{"id":18683,"date":"2018-05-15T13:25:14","date_gmt":"2018-05-15T13:25:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18683"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:42:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:42:09","slug":"ignorarlo-per-ottenere-la-sua-attenzione-10-semplici-consigli","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/ignorarlo-per-ottenere-la-sua-attenzione-10-semplici-consigli\/","title":{"rendered":"Ignorarlo per attirare la sua attenzione (10 semplici consigli)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Le relazioni sono complicate. E a volte bisogna escogitare delle buone strategie per attirare l'attenzione di un ragazzo.<\/p>\n

Maybe you are in a long-term relationship that just hit a rough patch\u2014he is distant and you feel like he is losing interest. He seems to be pulling away and you don\u2019t know how to handle the situation.<\/p>\n

Maybe you are just beginning a new relationship and you don\u2019t want to ruin it by being too clingy. You want everything to flow smoothly but even though it is still too early to say anything, you feel like he is pulling away.<\/p>\n

Fate un respiro profondo. E rallenta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

La maggior parte delle donne reagire in modo eccessivo<\/a>. They would make some stupid moves in order to get the guy\u2019s attention. But you won\u2019t because I will tell you the secrets to gaining his attention even though it might now feel like a lost cause.<\/p>\n

For situations like this, for a \u2018disease\u2019 called pulling away, you need the secret \u2018medicine\u2019 called IGNORE.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Even though it seems simple and quite obvious, believe me\u2014when emotions are involved, you will have a difficult time controlling your actions. Sometimes you even catch yourself doing things you swore you never would.<\/p>\n

Se qualcuno vi raccontasse la storia di una ragazza che manda messaggi a un ragazzo anche se lui non risponde (o qualcosa di simile), probabilmente direste: \u201cI would never do that. Is she crazy? If I was in that situation, I would ignore him completely.\u201d<\/em> But here you are, doing the same thing\u2014even though you said you wouldn\u2019t. And that simple \u2018IGNORE\u2019 seems so difficult.<\/p>\n

Use \u2018ignore\u2019 in the right way. Start with yourself, then gradually work your way to getting what you want from him.<\/p>\n

Ecco alcuni consigli per rendere pi\u00f9 probabile il successo della missione di ignorarlo e di recuperare la sua attenzione:<\/p>\n

1. Ignorare la necessit\u00e0 di avere manifestazioni emotive esagerate.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

Questa \u00e8 una trappola in cui cadono molte donne. Pensano che gli uomini provino le stesse emozioni che provano loro. Quindi, mostrano tutte le loro emozioni troppo presto.<\/p>\n

I ragazzi potrebbero avere paura<\/a> di questo. Operano a un livello diverso rispetto alle donne. Di solito impiegano pi\u00f9 tempo per capire le cose da soli e per essere sicuri delle proprie emozioni prima di condividerle.<\/p>\n

Se siete sinceri con le vostre emozioni o esagerate con le manifestazioni emotive, potrebbe essere il motivo per cui lui sta prendendo una direzione diversa. Troppa onest\u00e0 lo far\u00e0 semplicemente scappare il pi\u00f9 velocemente possibile.<\/p>\n

Quindi, prendetela con calma. Il tempismo \u00e8 tutto. Rallentate al suo ritmo e iniziate a mostrare le emozioni solo quando anche lui \u00e8 pronto a farlo.<\/p>\n

Assicuratevi di essere allo stesso livello. Mostrando il vostro amore e attaccamento troppo presto in una relazione, potreste inviare segnali di insicurezza o disperazione.<\/p>\n

Dandogli spazio e tempo per pensare, forse siete sulla strada giusta per darvi la possibilit\u00e0 di amarvi.<\/p>\n

Probabilmente inizier\u00e0 a chiedersi perch\u00e9 siete cambiati e perch\u00e9 non gli date pi\u00f9 le stesse attenzioni di prima, e questo lo spinger\u00e0 a cercarvi.<\/p>\n

2. Ignorare la necessit\u00e0 di reagire in modo eccessivo.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

Most women tend to jump to conclusions. Maybe nothing is wrong but you imagine it might be because he didn\u2019t answer your text right away or he didn\u2019t put a heart emoji at the end of a goodnight message.<\/p>\n

Qualunque cosa facciate, assicuratevi innanzitutto che esista effettivamente un motivo per preoccuparsi e reagire e che sia necessario reagire in qualche modo. Le continue lamentele e i continui rumori per le piccole cose possono farlo scappare a gambe levate. Nessuno vuole sentire continui lamenti, soprattutto senza motivo.<\/p>\n

