{"id":17169,"date":"2020-02-02T06:31:12","date_gmt":"2020-02-02T06:31:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17169"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:40:52","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:40:52","slug":"sto-lentamente-imparando-a-lasciar-andare-il-dolore-che-gli-altri-mi-hanno-causato","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/sto-lentamente-imparando-a-lasciar-andare-il-dolore-che-gli-altri-mi-hanno-causato\/","title":{"rendered":"Sto lentamente imparando a lasciar andare il dolore che altri mi hanno provocato"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando si cade nel punto pi\u00f9 basso della propria vita e tutto il corpo \u00e8 dolorante per il dolore che si prova nel profondo del cuore e dell'anima, non si ha altra scelta che cambiare.<\/p>\n

Non avete altra scelta se non quella di cambiare il vostro modo di fare, il vostro modo di guardare il mondo e il modo in cui permettete agli altri di trattarvi.<\/p>\n

When you get tired of getting broken over and over again, when you get tired of doing different things but always ending up in the same place, when you get tired of people constantly letting you down, you realize that there isn\u2019t any point in getting mad at anyone or holding grudges because in the end, it does you no good.<\/p>\n

Per molto tempo sono stata arrabbiata con il mondo intero. Per molto tempo ho combattuto battaglie nella mia testa, tenendomi sveglia fino a tarda notte e litigando con Dio per aver permesso che tutto mi facesse del male.<\/p>\n

But then I realized it\u2019s not God who\u2019s doing me so much damage. It\u2019s me who\u2019s holding onto the pain others caused me.<\/p>\n

For a long time, I held grudges and allowed my anger to spread its roots inside me. I was the only one responsible for letting my soul rot because I didn\u2019t know otherwise.<\/p>\n

I still struggle with it, but I\u2019m slowly learning to let go. I\u2019m slowly learning the wisdom of this life.<\/p>\n

\"Bella<\/p>\n

I\u2019m slowly learning that those who walked away were never meant to stay.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tutti coloro che sono entrati nella mia vita avevano uno scopo. O per amarmi, o per spezzarmi o per darmi una lezione. A volte erano tutte queste cose insieme.<\/p>\n

Ma a prescindere dai sentimenti provocati o dal mio desiderio di farli rimanere nella mia vita, ora so che nobody who wasn\u2019t meant to be in my life could stay<\/a> per quanto lo volessi.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m slowly learning that those who weren\u2019t there for me when they should\u2019ve been didn\u2019t know any better.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Non tutte le persone al mondo hanno la capacit\u00e0 di provare empatia. Non tutte le persone sentono l'obbligo di essere presenti nel momento del bisogno per coloro che lo sono stati per loro.<\/p>\n

Not all people like me and that\u2019s okay. Now I know that those who choose not to be there for me didn\u2019t know any better.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t know how to care for anyone other than themselves. And letting me down had nothing to do with me. I\u2019m finally ready to accept it wasn\u2019t my fault<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m slowly learning that those who hurt me don\u2019t need to have power over me forever.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"Bella<\/p>\n

I\u2019m learning to stop giving people who hurt me power over me. I\u2019m learning to forgive and andare avanti<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m slowly teaching myself to heal, patch my wounds and not just allow people to have power over me long after they\u2019ve hurt me.<\/p>\n

Truth to be told, they either chose to hurt me deliberately or chose to be oblivious to things they did to me, so why should I allow them to occupy my mind and disturb my peace? I shouldn\u2019t and I won\u2019t.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m slowly learning that I don\u2019t need to force anything.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The time has come to admit to myself that people who are meant to be in my life won\u2019t expect me to chase them. I won\u2019t need to beg anyone for anything\u2014not for their love, not for their time and not to put me on their priority list.<\/p>\n

Devo imparare a essere paziente e ad avere fiducia nel fatto che ogni cosa ha la sua stagione nella mia vita e che le cose che sono destinate ad accadere troveranno la loro strada per me. Nel frattempo, il minimo che posso fare \u00e8 cercare di essere la versione migliore di me stessa. \u00c8 cos\u00ec semplice.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m slowly learning that living in the past isn\u2019t really living.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For a long time, I held onto past events and replayed them in my head. For a long time, I had this ugly custom of thinking about the things that hurt me and what I could\u2019ve done to avoid them.<\/p>\n

\"Bella<\/p>\n

For a long time, I imagined the events that broke my heart with different outcomes. And that\u2019s not how you live life.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s how you get yourself stuck in the past and miss living. You have to let go of what has happened in order to be able to fully welcome things in life that are headed your way.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m slowly learning to take control of my life.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve let so many things that have happened to me determine my course of life. I\u2019ve allowed other people’s actions to affect my behaviour and the way I treat myself and my life.<\/p>\n

For a long time, I was toxic to myself because I didn\u2019t know how to let go or how to take charge. I held onto things that had happened and it all smouldered in me for way too long. But no more.<\/p>\n

Now the time has come for me to forgive those who hurt me. It\u2019s time to move on.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to let go of all the emotional baggage I have; it\u2019s time to accept all the lessons I learned and others forced me to learn. It\u2019s time to let go of the pain others caused me and know better than to allow them to do it again.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to be happy. I might not get there right away, but I\u2019m ready for that journey.<\/p>\n

It won\u2019t happen overnight, but I\u2019m sure it will eventually.<\/p>\n

\"Sto<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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