{"id":17341,"date":"2020-08-05T13:28:42","date_gmt":"2020-08-05T13:28:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17341"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:59:21","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:59:21","slug":"alla-ragazza-che-pensa-di-essere-troppo-incasinata-per-trovare-lamore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/alla-ragazza-che-pensa-di-essere-troppo-incasinata-per-trovare-lamore\/","title":{"rendered":"Alla ragazza che pensa di essere troppo \"incasinata\" per trovare l'amore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I know exactly how you feel because I\u2019ve been there. I know that there are voices inside your mind telling you that <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/the-legacy-distorted-love\/201410\/do-you-feel-not-good-enough\" rel=\"noopener\">non sei abbastanza<\/a> e che nessun uomo vi amer\u00e0 con tutte le vostre cicatrici, i vostri bagagli e tutti i demoni del vostro passato.<\/p>\n<p>I know that every time you meet someone new, those voices in your head try to sabotage your relationship, whispering that you don\u2019t even have to bother trying something that was destined to doom.<\/p>\n<p>Pensate che le vostre esperienze di vita vi rendano poco amabili, ma non \u00e8 vero. Nessuno \u00e8 troppo danneggiato per essere amato e per trovare l'amore, soprattutto voi!<\/p>\n<p>Basta accettarlo e iniziare a pensare in modo positivo, invece di lasciare che i pensieri negativi rovinino completamente la vostra vita.<\/p>\n<h2>Forse sei incasinato, ma almeno non sei solo.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96636\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/worried-female-friends-talking.jpg\" alt=\"amiche preoccupate che parlano\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/worried-female-friends-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/worried-female-friends-talking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/worried-female-friends-talking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/worried-female-friends-talking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/worried-female-friends-talking-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>We are all a little bit broken but that doesn\u2019t mean that we can\u2019t find love. Love is everywhere and you just need to recognize what you want to have in your life.<\/p>\n<p>C'\u00e8 qualcuno che la pensa come voi e, una volta incontrati, vi capirete.<\/p>\n<p>Lui sar\u00e0 la vostra anima gemella e voi la sua dolce met\u00e0. Entrambi sarete distrutti a modo vostro, ma imparerete a vivere insieme.<\/p>\n<p>Sarete l\u00ec per lui quando la vita lo schiaffegger\u00e0, dicendogli che andr\u00e0 meglio e che amer\u00e0 tutti i vostri pezzi rotti.<\/p>\n<p>Vi accetter\u00e0 cos\u00ec come siete, senza plasmarvi in qualcuno che lui vuole che siate.<\/p>\n<h2>Non siete gli unici ad avere un bagaglio<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96637\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/beautiful-young-brunette-touching-her-hair-closed-eyes.jpg\" alt=\"bella giovane bruna che si tocca i capelli occhi chiusi\" width=\"800\" height=\"536\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/beautiful-young-brunette-touching-her-hair-closed-eyes.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/beautiful-young-brunette-touching-her-hair-closed-eyes-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/beautiful-young-brunette-touching-her-hair-closed-eyes-768x515.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/beautiful-young-brunette-touching-her-hair-closed-eyes-150x101.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/beautiful-young-brunette-touching-her-hair-closed-eyes-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You made mistakes in the past? So what! We have all made some mistakes but that doesn\u2019t mean that we are not allowed to love again.<\/p>\n<p>Qualunque cosa pensiate, non siete cos\u00ec male come credete. Datevi una possibilit\u00e0 e ve ne accorgerete.<\/p>\n<p>You gave so many second chances to people who didn\u2019t deserve them so why wouldn\u2019t you give another one to yourself? You will see that other people have issues and that we are not perfect.<\/p>\n<p>In effetti, siamo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/sono-perfettamente-imperfetta-e-questo-mi-va-piu-che-bene\/\">perfettamente imperfetto<\/a> ma \u00e8 una cosa che dovrebbe andarti bene.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t strive for perfection because that doesn\u2019t exist. It is just a story for people who want to be as good as they can be. That is just a lie others tell us to make us reach our limits.<\/p>\n<h2>Non siete cos\u00ec distrutti come credete di essere<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96638\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-posing-in-the-water.jpg\" alt=\"Donna in posa nell&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-posing-in-the-water.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-posing-in-the-water-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-posing-in-the-water-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-posing-in-the-water-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-posing-in-the-water-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>My darling, all the people around you are broken as well but they don\u2019t show it. Maybe they are more broken than you but they are better liars. So, don\u2019t believe everything that others tell you.<\/p>\n<p>Potete pensare con la vostra testa e decidere cosa \u00e8 giusto e cosa \u00e8 sbagliato.<\/p>\n<p>But don\u2019t ever give up on good things, especially love. Love can heal you and you won\u2019t even be aware of it.<\/p>\n<p>Se date all'amore un'altra possibilit\u00e0 di essere presente nella vostra vita, vedrete che ne \u00e8 valsa la pena. Tenete presente che le cose accadono sempre, dipende solo da come le persone reagiscono.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, qualsiasi cosa accada, cercate di essere voi stessi e di essere sempre aperti alle cose belle e all'amore che fa parte della vostra vita.<\/p>\n<h2>Siete migliori di quanto pensiate di essere<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96644\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-sitting-at-floor-looks-thoughtful.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta a terra guarda pensierosa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-sitting-at-floor-looks-thoughtful.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-sitting-at-floor-looks-thoughtful-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-sitting-at-floor-looks-thoughtful-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-sitting-at-floor-looks-thoughtful-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-sitting-at-floor-looks-thoughtful-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I know that sometimes you have high expectations. I know that sometimes people don\u2019t understand you so you think the problem is with you.