{"id":18194,"date":"2020-10-30T10:07:24","date_gmt":"2020-10-30T10:07:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18194"},"modified":"2022-02-26T11:47:55","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T11:47:55","slug":"mi-dispiace-ma-devo-tagliarti-fuori-per-il-mio-bene","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/mi-dispiace-ma-devo-tagliarti-fuori-per-il-mio-bene\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi dispiace, ma devo tagliarti fuori per il mio bene"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You know very well that I\u2019ve always been someone who<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/life\/la-ragazza-dal-lato-brutto-si-prende-sempre-cura-degli-altri\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> si \u00e8 preso cura degli altri<\/a> e che si metteva al primo posto. Sai, ho sempre voluto assicurarmi che tutti quelli che mi circondavano si sentissero bene e che i loro bisogni fossero soddisfatti, prima ancora di pensare a prendermi cura di me stessa.<\/p>\n<p>Sono sempre stata una ragazza che si dava completamente alle persone e che pensava di poter salvare il mondo.<\/p>\n<p>E questo \u00e8 stato soprattutto il caso di te. Quando ti ho incontrato per la prima volta, ho visto che eri emotivamente danneggiato e ferito.<\/p>\n<p>Ho visto che il tuo cuore e la tua anima erano segnati. Ho visto che stavi affrontando questioni e problemi pi\u00f9 profondi.<\/p>\n<p>Ma invece di allontanarmi da te e di capire che avevi bisogno di un aiuto professionale, l'ho presa come una sfida.<\/p>\n<p>Pensavo di poter essere io ad aiutarti ed ero certo di poterti salvare. Ho pensato <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/una-lettera-alla-ragazza-che-pensava-di-poterlo-guarire\/\">Avevi solo bisogno di qualcuno che curasse le tue ferite.<\/a> e chi meglio di me per questo lavoro?<\/p>\n<p>All'inizio tutto andava alla grande. Ti comportavi come se mi amassi e penso ancora che fosse vero, nonostante tutte le cose che sono successe tra noi in seguito.<\/p>\n<p>You were a loving and caring guy who would do anything for the sake of our relationship. And silly me thought that I showed you what real love was and thought I\u2019d awakened the good man in you.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-120298 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table.jpg\" alt=\"un uomo e una donna sono seduti a un tavolo\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/a-man-and-a-woman-are-sitting-at-a-table-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>But after a while, you changed. I don\u2019t know whether you just showed your true colors and if you grew tired of pretending you were someone you weren\u2019t or you just <a href=\"https:\/\/www.yourtango.com\/2017305527\/11-signs-hes-tired-you-and-fed-up-your-relationship\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">si \u00e8 stancato di me<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>In ogni caso, dopo qualche mese, hai iniziato a trattarmi di merda. Niente di quello che facevo era mai abbastanza buono. Cercavi costantemente le mie imperfezioni e i miei difetti e mi incolpavi di tutto ci\u00f2 che non andava tra noi e di tutto ci\u00f2 che non andava nella tua vita.<\/p>\n<p>All of a sudden, you weren\u2019t putting any effort into our relationship and you started taking me for granted. You were always so negative and pessimistic and you weren\u2019t ready to do anything to change that.<\/p>\n<p>So consequently, I became just like you but I didn\u2019t want to accept it. Instead of me saving you, you changed me.<\/p>\n<p>Mi hai trasformato in una donna amara e negativa senza che me ne rendessi conto. Mi hai trascinato nel tuo mondo e invece di aiutarti a combattere con i tuoi demoni, questi ci hanno conquistato entrambi.<\/p>\n<p>Mi ci \u00e8 voluto tanto tempo per capirlo, ma in qualche modo ci sono riuscita. Ed \u00e8 per questo che devo stare lontano da te, prima che anch'io mi danneggi completamente.<\/p>\n<p>You probably think I am selfish for doing this but I really need to walk away from you. You obviously don\u2019t want to be saved but I need to at least try and save myself.<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t stay around someone who makes me insecure and who always makes me question my worth. I can\u2019t stay with someone who doesn\u2019t think I\u2019m good enough and who doesn\u2019t value all the sacrifices I made for him.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-120300 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man.jpg\" alt=\"la donna si allontana dall&#039;uomo\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/the-woman-walks-away-from-the-man-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t be with someone who doesn\u2019t appreciate me and never will. I can\u2019t stay with someone who doesn\u2019t treat me the way I deserve to be treated.<\/p>\n<p>You know I never asked for much, I just wanted your love and respect. But you couldn\u2019t even give me that.<\/p>\n<p>Sai che ti ho accettato per quello che eri, volevo solo che diventassi la migliore versione possibile di te stesso per il tuo bene. E sai che qualsiasi cosa abbia fatto, l'ho fatta per il tuo bene.<\/p>\n<p>Ma finalmente sto facendo qualcosa per il mio bene. \u00c8 la prima volta che scelgo me stessa al posto tuo ed \u00e8 la prima volta che amo me stessa pi\u00f9 di quanto ami te.<\/p>\n<p>Sono io che mi salvo e mi guarisco. Sono io che apprezzo e amo me stessa, come tu non hai mai fatto.<\/p>\n<p>It breaks my heart to cut you off but it is something that has to be done. And I don\u2019t know if you\u2019ll ever forgive me for doing this but I hope there will come a day when you\u2019ll understand.<\/p>\n<p>And to be honest, I don\u2019t know if I will ever be able to forgive myself for leaving you.<!--\/codes_iframe--><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-120296\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Im-Sorry-But-I-Have-To-Cut-You-Off-For-My-Own-Good-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Mi dispiace ma devo tagliarti fuori per il mio bene\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1499\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Im-Sorry-But-I-Have-To-Cut-You-Off-For-My-Own-Good-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Im-Sorry-But-I-Have-To-Cut-You-Off-For-My-Own-Good-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Im-Sorry-But-I-Have-To-Cut-You-Off-For-My-Own-Good-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Im-Sorry-But-I-Have-To-Cut-You-Off-For-My-Own-Good-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You know very well that I\u2019ve always been someone who took care of others and who put herself last. You know I always wanted to make sure everyone around me felt good and that their needs were met before I even considered taking care of myself. I was always a girl who gave herself completely&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":120293,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18194","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Im-Sorry-But-I-Have-To-Cut-You-Off-For-My-Own-Good-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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