{"id":17813,"date":"2020-08-19T07:03:21","date_gmt":"2020-08-19T07:03:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=17813"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:42:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:42:58","slug":"le-sue-parole-non-significano-nulla-perche-le-sue-azioni-hanno-mostrato-la-verita","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/le-sue-parole-non-significano-nulla-perche-le-sue-azioni-hanno-mostrato-la-verita\/","title":{"rendered":"Le sue parole non significano nulla perch\u00e9 le sue azioni dimostrano la verit\u00e0"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Molto tempo fa ho sentito dire che le azioni parlano pi\u00f9 delle parole, ma mi ci \u00e8 voluto un po' per capirlo.<\/p>\n<p>Mentre avevo una relazione con te, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/abbastanza-fiducioso-da-distruggere\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Mi sono fidata di te abbastanza da permetterti di farmi del male.<\/a>. Io ero totalmente aperto sui miei piani e sulle mie azioni, mentre tu eri quello che diceva una cosa e faceva qualcosa di totalmente opposto.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>E sapete qual \u00e8 stata la parte peggiore?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>Ti allontanavi sempre con cose del genere. Ogni volta che vedevi che ero arrabbiata e che stavo per porre fine a quello che avevamo, venivi da me, promettendo stelle e luna.<\/p>\n<p>E ogni volta mi innamoravo delle tue dolci bugie e dei tuoi abbracci che mi facevano rabbrividire. Ogni volta mi concedevo a te pensando che saresti cambiato, che il mio amore ti avrebbe cambiato.<\/p>\n<p>But that never happened. I wasn\u2019t so important to you to fight for me like your life depends on it. And you managed to hurt me with every action.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hai fatto passare momenti impensabili <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/fulfillment-any-age\/201310\/7-practical-strategies-overcome-emotional-pain\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">dolore emotivo<\/a> and even if I told you that you were doing me harm, you didn\u2019t stop. You just continued doing things that were good for you, not even feeling remorse for the pain you caused me.<\/p>\n<p>I still remember your verbal abuse and putting me down every time you didn\u2019t like something I did. Nothing that I would do for us worked for you and you thought that you were the only one who should make important decisions.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Hai detto di amarmi e poi mi hai tradito.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121315 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head.jpg\" alt=\"una donna con i capelli crespi si aggrappa alla sua testa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-frizzy-hair-clings-to-her-head-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Dicevi che ero importante per te; poi mi sminuivi davanti ai miei amici.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Hai detto che saremmo durati per sempre; poi hai tradito il nostro amore con la prima donna che hai incontrato.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>You lied to me everyday just to get what you wanted and I was so blind in love that I couldn\u2019t see it. I refused to believe that you didn\u2019t love me enough and that I didn\u2019t matter to you.<\/p>\n<p>Vivevo ancora nel mio mondo di fantasia pensando che saresti cambiato e che avresti iniziato ad amarmi proprio come facevi all'inizio della nostra relazione. Ma questo non \u00e8 mai successo.<\/p>\n<p>You didn\u2019t want to fight for me. You didn\u2019t want to chase me because I was already yours. But the catch is that you should have chased me even if I was yours because that is the point of love.<\/p>\n<p>Si tratta di provare e lottare per la persona amata. Si tratta di piccole cose, perch\u00e9 sono quelle che contano di pi\u00f9.<\/p>\n<p>And that was all that I wanted\u2014just a couple of small things to keep me alive. I just needed one small proof that you cared about me and that you wanted us to succeed.<\/p>\n<p>I wanted you to fight for me, but you couldn\u2019t even do that.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hai ferito tante volte e poi hai usato le parole per giustificare le tue azioni. Ma le azioni possono essere giustificate solo con le azioni.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121316 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench.jpg\" alt=\"una donna con lunghi capelli neri \u00e8 seduta su una panchina\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/a-woman-with-long-black-hair-is-sitting-on-a-bench-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Your sweet words that you will change meant nothing to me because I didn\u2019t have any proof you would do that. I was sick and tired of your manipulation, gaslighting, lying, and controlling.