Scegliete le vostre battaglie con saggezza. <\/strong><\/em>
\nIf you really have an issue, you need to address it with him and make sure it\u2019s a valid one. If he hurts you in any way, you should tell him openly. However, exaggeration might suffocate the relationship.<\/p>\n

You want him to see you as a woman who doesn\u2019t overthink his every word. Your life is your own, and you don\u2019t have time to obsess about every little thing he does. You should only want to solve bigger problems.<\/p>\n

He might even be surprised or concerned why you didn\u2019t react to the things you would normally lose your mind about.<\/p>\n

3. Smettete di ignorarvi e anche lui smetter\u00e0 di ignorarvi.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

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Put yourself first. Don\u2019t be too attentive to his needs and don\u2019t jump to every phone call and every last-minute invitation he gives you. You don\u2019t need to act busy; you need to be busy\u2014busy with yourself.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Make your life function the way you want it to. Pay attention to your needs, too. You have your studies, your friends and family, your work, your career plans, your activities, and interests\u2014regardless of him.<\/p>\n

You have to have your own life and he should be an important part of it. If you are too accommodating, he will get used to it. He will take your time for granted and naturally assume that you will always make time for him. He should be the one adjusting his plans to fit your schedule\u2014at least sometimes.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need to bend over backward to fit into his plans all the time. Compromise is always a good thing but don’t make him think you don\u2019t have your own life.<\/p>\n

A un uomo non piace nulla di pi\u00f9 di un donna indipendente<\/a> che \u00e8 anche in grado di inserirlo nella sua fitta agenda.<\/em><\/p>\n

4. Smettere di ignorare i vostri desideri.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

Prendete in mano la situazione. Organizzate un viaggio in macchina. Organizzare una cena. Prenotate i biglietti per vedere un film che gli interessa. Comprate i biglietti per un concerto di un musicista che vi piace. Fate qualsiasi programma che ritenete interessante per entrambi. Dite che avete organizzato qualche attivit\u00e0 e chiedetegli di unirsi a voi.<\/p>\n

La maggior parte delle donne \u00e8 abituata a vedere gli uomini che si occupano di tutto. Questo \u00e8 un modo per dimostrargli che siete autosufficienti e in grado di organizzare le attivit\u00e0 e che vorreste tanto che lui si unisse a voi.<\/p>\n

The crucial thing here is to say, \u201cIf you can\u2019t go, that\u2019s OK. I will ask some of my friends to go with me, because I really wanna go.\u201d Keep it casual. It will make him wonder, \u201cWhat friends?\u201d And you will show him that you are capable of having fun without him. This is a subtle way to ignore him.<\/p>\n

5. Caldo e freddo.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

If you are constantly ignoring him, he will tire of it after some time. He will see that he is hitting a brick wall and that there\u2019s no way that he has any chance with you.
\nSo give him some hints that there might be hope for him after all. You\u2019re playing the role of an ice queen but from time to time, give him hints that you have a warm heart underneath.<\/p>\n

Engage in conversation with him when you have a chance. Show him you are interested in what he has to say. Let him feel like what he is saying is so captivating that you don’t want to miss a single word. You could also even text him to ask him about something he has some information about and you don’t (just don\u2019t make it too obvious).
\nSe vedete che le vostre improvvise attenzioni gli fanno venire voglia di parlarvi di pi\u00f9 o di mandarvi pi\u00f9 messaggi, siete sulla strada giusta.<\/p>\n

Make a balance between ignoring him and giving him some attention. You don\u2019t want to act completely cool toward him but you also don\u2019t want to come off as needy. Play the game of hot and cold, give him just enough to keep him hooked but not too much. Balance is the key.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche:\u00a0<\/strong>Soffiare caldo e freddo (La psicologia dietro il gioco degli appuntamenti)<\/a><\/p>\n

6. Accendere la sua gelosia.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

Gli uomini sono molto competitivi e a volte basta un po' di gelosia per farli alzare e andare a cercarvi. Potrebbe anche non accorgersi di ci\u00f2 che ha davanti a s\u00e9 finch\u00e9 non c'\u00e8 la minaccia che qualcun altro glielo porti via.<\/p>\n

So, flirt but in a way where you give your attention to others. Talk to some other man, smile a lot, touch his shoulder and have your focus only on him. Make sure your man can see you talking to some other guy and don\u2019t pay attention to anything other than the guy you are talking to.<\/p>\n

