{"id":17708,"date":"2018-04-17T09:24:12","date_gmt":"2018-04-17T09:24:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17708"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:11:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:11:16","slug":"se-vuoi-aiutare-un-amico-con-tendenze-suicide-leggi-questo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/se-vuoi-aiutare-un-amico-con-tendenze-suicide-leggi-questo\/","title":{"rendered":"Volete aiutare un amico con tendenze suicide? Leggete questo:"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Can you please stop sharing the suicide hotline number and acting like you\u2019re somehow going to be a martyr for mental health? Because you are not listening and you will not always be there. I\u2019ll tell you how I know this. First of all, you don\u2019t even know what to listen for. When a person is suicidal, they aren\u2019t shouting it on the fucking mountain top, waiting for someone to hear them. They aren\u2019t sending you private messages asking for help and allowing you the honour of swooping in just in time to save them from themselves. <strong>Spesso si chiudono in se stessi, nel loro mondo, da soli, e credono che a nessuno interessi, perch\u00e9 nessuno si \u00e8 accorto che sono chiusi in se stessi e soli.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Lasciate che vi dipinga un quadro, perch\u00e9 questo \u00e8 l'aspetto del suicidio. <strong>Potrebbe iniziare con un'irritabilit\u00e0 improvvisa e irrazionale. Una persona pu\u00f2 diventare completamente insopportabile, il suo comportamento diventa sempre pi\u00f9 inaccettabile e, proprio quando vi rendete conto del problema, lo fa anche lei. \u00c8 in questo momento che hanno bisogno di essere ascoltati.<\/strong> But it\u2019s hard to listen to a person who is yelling at you for no reason, so you decide (justifiably so) that you do not need to be subjected to such inexcusable behaviour and you retreat. They start to feel ashamed, embarrassed, and guilty. They feel so guilty, in fact, that they don\u2019t even want to face you, or anyone for that matter, out of a very legitimate fear that they will say or do something to further alienate people, thereby reinforcing their already negative self-perceptions in an extremely harmful cycle. <strong>That\u2019s when they start to believe you are better off without them. And they stop reaching out,<\/strong> trovando conforto nella sicurezza del loro divano. Loro si ritirano e voi vi ritirate, sollevati di non doverlo affrontare.<\/p>\n<p>A few months go by, and maybe you start to notice that you haven\u2019t seen or heard from your friend\u2026 you wonder for a second what\u2019s going on, hope they are okay and go back to your life. <strong>Whatever their deal is, it isn\u2019t<em> il tuo<\/em> responsabilit\u00e0.<\/strong> You \u201clike\u201d their sporadic posts on facebook\u2014which give you little insight into their mental health\u2014keep a safe distance, and call it a day. <strong>You scroll through your own feed, and meaning so well I\u2019m sure, you repost and share the suicide hotline number, you say you\u2019re always listening and you hashtag #awareness\u2026 but you didn\u2019t hear your own friend\u2019s cries for help. Because they didn\u2019t sound vulnerable. They sounded angry. It\u2019s much easier to empathize with the vulnerable, isn\u2019t it?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>So here you are, willing to listen to every \u201cfriend\u201d you have on facebook\u2026 but in the meantime <em>il tuo<\/em> friend had a birthday and not only did you not reach out to do something to celebrate, but you didn\u2019t even bother to wish them a happy birthday. I mean, after all, they\u2019ve been pretty shitty to you so nobody would blame you. But they noticed. They noticed that quite a few people didn\u2019t bother. Because here\u2019s the thing\u2014you are not the only person who is keeping their distance. <strong>Your angry friend has successfully pushed all of their friends away, not just you. And when their birthday came around and you weren\u2019t the only person who felt they didn\u2019t deserve your time or attention, they felt worthless, and sad, and lonely. And that\u2019s the day your friend became suicidal. But you weren\u2019t listening.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Quindi, se volete davvero aiutare il vostro amico, smettete di condividere solo un numero e istruitevi, in modo da iniziare a diffondere una reale consapevolezza. Sapere cosa cercare quando una persona ha tendenze suicide.<\/strong> It\u2019s not always as obvious as the memes would have you believe. Know which services are available locally to help people in crisis, where they are and how to access them. <strong>Be willing to look past the anger you don\u2019t understand to see the pain underneath.<\/strong> Look for the things you can\u2019t see right away\u2014sometimes the very act of looking can make all the difference to a person who has given up on themselves.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Segni che una persona potrebbe contemplare il suicidio:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>People who take their lives don\u2019t necessarily always want to die, but rather to end their pain. <strong>Don\u2019t dismiss suicide ideation, talks, or threats as attention seeking.<\/strong> Se notate qualche segnale che indica che il paziente sta pensando di farsi del male, chiedete aiuto.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Pu\u00f2 accadere che la persona si chiuda in se stessa, evitando gli amici pi\u00f9 stretti e la famiglia, perdendo interesse per le attivit\u00e0 e gli eventi sociali e isolandosi sempre di pi\u00f9.<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Un focus sulla morte.<\/strong> Alcune persone parlano apertamente di voler morire, si fissano sul tema della morte e del morire. Possono ricercare modi per uccidersi o comprare una pistola, un coltello o accumulare pillole.<\/li>\n<li>Mostra segni di disperazione. <strong>The person may talk openly about the unbearable pain they are experiencing or feeling like they\u2019re a burden to others.<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Fare progetti.<\/strong> La persona pu\u00f2 adottare misure per prepararsi alla morte, come l'aggiornamento del testamento, la cessione di beni, la pulizia e l'eliminazione massiccia degli effetti personali e l'addio agli altri. Alcuni possono scrivere una lettera d'addio.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Sbalzi d'umore e disturbi del sonno.<\/strong> Often, the person may be depressed, anxious, sad, or angry. They also may be very irritable, moody, or aggressive. But they can suddenly turn calm once they\u2019ve decide to go through with the suicide. Then they may sleep a lot more or a lot less than usual.<\/li>\n<li>Beve o assume droghe. <strong>L'abuso di sostanze aumenta la possibilit\u00e0 di suicidio.<\/strong> L'uso di molte droghe e alcol pu\u00f2 essere un tentativo di attenuare il dolore o di farsi del male.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Comportamento sconsiderato.<\/strong> La persona pu\u00f2 correre rischi pericolosi, come guidare ubriaca o fare sesso a rischio.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It\u2019s great to have good intentions, but in this case it is not enough. Follow it up with information and actionable resources&#8230; you might end up seeing something that you may have otherwise missed. And that something may be the very thing that saves a life.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Can you please stop sharing the suicide hotline number and acting like you\u2019re somehow going to be a martyr for mental health? Because you are not listening and you will not always be there. I\u2019ll tell you how I know this. First of all, you don\u2019t even know what to listen for. When a person&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":17711,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29635],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17708","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-depression"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29635,"label":"depression"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/adult-attractive-beautiful-206280.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29635,"name":"depression","slug":"depression","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29635,"taxonomy":"category","description":"If you or someone you know is fighting depression, here you'll find symptoms, plenty of coping techniques, and above all, you'll learn to understand it.","parent":22911,"count":23,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29635,"category_count":23,"category_description":"If you or someone you know is fighting depression, here you'll find symptoms, plenty of coping techniques, and above all, you'll learn to understand it.","cat_name":"depression","category_nicename":"depression","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17708","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17708"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17708\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17711"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17708"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17708"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17708"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}