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<\/p>\nMi sono ritrovata in un circolo vizioso senza fine. Venivo ferita giorno dopo giorno e non potevo farci nulla. Ho lottato e ho cercato di affrontarlo, ma la situazione non faceva che peggiorare.<\/p>\n
Poich\u00e9 il mio stato emotivo si stava deteriorando e il mio livello di stress era pi\u00f9 alto, lui era pi\u00f9 felice.<\/p>\n
I narcisisti traggono energia dalle loro vittime quando sono nei loro stati pi\u00f9 vulnerabili. La vostra infelicit\u00e0 e agonia sono ci\u00f2 che li tiene in vita. Sono come parassiti che si nutrono di altri organismi senza fare nulla in cambio.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
That\u2019s what I was\u2014a source of emotional food. My every tear and anxiety attack made him stronger.<\/p>\n
Doubting in myself and thinking I\u2019m not good enough pushed his ego sky high. That was all he needed from me.<\/p>\n
Even when I dumped him, I couldn\u2019t get rid of him. He had some kind of power over me. He knew how to emotionally hook me and bring me back every time I tried to escape.<\/p>\n
He would turn on his irresistible charm, his goodie face and I thought he had changed. I thought he finally understood that he was acting like a piece of shit. But, psychopaths don\u2019t work that way and I didn\u2019t know that, so I foolishly tried to understand him.<\/p>\n
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Quelle erano solo una delle sue numerose bugie per ottenere ci\u00f2 che voleva, per usarmi finch\u00e9 non fosse rimasto nulla di me da usare.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n
Non esiste un modo semplice per Liberarsi da una relazione narcisistica<\/a>. Come forse gi\u00e0 sapete, quando volevate andarvene, o se ve ne siete andati davvero, la vostra dipendenza dai narcotici ha preso il sopravvento.<\/p>\n You knew that you needed a dose of him. You couldn\u2019t just go on and live your life without him in it because he made sure that you missed him. He knew exactly how to manipulate you into staying.<\/p>\n He wasn\u2019t such an idiot all the time. There were times when you loved him so much\u2014when he appeared to be something completely different than what he really was.<\/p>\n Ma, ovviamente, era tutta una bugia. E il problema \u00e8 apparso perch\u00e9 vi siete aggrappati a questa bugia e avete sperato che potesse essere vera.<\/p>\n In segreto don\u2019t want to let go<\/a> because you hope it\u2019s not too late to turn things around. You still hope there is something good in him and you can take it out and change him. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Sperate che possa essere davvero premuroso e amorevole. Sperate che possa fare di voi la sua priorit\u00e0, ma la verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che pensa solo a se stesso.<\/p>\n Deep down inside, he is a poor little insecure boy who turned into a monster to hide his vulnerabilities and his shortcomings. And you\u2019re his victim, his tool to feel good about himself.<\/p>\n But listen, when you find yourself struggling with whether you\u2019ve made a good decision for leaving him or when you find yourself under his pressure of wanting you back, just remember that you are not in love with him but in something he finge<\/i> to be, something that doesn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n I know it\u2019s not easy to just walk away\u2014especially if you\u2019ve lived with him, have children with him or you have to keep seeing him because he is your boss\u2014or pretty much anyone you can\u2019t avoid in your life.<\/p>\n Correlato: 18 segnali d'allarme di un fidanzato dispotico<\/a><\/p>\n Tutti gli altri dicono che nessun contatto<\/a> \u00e8 il modo pi\u00f9 efficace per liberarsi definitivamente di un narcisista.<\/p>\n But what happens when you don\u2019t have that option? What happens when there are things that force you to keep seeing him and prolonging your pain? Then you use the Gray Rock method.<\/p>\n Che cos'\u00e8 il metodo Gray Rock?<\/b><\/p>\n The whole point is to really become a gray rock. A rock that is so boring and unattractive that no one would look at it twice. Using the grey rock method, you\u2019ll become completely unattractive for him to interact with.<\/p>\n Il vostro ex violento perder\u00e0 interesse per voi e alla fine vi lascer\u00e0 in pace.<\/p>\n Look at it this way. Imagine him being a small boy and small boys want toys to play with\u2014only a narc doesn\u2019t want toys because his toys are people.<\/p>\n Gioca con le persone e con i loro sentimenti e questo ha gravi conseguenze.<\/p>\n In a narc\u2019s eyes, you are the same as the toy. He knows he can do whatever he wants with you because he has the control. He can create scenarios he likes and make you dance to the music he plays. Narcs are in complete control over you.<\/p>\n Perch\u00e9 questo metodo funziona?