rise and then fall again.  If you fall thousand times, rise for the thousand and first time. Do it alone. Show yourself what you\u2019re made of.<\/span><\/p>\n

Rimanere single<\/span><\/a>. Don\u2019t rush into a relationship until you\u2019ve seen that the person you\u2019re giving your time, your efforts, your love and yourself to is actually worth it all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Non avere mai paura di essere soli<\/span>\u2014<\/span>cherish it, live it. You won\u2019t stay single forever. So don\u2019t allow the fear you\u2019re feeling to push you into the arms of someone who\u2019ll emotionally destroy you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because it will take you years to patch your broken pieces together. Trust me, I\u2019ve been there. <\/span><\/p>\n

Wait for someone who deserves you. Wait for someone who will know your worth and who\u2019ll think you\u2019re too good for him. Wait for someone who\u2019ll admire you and help you build yourself up or at least cheer for you while you do it yourself. <\/b><\/p>\n

Wait until you\u2019re the best version of yourself before you welcome someone into your life. Because only then will you know that you\u2019re with him from the right reasons. <\/span><\/p>\n

And only then will everything make sense. Only then you\u2019ll be able to truly see your worth and be able to cut off of your life anyone who dares to treat you like shit. <\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

No amount of love you feel toward a person should ever replace your dignity or lower your standards. No amount of fear that you might feel when you think about being single should let you allow someone else to treat you like shit. Trust me, I know what I\u2019m talking about. Think about this: How…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":17103,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29645],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17102","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-being-single"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29645,"label":"being single"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/03\/kevin-laminto-608594-unsplash.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29645,"name":"being single","slug":"being-single","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29645,"taxonomy":"category","description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","parent":29643,"count":114,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29645,"category_count":114,"category_description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","cat_name":"being single","category_nicename":"being-single","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17102","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17102"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17102\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17103"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17102"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17102"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17102"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}