<\/p>\n<p>E so anche quanto possiate essere confusi da tutto questo. Ma credetemi quando vi dico che siete molto pi\u00f9 bravi di quanto pensiate.<\/p>\n<p>Siete molto pi\u00f9 forti di tutte le cose che vi accadono e siete voi a dover decidere se andare avanti come un guerriero o se perdervi in ogni problema della vostra vita.<\/p>\n<p>Combattere non \u00e8 facile, ma sicuramente sentirete di aver fatto qualcosa di buono per voi stessi dopo aver raggiunto il successo.<\/p>\n<p>Fidatevi di me, potete farcela, dovete solo fare il primo passo da soli.<\/p>\n<h2>Non siete il <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/inside-mind-girl-thinks-unlovable-one\/\">non amabile<\/a><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96639\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-portrait-holding-her-hair.jpg\" alt=\"ritratto di donna che si tiene i capelli\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-portrait-holding-her-hair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-portrait-holding-her-hair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-portrait-holding-her-hair-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-portrait-holding-her-hair-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-portrait-holding-her-hair-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>So che ogni singolo ragazzo ti ha trattato di merda. So che tutti loro hanno cercato di convincerti che sei tu quella non amabile, ma questa \u00e8 la pi\u00f9 grande bugia di tutte.<\/p>\n<p>Lo hanno fatto solo per sentirsi meglio riguardo alle cose che hanno incasinato. Volevano sentirsi bene nella loro pelle lasciando che tu ti prendessi tutte le colpe.<\/p>\n<p>In your past relationships, you were convinced that you were the one who couldn\u2019t love, the one who was hard to love and that you would never find that kind of love that people write books about.<\/p>\n<p>Too bad that you didn\u2019t believe in yourself enough and that you let them control you and make you think that you are something you are not.<\/p>\n<h2>Avete il diritto di sentirvi felici<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96641\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-wearing-off-shoulder-dress.jpeg\" alt=\"donna che indossa un abito off shoulder\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-wearing-off-shoulder-dress.jpeg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-wearing-off-shoulder-dress-300x200.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-wearing-off-shoulder-dress-768x513.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-wearing-off-shoulder-dress-150x100.jpeg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/woman-wearing-off-shoulder-dress-720x481.jpeg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Avete il diritto di amare e di essere amati. Avete il diritto di vivere la vostra vita al massimo e avete certamente il diritto di essere inseguiti.<\/p>\n<p>The worst thing that you can do is go with the flow and make zero effort for your life to be better. You are the only ruler of your life so don\u2019t let any man convince you of the opposite.<\/p>\n<p>Se lasciate che siano gli altri a decidere al posto vostro, non troverete mai la vera felicit\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, dimenticate tutto quello che vi hanno detto sull'ascoltare gli anziani. Vivete la vostra vita e prendete le decisioni da soli.<\/p>\n<p>Se sono cattivi, imparerete da loro e se sono buoni, saranno una benedizione per voi.<\/p>\n<p>But whatever happens, be proud of who you are and walk through life with your head up. Because you don\u2019t deserve anything less than that.<\/p>\n<h2>L\u00e0 fuori c'\u00e8 qualcuno perfetto per voi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96642\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-in-purple-long-sleeve-top-holds-her-hair.jpg\" alt=\"Donna con top viola a maniche lunghe si tiene i capelli\" width=\"800\" height=\"542\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-in-purple-long-sleeve-top-holds-her-hair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-in-purple-long-sleeve-top-holds-her-hair-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-in-purple-long-sleeve-top-holds-her-hair-768x520.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/Woman-in-purple-long-sleeve-top-holds-her-hair-150x102.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>C'\u00e8 qualcuno che vi far\u00e0 battere il cuore, che vi far\u00e0 venire le farfalle nello stomaco ogni volta che lo vedrete.<\/p>\n<p>Esiste un uomo che vi far\u00e0 impazzire e allo stesso tempo sar\u00e0 follemente innamorato di voi. E quando lo incontrerete, lo saprete.<\/p>\n<p>You will feel that the one you have been waiting for, for such a long time, has come along. And bear in mind that good things don\u2019t happen overnight.<\/p>\n<p>Ma quando il vostro uomo perfetto entrer\u00e0 nella vostra vita, tutto avr\u00e0 un senso. Sar\u00e0 il pezzo mancante del puzzle che stavate cercando da tempo.<\/p>\n<p>And now he has come along to be with you, to hold you, to love you and to spoil you. Because you don\u2019t deserve anything less than that!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-96643 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Alla ragazza che pensa di essere troppo &quot;incasinata&quot; per trovare l&#039;amore\" width=\"724\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love-Pinterest-724x1024.jpg 724w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love-Pinterest-212x300.jpg 212w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love-Pinterest-768x1086.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love-Pinterest-1086x1536.jpg 1086w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love-Pinterest-1448x2048.jpg 1448w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love-Pinterest-150x212.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love-Pinterest.jpg 1587w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 724px) 100vw, 724px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I know exactly how you feel because I\u2019ve been there. I know that there are voices inside your mind telling you that you are not enough and that no man will love you with all your scars, your baggage and all the demons from your past. I know that every time you meet someone new,&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":96635,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17341","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/To-The-Girl-Who-Thinks-She-Is-Too-Fucked-Up-To-Find-Love.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. 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