<\/b><\/p>\n Vuole giocare con voi e se diventate noiosi e poco attraenti da guardare, perder\u00e0 interesse, come fanno i ragazzi con i giocattoli.<\/p>\n While the toys are brand new and while they have some attraction, the \u2018boys\u2019 will play with them because they get something back\u2014satisfaction\u2014and as long as they keep getting satisfaction, they will keep playing. But, when the toy becomes old and worn down, they will toss it because they get nothing in return.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why by using this method, you\u2019re turning yourself into a boring, unattractive, plain old toy he doesn\u2019t want to play with anymore. You become this gray rock that shows no feelings whatsoever.<\/p>\n E dove non ci sono emozioni, non ci sono narcisisti che le prosciughino.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n He wants all the attention he can get from you and once you become cold and indifferent and deny him that attention, love and affection, he will stop playing with you because he can\u2019t get anything from the game; he benefits nothing.<\/p>\n Come utilizzare il metodo Gray Rock?<\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t create chaos or drama.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Narcissists feed off of chaos and drama. They will provoke you just to get that state because when you\u2019re an emotional wreck, they are the happiest they can be. To avoid this, try to talk about superficial things.<\/p>\n Talk about how you\u2019ve washed your car or how you had to run some errands. Talk about everything that sounds boring and unexciting, anything that won\u2019t give them a reason to create drama.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t talk about your personal life. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Don\u2019t talk about anything that has something to do with you or your accomplishments. It will give them material to suck your energy dry and turn your happiness into misery.<\/p>\n Narcisisti<\/a> are known to be jealous of anything they don\u2019t have and you do.<\/p>\n So, don\u2019t give them a chance to be jealous. Stay quiet and if he tries to talk about your life, steer the conversation in another direction. Smoothly avoid answering the question.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t react to his provocations.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Cercher\u00e0 di suscitare in voi qualsiasi tipo di emozione, di solito solo quelle negative. Vi provocher\u00e0 e cercher\u00e0 di infastidirvi.<\/p>\n But, whatever he does, you have to deny him seeing any reaction from you. It\u2019s hard to stay indifferent\u2014especially when something makes you sad or hurt\u2014but keep in mind that\u2019s exactly what he wants. He wants to see emotion, so he can use it.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t ask him questions.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n Hanno un bisogno pazzesco di attenzioni costanti; sono veri e propri cercatori di attenzioni.<\/a> Quando si permette loro di ottenere ci\u00f2 che vogliono, non c'\u00e8 modo di fermarli.<\/p>\n So, when you meet with your narcissist, don\u2019t ever ask him anything about his life. If you do, it will give him a chance to rub his accomplishments (real or fake) right into your face.<\/p>\n He will use the situation and turn it around to make you feel worthless because he is doing so great and in his eyes, you\u2019re a complete failure.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t ever mention the past.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n They want you to relive those bad moments again (and again) because each time, it will provoke sadness and fear, and you\u2019re risking opening old wounds which have barely healed.<\/p>\n But, if this happens and it probably will, the best thing you can do it to accept responsibility for the end of your relationship (even if you don\u2019t since it wasn\u2019t your fault).<\/p>\n Se cercate di negare che la colpa \u00e8 vostra perch\u00e9 la vostra relazione \u00e8 finita, lui vi attaccher\u00e0 e vi urler\u00e0 contro, provocando ancora una volta in voi sentimenti negativi di cui si nutrir\u00e0.<\/p>\n It\u2019s not easy to gray rock someone because they bring you to the point where you want to scream at them and practically strangle them. They provoke you and bring out the worst in you.<\/p>\n Ma in queste situazioni, se si vuole una soluzione a lungo termine, bisogna far finta di niente.<\/p>\n Devi essere poco interessante come una roccia grigia e, se tutto va bene, lui ti lascer\u00e0 di nuovo e trover\u00e0 un'altra. vittima<\/a> da utilizzare.<\/p>\n Il lato negativo del metodo della roccia grigia<\/b><\/p>\n![\"coppia](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/04\/couple-hugging-in-corn-field.jpg\")
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