<\/p>\n<p>Volevo solo allontanarmi da te e da tutto ci\u00f2 che rappresentavi. Ed \u00e8 quello che ho fatto alla fine.<\/p>\n<p>Quando ho visto che non cambierai mai e che cercherai sempre di prenderti gioco di me, ho deciso di liberarmi da te.<\/p>\n<p>But I must admit that it wasn\u2019t easy to do. There were times when I wished you had never existed and there were times when I felt the same about myself.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s how hard you hurt me. You were the man I loved the most, but at the same time, you were the one who beat me to an emotional death.<\/p>\n<p>E mentre pensavo alle conseguenze della mia relazione con te, ho capito che hai preso tutto il meglio di me.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hai prosciugato tutta l'energia e sono rimasta completamente insensibile. Solo perch\u00e9 cercavo di proteggermi dal possibile dolore emotivo che un altro uomo avrebbe potuto farmi, mi sono completamente isolata dai miei sentimenti.<\/p>\n<p>I blocked them and I didn\u2019t allow anyone to come close to my heart. I made high and thick walls around me so I won\u2019t get hurt again. In that way, I missed the chance to love and to be loved again.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121317 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair.jpg\" alt=\"una donna immaginaria seduta su una sedia\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/an-imaginary-woman-sitting-on-a-chair-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>E quando ho visto quello che ho fatto, mi sono svegliata da un brutto sogno di cui avevo fatto parte per molto tempo. Ho capito che anche se mi avevi mentito e avevi fatto tutte quelle cose brutte, dovevo andare avanti con la mia vita.<\/p>\n<p>Accettare che mi \u00e8 successo \u00e8 stata la prima cosa da fare. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/6-fasi-di-guarigione-dopo-una-fuga-da-un-abuso-emotivo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">fase di guarigione dopo la fuga<\/a> una relazione tossica, ma avevo sicuramente bisogno di riprendermi completamente.<\/p>\n<p>After all that you did to me, I promised myself that I will love again, hoping that another man in my life won\u2019t be anything like you. I promised myself that I will open my heart to love despite all the fears and trust issues.<\/p>\n<p>Ho promesso a me stesso che avrei amato di nuovo nonostante tutte le ferite emotive ancora presenti. E cos\u00ec facendo, ho potuto finalmente allontanarmi da te. Perch\u00e9 aprendo il mio cuore a un nuovo amore, potevo guarire le mie ferite e tornare a essere la vecchia me.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Ho promesso a me stessa che amer\u00f2 di nuovo, con tutto il mio cuore e che non permetter\u00f2 mai a nessun uomo di ferirmi come hai fatto tu. Ho deciso di andare avanti e di essere di nuovo una donna felice e amata. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>E so che vedermi cos\u00ec sar\u00e0 la mia migliore vendetta nei tuoi confronti.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121318 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Your-Words-Mean-Nothing-Because-Your-Actions-Showed-The-Truth-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Le sue parole non significano nulla perch\u00e9 le sue azioni dimostrano la verit\u00e0\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Your-Words-Mean-Nothing-Because-Your-Actions-Showed-The-Truth-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Your-Words-Mean-Nothing-Because-Your-Actions-Showed-The-Truth-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Your-Words-Mean-Nothing-Because-Your-Actions-Showed-The-Truth-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Your-Words-Mean-Nothing-Because-Your-Actions-Showed-The-Truth-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Your-Words-Mean-Nothing-Because-Your-Actions-Showed-The-Truth-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A long time ago, I heard a saying that actions speak louder than words but it took me a while to actually understand that. While I was in a relationship with you, I trusted you enough to let you hurt me. I was totally open about my plans and my actions while you were the&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":121314,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17813","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/Your-Words-Mean-Nothing-Because-Your-Actions-Showed-The-Truth-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17813","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17813"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17813\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/121314"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17813"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17813"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17813"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}