{"id":18937,"date":"2018-05-18T12:50:08","date_gmt":"2018-05-18T12:50:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=18937"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:30:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:30:20","slug":"i-tuoi-segnali-contrastanti-mi-fanno-dubitare-di-me-stesso","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/i-tuoi-segnali-contrastanti-mi-fanno-dubitare-di-me-stesso\/","title":{"rendered":"I vostri segnali contrastanti mi fanno dubitare di me stesso"},"content":{"rendered":"

When we first met, you showed way more interest in me than I did for you. It doesn\u2019t mean that I was <\/span>giocare duro per ottenere<\/span><\/a>\u2014<\/span>Sono semplicemente una di quelle ragazze che hanno bisogno di tempo per conoscere qualcuno e per sentirsi a proprio agio con quella persona. E ve l'ho detto chiaramente<\/span>\u2014<\/span>I told you how things were and that you shouldn\u2019t expect too much from me in the beginning. Instead of walking away from me that instant, you were caring, patient and full of understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n

But not for long. Soon, you just disappeared and when I tried to see if something was wrong, you kept telling me that everything was great but that you were just too busy. At first, I believed you but later on I saw that you were avoiding me. I assumed that you had got tired of me or that you\u2019d found someone else and soon enough, I forgot about you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ma poi sei tornato nella mia vita, come se nulla fosse successo. Ancora una volta, eri il ragazzo dolce e premuroso dell'inizio della nostra storia. E io mi sono innamorata di quel ragazzo. E l'ho detto chiaramente. Ed \u00e8 stato allora che \u00e8 iniziato il dramma.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c8 stato allora che hai iniziato a scomparire e a tornare nella mia vita a tuo piacimento. E io, stupida, ti riprendevo ogni volta, pensando che sarebbe stato diverso.<\/b><\/p>\n

That was when you started changing. There were days when you acted like we were nothing more than friends and days when you acted like I was the woman of your dreams and the love of your life. There were also weeks when you pretended you didn\u2019t know me, where you would ignore all of my texts and phone calls, when you would live your life as if I never existed. Then, you would come back and sweet-talk me into taking you back. And the never-ending circle would continue. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

For months, I\u2019ve been trying to figure you out. I\u2019ve been trying to read your mixed signals and I\u2019ve been trying to understand what it was that you really wanted from me.<\/b> Volevi una relazione? Volevi<\/span> vogliono solo essere amici<\/span><\/a>? Volevi un'avventura senza legami? O ti piaceva solo illudermi?<\/span><\/p>\n

But then I realized that all of this wasn\u2019t important. I assume that you yourself never knew what you wanted and that you don\u2019t know it now either. But what is important is the way it affects me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your mixed signals have caused me more misery and self-doubt than you could imagine. They brought me more tears and pain than I would ever be ready to admit. The fact is that your behavior has ruined me completely, as much as I try to run away from it. But I hope that there will come a time when I\u2019ll get enough courage to walk away from you for good, to move on with my life and to get over you completely. Because I don\u2019t blame you for most of these things. I allowed you to treat me this way and I am the one who keeps letting you into my life, aren\u2019t I?<\/span><\/p>\n

But what I can\u2019t seem to overcome is the fact that you made me question myself and everything I always was.<\/span><\/p>\n

Prima di tutto, <\/span>mi hai fatto dubitare della mia sanit\u00e0 mentale.<\/b> Have you got any idea what it\u2019s like to spend one day being sure of someone\u2019s love for you and having all your hopes shattered the very next day? There were times when I was certain I was going crazy because I didn\u2019t know what to think anymore. <\/span>Ci sono stati momenti in cui ho pensato che mi stavo immaginando tutto quello che stava succedendo tra noi e che stavo solo interpretando male i tuoi segnali.<\/b> Mi convincevo che mi vedevi solo come un'amica e poi ti presentavi dicendomi quanto mi amavi e quanto ti dispiaceva avermi trascurata. E nel momento in cui ti avrei creduto, saresti tornato alle tue vecchie abitudini e tutto questo ha creato un inferno nella mia testa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ma soprattutto, <\/span>you\u2019ve made me question my worth. How come I wasn\u2019t enough for you to actually date me? Why wasn\u2019t I enough for you to at least give our relationship a try? Will every guy I meet in the future treat me the same? Is my body the only quality I have? What is wrong with me and why could I never keep you around me? <\/b>Queste erano tutte le domande che mi passavano per la testa, finch\u00e9 un giorno mi sono resa conto che in realt\u00e0 <\/span>Ero abbastanza bravo<\/span><\/a> and that you were the one who wasn\u2019t enough. None of this was my fault because I really did give you my best and I really did try everything.<\/span><\/p>\n

E anche se ora so tutto questo, \u00e8 una cosa per cui ti risentir\u00f2 sempre, per avermi fatto pensare e sentire.<\/span> <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When we first met, you showed way more interest in me than I did for you. It doesn\u2019t mean that I was playing hard to get\u2014I am simply one of those girls who needs time to get to know someone and to be comfortable around that person. And I made that very clear to you\u2014I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":18938,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-18937","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/aziz-acharki-275516-unsplash-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18937","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=18937"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/18937\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/18938"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=18937"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=18937"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=18937"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}