Scatenare la gelosia \u00e8 una delle tattiche pi\u00f9 pericolose, perch\u00e9 potrebbe trasmettergli il messaggio che non siete interessate o che siete interessate a qualcun altro. Assicuratevi quindi di non esagerare con il flirt, perch\u00e9 la gelosia non far\u00e0 altro che allontanarlo. \u00c8 necessaria solo una scintilla, non un fuoco enorme.<\/p>\n

7. Calmare la mente sospettosa.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow yourself to be jealous or at least avoid having jealous displays. Not every girl around him is a threat. Jealous overreactions will give out the wrong impression that you are insecure. Stay sure of yourself and put yourself in his shoes. If you have male friends or co-workers you feel tight with, you wouldn\u2019t want him overreacting because there\u2019s nothing going on there.<\/p>\n

Also, he might be making you jealous on purpose as a way to test you or to evoke a reaction. Stay cool. Don\u2019t give him the pleasure of seeing you upset over some girl. You might not be indifferent but you shouldn\u2019t call him out on anything, at least not early on.<\/p>\n

8. L'arroccamento non \u00e8 vostro amico.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

This is in case you are aware that you are clingy and you want to do something about it. The traits of a clingy girlfriend can be very tiring and most men can\u2019t tolerate them, that\u2019s why most relationships they are in don\u2019t last for very long.<\/p>\n

A clingy woman will want to know his every move, she will want to text 24\/7, she forgets about all the aspects of her own life and concentrates solely on him, she doesn\u2019t understand when he wants to do something that doesn\u2019t include her, like going rafting with his friends, etc. Basically, she doesn\u2019t give him space to breathe and that terrifies him and makes him pull away. So if you notice this behavioral pattern, do your best to liberarsi dell'appiccicosit\u00e0<\/a>.<\/p>\n

9. Essere indipendenti.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

The most important thing of all is to create a life you enjoy, the kind of life you are proud of. Your relationship status shouldn\u2019t define you or affect your perception of yourself. Treat yourself well because the people around you learn from you. If you don\u2019t have enough respect for yourself, if you lack love toward yourself, your partner and other people around you will often take you for granted and treat you badly. So make sure you work on your strength and independence. By working on yourself and making your life great, you will make him want to share that life with you.<\/p>\n

10. Seguire il suo esempio.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

<\/p>\n

If he is ignoring your texts, don\u2019t ask him why he is ignoring them. Do the same\u2014don\u2019t text him. Don\u2019t call. Don\u2019t insist. Don\u2019t force things. It\u2019s useless.<\/p>\n

He will be more interested when he doesn\u2019t hear from you than when you send text after text, trying to get to the bottom of things. Ignoring him makes him wonder where you disappeared to. It forms a million questions in his head. It makes you seem like a puzzle and he will be eager to solve it.<\/p>\n

And when you are too available, it does the opposite. He knows where you are, what you think and he knows that him not texting you bothers you. So he has the upper hand in that situation, even when he has no clue what\u2019s happening and thinks that you probably don\u2019t even care whether he responds to your text or not.<\/p>\n

He will respond eventually and when he does, take your precious time in answering. Don\u2019t make him think that you have been waiting by the phone for him to remember you exist. Never let him see that you were upset because he didn\u2019t text. I know that these games can be exhausting but they are sometimes necessary.<\/p>\n

It is not a good idea to invest a lot in a person who doesn\u2019t invest in you, too. That\u2019s why you shouldn\u2019t give more than he gives you. You should care for each other the same way and give the same amount of your time and attention to one another.<\/p>\n

Obviously, you won\u2019t measure and keep track of who gave more on each different occasion but make sure that overall, you are somewhere close. All your efforts should be reciprocated, never settle for anything less.<\/p>\n

Se vi sentite come se steste dando troppo e lui non sta dando affatto, potreste voler riconsiderare se volete comunque quel tipo di relazione.<\/p>\n

Ignoring somebody is also a good way to test if they are really into you. If you ignore him in any of the ways listed above and he starts chasing you, you are on the right track; it means you have his full attention. If he doesn’t do a thing, at least you will know where you stand, and it will be his loss if he doesn\u2019t go after you.<\/p>\n

Il punto \u00e8 che gli uomini sono semplici: Se li inseguite, si allontaneranno. Se li ignorate, vi inseguiranno.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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